Seeing your ex again

[amethyst028]

 

[urGUY]

it could mean a lot of things when he agrees to meet you.

-he still likes you
-he just miss you in bed
-he is feeling lucky
-he is not over you
-revenge
madami pa.. kahit ano lang.. dami talaga posibilities po. basta my advice, say sorry and be straight to the point if you want him back. this is the point wherein the girl is the one to court the guy. isang kiliti [textspeak!] yan.

[cloudzy_09]

As long as may feeling ka pa sa kanya ( love, hatred etc) you can never be friends with your ex pero kung talaga wala na I think its good na mag sorry ka if you think may mali ka para kung mag kasalubong man kayo hindi kayo mag iiwasan.

[jonielle]

ask your self first what is your real motive, you only want to apologize or want him back?

[jonielle]

^ well kahit malapit lang yung bahay nyo sa isat isa kung ala ka na affection or paki sa kanya di mo naman sya maaalala. ok sana kung sudden thoughts of him lang pero kung napapadalas theres something in you na.

sorry wala kasi ako naging ex 

but here's my point of view

If we broke up na ang reasons eh petty lang why not, and I believe talaga na once na makita ko yung isang tao sa una pa lang alam ko na agad kung may affection ako sa kanya o wala.

Try mo maam pag magkita kayo pakiramdaman mo maigi sarili mo, di ko sinasabi na bantayan mo kung kikiligin ka ah 

[Chinito]

^not sure kung possible pa maging kame. Matagal na kame hiwalay and madami ako nagawang bad sa kanya. It's not easy to take back someone who hurt you diba?

Yung route ko kasi to work now is 1 street away from his house. Magkalapit lang ang bahay namin. Kaya siguro madalas ko siya maisip lately is because everyday ako dumadaan malapit sa house niya. Since same area lang kame i was thinking na isang araw magkakasalubong kame somewhere and las ok na wala kame samaan ng loob.

Ikaw ba if you are going to meet your ex, nag e-expect ka ba na magkaka balikan kayo?

Hi Amethyst,

Regarding sa last question mo about kung magkikita pa kami ng ex ko ay kung mag eexpect pako namagkabalikan pa kami? the answer is "no". well, it actually depends on every individual. ako kasi i make sure na bago kami magkita e moved on na ko. madali kasi ako magpatawad kaya madali din mawala. or if in case na accidentally na magkita man. umiiwas ako agad kung alam ko na may feelings pako or may natitira pang emotion para sa ex. regarding sa nararamdaman mo ngayon, na feel ko na din yan. Malamang you just wanted to redeem yourself being stupid sa mga decision when you were together.sabi mo nga na naging bad ka sa kanya, hindi kaya na guiguilty ka lang? may part kasi satin na minsan akala natin mahal pa natin yung ex natin pero ang totoo don, gusto lang naten bumawi sa mga kasamaan na nagawa natin sa kanila. don't confuse yourself Iha. i assess mo muna yung sarili mo then i define mong mabuti kung ano yang nararamdaman mo. If sure ka na nami miss mo siya dahil na realize mo na mahal mo pala siya then don't waste your time. Love is worth fighting for in regardless kung ano man ang sabihin ng iba or ano man ang consequences. pero kung na mi miss mo lang siya dahil walang ibang nanliligaw or pumapatol sayo. tawag diyan "longing". at please lang wag mo na siyang istorbohin.. Try to focus on yourself muna, baka may mga issues ka pa na hindi pa tapos. o baka kailangan mo munang mag umpisang mahalin uli yung sarili mo.. mahirap kasi mag hanap ng partner na ku kompleto sayo, dapat kumpleto kana bago ka pa pumasok sa relasyon. wag kang mag alala sa nararamdaman mo, natural lang yan. I'm sure darating at darating din ang panahon na makaka kita ka ng guy na sasapaw sa naramdaman mo sa ex mo. and by that time, you will remember what lessons you've learn from your past. just don't feel guilty Iha. It is okay to tell him your apologies and hear his sincere acceptance. I'm sure magiging maayos pakiramdam mo afterwards and then you can decide on what role you would like to be.  a hopeless romantic lover for him, a reliable friend, a best friend, GF or just a passerby.   para sakin, lahat ng mga ex'es ko mahal ko pa din naman up until now. kaya lang iba na ang role ko sa kanila,what's left mainly is the love that faded naturally, the mem'ries i treasured and the respect for them. because once in my life they became a part of me. 

[tough_guy]

there's nothing to loose if you apologize to him. if he gets recoiled with your willingness to say sorry and he still accept you he will love you but never assume that it is full. 8months is a long wait recovery! just think of this, even our God forgive us. how much more those poeple around us?

[tough_guy]

^mahirap talaga yan pag kinocompare mo sa iba ang ex mo. di ka talaga makakanahanap kung yung qualities na nasa ex mo ay hinahanap mo sa iba.. not all guys are the same.

[shurumi]

Thanks for this thread sis amethyst, i feel the same. You are lucky, he said yes after mong magyaya makipagkita sa kanya. At least open siya for a talk, malay mo nakamove on narin siya sa ginawa mo and that can be a start of your friendship, or baka nga magkabalikan pa kayo if ever. Wag ka matakot to say sorry or aminin yung mga mali mo. I'm pretty sure tanggap na niya yun. As of now, samantalahin mo yang opportunity na pumayag siya to meet you again, say and do things for him na parang you will meet him for the last time. Make that day special for both of you. Plan it na dapat yung sa meeting niyo, kahit plano mo lang magsorry dapat do something na mageenjoy kayo, yung tipong hindi niya makakalimutan in a good way. 

To be honest this is also my dilemma, seeing an ex again. I also need help or guys opinion about this. My ex bf broke up with me a year ago. It was a 7 long years of relationship, and like amethyst, i was unfair with my ex, he does not deserve yung ginawa ko sa kanya. Kaya nung nakipagbreak siya saken, i accepted it. i was guilty and never talked to him. You are right sis amethyst, malalaman mo kung gaano kaimportante yung 1 tao pagnawala na siya sayo. I feel lifeless for months dahil sa nangyari. After 4-5 months ng breakup, i tried to contact him para makipagkita to say sorry and sabihin lahat sa kanya ng hindi ko pa nasasabi and to court him because i want him back. I failed, he declined kasi may gf na pala siya. I moved on and tried na kalimutan siya. It has been a year after ng breakup, 6 months after namin huling nagusap. kala ko nasa tahimik nako because i am in a relationship narin. Last week, he created a dummy account, alam kong siya yun kasi orig yung petname ko sa kanya na ginamit niyang name sa fb. He is asking to meet me this friday, para isoli mga gamit ko na nasa kanya. Plus he wants to have sex. nagulat ako. i know naughty talaga akong gf sa kanya. PEro i'm clueless sa gusto niyang palabasin. Super chix ng gf niya ngayon and why meet me for such reason? sex lang ba or may pagasa pang pwde kko siyang ligawan? 

[shurumi]

wow. buti naman naging ok yung pagkikita niyo.. God bless for both of u.

me on the other hand, is still thinking kung pupuntahan ko siya on friday. i mean i wanna see him, pero wala sa isip ko na may mangyari samin. thanks sa advice mo. i will meet him pero hindi ko hahayaan na may mangyari samin. respect ko na rin kasi yun sa bf ko.. 

[merrick]

Wow. Okay I have the same experience with my ex.
He was the love of my life (now its my husband
after the breakup- he would come to our house every Christmas and just say hi.
When I went to Canada on the first year he would make a long distance just to say hi.
When I went back home - we've met. Kwentuhan lang about our past... which is really weird but at the same time --- I was really happy that he still knows every single details about us.
Then when I get married, a month after that, nagpakasal na rin sya.

We are both happily married but at the back of my mind --meron akong "whatifs"

Dont get me wrong - I love my husband.... so much. Its just that whenever people would ask me who is my "the one who got away", I would just smile and think of him.

Hay. ....

[kookai88]

gusto ko kapag nagkita kami, maipakita ko sa ex ko na successful ako sa naging life ko sa kabila ng pag-iwan niya sa akin.

[budzwhiz]

Curious lang. Kapag nakita mo yung ex mo, halimbawa for the first time ulit sa mahabang panahon after you broke up. Tapos bigla kang may naramdaman, halimbawa kinabahan or bumilis tibok ng puso mo.. not necessarily butterflies.. What does that imply? Ibig ba sabihin non may feelings ka pa rin para sa kanya?

[Filipinasadhart]

yun ex ko lage nya ko kinukulit na makipagkita sa kanya pero i said NO, nagdadahilan ako sabi ko busy ako etc. Kase im not prepared to see him. My pimples ako kaya ayoko makipagkita sa kanya hehe, kase chubby ako gusto ko pumyat muna hehe, super concious ang lola mo. Pero ang totoo im not prepared kase takot ako baka mahulog yun loob ko ulit sa kanya baka bumulis ang tibok ng puso ko kapag nagkita kame yun ang kinakatakot ko.

[lovely_carrot]

If accidental meeting lang I guess there's not much you can do about it. But if you're like going out to meet depende sa current situation like:

If you or your ex are both single, I'd say go ahead.

If either or both of you are in a relationship, no. (what for?!)

[chichi143]

i think, no matter how inlove you are with your present right now, there will always be that one ex that you have to admit gave big impact to your past. do u agree?

i totally agree sis.
i have an ex bf like this. we had a relationship for 6mos back in 2009. but we saw each other again the next year because we applied on the same company. di naman kami nagkabalikan and he's now married. pero i know na if magkita man kami accidentally, i'd still hug him and smile at him. he's like an old friend. he also is very excited pag aksidenteng nagkakasalubong kami. he's that ex that hurt me so much before yet gave me a lot of lessons in love so i guess im quite thankful for that. hehe

[ChocoCat]

I don't want to see them ever again. If ever I do see them, I'd pretend I don't know them LOL!
Good thing I'm near sighted so unless they approach me, I can't see them haha! If they approach me, again I will pretend I don't know them (My Amnesia Girl style.) LOL!!!

[simang]

He is asking to meet me this friday, para isoli mga gamit ko na nasa kanya. Plus he wants to have sex. nagulat ako. i know naughty talaga akong gf sa kanya. PEro i'm clueless sa gusto niyang palabasin. Super chix ng gf niya ngayon and why meet me for such reason? sex lang ba or may pagasa pang pwde kko siyang ligawan? 

He wants to meet you and have sex, yun ang sabi nya eh. So don't assume he's asking you back. For an ex-bf to explicitly tell you he wants to have sex with you, mas more on the revenge side ang nakikita kong reason. It's not like let's meet and talk tapos may mangyayare right. He's telling you outright he wants to have sex, and if I am the guy, and you agreed to have sex with me, I'll feel all gwapo and alpha male and stuff plus I'll see how much of a loser you are to actually meet an ex just because he asked for sex.

And you said you're in a relationship right? So why have second thoughts on this?

[mc21]

..Casual Hi & Hello
..konting kwentuhan, wala ng what ifs
..past is past. move on move on pag may time   

[graZiousa]

casual hi hello.. wala ng dapat pag usapan pa sa nakaraan