sexless marriage

[amethyst028]

According to my best friend who has been married for 13years sa kanila ang reason why they rarely do it is walang time. They both work sa office sabay sila pumapasok at umuuwi. Travel time going to work is almost 2hours ganun din pauwi. Her hubby wakes up at 3am she wakes up at 4am para maligo then wake the kids up at 5am para ihanda sila sa school. Pag uwi from work minsan 9pm na sila makakarating sa bahay need pa niya tutor mga kids.

That is monday to friday of their lives. Pag weekend kasama nila si mother in law umuuwi sila sa rizal. I guess you can find the time if your really want to but sometimes that is the last thing you can think of lalo na sa daming kailangan isipin daily.

Nag aaya nga mag out of town friend ko sila lang ng husband niya pero ayaw ng guy gusto niya kasama yung mga kids.

[Girltalker2]

^ parang sa kwento mo lang nakakapagod na. Traffic is really bad kaya minsan Isip ko importante Pag nasa Manila ka, you just stay in one area near work and school. That is, if you want a quality family life. Location for me is Super important. Kaya siguro nasuya din ako staying there and left. To think at that time, I only look for jobs around 5 to 7 km radius from where i stay or just stayed around my work place. Pero sobra asar sa traffic. The 15min travel time without traffic magiging 40min and I hated it na. Feeling ko that?s my precious time taken away from me.

[Shadow Angel]

^agree ako dyan sa location is very important na dapat talaga malapit sa lahat. Kapag daily basis tapos nauubos oras sa biyahe pa lang plus need pa gumising ng maaga para lang makapasok sa work nkakastress talaga ang ganyan. Affected kasi ang quality life/time para sa family. Nakakasumpa naman talaga traffic sa pinas bskit kaya di masolusyunan? Mga politiko puro pasarap at kurakot lang ang alam.

[sapphire1212]

Mine naman mga sis, we started ni hubby in a LDR during bf/gf  for 5 years then we got married more than 2 years ago and we have a kid 18 months now(honeymoon baby) .He is working abroad but what is good sa work nya is every 2 months nakabakasyon (length of vacay is 3 weeks) but right now naextend cya ng vacation dahil na ka medical leave cya still awaiting for his operation, mahigit 1 month na cya dito sa pinas and during his stay once palang ulit kami ng sexy time a few days nung dumating cya and up to now zero contact pa din yes we cuddle every night and we always kiss pag hinahatid nya ko sa office pero yung intimacy namin nawala pag niyayakap ko cya or ngpapahiwatig ako na gusto ko tinatanggal nya kamay ko mainit daw baka mabuntis daw ako nung mga nakaraang bakasyon nya ganun din once or twice lang every vacation.By the way our baby is co sleeping with us. I don't think na may iba cya kasi pagkahatid nya skn from work deretso bahay lang din cya at sinusundo ako after office cya din ngalalaga kay baby, Na divert din ang time nya kakalaro sa cellphone nya well dati naman na cyang mahilig mg games pero now kahit madaling araw na pag nagigising ako nglalaro cya sabi nya umaattack daw cya, ayun parang naging routinary na lang ang nangyayari samin naguusap tungkol kay baby etc tapus mglalaro cya tapus matutulog na, cyempre namimiss ko yung lambing nya yung sexy time namin before marriage every vacation nya araw araw kaming mgkasama at lagi din naming ginagawa bakit ngaun na legal na at magasawa na nabawasan na, should i be worried or normal lang talaga sa mgasawa ang less sexy time and more on cuddle moments. what will i do to bring back the romance?

[futboler_dati]

^ i can relate sa trapik.. dahil sa trapik pag dating sa bahay, inaantok na si wifey. Wala nang gana.

Yung mga politiko kasi di sexless ang buhay nila.

[kvandenhaak]

^Baka pagod? At pag sobrang busy talaga nila, minsan they don't even have time for that.

[drinveilside]

. what will i do to bring back the romance?

mam its simple make him want you, put on clothes that attracts him, i see nothing wrong in seduction your man that is one think that my wife does so effortlessly even if she is just sleeping in her undies that is enough for me because her curves would always show

use your charm to your advantage it always work there is nothing wrong if you would be the one to initiate the contact

[mysterioza_me]

He is in his late 30s na by the way.  Is this normal?

My bf is in late 30?s pero laging ganado pa din maski Ldr kami. Nung andito siya sa Pinas mas lalo na. Siguro sis pagod lang bf mo or baka sadyang di mataas libido. Sometimes nasa lifestyle din yan kung bakit di siya gaanong mahilig. Or pwedeng may health issues.

[drinveilside]

^^am 35 and i can still do it everyday basta payag si wifey but the problem is hindi.  [textspeak!] mahina na ang sex drive ng mister mo or its not really that great to begin with..

bagay ang mister mo at misis ko when it comes to sex my wife often tells me its something that she can live without kahit wala daw sex mas okay sa kanya...

[sapphire1212]

Yes your right seduction is the key however I?m not confident with my body right now, after having my baby I gained 10lbs and he always say ?ang laki na ng tyan mo? but in a sweet tone but when I tried to go on a diet sasabihin nya ?kain ka pa ang sarap kumain? and I can't wore on undies that?s not my thing.
He has great sex drive when were not yet married as in we do it daily and even his out of the county we do it online, that is why I?m get used to it. How come after having a baby his libido drops down.  And when I asked him why he just say ?baka masundan agad si baby?.
just missing our sexy time...

[amethyst028]

I have this problem with my current bf ilang months pa lang kame pero mabibiling mo lang sa left hand mo the times na nag sexy time kame although once a week lang naman kame magkita. Di lang ako sanay because with my exes lage lage naman or atleast once a week.  Unlike now   ewan I feel bad tuloy kase naiisipan ko whether he is gay. He is in his late 30s na by the way.  Is this normal?

My bf is 47 sis and every week basta magkita kame we do it. Ilang months pa lang kayo dapat very excited pa siya. Don?t assume na gay siya right away baka lang he is going through something baka pagod lang. observe mo pa. Mag fish ka kung normal ba talaga yun sa kanya or sayo lang siya ganyan. Maybe you will get clues from there kung may problem or ganun talaga siya.

[blacksilk]

help! emergency na talaga. I lost all interest in having sex with my husband. what to do.?

[futboler_dati]

Bakit mo naman nasabi na wala ng interest? Go on a date na kayong dalawa lang...

[Awesomecakes]

Never imagined I'd be posting here, but yes. We rarely do it just because busy kami sa baby (almost 1 year old).  He's on a graveyard shift while ako flexible/ mid shift. On weekends, usually nasa labas kami and paguwi pagod na.  Not sure, could be the affair also. Yes, he cheated on me. So ang daming factors and wala din akong gana talaga. We're doing okay but feeling ko wala yung "connection" namin.

[amethyst028]

^i watched a christian pastor sa youtube and also nabasa ko din ito. Normally kasi sa mag asawa pag nagkaka anak ang tendency ng girl priority is si baby. Na e-eche pwera si mister meaning his needs are not usually being met. Which is wrong.

The husband/wives should come first before the kids. Kasi kung hindi solid or ok ang marriage the family will break down. Affected ang mga bata no matter what.

So dapat daw i-prioritize ang pagsasama ng mag asawa, because it will give the family the best chance to thrive.

[happysoull18]

^^To encourage a romantic atmosphere, I put more effort into my appearance and naglalambing ako. I quickly touch his arms or shoulders when we are standing and on his thighs when we are seated. I Dont necessarily want sex but its more to connect/Link.

And ganyan din kami pagod most OF the time and our schedules sometime do Not match. We pick a Day na medyo maluwag kami and Will plan sexy time. Sometimes IT doesnt happen kasi nga pagod or hindi swak sa achedule but minsan naman natutuloy. Early Morning or midnight.

Yes, It is a challenge to Find time and Focus ON the marriage when there are kids na. But IT Can be done when both parties are willing to work ON IT.  Sex is also an important aspect OF a marriage. My husband first thought OF cheating, a few months after I gave birth to our first one. A few months OF giving birth to our second, ayun tinuloy na ni mokong. in both Times I was exhausted Bec i was breast feeding and also expressing milk while at work. He is wrong to cheat but even the church admits that there are only a few acceptable reasons when a wife Can decline husbands request for sex. Hindi kasama pagod. Haha.  I learned this too late na.  But at least now my husband is more open and willing to put more effort into our marriage.

[LEAMUSIKERA1]

Kami wala pang baby pero very seldom na lang din.  Once or twice a month, minsan wala.  Usually kasi pagod, and if we do it, parang mabilisan lang.  Walang masyadong foreplay kaya nasasaktan ako.  Madalas sya kay mariang palad before matulog.  Iniisip ko factor ang pagtaba ko kasi gusto nya payat lang.  I'm also older than him. 

Di talaga sya affectionate; rarely says I love you, and seldom kisses me.  Ako pa kailangan magkiss sa kanya and di sya masyado mapagkiss sa lips.  Minsan natatakot ako na may iba, although, di naman ako kinukutuban sa kanya.

This is us too. Hahaha! TTC kme so timed ang contact. Ok lang naman sa ken, wala ren naman akong kutob sa kanya. Baka nanawa kame bilang nung bago palang kameng mag bf/gf e puro yung lang ginagawa namen. That was 15 years ago. 35 y/o ako ngayon. Sya naman ay 40. Ok lang talaga e. Walang stress. Natural lang sya talaga, I guess ok kung meron, pero di naman wirdo na wala. LOL! Mahalaga, may feelings of affection kame sa isa't isa. May harutan paren naman talaga, pero di madalas ang contact.

[iamfoursixnine]

I experienced a sexless marriage when my husband cheated the 1st time. 1 year no contact talaga. Gusto ko pero ayaw nya talaga dahil un pala may ginagawa nang milagro sa iba. Pero nung natapos un affair ayun balik sa dati minsan ako na un humihindi kasi pagod. Sex i think is important sa marriage. Pangtanggal ng stress and keeps you connected with each other.