main reasons why guys cheat?!! (guy pov PLEASE)

[kwang sun]

bakit nga ba nagchecheat mga lalaki ? guys? please shed some light lol

[jonielle]

fell out of love
find the kabit mas attractive
maingay si wife wala ng ginawa kundi bungangaan si mister

dagdag na lang ng iba pa guys

[may12]

Sometimes it's just because they are total jerks! 
I used to know a guy who always cheated. Naisip ko din na siguro nagsawa na talaga siya sa dati niyang gf. But then he did it to his new gf. And then the next gf... so it's either sobrang bored siya sa buhay niya, or feeling niya super special siya at puwede niyang paglaruan lahat ng girls na gugustuhin niya.

[ashara]

Pinabayaan mo sarili mo (muka ng manang)
Or mukang yaya ng anak
Pabaya ka sa asawa mo! Gusto ng mga lalaki inaasikaso sila
Nanawa na sayo gusto naman ng iba
Pero minsan yung iba ayaw ng lalaki na masiado kang attach sa kanila kapag alam nilang ganun mo sila
Kamahal dun lumalayo loob nila. Kasi gusto nila laging my challenge.
Ayaw din nila na aaligid aligid ka sa kanila naiirita sila kapag tanong ng tanong.
Ayaw nila ng makulit gusto nila sila unang lalapit. Nawawalan sila ng gana kapag ganun ang girl
Or asawa nila.
 
Pero ang pinaka main reason is long distance relationship (work abroad etc)
Kaya nila nagagawa mag cheat sasabihin nila lalaki lang sila (tawag ng laman)

[ashara]

Yah thats true sis!
May mga lalaki talagang ganun.
Ang gusto kasi ng mga guy yung hard to get.
Kahit oo ang sagot mo sa kanila dapat papahirapan mo muna sila..

[sacred cow]

men crave sexual variety
boredom

[kwang sun]

errr sabi ng kapatid ko pag natikman na daw move on na. ang bad!!! 

I usually read this from  men's websites lol... ang harsh naman

[Girltalker2]

men crave sexual variety
boredom

These are not answers on why men cheat.

You can address them by NOT cheating.  You need not lie or cheat if you want to have several partners or if you think you get bored easily. Just be honest. Kaso mahirap ba maging honest?


I think men who cheat are jerks and immature.

The extent they would do to commit to one or more people and yet lie their teeth - di ko rin maintindihan, is it just for fun? 

Tingin ko kasi mas late lang magmature ang guys at ang iba, never nagm-mature na siguro kahit tumanda na. Superficial lagi ang tingin nila sa buhay. Kung san laruan sila masaya ngayon, doon sila - it is a clear sign of immaturity.

Ano ba naman yun sabihin mo sa current partner mo na ayaw mo na sa kanya, then move on ka sa next. Kesa magtataguan kayo, you will cheat with your current partner and hope to get away with it? 

[sacred cow]

These are not answers on why men cheat.

You can address them by NOT cheating.  You need not lie or cheat if you want to have several partners or if you think you get bored easily. Just be honest. Kaso mahirap ba maging honest?

for some these are reason enough, and yes some guys find it hard to be honest

I think men who cheat are jerks and immature.

The extent they would do to commit to one or more people and yet lie their teeth - di ko rin maintindihan, is it just for fun? 

I'd like to know how you call women who cheat

Tingin ko kasi mas late lang magmature ang guys at ang iba, never nagm-mature na siguro kahit tumanda na. Superficial lagi ang tingin nila sa buhay. Kung san laruan sila masaya ngayon, doon sila - it is a clear sign of immaturity.

Ano ba naman yun sabihin mo sa current partner mo na ayaw mo na sa kanya, then move on ka sa next. Kesa magtataguan kayo, you will cheat with your current partner and hope to get away with it? 

it's not a gender thing nor is it fair to say na kasi mas late magmature ang lalake. hindi naman namin sinasabing immature kayo kapag nagiinarte kayo or being emotional instead of rational diba?
we just say babae kasi kaya ganun, hayaan na...nature niyo yun e, doesn't mean immature kayo for acting that way. even women cheat on their partners (Tim Duncan's wife, Kristin Stewart)
nasa personality lang talaga ng tao at self control against sa tukso

[may12]

^Yes. I have two friends na girl na nag-cheat dati sa mga bf nila.
Pag tinatanong ko kung bakit, usually paiwas ang mga sagot. Like "Ewan." or "Trip ko lang". 

Yung bf ko naman dati na nagcheat, pag tinanong ko kung bakit, ang sagot, "Kasi bad ako eh." 

[lawrence01]

Not an expert but I believe 1 of the main reasons is because the Attraction has been lost. Kahit ilang tukso ang dumating kung talagang si lalaki ay seryoso at mahal si babae, naniniwala ako balewala LAHAT ng tukso maliban na lang kung mababa na level ng interest or attraction ni guy sa gf.

Isa naman sa rason din eh sadyang g@go lang talaga si lalaki at wala magagawa kahit sino kundi sya lang makakatulong sa sarili nya na magbago. 

[lovely_carrot]

he is selfish
ego booster
he wants adventure
nagsawa na sa asawa/gf na nagger, losyang
he's looking for an outlet
natukso/tinukso/nilandi
pinabayaan na ni partner ang needs nya as a spouse
minsan talaga ogag lang yung lalaki

[polar_bear]

Sabi ng guy friend ko na chickboy..

Masarap daw kasi ang bawal.. May excitement at thrill.. May adrenaline rush kumbaga.. once nafeel mo eh very addicting na daw..

[bub0y]

guy here. you want honest answers?

TS, since ikaw ang gumawa ng thread... before i react, para magkakiwanagan lang... how do you define CHEATING sa lagay na to?
eh kasi, kahit nung highschool pa, nakipagharutan lang sa iba "cheating" na ang tawag.
dito sa GT, stalking an EX sa FB, inaamin ng mga sissies na guilty na sila na they are "EMOTIONALLY CHEATING" on their hubbies na daw.

so, how do you define cheating? yung may churvahan talagang naganap/nagaganap?

and please sissies, don't generalize the male populace... as if walang guy sa family nyo.
just react based on your actual experiences and experiences ng mga kakilala nyo mismo para hindi tayo lalabas na nagbobolahan dito.
yung mga nababasa natin sa mga magz, isantabi muna natin yon.

[aquacharly]

Just because it feels good to scratch where it itches when it itches

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[Naughty^GuRu]

main reasons why guys cheat?!!
because "There are as many Sluts in this World, as there are as many Jerks"

i've been cheating on my long-time GF for years now. it started as a personal "social experiment". i just got curious na kahit may GF ba ako makakahanap ako ng girl to hook up with. the first girl was someone i met thru MIRC, she was a student. after chatting for about a month, we decided to meet. She knows i have a girlfriend. my curiosity didn't stop there, i was meeting girls here and there. students, professional, married girl, single mom, engaged girl, bisexual girl, etc. there was even a time i was hooking up with 3 girls in a week. and yes all of them, every single one of them, knows i am committed and have a long-time girlfriend.

My point? you can't put all the blame sa guys kung bakit kami nagchecheat. at least half of the blame should go dun sa girl na pumapayag makipag hook up kahit alam nilang committed na yung guy. kung walang papayag na girl makipag hook up with a committed guy, then walang magchecheat.

BUT, guys na nagpepretend to be single para makipag hook up sa girls is a totally different story. eto yung mga lalake who are desperate. isama mo na din yung guys na nagbabayad for sex service.

[purple.strawberry]

Agree ako dun sa nagsabing yung mga nagchicheat na guys are jerks and immature. Madalas pa they lay the blame on the girlfriend... kesyo nagger, nagpabaya sa sarili, etc etc. O di kaya naman magsasabi ng ridiculous excuses like, "lalake lang ako." Whatever dude.

Guys have shortcomings too, and most girls don't address these with cheating. Ang masasabi ko lang, if you love your girlfriend, honor your commitment with her. Kaya madaming kwento e, nagchicheat tapos pag nabuko, magmamakaawang balikan sila.

And to girls who've been there, remember Stephen Chbosky's line in The Perks of Being a Wallflower: "We accept the love we think we deserve."

[Girltalker2]

My point? you can't put all the blame sa guys kung bakit kami nagchecheat. at least half of the blame should go dun sa girl na pumapayag makipag hook up kahit alam nilang committed na yung guy. kung walang papayag na girl makipag hook up with a committed guy, then walang magchecheat.

Agree.  May nagpapaloko din or shall I say consciously 'hoping' na maaagaw ka nila from your Gf. But it takes 2 to tango. So ang tanong ko bakit mo sila pinapatulan?

Also, correct me if I am wrong but I assume you are in Manila.  This is precisely the reason why I think cheating is prevalent in Manila because I believe, Pinays, in general (hindi lahat), pero marami ay ganyan. Bakit?  Hindi ko maintindihan at maubos isipin talaga.  Pero talaga, bakit?  Is it in the culture?  I am currently staying outside of Manila and hindi naman ganyan mga babae dito.  May self respect sila and in fact, they hate Pinays kasi nga yung mga Pinay (professionals ha hindi DH) ang pumapatol sa mga may asawa.

 

[may12]

^SIs, I think it's about the challenge. Mas exciting siguro para sa kanila.
Mostly kasi sa girls na pumapatol sa may gf/asawa na lalaki, or yung nagtu-two-time na girls, eh attention seeker sila. Nang-aagaw sila to feel good na better sila kesa dun sa isang girl, or kung nagtu-two time naman, they like feeling na marami naghahabol sa kanila. (Yan lang yung napansin ko sa mga kilala kong ganyan ha?)

[Naughty^GuRu]

@Girltalker2: in my case, sa lahat naman ng naka-hook up ko na girl, wala naman kahit isa sa kanilang may intention na agawin ako from my girlfriend, alam din naman nila from the start na hindi ko iiwan girlfriend ko for them. also, hindi naman ako naghahanap ng new or another girlfriend.

bakit pumapatol ang mga pinay sa may gf or asawa? Culture? hmm maybe. A lot may react to this pero ang mga Pinay, aminin man or not, are malalandi and maeL. Wala akong maisip na ibang reason bakit may mga girls na nakikipag hook up sakin kahit alam na committed na ako and kahit committed din sila. Attention? Challenge? pwede pero why end up in bed kung ang habol mo lang is to boost your Ego. Pinays in general have high self-respect, kahit fubu or fwb na kayo hindi pa rin nila aaminin na they are doing it out of urge and excitement. masyadong mataas tingin nila sa sarili nila to admit na, like men eh maL din sila.