Do you REALLY love being single?

[zarazan]

Cliche man pero naniniwala ako na if you're unhappy alone, you can never be happy with someone.

Nung may bf ako buong college, i was contented with my status. Di ako nagentertain ng ibang manliligaw, lahat ng labas ko with friends filtered ni bf, even decisions ko sa school and when i started working, nakadepende sa kanya.

Nung naghiwalay kame, dun ako nagdecide na kelangan kong maging independent. Dun ko narealize kung ano yung mga namiss ko sa buhay nung together pa kame. Habang yung mga barkada ko nung college eh panay sa boy hunting at pacute sa campus, ako tahimik lang coz i was committed to my partner. Yung mga gimik and out of towns na hindi ko napuntahan dahil hindi nya ko pinayagan. Maraming pang iba. Kaya nung naghiwalay kame, sobrang nagenjoy talaga ako. Ang dami kong nagagawa for myself. Ang posts ko nun sa fb mostly is yung mga concerts na pinapanuod ko (na madalas ako lang mag-isa), mga travel, food trip alone or with friends. Para akong nakawala sa kulungan. Freedom talaga. At i swear naenjoy ko yun. Nakipagdate ako with people, whether potential partner or not. I YOLO-ed, kumbaga. Those were definitely the best years of my life.

Until narealize ko that i'm ready to share my life again with someone.

Tapos nameet ko yung current partner ko. Sabi nya sa akin, he was attracted to me kase i seem so interesting (kase nagtatravel ako magisa, at medyo 'kakaiba' daw trip ko, etc). And i believe na mas healthy ang relationship namin kase established yung personality ko. Yunf lifestyle ko is same pa din when i was single, except that now may partner ako. So minsan sinasama ko sya sa mga adventures ko, minsan din gusto ko ako lang. Kung niyaya ko sya at di sya pwede/ayaw nya, walang hassle sa kanya kase kaya ko pa rin ang sarili ko without him. Kumbaga i don't desperately need him to be with me, pero when he's with me, i appreciate. Ganun.

So what im saying is if you're single, you have to be genuinely happy. Doon mo mas makikilala ang sarili mo eh. Sure meron ding defense mechanism lang yung kunwari masaya, pero more than anything dapat talaga "mahahanap" mo ang sarili mo on your own, without validation from anyone.

Advantages ng single, daming pera. Haha. Lahat ng sahod ko nuod sa sarili ko lang ginagastos. I can spoil myself. Pag may jowa, yung gastos you have to plan it for two na kaagad. So bihira ko na nasspoil sarili ko ng bongga. Pero i make sure na nagagawa ko pa din yun. Siguro yung cuddles and sexy time, pwede din advantage. Pero ako kase id rather go out and see the world kesa magstay sa room to cuddle haha.

This is seriously inspirational! May I ask how old you are?  Though I am quite happy with my relationship right now - ang sarap basahin nito.

[simang]

^i am turning 26 next month. I was in a relationship with my ex for 7 years (16 til 23 y/o) and i met current partner 2 yrs after.

Dun sa loob ng 2 years major changes talaga ang nangyare sa akin. My friends tell me how much i have bloomed nung naging single ako. Hehe

Thank you^ kahit ako i always look back on that eh. Hindi ko na din alam kung pano nagsimula na naging masaya ako after we broke up (syempre sad din for a while pero parang nagising na lang ako na, okay time to move on ha hahaha)

[84SCORP]

first time kong maging single after a loong years.. i can say na malunkot kasi bago pa langp ero mabilis ako makarecover kasi i focused on being better and i have more money now than ever kaya i can do whatever i want na, at nakakafocus nako sa work ko and sa family ko w/c is a very good thing for me. Getting rid of toxic people in your life helped me a lot. Its better to be single for a while kesa makalimutan mo unahin yung sarili mo.

[sassyrar]

may time na  i love being single less drama tapos nagagawa ko yun gusto ko.at pag nakakarinig ako ng failed relationship ng friend ko para ako na trautrauma pumasok sa relationship.kaya mas naiisip ko ok na rin maging single.pero pag may family gathering na natatanung ako na bakit wala pa ako.or may mga instances na iisipin mo sana may bf ako sa ganitong panahon.pero so far ngayon ok naman ako single.

[it_girl]

No im not enjoying it anymore. feeling ko lost ako and parang laging mainit ulo ko pag my bf ako lagi ako masaya at blooming kahit bad day. ayoko na maging single gusto ko na ng asawa 

[juni]

Yes   It's not bad being single.  In fact, it can be awesome.  Definitely beats being in relationship or dating people just for the sake of not being single.  It would be great to be in a relationship with a nice guy, that's true, but until that time comes, there's no reason to be unhappy and bored.  There's a whole world out there waiting to be explored

[Reassesiren]

Ako naman hindi sympre kasi mas masrap yung may nagaalaga at ngaalala sayo baka pag sinabi ko oo baka maging single na ko forever..hahaha. Pero masrap maging single dahil hindi ka obligadona mgatxt ng magtxt tamad pa nman ako mgtxt ayoko update ng update sa ginagawa ko. Pag may gala walang dapat pagpaalaman. Pwde ka magpacute sa mga boys.hahahaha

[winkypops]

I really love being single kasi walang obligasyon,walang sakit sa ulo.

Pero nami miss ko rin yung may nagke care sa akin,nakakausap at nakakasama during happy and sad moments.

[~ anna ~]

^I agree with winkypops, less stressful siya and you have more time to do what you want.  You have more control of your time and resources.  Walang aaway sayo if you want to go shopping the whole day or spend time with friends.

[simang]

^true! And ^^true!

And if you're happy being single, kahit pa may 'stress' na dala yung kapartner mo, keber. Mas mafifilter mo kase yung mga toxic na tao sa buhay mo. And of course, being happy means knowing who makes you unhappy and getting rid of them :p

[kittypaw]

Enjoy being single while it lasts' build an awesome life habang single para pag dumating na yung guy for you' additional nalang siya so that with our w/out him you still have that awesome life you have diba.

[angelique_1523]

I agree kitypaw parang if he’s wealthy you don’t love him because of what he has but you love him genuinely. We single girl builds foundation for our future so that whatever happens we are ready for physical, emotional and financial too we don’t need them but some guys they get jealous or insecure if a girl has her own life parang gusto nung iba ha na sakanila iikot mundo no way! I always advice my friends lalo na mga taken na Always get a life  meaning with or without him you have a life you don’t always need him. I guess walang masama dun. You can still express your love for him.  Hindi din naman siguro dominating ito.

Pero one day God will lead his way to found me…Awesome! Amazing! Wonderful life ahead 

[somethingreal]

Sometimes yes, sometimes no. I have been single for 3 years now. And all of my relationships were short-lived. I’ve never been in a long term relationship din kasi, so nasanay ako na I am always on my own. I just turned 30 last May and the past few months I was in a phase wherein I was able to say to myself that I am perfectly content being single, at least for the time being. I am enjoying my freedom, without having to think about another person or even having to consider another person in any decisions, and wala akong kailangan i-please or i-impress. I can do whatever I want. Plus my group of friends naman, even if most of them are married, they never made me feel that being single sucks. My family naman is very supportive too. Di naman nila pinaparamdam sakin na dapat magka-jowa na ako.
Of course like others, hindi naman mawawala na may times na you long to have that special someone. Kaya may times na lonely din ang peg. Pag ganun, I pray, or talk to my best friends, work out, kahit anong activities to keep me busy. Kahit na ganun, I know to myself na desire ko pa din siyempre to get married to the right man and to have a family of my own. Pero I am slowly learning din naman not to dwell on it kasi nakakabaliw lang eh haha.
But in all of this, I guess the point is, whatever your status maybe, be it single, in a relationship, engaged, married – we just need to learn to enjoy and savor every moment. Not because you’re single does not mean your life sucks, and not because you’re in a relationship or you’re married, your life is like a fairy tale na. Kanya kanyang issues lang din talaga. You just need to learn how to be content and happy.

[Filipinasadhart]

  Very we'll said sis.

[molybdenumstudios]

Not really. I have always been NBSB ever since.

But the good side of being single is that, more freedom, more exploration churva. The downside is that, you might be labelled as "old maid" by your peers and family. LMAO.

[simplepink]

i'm starting to love my current status. im married but separated so i consider myself "single". nung kakahiwalay palang namin ng xhubby ko, feeling ko di ko kaya mag-isa. nagkaroon ako ng boyfriend pero di naman naging okey. kaya naisip ko, focus na muna ko sa sarili ko. kapag may bf kasi ako, nawawala na ko sa sarili ko, masyado akong nagiging dependent kumbaga umiikot na mundo ko sa karelasyon ko.

kaya ngayon na "single" ako, lahat ng gusto ko nagagawa ko na at nabibili ko na. mas may time ako sa parents ko. mas naaalagaan ko na sarili ko. mas nakakapag-ipon ako. naeenjoy ko na ulit ang life nang walang cellphone. hawak ko na buong oras ko. hindi ko na kailangang magpaalam kung kaninuman kung saan ako pupunta.

siguro nga kahit maging forever pa kong single, ok na sa akin, pero gusto ko ng baby..  mag-aadopt na lang siguro ako.. 

[green-aholic]

yes, i am free, but at the end of the day, mamimiss mo din yung me magtetext sayo o tatawag asking how your day went and the dates na pampatanggal ng stress just seeing that special person in your life. nakakamiss maging in a relationship. so, i am no longer loving this single life for 6 yrs already!

[t_r_i_s_h]

YES, I AM HAPPY BEING SINGLE. 

It may sound like a cliche' but it's just recently when I realized that I can be this happy even if I dont have a boyfriend or boylet. I've always thought that I'd be miserable if I'm alone. I learned a lot of things about myself. Starting off with something simple, like kaya ko naman pala mag grocery mag isa kahit wala akong dala na auto, kaya ko naman pala pumila sa ayala station para sa taxi ng mag isa. Ganon ka simple. I never thought I can do that, kasi nasanay ako na may taga bitbit or susundo hahaha not that yun lang silbi ni ex ha. He's more than that for sure. Pero yun nga, being single can be lonely at times thats for sure pero this is also the time for girls to know what they really want, discover new things. When I'm out with couple friends, okay lang. nag eenjoy ako minsan nga di lang ako third wheel eh, na experience ko na 4 sila na couple tapos ako single, but I never felt left out kasi siguro we're mature enough para hindi ma-feel yun when I was younger ayoko ng ganon pero ngayon okay lang.

It's definitely true that you can't be happy with someone if you cant be happy alone. So to all of us single ladies, let's embrace this moment. I'm sure we'll miss this when we get to a new relationship. 

[misslovelyjoy]

I used to but not anymore. There are times, no, most of the time I long for having someone with me.

I am still young, I just turned 20 last March. So there's more time to enjoy being single. It's just that I can't do it this time pa 'coz I am still studying and I don't have money to spend. Maybe after I graduated hopefully by next year and got a work and money on my own, I will do everything to enjoy singlehood.

As per being single, it's fun din naman to travel, eat, watch movie alone wag ka lang makakita ng magjowang sweet or else mabwisit ka lang. Hahaha!

[misslovelyjoy]

One thing that triggers my unhappy feeling of being single is when my friends would tease me "Magboyfriend ka na kasi." "Ano, wala pa rin?" Ang sarap lang nilang sabunutan. Lol.

Plus my 2 BFF (we're 4 in barkada) have babies na. They got pregnant 18 and 19 y/o. And I was like, "They have babies na and I still don't have a boyfriend." Not that I want to engage myself to teenage/early pregnancy.

Guess I should enjoy and love being single muna. And ready myself to enter a relationship and commitment.