Still Childless

[barbillie]

Sinasabi ko lagi sa sarili ko, 'okay lang yan. may tamang time.' pero hindi ko maiwasan malungkot at mainggit dun sa mga bagong kasal na friends ko (1 married last January, 1 married last July), tapos preggy na ngayon. Nadedepress ako.

[blackgreen]

Kami rin ni hubby this year lang nagpakasal and gusto na rin namin magbaby. Nakakainspire mga kwento ng ibang sis natin. May PCOS din ako and nag agree kami ni hubby na wag na kami muna magpapressure. Enjoy lang muna kami. By next year pag wala pa rin dun na kami magbubuhos ng lahat ng effort to get pregnant. If wala pa rin we will consider adoption pero siyempre mas gusto pa rin namin na sariling dugo na diba. Pray lang tayo mga sis. May plano si Lord for us.

Minsan nakakalungkot lang dun sa mga friends na medyo insensitive sa ganitong topic. Parang palagi pa nila ipinamumukha na wala pang baby. Eventually matututunan ko rin silang iignore lahat.

[yannuh]

^cheer up sis. kakastart pa lang ng married life natin tee hee!. kami din sis gusto na magkababy ni hubby. pero no pressure muna. enjoy2 muna, pray tayo lagi

[blackgreen]

^yep sis. Ganyan na nga lang. Enjoy life and pray lagi

[ivy u.]

^8 years na kami ng hubby ko pero wala parin. talagang hindi maiiwasan ang malungkot at madepress. gumagawa parin naman kami ng paraan at ipina-paubaya na namin kay Lord ang lahat.

[junetwentythree]

I'm just wondering...

Would any of you consider adopting?

[blackgreen]

^kami sis. Pag wala pa rin kami anak based on our set timeline baka mag adopt na lang kami.

[crzysxycl]

Hi sisses! Wag mawalan ng pag-asa. Pray lang palagi. Mahirap talaga yung feeling na alam mong pwede ka namang mapreggy, pero wala pa rin.

4 yrs married na kami ni hubby and TTC for 3 yrs. I prayed to God, sabi ko kung hindi para sa amin yung maging parents, hindi ko na ipipilit. Sakto kasing 3rd cycle ko na naka clomiphene, emotionally and financially draining pag ttc kaya naisip ko pahinga muna kung sakali wala pa rin. Pero I know in my heart I deserve to be a mom. We all deserve to be. Then just last week I found out I am pregnant. Hindi ko akalain kasi I almost gave up na rin. I thought si AF na kasi I have sore boobs. Kapit lang mga sis, darating din yung greatest blessing nyo. Share ko lang din pala yung case ko - multiple myomas, adenomyosis, adenomyoma, ovarian cysts sa right. God is good all the time!

[yannuh]

I'm just wondering...

Would any of you consider adopting?

yes sis ok smen, napag usapan na namin yan even before we got married. though bata pa naman kami, syempre gusto namin sa amin talaga.


^praise God talaga. ang galing. congrats ulit sis!:)

[luckypal]

I've never felt the need to have children. I've waited for the baby fever to kick in, especially now that I'm in my mid 30s and married. My husband and I don't want to have any kids but if ever our minds change in the future, we're open to adoption which I think is a beautiful process of having a child of our own. I also wouldn't mind having an older kid since those are ones that don't get adopted.

[sarsingkit]

Not me, but a couple friend does not want kids. As in ayaw nila ha. Hindi yung "ayaw for now" kasi it is normal naman to wait. So far they have been married for 12 years and they are in their 40s. Talagang dead set na sila to not having kids. I think, the family will eventually accept it. It also helps in their case na they both came from a big family so may apos na talaga from both sides.

[sarsingkit]

I'm just wondering...

Would any of you consider adopting?

Yes, I want to.

[mrshero15]

Thank God I've found this thread...

I know the feeling sis.. Ako din yan ang pinagdadaanan naming ng husband ko ngayon. Almost 3 years na kaming married and we're turning 30 na. Lahat na ata ng work up napagawa ko na still hindi pa din kami nabibiyayaan ng baby. It came to a point na palagi ako malungkot at umiiyak. I also unfollowed lahat ng fb friends ko na post ng post about their babies or about their pregnancy kasi lalo ako nalulungkot. Ang hirap.. palagi kami nagdadasal ni hubby na sana mabigyan na din kami ng baby. Thankful na lang din ako at optimistic yung husband ko everytime na npfeel nya na nalulungkot ako always nya ako nireremind kung gaano ako ka blessed kahit wala kaming baby.

[yannuh]

^kaya natin yan sis. wag mawawalan ng pag-asa. pag ibibigay ni Papa God, ibibigay nya yan. more patience pa sis. bata ka pa naman

[bipolarbear]

i choose to be child free. some family and friends know it. whenever they ask me why, i just say "para maiba naman"

then i will share to them my experience nung first ko makapanood ng 17 year old na nanganak infront of me. she has ecclampsia (alam ko sakit to pag pregnant) and the kumadrona pinapagalitan sya kasi she doesnt know how to push. aside from that nag poop pa sya while doing it and her experience super hindi maganda kasi dapat the kumadrona should be supportive hindi yung she treats her like abala sya sa kanya..

anyway i told everyone how traumatized i was. now, ok na ako. pero still takot ako and ayaw ko ng pain. aside from that i may have baby blues and my husband baka hindi ako mahandle. lots of reasons, maybe excuses na rin. if gusto may paraan diba.. LOL

luckily, i found a BF na ayaw din ng kids, and we are ok with it.

my family understands naman.

kaso some people will say "sinu mag aalaga sayo pagtanda mo?"

and i will tell them, hindi ko naman gusto mag anak para pagtanda ko may mag aalaga sakin. besides, i want to be independent na kahit may anak ako, i wont bother them and mag sstay ako sa home for the aged or something or live alone..

[mrshero15]

oo nga sis @yannuh    Need natin talaga ang strong faith kay God para ma endure natin tong pinagdaanan natin...

[chelgeneroso]

^8 years na kami ng hubby ko pero wala parin. talagang hindi maiiwasan ang malungkot at madepress. gumagawa parin naman kami ng paraan at ipina-paubaya na namin kay Lord ang lahat.

Kapag nagka-baby na kayo, its worth the wait
We got married 2002, I'm PCOS, Type 2 DM
First unexpected pregnancy 2010 but D&C on my 1st Trimester
Adopted a baby 2011
Got unexpected Pregnancy again 2014.
We are now a family of 4.

God give miracles to those who patiently wait.
God listens, Keep on praying.

[jazzlawyer]

almost 3 years married. im turning 37. hubby is turning 43.

Im no longer expecting to have a baby. 

[crzysxycl]

^Kaya yan sis! Wag ka mawalan ng pag-asa.. Minsan talaga dinedelay ni Lord ang pag answer ng prayers to test our faith. Kami we waited 4 years naman bago nagka baby. God bless sis!

[chikit]

Relax lang at dasal. It took us 9 years and 2 miscarriages, first time mom at 36.