For the ladies: what if your partner earns much less than you do

[ragnar_danneskjold]

"It used to be that a man’s pride was attached to his paycheck. In today’s more progressive times, does earning more(or less) than your significant other still matter?" Men interviewed for this article say it doesn't matter for them (really, now). >> http://www.manifesto.com.ph/women/does-it-matter-if-she-earns-more-you

How about the ladies? Okay lang ba sa inyo na mas mababa ang income ng lalake sa inyo?

[oreo08]

Not an issue for me... and hindi rin issue sa kanya

[Girltalker2]

I don't think it would be an issue if he is living within his means and does not rely on me for his daily needs.  Basta hindi sya isang kahig isang tuka, and kaya bumuhay ng pamilya, then I don't have any issues.

[k_heart]

Mas malaki income ko sa asawa ko at parang never nya mahahabol kasi military officer sya kaya from
the start alam ko na di ganun kalaki sahod  sa military Pero ok naman kami. Money is not an issue
at all.  Basta yung paycheck aka atm nya ay nasa akin at ako na ang taga-ayos ng financials namin
pero for big purchases like house and lot, cars, trips abroad, nag-uusap kami and i make sure
na may contribution sya sa lahat.

[babyboo.0326]

for me, hindi siya issue as long as it is managed accordingly. hindi ko rin pinapakialaman kung pano niya gamitin yon kasi i respect that it's his hard earned money. pero we save up, and he's the one who's taking care of that account.

may kakilala naman ako. the girl earns more than the guy din. ang kaso, they girl was kind of expecting pala that the guy will be the sole provider from the start kasi siya daw ang lalaki. e kaso hindi nag sky rocket ang career ng guy, instead e si girl ang umangat ng husto. now she treats him with no respect na after all the years. sad lang. may mga ganun palang girls/women 

[sacred cow]

for me, hindi siya issue as long as it is managed accordingly. hindi ko rin pinapakialaman kung pano niya gamitin yon kasi i respect that it's his hard earned money. pero we save up, and he's the one who's taking care of that account.

may kakilala naman ako. the girl earns more than the guy din. ang kaso, they girl was kind of expecting pala that the guy will be the sole provider from the start kasi siya daw ang lalaki. e kaso hindi nag sky rocket ang career ng guy, instead e si girl ang umangat ng husto. now she treats him with no respect na after all the years. sad lang. may mga ganun palang girls/women 

it's the natural order of things kasi and even if women say that it's ok if they earn more than the guy,
on a subconscious level...they would prefer if the guy was the one acting as "provider"
the woman would naturally lose respect for the guy because he's not fulfilling his role as a man, I also
know couples na ganito wherein iniwan pa nga ni babae si lalake kasama ng mga anak papuntang abroad
because the man can't provide for the family.

[babyboo.0326]

^oh i see. well i guess i'm not included in the group of women who is under the "natural order of things". i feel sorry for those guys who were involved with these types. madalas kasi it's society or the culture we were brought up in wherein women would expect men to provide for them. for me kasi, i take pride with how i work hard and how i earn my money. maybe because of my experiences. kaya siguro kahit ano pa yung reason behind the earnings, wag lang katamaran ha, i would understand.

but nonetheless, kanya-kanya kasi yan e. siguro nakita ko lang yung value of respect without money involved with the family i grew up with. some men naman kasi, pag hindi earner yung girl, they look down naman to the women na parang they treat their partner as taong bahay lang talaga. oh well... 

[mooncake and leaves]

i really don't care for as long as hindi sya baon sa utang and he doesn't make me feel like crap for earning more and that he's happy with his work. i think men are more touchy when it comes to career and money. it's practically encoded in their DNA that they have to provide and have a job they're proud of. a man who doesn't feel respected or in control typically tries to get the upper hand somewhere else. be it in the company of other women or violent fits or plain old misogyny. or he could pull some self-defeating s*it and drown us both.

bottomline, it's not an issue for me unless the other person decides otherwise.

[ohcmon]

If 5k or less lang naman difference ng sweldo namin, pwede pa siguro. Pero come to think of it, ako nga hindi satisfied sa sweldo ko, tapos mas maliit pa 'yung kanya, parang medyo off. 

Anyway, I think it would work in the meantime. Pero kung forevs na mas mataas sahod ko sa kanya, magdadalawang-isip ako.

[angeleigh]

Okay lang basta he wont take it against me. Hirap naman pag awayan pa namin yan at alangan naman na maghanap ka ng work na mas mababa sahod sa kanya.

[Girltalker2]

a man who doesn't feel respected or in control typically tries to get the upper hand somewhere else. be it in the company of other women or violent fits or plain old misogyny. or he could pull some self-defeating s*it and drown us both.

but then again, men who earn more has more money for other women as well. tapos puedeng feeling hari sila if they earn well, as if they can do everything they want including womanizing and gambling.  so nasa pag uugali din ng guy.

may iba naman kahit mas maliit na-e-earn nya sa gf/wife nya, he still confident because he knows he is happy with his work and earns good money.

Ok lang sakin as long as hindi namn malaki yung difference. Kung kunwari half of what i earn prang mahirap yun.

siguro sis you meant na hindi sobrang below ang ine-earn nya such that he cannot even fend for a family. 

kasi if you are earning say P300k/month and he earns P150k/month, it really does not matter.

[babyboo.0326]

but then again, men who earn more has more money for other women as well. tapos puedeng feeling hari sila if they earn well, as if they can do everything they want including womanizing and gambling.  so nasa pag uugali din ng guy.

may iba naman kahit mas maliit na-e-earn nya sa gf/wife nya, he still confident because he knows he is happy with his work and earns good money.

i agree to this. dipende lang din sa situation talaga and the attitude towards each other, regardless of the earnings e.

[krnmprl]

it doesn't matter. kasi nangyayari na at the time you met, he's just getting there. iba't iba rin kasi ang sitwasyon ng bawat isa. sa karera naman kasi sa buhay, hindi naman lahat nagsisimula sa isang starting line eh 

pero very particular ako sa isang quality: ambition. kailangan nakikita ko to. and most of the time, kapag meron nito, in the long run, hindi na magiging issue ang earnings. unless artist siya or social worker or something. in which case, i will still be proud even when he earns crap. kasi bawing bawi naman sa outlook niya in life.

[airish_2]

Never an issue, mas mataas salary ko sa kanya pero mas magaling syang humawak ng pera mas nakakatipid sya ng malaki kaya naimpluwensyahan nya ako ang isa pa may goal sya hindi habang buhay ganun lang status nya kaya ayun mas malaki na suweldo nya sa akin iba talaga ang tao pag motivated at may ambition, yung tipong pinagiisipan nya na dapat sa ganitong lugar kami nakatira at pag nanganak ako hindi daw sa tabi-tabi na hospital kaya hindi porket mababa suweldo wala ng direction tapos dapat ang babawa tiga motivate rin

[jonielle]

ganon 

Wife ko mas malaki ang sweldo kesa sakin pero bale wala lang sakin di naman nababawasan pagkalalaki ko. Mas nakakahiya kung walang trabaho 

[daveigh]

My pay has always been higher even before we got married. pero it was never an issue to us.

[Mikasa]

hindi rin ito mega issue sakin pero i'd be happier kung mas malaki ang sweldo nya. it's not because gusto ko humingi, kundi gusto ko lang mas lamang sakin ang guy pagdating sa area na ito. kung nagkataon man na mas malaki ang earnings ko, matutuwa ako sa kanya kung makita ko syang gumagawa ng paraan para lampasan ang ako. that's just so masculine.. nakaka in love at higit sa lahat, nakaka-proud. gusto ko ng lalakeng maipagmamalaki ko

[KittiEKittiE]

Kung hindi naman kalakihan yung difference, it doesn't matter, as long as he has a job. Mas mahirap yung walang trabaho.

[ashley_afiah]

It is not an issue with me, hindi nga nagiintrega eh pero ok lang sakin basta nakikita ko nagsisipag yung tao at responsable naman

[purple.strawberry]

Ang masasabi ko diyan, to each his own.

Sa ex-boyfriend ko kasi, I was earning as twice as much as he was. I was helping him out sa mga gastos. Okay lang naman sa'kin, tsaka alam ko naman na he was just starting out and has a great, laid-out career path. Kaso insecure siya, financially and intellectually. Tapos after a while yung pagtulong ko felt like a burden, tipong 2 months advanced na budgeting ang ginagawa ko kasi ako ang magbabayad sa ganito-ganyan for him, tipid-tipid talaga.

Now I'm seeing someone na stable na sa work and earns greater than I do. Sobrang laking difference, jusko. Hahaha. Pero I insist na KKB kami pag may dates kasi ayoko ng maulit yung before. I want to be financially independent.

So essentially, I prefer that the guy earns much greater than I do. May peace of mind ako that he can provide... pero gusto ko rin na I have my own money, magagastusan ko yung needs ko and I can contribute well pag magkasama na kami.

If the guy is earning less pero wala namang issue sa both parties, e di masaya. Pero I think it's natural din for the girl to look for a guy who can provide, siguro in an evolutionary perspective. And men tend to be sensitive about financial matters because of ego and the culture promoted by the patriarchal society.