Do you wish you could talk with your ex for closure or not?

[Miss Taken]

So my first ex (we've been together for more than 7 years) sent me a message on facebook recently, nangangamusta lang. I was surprised since it's been years since I last heard from him plus he has a girlfriend now. So ayun nalaman ko na he's here in the Philippines for vacation hanggang sa tinanong niya if I'm happy now with my current bf, I told him I feel blessed and contented because of my new guy.

Simple talk when all of a sudden he told me that he still miss me and that he can't stop thinking about me ever since na nagbreak kami. I explained na he has to accept the fact na we're not meant to be together and the timing is not always right eh. Just make the most of his relationship with his new girl.

He said na he's aware about it naman pero I will always be his "the one that got away."

Ayoko na makipagkita sa kanya for another closure. I just hope na he'll forget about me..

[mdjanna]

I wish for closure cos i feel na baka maka help yun but concern ko is my fiance and husband to be syempre i want to take in consideration yung na fi feel nya when it happens. Lalo na now na we're having a baby pa. Hmmm. Siguro nga some things are better left unsaid.

[hemelse03]

For me....YES...maganda na may closure....kasi para saakin maliit ang mundo e...baka makasalubong ko lang sya sa isang lugar...

[chengsen]

Ive wanted one. Pero sabi sa akin ng friend ko, ano pa bang closure ang kelangan ko, 11 years in a relationship, he cheated on me again. Dapat closed na talaga-may so-called closure man o wala. No point on talking. pinapaasa ko lang daw sarili ko that time. At narealize ko na tama sya..and so from then, I didnt wait for any apology. I dont care anymore if may "sorry" man o wala.

[mysterioza_me]

^same tyo sis, at first i want one pero later one i realized closure is not a big thing pala. Kung ayaw e di huwag, as simple as that. I'm happy na wala na siya mas magiging masaya pala ako 😉

[kvandenhaak]

Ang wala lang proper closure sa akin ay ang una kong BF. That's more then 20 years ago na so di na kailangan ng closure. But the last two has proper closure and I want it to that way para at least you can go on in peace, walang bitterness and you can still be friends.

[baby_chichay]

i had a string of bf's way back and i also thought closure is necessary. pinagpipilitan ko pa nga noon palagi yang closure closure na yan hihi. but i would say now it's not. and it also depends sa reason or cause ng breakup. if it's a bad one, why the need? mauungkat lang lahat ng galit at sakit. if it's a good one, it's better to just look at the bright side na at least wala naman problema, in short wala na din dapat pa ungkatin.

when things are over, they are over. wala na reason for a last call for declaration of the finale or what. looking back at my "closures" with my exes, wala naman significant na naitulong. in the end, i had to make a decision that i needed to move on, inasmuch as being happy is also a decision we make every day.

[dismembered]

Kung single pa kayo parehas, at tingin mo di ka maka move forward, baka need mo talaga ng closure. Pero kung ang isa naman sa inyo ay meron ng ibang "relationship", I think hindi na dapat. Risky at mahirap.

Sabi ni Papa Jack nung tumawag ako dati sa kanya, the mind may forget but the body remembers. Mahirap na magkita pa kayo ulit, delikado sa current relationship nyo.

[seriousman]

If I will be having that chance or opportunity, yes. I want to talk.
I have tried calling her a week before her bday, 6 days before, 5 days, 4, 3, 2 and on the day itself, but to no avail. She is not picking up.

It's been 3 years already.

[baliwsayo]

^It means she doesn't really care anymore.

I've always thought na pag break na eh yun na yun closure. And those wanting closure only wants another shot at it.. baka may ma-salvage pa.

I also thought that guys are cool. You know the mere fact na hindi na siya nagparamdam after you broke up with him means he doesn't care anymore. That's not always the case pala. Meron din pala na gusto ka pa naman talaga kaso sobrang mapride lang to make a move.

[Shadow Angel]

No. para saan pa alam mo naman na hiwalayin din ang uwi. Nagpapasalamat ako nagbreak kami now I am happily married.

[kittypaw]

LOL closure is overrated, para lang yan sa mga naghahanap lang ng reason para makpagusap pa or makipagbalikan. Or if ang reason is cheating then thats the closure itself bat kelangan pang pagusapan, yun na closure mo niloko ka period.

[mysterioza_me]

Di na, magka-badtripan lang kami nun. Self-righteous yun e 😂😂😂

[anim_p]

I'm also not saying that closure is overrated but I think the break-up itself is THE closure.
Not if's no but's. That is what I learned. So I didn't ask for it. We didn't do it.

[seriousman]

mali din ako. nag text sya, tumawag at nag try na makipagkita pero, tama din nga, pride na lang.

I just want to say goodbye...

[prettyellowish]

Akala ko noon closure ang kelangan ko para maka move on pero hindi pala. Acceptance lang talaga. So oki na din na wala kame closure kase kung nagkataon, baka magka sumbatan pa kame lalo lang ako masasaktan.

[gc.garcia]

I had this ex who had hurt me so much. I mean we really parted ways in the worst terms na talagang wala ng usap usap and basta one day talagang all our communication just seized. Then in a mutual friend's birthday party he was outright flirting with this girl right in front of me.

What I did? Wala. I cried my eyes out with matching hagulgol and sipon all through the night then after I saw myself in that state sabe ko 'teka, bakit ako nababaliw because of him eh I don't deserve what he's doing to me naman'....

After that incident I told myself talaga na I deserved way better. I never begged nor asked him the questions of what went wrong. Siguro in a way, subconsciously, I was secured enough of myself na alam ko I wasn't the problem. So ayun,I made an effort to take care of myself, went out with friends, met new people and after a few months I eventually met my current bf of 4 years now.

A year after that break up went down, this ex sent me a message saying sorry for hurting me. I said thank you and what's done is done. Nagkumustahan din kame and all which for me was like wala lang. Normal na conversation nalang siya kase for me wala na, I'm ok na. Then after that he had randomly sent me a message that he missed me and I was like  LOL ..... I never replied and told my bf about it which we both laughed off to.

Mejo mahaba pero found out months later through a family friend that this ex was telling his co workers (they both worked at the same company) that we were on speaking terms again and that we got back together ... Let's just say muntik na siyang jombagin ni bf when I told him about it. hahahaha!

Ayun... so bizarre this ex that I had asked myself why in the first place did I ever date him! hahaha!

[easytwinkle08]

yes of course, gusto ko ng closure. kasi umaasa ako na baka pagka napagusapan namin ng maayos. lumabas yung mga nararamdaman namin na feelings at maramdaman namin na ay may spark pa talaga. (assuming) pero kidding aside. yes closure. siguro kasi iba pa din yung face to face na maguusap hindi yung sa text lang. para mas formal.

[ohmygorjosh]

for me, i'd rather not. somewhere between our silence is already a form of closure.

[lonely_dad]

hindi na. after ng masasakit na salitang sinabi niya sa partido ko ano pa ba dapat pag usapan?