Do you wish you could talk with your ex for closure or not?

[Pink_Sugar]

Minsan may pagka sadista tayo gusto natin marinig yung makakasakit sa atin, siguro para mas makarealized na may mali sa dalawang tao, hindi lang isa ang may kasalanan? Siguro mas makaka move on ka kaagad pag alam mong may pagkukulang ka din para matanggap mo along the way

[Yamski]

Nope. We broke up for a lot of reasons - reasons that his mind couldn't comprehend. Baka hindi niya rin maintindihan ang closure, kaya 'wag na lang.

[oreo08]

hindi na

I dodged a bullet rin naman so phew!!!

[pretty_B]

yes because i really don't know what went wrong.

[brendzy]

Nope. He never gave me a chance before to explain my side so I don't mind anymore kahit wala na kaming closure.

[freelancer_babe]

Sa mga nakabreak ko, mga iisa o dalawa lang ata ang merong maayos closure. The others wala na.

Whether there's closure or not, parehong masakit. May disadvantage rin kasi ang may closure, kasi you're being told straight in the face yung nararamdaman ng guy - especially kung sabihin pa nya na nawalan siya ng feelings sa iyo. The advantage of being told straight to the face is that you know what went wrong so you learn the next time you get in a relationship. And at least you are not left wondering kung kayo pa talaga o hindi so you take the necessary steps to move on right away.

[pretty_B]

^yes, parehong masakit but for me mas pipiliin ko pa din yung sakit na sabihin sakin ng bf ko na hindi na nya ako mahal, na may iba na sya or what, etc. kasi eventually, magiging lesson at kapitan ko ng strength yun eh. idk if it works for others din. sana lang sa closure, nasasabi talaga natin (oo, pati tayo) LAHAT LAHAT ng dapat nating sabihin sakanila.

[stronger]

usually hindi na, but my ex for than 4 yrs. suddenly he texted me last new year and ask for a time-to talk after a year na di kami nag uusap thru text lang ang break up namin. saken naman okay na ko, there's no more words left unsaid, but then i think sa part nya seguro kelangan nya yon,. so now, we're making arrangements of when and where. honestly nakakakaba, i dont know what will he tells me after what i did to him.
 he maybe need a proper and peaceful closure for him to totally moved on and start his life without those questions banging on his head.

[Jamann]

For Me no need na siguro to talk to him for closure. Nung sinabe nya saken na LETS END OUR RELATIONSHIP and nakita ko na may bago na sya GF dun palang maliwanag na saken. Syempre sa una masakit na bakit ganun ginawa nya, di naman kame nag aaway, okay naman kame, di naman sya nagpakita ng katamlayan sa relasyon pero siguro hanggang dun nalang talaga.

Nalaman ko lang na ang sarap pala sa pakiramdam pag tinanggap mo sa sarili mo na tapos na kayo, na wala na kayo, na di kayo meant for each other. Nung ga** DAYS KO PA I prayed to God na if para sya saken ibalik nya kung hindi wag na, buti nalang hindi nangyare na magkabalikan kame.
Na realize ko lang na ayaw ko pala sa mga ganung lalaki. at kung kame pa, panigurado di ko makikilala yung boyfriend ko ngayon

[phurple0515]

ako no need na.  don sa 2nd to the last ko, I just feel bitter I wasted my time with him.  Sa last ko before my hubby, it just hurt it turned out not good and even our friendship was ruined.

yoko na balikan nakaraan, just moving forward and spending each day with my current one is enough to let bygones be bygones

[17glut]

which would hurt a guy more: give him closure or not?

Neither. Kung hiwalay na kayo at official na (for whatever reasons) then giving closure is irrelevant na.
Just walk away and keep walking, no looking back na.

[DaintyMe]

Siguro case-by-case basis.

Sa akin naman closure is important, especially if you have too many questions and you want an answer from your ex. My ex was parang kabute, lulubog-lilitaw that was why I broke up with him. Then I was surprised that he was the one who asked for closure. I was like nyek, di ba dapat ako yung naghingi ng closure  pero at least he initiated, I didn't ask. Tapos ayun, siya yung nagkwento kung bakit siya ganon.  Siguro hindi rin siya napakali dahil nasaktan niya ako.

Nakarelate ako sayo sis. Ganyan din ang ex ko bihira kami magkita kaya nakipagbreak ako. Obvious naman kasi na walang patutunguhan ang relasyon namin at saka nakahanap na ako ng iba (asawa ko na ngayon). hihi.. Maraming beses siya humingi ng closure pero di ko binigay sa kanya para din kasi may hidden agenda na gusto niya makipagbalikan  . Siguro nagulat din sya out of the blue bigla ako nakipagbreak. Akala niya siguro ok lang sakin ang ganun setup  (based on his text messages).

Sabi nga ng ibang sis dito ang kadalasang humihingi ng closure ay yung mga iniwanan. Naghahanap sila ng sagot sa mga tanong na "Bakit bigla na lang siya nakipagbreak?" "Bakit niya nagawa sakin yun?" "Ano ang naging pagkukulang ko?" etc. For me, hindi na kailangan. Nakipagbreak sayo yung tao kasi ayaw na niya sayo. The End. Hindi naman makikipaghiwalay yan kung gusto pa nya ayusin ang relasyon niyo.

[FayeP]

-hindi, never ako nag isip na kelangan ng closure para makamove on or anything...kumbaga complete naman ang buhay kahit wala un closure sa break-up...

saka para ano pa un closure, kunyari you broke up years ago as in ages ago then here you are wanting to put closure on it kasi nagbreak kayo ng di formal...juskolerd, a lot of things ang nangyari na, both of you have changed na din malamang, at nakasurvive pareho for years without that closure...so ano pa hahanapin di ba....

[chinablue]

Ako iniwan ako sa ere ni ex. He didn't tell me the reason why. 3 months passed and natanggap ko na din na wala na ko makukuha na explanation from him. Hanggang sa siya na din ang kusang nag initiate na iopen yung past namin. Kung ano yung reason bakit niya ko iniwan. But too late coz I already created a closure for myself.

[jasmine18]

Bakit kailangan ng closure? Baka kasi hopeful pa rin na magkabalikan pa kayo? 

[kikayako]

yes because i really don't know what went wrong.

Ako rin...

[thekitchenbride]

I also created a closure for myself and it really helps. what i did was to ask God for a sign that it's over and that i should no longer wait and move on. looking back, it's funny because what i asked was a championship of my favorite basketball team. I was doubly happy because they won and i was single again. After that I did not need any on my questions to be answered, I became peaceful because I know what God wants me to do.

We can't always demand closure from coward people. Sometimes we just have to believe that there is someone better destined for us. 

*It took me nearly 4 years to let go, but when I finally decided... very soon after, I met my husband to be. Looking back I should have moved on earlier, if i only knew. 

[ohcmon]

Hindi na. What for? It's like opening Pandora's Box. Kung tapos na, tapos na talaga with or without closure.

Let's remember, sisses, getting no closure IS a closure.

[astarte]

Siguro nga yung iba na sila ang naiiwanan naiisip na sana may closure so they would know where they went wrong. If one thinks this would help a person to move on though of course there's no guarantee until you get that closure thing, then fine. Personally I used to think that way din, as years gone by and may mga taong nag come and go na rin, okay din na wala ng closure.

[Cheonsa.Maggie]

For me NO na lang. I mean, there are things na kahit anong gawin natin hindi natin maiintindihan which can lead to another questions to another. Parang until you're not satisfied with the answers/info you knew you'll be asking for more. So I guess, the other sissies are right na closure is for the needy or someone who wanted to know yung present ni ex. Okay na ako to know na ganun na ang nangyari. At least I know God will tell me things in the right time kung bakit ganon ang nangyari.