super pakialamerang tita o concern lang????

[viellemacey]

i know this is so rude to think that my tita is getting too pakialamera but i honestly believe that she is

last time i went out with my cousin to buy some stuffs for me and my baby. i instructed my baby's PN not to give baby anything sweet and salty, just give the food that i prepare. then i arrived that afternoon she told me that tita gave my 6 month old baby a pilipit ( kakanin na with sugar ). so i was like why on earth did she do that. tita said raw na its ok. tita even told her not to give the food that i prepared because its tasteless instead she gave baby cerelac which i actually remove on my baby's food list.

another incident she went to our house with i think 3 pairs of dress for z which honestly looks cheapipay and chaka but i never commented anything. she tried it to my DD and it fitted just fine. and when she was about to leave she told me "500 isa nyan. kahit sa isang araw mo na ibigay sakin". what the hell was that! i never told her i want to buy z dresses as cheap looking ( sorry for the term ) as what she brought.

she's so annoying. i told her i understand that she's an experienced mum but i have my ways so let me but it looks like she's not going to stop manipulating things she's not even part of

[mslcgrey]

^ sis, have you considered asking your mom/dad (kung kanino siya kapatid) to interfere? sila na lang magsabi na hayaan ka sa ways mo sa pagpapalaki ng anak. explain na lang nila na you do your research naman. siguro huwag na lang nila sabihin na ikaw ang may ayaw.

pero nakakainis talaga yung ganyan na nag-assume agad na you want to buy those dresses.

[nessy]

Tell her, without being rude whatever it is that you would like to tell her. Okay maging concern pero pag sumosobra na, hindi na maganda.

[viellemacey]

^^she's my dad's sister. nasabi ko na sya sa dad ko and dad talked to her na but she just said daw na hindi naman makakasama kay baby yung cerelac. as in yun lang talaga sinabi ni tita to think that dad is talking in general, talking about all the things na ginagawa nya. and naku sis only if you could see those dresses, nakakastress sobra. hindi ko nga ipasuot kay baby at baka mausog. haha

^actually sis kinonfront ko sya about dun sa food but in a very nice way naman kahit na super sakit nya sa bangs that time. eto yung sakto ko sinabi "tita next time don't give z cerelac or any processed foods ha. unhealthy kasi. tsaka baka maging picky eater." ang sagot nya "hindi. mga anak ko laking cerelac eh". then i sarcastically smile and and told her "they're yours, z's mine" sabay alok ng dala kong fries

[nessy]

^Well, tingin ko dapat talaga specific ang pagpuna mo. Hehe Pabayaan mo na lang muna now, pero pag inulit doon mo na sabhin ng derechahan. Sakit talaga sa bangs ng mga ganyan.

[viellemacey]

^naku sobra sis. lage  pa syang "...dapat ganito" "...dapat ganyan". sometimes pagnaiirita na ako i just said "the last time i check ako ang mommy, nagbago na ba?". yung anak ko para ng bola. lage dinadala sa kanila. minsan dinala nya sa kanila tapos pagbalik sa house puro kagat na ng lamok ang legs, nabwiset talaga ako. hindi ko naman ipinagdadamot si baby ko para sana naman hindi sya ganun.

[aquacharly]

She means well but she is already interfering with your child-rearing style. 

About the cheap dresses --  next time, as soon as you are told to pay up --   Give these back -- right then and there.
Say not in your budget even if atching lang sa yo. 

As for food prohibited by you -- actually you should be more strict with your yaya. She should follow your instructions strictly.  Mga yan kasi kayang kaya nila tarayan mga meddlers coz they can just say: eh magagalit si Ma'am.

Err -- borrowing  baby?  Clarify you must be told first, or called sa cellphone. 
The yaya must always accompany your baby & it is her responsibility to see the baby is not unduly exposed to stuff like mosquito bites.  But well, hindi din ma iwasan mga ganyan.

If hindi ka pinakikinggan ng tita mo -- name drop your hubby's name.  Generally, relatives stop their meddling pag alam nila ayaw ng whatever ng in-law. 

[viellemacey]

^ewan ko ba sa yaya bakit nagpapaubaya kay tita eh di naman sya yung nagpapasweldo sa kanya.

re food, i confronted yaya how come tita had given z cerelac eh i disposed na lahat ng biniling processed food ni dad. aba nagpabili raw tapos tinimpla agad at ipinakain kay z. sinasabi raw ni yaya na di na kumakain ng cerelac si z, ang sabi raw ni tita kakainin rin daw yun kasi gusto yun ng mga bata. niluwa naman raw ni baby ko hanggang sa umiyak na, binigyan nya na lang raw ng milk

re hubby, hindi naman kami in good terms sis, solo parent ako.

[aquacharly]

^Well, you must straighten out your yaya.   

As for your tita -- you really should talk one-on-one seryoso with her.
You're a big girl now -- act like one so your tita gives you due respect.
No need to be rude & hurt her feelings.  Just tell her to let you be the one to set the guidelines for your own child. 
Stress that you are a solo parent, and you can't afford glitches -- so, you must not be interfered with.

So there, maliban sa kumuha ka ng Pitbull na attack your tita each time she drops by --  you really must talk to her positively 1-on-1.   

[Purple_Power]

The nerve lang about your Tita  She is indeed pakialamera nga! Not only that, she is spoiling your baby much in the sense of being not a good influence.

I have pamangkins too and still living with them. I mean not the same house pero since we are compound so of course magkaiba lang yung house and usually sa bahay namin sila kumakain ng lunch and dinner. So from baby I was able to witness too on how they eat, kaya naintindihan ko na agad kung ano ang negative effects kapag pinakain mo ang baby na may lasa agad ang kinasanayan. Sorry to say pero malaking panira ang ginagawa ng Tita mo. First your strategy is really right not to feed a baby na sweet and salty kasi nga chances are kapag nakasanayan niya yan your baby will be picky eater tapos ang masama mahihirapan ka pang pakainin yan ng gulay kasi ang mas pipiliin niya yung karne na may lasa or process foods like hotdogs and nuggets, worst case kapag nadiscover niya ang junkfood di hamak na mas marami ang kakainin niya sa ganun kaysa sa mga masusustansyang pagkain. Hahanap hanapin niya ang mga masasarap rather than masustansya which it can really suffer to your baby's health. In some cases may mga bata na diabetic na agad. According to my nutritionist pa nga may 11 years old na siyang patient pinapasakan na ng insulin. Kaya yung pakikialam ng Tita mo is kind of dangerous at the same time.

Tama yung sinabi you can tell her in nice way although of course kapag nagdahilan kung kinakailangan mong pagalitan na you have to do it kasi it is your child that you are protecting. In the first place you respected her already that much pero she is abusing you already. Hindi naman meaning na pagalitan mo is maging rude or offending her. Pero kapag ganyan ang naramdaman niya it is not your fault. There are times that they need to have wake up call. Frankly speaking di hamak na mas importante ang proteksyon at kalagayan ng anak mo kesa sa mararamdaman niya kapag nagsalita ka sa kanya. Kung ako nga sa lagay mo nababastos na ako eh! at yan ang mararamdaman ko kasi sinisira niya yung plano kong nakakabuti sa kanya. Recommended rin ba ng pedia yung plans mo or DIY na search mo lang? Maganda rin kasi ang makarinig na siya na galing sa expert. Tapos you mention nilamok pa nung dinala pa pala niya sa kanila. Grabe kung ako pagagalitan ko yung Yaya talaga at sasabihan ko yang Tita na yan na huwag niyang dalhin sa kanila. Mag-away na kung sa mag away o bastusan na kung sa bastusan pero kung magkaka dengue ang anak mo na hindi naman nila inaalagaan ng maayos ibang usapan na yan.

Regarding the dresses so utang na loob mo pa na bumili siya ng mga dress na yun?  Sorry pero if you don't like it you have the right to refuse. Sabay ikaw pa magbabayad ng hindi mo type na dress? Yung iba ngang mga regalo sa akin na hindi ko type na damit ni hindi ko nga sinusuot eh! Paano pa kaya yang binili niya then you have to pay it?

[viellemacey]

^^sis sinearch ko muna yung mga foods na pwede at hindi pwede kay baby then ikinonsult ko sa pedia to be sure. kaloka nga eh kasi gusto nya yung ways nya ang gayahin ko pero not to mention yung mga anak nya puro payat kasi super picky eaters eh she can't afford to spoiled them naman so hindi makakain ng ayos yung mga bata pag gulay lang ulam nila. ayoko ganun mangyari sa anak ko kasi hindi naman ako sure na lage kong mabibigay lahat ng hingin ng baby ko, gusto ko kung ano yung nasa mesa yun lang.


^yup sis sa parents ko kami nakatira ni baby. lately nga nagkasakit si baby ( ubo at sipon ), she told me bumili ng meds ( neozep, antibiotic, solmux, tempra ) para maagapan raw. bili naman ako kasi she insisted. naku lumala ang sakit, nagkahalak na. ayun puro anti-asthma meds na binigay kasi parang lumala na tsaka hindi pala pwede yung neozep at solmux at the same time. hays nasayang lang tuloy yung ibinili ko ng gamot. tapos ako pa nasisi kesyo nakaAC pa raw kasi kami, jusmio ang tagal na kaya namin nakaAC simula pa nung ipinanganak si baby. tsaka syempre 1st time mom ako kaya lahat ng gears meron ang baby ko. naku nagsasayang lang raw ako ng pera kasi wala naman na raw ibang gagamit nun after ni baby. HELLO! binibilhan ko ng gamit ang anak ko hindi yung kung sino mang sasalo sa mga pinaglumaan nya.

[Purple_Power]

^How old na ba is your Tita? Kasi seems that maliliit pa yung mga anak niya. Ang advise ko lang pagdating sa mga medicines don't ever listen to her lalo na kung for baby pa ang pinag-uusapan. Iba pa rin yung nagconsult ka to pedia then magbigay ng riseta. Huwag mo na lang intindihin Tita mo na kung gumastos ka pa sa Doctor and yung nireseta niya the point is credibility na at yung reliable ang pinag-uusapan rito. Pagdating sa sakit huwag nang magmarunong ang Tita mo. I know who are the people na sincere tumulong pero there are people na gusto lang makialam yung palalabasin tinulungan ka nila pero ang totoo gusto lang nila ng credits at yung fact na they are manipulating you. Naku noh! as if they are concern then later on ang laki pa ng utang na loob mo sa kanila.

[viellemacey]

there are people na gusto lang makialam yung palalabasin tinulungan ka nila pero ang totoo gusto lang nila ng credits

naku sis feeling ko dyan si tita sa category na yan kasi everytime uuwe si dad from russia lage nya sinasabi "..kuya akin na lang yan/yun. ako naman nagiintindi sa mga anak mo..." grabe talaga.

she's nearing 40 na. kids are 16y/o, 10y/o and 4y/o

[Purple_Power]

^I am wondering lang if tumitira ka ba sa house ng parents mo mismo or Tita mo talaga ang may ari nyan? Kasi nagtataka lang ako kung bakit your Tita is being authoritative already.

[viellemacey]

^house ng dad ko sis. i'm living with my lola ang brother since mom and dad are seperated. si tita kapitbahay namin. even sa nanny gusto nya sya pipili. gusto nya yung kakilala nya na medyo matanda na eh umayaw ako kasi mabigat si baby at malikot baka mabitiwan tsaka gusto ko talaga private nurse/yaya kasi premmie si baby. kahit pa sinabi ng doctors na she's ok na naku ayoko pa rin ipagkatiwala sa walang alam sa condition ni baby. siguro kaya nya kinakayan kayanan yung nagaalaga sa baby ko kasi hindi sya ang nasunod.

[Girltalker2]

sis viellemacey, where is your hubby?  hindi ba sya naiinis sa sobrang pakialamera ng tita mo? pag andyan asawa mo, baka naman mahiya ng konti tita mo.

[viellemacey]

^naku girl wala akong hubby. single mom ako. hindi kami nagkasundo. alam mo minsan gusto ko rin sisihin si tita bakit naging single mom ako. anyways that's another story na mas mabigat ayoko na maalala. hehe

[Purple_Power]

^Sa Daddy mo naman pala kaya wala pa rin siyang karapatan makialam. Even if you don't tell the whole story that you are blaming your Tita na hindi kayo nagkasundo ng supposed to be hubby mo then I could already imagine the picture na may kinalaman siya run.

[viellemacey]

^true may kinalaman sya dun kaya everytime i see my baby naaawa ako kasi things could have been ok kung off limits nun si tita, kaya lang hindi eh kaya gumulo.

i remember pa nga nung college days nung itinira nya ako sa room for rent kasi wala akong relatives near feu, gusto ni dad walking distance lang sa school. grabe the heck ang mga kiti kiti sa drum na pinagiipunan ng tubig nung apartment, i ended up buying liters of mineral water para panligo ko. tapos dad visited me straight from the airport and found out how horrible the place was, he transfered me right away to The Residences. nagalit sya kay tita kasi si tita ang nagvolunteer na maghanap ng place for me to stay kasi gamay nya ang manila tapos sa unsafe and uncomfy place ako isiniksik.

[snowflakes]

hinde lang pakialamera kundi atribida pa! giving pilipit to a 6 month old baby is so wrong..
di ba sha nag iisip? tsaka yung yaya mo malamang takot sa tita mo yun kaya sunod lang ng sunod.
next time sabihin mo sa kanya na when it comes to your baby ikaw ang masusunod, period.