Do you wish you could talk with your ex for closure or not?

[simang]

I was able to talk to my ex partner (7 yrs kami) last time. Nagkumustahan and then he asked me about my current partner. So nagkwento ako ng konti and then he asked when's our wedding. Hindi nya alam na engaged kami. Siguro natanong nya lang out of the blue. So i told him kung kelan. Nagulat daw sya and at the end of his message, he said "thank you for letting me know, makaka move on na siguro ako". Then nagkwento na sya how he was unable to find another partner after me.

It's been 4 years since our breakup. Di ko alam kung sincere sya sa sinabi nya or nagpapacute lang sya sa akin lol. Kung totoo man yun, I just wish makahanap na talaga sya ng life partner nya.

[young_maiden]

No. For me, makakahanap ka lang ng closure sa sarili mo. Hindi mo na kailangan kausapin ex mo para dyan. Just accept na wala na kayo at move on. Yun dapat ang closure. In my case, napaka-useless lang. Almost 6 years na kami hiwalay ng ex ko at wala na kami communication. Kung mag-usap man kami, I know puro lies lang din maririnig ko like "Minahal kita" or "Kahit kailan di kita niloko." Mature na ako ngayon at di na ako tulad ng dati na mabilis naniwala sa kanya. Pero aminado ako noong fresh pa break-up namin lagi ko naiisip kung minahal nga ba talaga niya ako o pinaglaruan lang. Gusto ko talaga siya kausapin tungkol dyan. Nung tumagal, narealize ko para saan pa. Hindi na mahalaga kung minahal niya ba ako o hindi. Tapos na kami at dapat ko na siya i-let go.

[brendzy]

Rather not, kasi it will not change the fact anyway. Somehow somewhere, there are words that are left unspoken. 

[ajang]

even though i want to, better leave it that way. kasi feeling ko kapag nasagot nya mga questions ko its either magkaroon ako ulit ng hope na maging kami or masaktan nanaman ako at the end ako pa rin ang masasaktan.

sabi nga nila di natin hawak ang way kung pano maghihiwalay. in my case my last words is "mahal na mahal kita. sana maging masaya ka" sya naman ang last words nya lang is a plain "sorry.. and belated happy birthday". i was the one who asked him to let me go and yet at the end nagkabaliktad ang sitwasyon, parang sya yung biglang nangiwan. marami din akong questions na di nya binigyan ng sagot pero siguro yaan ko na lang na maging tanong yun habang buhay.

[Angelite]

No need na for me. Moved on na for a long time

[nessy]

Siguro case-by-case basis.

Sa akin naman closure is important, especially if you have too many questions and you want an answer from your ex. My ex was parang kabute, lulubog-lilitaw that was why I broke up with him. Then I was surprised that he was the one who asked for closure. I was like nyek, di ba dapat ako yung naghingi ng closure  pero at least he initiated, I didn't ask. Tapos ayun, siya yung nagkwento kung bakit siya ganon.  Siguro hindi rin siya napakali dahil nasaktan niya ako.

Ganito yung recent ex ko. Curiois lang since di rin kame nakapag usap pa baket siya gnaito saken, sis ano daw reason niya?

[samtorini]

No. Wala na dapat pag-usapan. Ke walang closure or meron, it doesn't matter anymore.

Sabi nga ni Papa Jack, pag humingi or naghahanap ka ng closure, umaasa ka pa na baka or sana meron pa. And I agree 

[SarSi_Em]

no need na. usually, mga guys, takot makita ex nila umiiyak, takot sa confrontation, ayaw na nila mahabang usapan. gusto nila easy way out, and sila rin un mga lalakeng may kapalit ka na kahit kayo pa. may naka reserba na. 

sure naman, tatawag tayo, mangulit sa simula, hanapin, kapag nagawa mo na yan at wala pa rin sagot si guy, tama na wag na mag tanong uli, for him, tapos na kayo. alam naman natin na iisa lang dahilan nun ayaw na ni bf, ganun lang ka simple. 

para ka lang sirang plaka kaka tanong kung bakit, kahit alam mo naman talaga ang mga reasons, ayaw mo lang tanggapin na wala na talaga. kung ayaw di ayaw. wala naman tayo magagawa pag ayaw na nila. iiwanan at iiwanan ka pa rin.  mag tira na lang tayo para sa ego natin

[callmemissj]

Sometimes having no closure is already a closure.

[handlewithcare]

I tried na magkaroon ng proper closure with my ex. I tried for several times. Pero puro kasinungalingan lang narinig ko. Hanggang sa huli hindi pa rin sya nagpakatotoo. Sabi nga, never argue with someone who believes their own lies. So I gave up.

Tinalikuran ko na. Hindi na ko lilingon uli.

[im fine!]

Girls lang naman talaga ang mahilig sa closure.  Ikaw na magsara kung iniiwan ka rin lang naka hang.

[superboink]

How can you find closure kung everything seems so perfect. Masaya ko at nagsabihan pa ng walang iwanan ng Tuesday. Excited na sa pagkikita niyo after 8 months of being LDR. Wednesday nagkamisunderstanding then after four days hindi ka kinausap. Bigla nalang nagbago parang nagkaamnesia. Magfocus nalang daw ako sa career ko dahil yun mahalaga sakin. Then hindi ka na kinausap. Ganon. Ganon lang. Nasaan ang hustisya don? Pano mo isasara? Pano mo matatanggap? 😭😭😭

[mysterioza_me]

^ok lang yan sis, sapat na sinabi niya na magfocus ka sa career mo, atleast di ka pinaasa or pinaghintay. Isipin mo na lang "Goals are easier to achieve when you are single," napatunayan ko na yan.

Yung sa kin bigla na lang nawala, when I tried to talk to him siya pa may ganang magalit pero wala pa din akong sagot na nakuha if bakit siya nagkakaganon or explanation man lang kung bakit siya galit. I know he's being defensive since I found out something. Kung gusto ko pa ba siyang makausap for closure? Hindi na, sapat na yung attempts na ginawa ko para sana magkalinawan kami. Magpapaganda na lang ako kesa intindihan ko pa yang closure na yan, magkasalubong man kami maganda pa din ako. Maglaway siya!

[Girltalker2]

^^ Friday palang naman, 2 days palang since you're argument... Too soon naman ata to assume na nawala sya na parang bula.

[superboink]

^one month na sis almost after dun sa magfocus na lang ako sa career dahil yun daw mahalaga lang sakin. Kahit naman sabihin ko hindi totoo yun parang yun ang nahanap niyang way out sakin gone too soon then hindi na ko kinausap. As in ganon lang. Hindi na rin ako nagattempt magmessage kasi parang ayaw na din naman niya ko kausapin nung last time. Dami kong tanong. Iniwan ako sa ere lahat ng plano at pangarap namin. Yun ang kisapmata talaga. Daig pa nabagok ulo. Sakit mga sis. Ang unfair. Hindi man lang kinonsider ako.

[mysterioza_me]

^ Ganun talaga sis, pag-ayaw na gaano man kababaw ang reason yun pa rin idadahilan may mai-reason out lang. Tama lang na wag ka na magmessage sa kanya, I admire you kasi nakaya mo na no contact for one month, tuloy mo lang. Stop worrying and thinking as to what went wrong kasi mahihirapan ka magmove on. Kung ganun lang kababaw ang reason niya then siya ang may problema at hindi ikaw. Yes its unfair na naiwan ka sa ere but what to do? Tuloy pa din naman ang buhay masagot man o hindi ang tanong mo. Virtual hugs sis.

[amethyst028]

tayo lang talaga mga girls ang naghahanap ng closure. guys don't like to communicate especially about their feelings so mahirap sa kanila yung closure na yan. they hate seeing girls get emotional and crying.

pag tapos na tapos na. kahit sila siguro hindi nila masasagot yung mga tanong natin without lying. for me mas ok na yung hindi mo na lang nalaman kesa sinagot nga mga tanong mo pero half truth lang kasi they are still careful not to give you the whole truth dahil baka mas lalo ka lang masaktan. may tendency kasi na ganon ang mangyari lalo na pag tayo ang nagpumilit na makipag usap just for closure.

when it's over, try to have peace with yourself. accept that it's over and do our best to move on. easier said than done but sometimes talking to the person who hurt us will post more questions than answers. and minsan hindi mo talaga mai-intindihan kasi iba ang logic ng guys sa girls. isipin na lang natin na kaya sila nawala is because someone better is going to come along. totoo naman yun.

[paige830]

Closure comes from within... Bow!

[bipolarbear]

yes. we never really had any closure. when we had a really big fight, pinadala nya lang all my stuff at home, and right then and there i knew it was over. he blocked me in FB, and a couple of months later, yung GF nya is pregnant na. i dunno how it happened. maybe he decided to find another girl right away. weird. kasi she gave birth november, and we broke up first quarter of the year. oh well.

i know i dont want him back. i sent him a letter as a closure narin, (email), he didnt reply. maybe he just hates me so much. told everyone na i cheated when he is cheating too himself.

i dunno. maybe i just wanna ask him whats wrong with me. or maybe i know he understands me, wala naman kasi akong ibang taong kilala na i know naiintindihan ako.

[fidelity88]

yes, before. kasi hindi ko talaga alam yung reason kaya need ko ng closure. but now, NO. hindi ko na kailangan. Masaya na ako ngayon. Besides, God has a reason kung bakit sya nawala. I found someone better. no, best pala. not being bitter but, I really that God it happened kasi narealize ko na hindi ko dapat iplease ang mga tao, kung ayaw sa akin eh di wag, kung gusto, eh di welcome. good vibes lang..