ito din ba ang kinakatakutan mo?

[mamabear16]

 

kinakatakutan niyo din ba na dumating ang time na kapag nagbago ang physical aspects natin ay mawalan na ng gana satin si hubby??

ako sa totoo lang yan ang kinakatakutan ko.. 4 years pa lang kami ni hubby na mag asawa,
i'm only 21 of course sa ngayon masasabi kong kaaya aya pa din ako tingnan dahil sa age ko..

naiisip ko kung gaano kasakit pag dumating yung time na ma compare niya ako sa ibang girls na mas kaaya aya tingnan dahil sa matanda na ko, saggy breast, daming wrinkles at pangit na katawan..

ewan ko ba mga sis.. alam ko naman na napakabait ng asawa ko at kahit kailan mula pa ng naging bf ko siya hindi pa siya nambabae.. at sabi niya wala daw magbabago kapag dumating ang time na sumagwa na ang physicall aspects ko,

but hindi ko lang maiwasan na magisip...
how about you mga sis?

[frankikay]

para sa akin, hindi ako takot sis. i'm 29 na and confident naman ako na hindi palitan ni hubby. chos! tumaba ako since nagkaanak, yung belly saggy pa rin, pero syempre tanggap yun ni hubby. minsan nga pagsabihan ko sya na pangit na tiyan ko need ko na maggym, sagot naman nya hindi na need. ako pa rin ang most beautiful and sexy para sa kanya.ahaha. kaloka lang, bias sya!lol pero confident naman ako sa katawan ko at mas lalong confident ako na hindi ako iiwan ni hubby ( sana lang, baka mamaya kainin ko mga sinasabi ko dito).ahahaha

[quinone]

maraming kilalang girls si hubby na mas maganda at mas bata sa akin pero wala naman akong duda sa pagmamahal niya sa akin. ayoko ata yung feeling na lagi akong takot na one day baka iwan ako...

kapag marami tayong iniisip at nagwo-worry masyado, yan nakakatanda at nakaka-panget yan. dapat talaga alagaan natin ang katawan natin, hindi lang for hubby pero para sa atin na rin so we can live life to the fullest. we won't be able to enjoy life kung laging may sakit at feeling panget tayo.

tingin ko lang, kahit gaano tayo kaganda kung ayaw na sa atin ni hubby, ibig sabihin sa paningin niya panget na tayo. kaya sayang ang mga babaeng maganda pero panget ang ugali.

ang bata mo pa sis, magandang age yan para sanayin ang sarili na magkaroon ng healthy na lifestyle.

[graZiousa]

sis sa tingin ko wala naman babae na gustong iwanan ng hubby..

[maye2k]

I'd be a hypocrite sis if sabihin kung di ako takot, but I'm more of "was afraid". I'm on my 30's and never pa naman ako nag ka problema sa asawa ko about how I look like. In fact, comparing my weight and body shape now malaki talaga ang kaibahan sa dati, I have gained weight a lot, not an issue to me since I already gave birth to 3 girls and a boy, medyo productive kasi kami hehe...

Anyway, my priorities and attention now is more for my family as general, it's not just for him my husband but balance with my kids. As I aged medyo di ko na binibigyan ng importance kung perfect pa ako sa paningin ni hubby, for as long as I still does my usual routine, like magpa ganda, maging maayos lagi sa kanyang paningin at maging mabuting asawa. Di kasi natin kontrolado ang pag-iisip ng asawa natin, tao rin sila na pwedeng magkasala sa atin lang ay prayers na sana di sila magsawa satin.

For me kasi, the more I think about how I look like and the more I'd be concerned about matters like what if losyang na ako kesyo what if mag hanap si hubby ng mas fresh at bata? Things like these will only make me paranoid and would somehow lead me to being doubtful kay hubby.

Prayers do help talaga sis, if God is the center of your relationship, surely He would bless your family.

[brendzy]

I am not afraid anymore sis, yes, I was before. But now, my husband always assures me that nothing will change the way we are to each other. My husband knows how slim I was nung early bf-gf days namin and he was the reason kaya lumaki ako  . akala nya, anorexic ako, kaya what he did was always watching what I eat and make sure that I eat a lot. hayun, tumaba na ako. When we got married, my husband made sure that I eat right, stay healthy. Although, I was not like that slim before, confident pa din ako especially when it comes to our marriage. ayaw ng hubby ko yung masyadong vain pero wag naman yung magmumukha ng losyang. Take care of yourself, means para sa akin, is wag i-stress yung sarili sa mga bagay na not worth it. 

[mamabear16]

 

thank you mga sisses! nabuhayan ako sa mga reply nyo.. yup ako din naman confident ako na di magbabago si hubby because of physical change pero naiisip ko lang din yung possibility lalo na kung magkaka anak na kami pagdating ng time.. hehe salamat mga sis..

sis frankikay wow naman sis.. happy po ako para sainyo ni hubby mo..


sis brendzy ganyan din ang hubby ko ayaw niya masyadong palaayos at ayaw din naman niyang nagpapabaya sa sarili

sis maye2k yup tama ka sis.. kapag nasa center talaga si God sa isang relationship mas malaki ang chance na hindi magkaproblema...

sis graziousa opo sis ayaw ko din iwanan ako ni hubby when the time comes kasi ganyan ang ginawa ng papa ko kay mama pinagpalit niya sa iba ang sakit nun sobra sis

sis quinone tama sis.. kahit tayo pa ang pinakamagandang babae, kung talagang inayawan tayo ni hubby because of pangit na attitude malamang iiwan pa rin nila tayo.. mas mahalaga pa din ang beauty from within

[Prunella]

Nope. Everyone ages.

[aquacharly]

MAMABEAR 16:  No, I don't fear that.

Why?
1.  Most probably, ako mauna mawalan ng gana kasi sya mauna get a tarnished physical appearance. Hahaha
2.  Looks are important, but over-rated, IMO .  Otherwise, Gloria Diaz & Margie Moran would be perfectly happy in their perfect marriages.
3.  The generation before us, our mothers' -- is the last batch to look old.  Ang dami dami ng puede gawin nowadays to look even younger, or desirable.
4.  Marriage is soooo much more than good looks (& good sex, hehe)
5. 

Nope. Everyone ages.

6.  At anytime/any stage of your life ----  as per the DESIDERATA:  There will always be someone below & above you on the rating meter (as re-worded by me. .

[gorgeous gal]

kung ako lang, I'm not afraid naman kasi kung tatanda ako and papanget, sya din naman.

but I suggest, use this fear of yours as a challenge to take care of yourself.  you're still young, eat healthy, exercise, pamper yourself, this way you MAY slowdown aging hehe

[iammechelle]

I agree with aquacharly. My hubby is older than me, say 11 years. Siguro sa akin, looks' never an issue (siguro dahil mahal ko rin siya) ;-) Kapag daw dumating tayo sa point na panget na at nahahawakan pa rin niya ang kamay mo at nasasabihan ng I love you, ibig sabihin you've reach the point na minahal mo na ang tao na iyon ng hindi dahil sa itsura kung hindi sa pagkatao niya.

There was a point na na-encounter ko ang fear na yan. He once cheated on me, mas bata ang ka-b**** pero I reinvented myself. Dress, act, mag-da-moves like the kabitch. Nasa atin naman paano i-combat ang fear. I am 8th month on the way, alam ko na ang taba-taba ko na. Dami na ring stretch marks. Pero I am now hoarding VS lingerie and lots of pampasexy. Kelangan ang balik alindog program para di ipagpalit ni hubby! I will finish my masteral, mag-aral uli, improving my cooking skills, mag-aalaga ng mga anak niya, at siyempre will appreciate him more. Keep on improving myself. Para wala ng dahilan si hubby na tumingin sa iba. Yung tipong wala ng hahanapin pa. Kapag lagi tayo mabubuhay sa takot na iyan, inugatan na ang mga paa natin sa lupa, takot pa rin tayo!

Kung iiwan man ako ni hubby kahit na-achieve ko na ang lahat sa lokks and everything, nasa kanya na ang problema at wala sa akin!

[det060403]

Nope. Everyone ages.

Agree! Plus, he's seen me at my worst! The years to come wont hurt! LOL

[Girltalker2]

Tingin ko one of the most important things na kelangan mo malaman in your marriage is what makes your partner tick.
Kung alam mo mahilig ang asawa mo sa sexy, why not maintain to be sexy?  You see the Halle Berry's of this world, nasa 46yo na, maganda parin.  Unlike dati, talagang pag 46yo losyang na.

Most men, important ang looks but it is not all that matters. Kung ubod ka nga ng ganda, hindi naman kayo compatible mag-asawa or hindi nyo pinahahalagahan ang isa't isa, puede ka iwan ng asawa mo.  So a happy marriage is not only dependent on looks.  But of course, I always believe that if both of you would try to at least maintain your youthfulness (both wife and husband), mas mahaba rin ang exciting years nyo bilang mag-asawa. 

If you are happy, most likely happy din si hubby, di papasok sa isip nya magstray.  So keep yourself happy and do not worry too much. Be the best you can be and I am sure, di ka na kelangan magworry, baka ang hubby mo pa magworry na baka iwan mo sya. 

[imbisibol_]

i'm not scared of that mainly because, as somebody here kind of mentioned too, my husband is a lot older than me.  so he'll get lanta and ugly way before i begin to  

but what i AM scared of is, if- and i don't even want to think about this- the time comes when we figure out we are not right for each other, go our separate ways, but end up mud-slinging, airing our dirty laundry in public, and being the topic of the month for all tsismosos and tsismosas.  much like how the claudine/raymart story is playing.  and i still remember their SDE with claudine crying up a storm.  now, THAT'S sad 

[snowflakes]

I don't fear that too.. hubby is 6 years older than me. palagi nyang sinasabi na mas mukha akong old kesa sa kanya
pero sha lang nagsasabi non. kase lahat ng friends nya sabi batang bata ang asawa nya. LOL
isa pa, kung iisipin ko yan mas lalo ako tatanda. napaka babaw naman ng tingin ko sa marriage namin kung yan lang magiging dahilan ng pag iwan nya.

[cloudzy_09]

My hubby din is way older than me kaya mas panget siya pag tumanda na ako
Pero sa sarili ko syempre gusto ko maganda ako lagi.

[girl24]

i was not afraid before until nahuli ko si hubby. then the insecurity came in, now i question my looks, my body... sabihan ka ba naman na kamukha daw ni diana zubiri naging girl niya di ba? eh ano naman ako swelas ni diana zubiri?! however after outpouring to my bestfriends they told me, why worry? he has done the worst already tapos i'll torture pa myself pa with thoughts like that. trying my best to go on life na kunwari unscarred pero siyempre mahirap pa rin. it is a conscious effort not to be conscious at all times.

[mamabear16]

i was not afraid before until nahuli ko si hubby. then the insecurity came in, now i question my looks, my body... sabihan ka ba naman na kamukha daw ni diana zubiri naging girl niya di ba? eh ano naman ako swelas ni diana zubiri?! however after outpouring to my bestfriends they told me, why worry? he has done the worst already tapos i'll torture pa myself pa with thoughts like that. trying my best to go on life na kunwari unscarred pero siyempre mahirap pa rin. it is a conscious effort not to be conscious at all times.

aww sis ang sakit naman ng nagawa ng hubby mo.. nagsasama pa din ba kayo hanggang ngayon?

[daveigh]

Personally, I am not scared too. I will take it as a challenge, in case it happens to me. Palaban kasi ako.

[erin1992]

i'm not sure if i should be scared parin about that or not.

minsan madaling sabihin na hindi ka matatakot o handa ka kasi may plano ka. madaling sabihin kasi wala ka pa sa sitwasyon. pag nandyan na yun,  who knows? maybe you'll realize you're not that prepared pala.

i've been there. and now i know my worth. magloko man sya, alam nya dapat ang mawawala sa kanya, at alam kong hindi ako ang mawawalan.