Do you wish you could talk with your ex for closure or not?

[sw33tsw33t]

No. Breaking up with someone, whether he just disappeared without a word or he left you for someone else, is enough closure for me. I wont force myself on someone who clearly doesn't want me in his life anymore or when a relationship isn't going anywhere.

I see wanting to talk to an ex for a closure as an excuse to satisfy one's curiosity kung [textspeak!] buhay niya ngayon or still not over the ex, among other things mentioned here already by our sissies..

Closure is for the needy types, kase it is a personal responsibility eh. Nobody can really give it to you because it's also a decision. Kahit pa magkita at magkausap pa with the ex, that will not change the fact that you two are over.. there will be no guarantee that you'll get the answers you seek.. oftentimes kabaliktaran ang nangyayari resulting to more questions & complications. End result, di pa rin maka move on move on and can become a cycle.

Seeking closure is just like opening up old wounds. and it's almost always causing only pain and unnecessary regrets. Just my two cents.

[chinkywinky]

Siguro case-by-case basis.

Sa akin naman closure is important, especially if you have too many questions and you want an answer from your ex. My ex was parang kabute, lulubog-lilitaw that was why I broke up with him. Then I was surprised that he was the one who asked for closure. I was like nyek, di ba dapat ako yung naghingi ng closure  pero at least he initiated, I didn't ask. Tapos ayun, siya yung nagkwento kung bakit siya ganon.  Siguro hindi rin siya napakali dahil nasaktan niya ako.

[ladyisabella]

before yes, now no.
no explanation.
just NO.

[Prinsesa Mumela]

In my case, hindi na. Naniniwala naman akong importante yun para masagot yung sangkatutak na what ifs mo pero kung hindi naman nya kusang ibibigay sayo yun eh di wag na lang. bat ko sya pipilitin aber? may closure man o wala, magmo-move on ako bilang buhay pa naman ako at mahal ko rin ang sarili ko.

[angelic_daphne]

No. You close your end. That's the only closure you need.

[sexykha]

yes, i wanna know what happened so that i can fully moved on..
until now i really dont know why our relationship ended

[lovemeagain30]

I think closure is for people na umaasa pa or nagmamahal pa sa ex nila. 

in reality kasi kung hihintayin mo lang ang tamang panahon, you will know the reasons kung bakit hindi nagwork out relationship niyo. lalabas at lalabas din ang totoo kahit sabihin na nagdisappear pa yan. parang somehow,, nalalaman mo din ang reason pagkatapos.

nangyari sakin yan ilang beses na,, madalas yung guy ayaw mag paliwanag at biglang nagmomove on. kahit pigain mo, ayaw sabihin yung rason. nagtatago pa. only to find out after a few months or years,, nalalaman ko din ang totoo. hindi lang through him but circumstances napapasulpot din ang rason.

madalas babae ang humihinge ng closure. in a way kasi umaasa tayo marinig na hindi tayo ang may mali bakit hindi nagworkout ang relasyon. gusto natin somehow, mag apologize sila sa ginawa nila. umasa na maayos pa ang lahat kung sakaling malaman mo yung totoong rason. in a perfect world, dapat naman talaga may closure,, but in reality,, some people are just plain jerks! 

[MaitaOfMakeupOnDemand]

I don't believe in closure from an ex. You simply close the book yourself. You give yourself closure.

[10don]

hindi na. closed book na dapat.

[nixiquita]

Honestly, sometimes, i do.

Para in good terms lang and may chance to say sorry and say thank you. And to wish each other goodluck sa life and all that BS, haha

But i guess theres no more closure needed. Magccomplicate lang, mahirap kausap yun eh HAHAHAHA

Im happy! And i just wish hes happy with his life too

[10don]

ang bait mo naman, nixiquita. hindi ko winiwish na happy sya sa life nya, kasi di nya deserve. gagapang sya lol. pero alam kong happy sya kasi may bagong gf e. carmi martin is just around the corner. lurking. bitterness ba? 

[Frozen Toes]

You are the only person who can give yourself closure.

[killbill]

No answer is your answer. That's it.

[Cheychey]

If given a chance, i think i'd grab it. hoping that it will be the end of it. i know that not all questions should be answered but at least you know kung ano nasa isip niya about what happened to us. nung nagbreak kasi kami ayaw niya pagusapan lahat ng naging problema e. hanggang sa we parted ways, may mga hanging questions pa rin. pero sa sobrang wala na rin naman akong pakelam kung masagot pa niya yun or hindi, hindi ko na alam yung nga tanong. hahahaha

honestly, minsan nagpapapansin pa siya sa relatives ko e buti hindi na siya pinapansin. keber na lanv kami lahat sa kanya. haha

[gmarri]

Kung magkikita kami ulit, no need to talk about it na. Tagal na rin e. Siguro casual talk na lang or no pansinan na at all. Though gusto ko pa rin naman maging okay kami pero as friends nalang. Yung walang total closeness, atleast, wala nang samaan ng loob.

[jojo2978]

We started as friends, fair enough to end as friends.

I never made any ill wishes to any of my ex's. I wanted all of them to be happy in life.

[p0isonIvy]

sometimes i fantasize about running into him after all these years. tapos syempre usap ng konti. not anymore about closure but more of trying to see how his life has been after the breakup (which he initiated btw). somehow theres a tiny part of me that wants him to feel regret that he broke up with me haha

[redhead69]

If you came from an ugly break up, i guess closure will make everything even worse.
Closure > I'm sorry i left you a message blah blah> I'm sorry for what I've done > i regret the things I've done > thank you for everything sh*ts > i wish you were my last my forever shits may lead to over-thinking that you should've fought for him/her harder/realizing that you still need him/her / and might bring back the feelings that is already buried.

The only closure you can get if possible is, forgive yourself. Accept the fact that things didn't worked out between you and that guy. And come to think of it. If everything you have between him/her continued. The both of you might lead on hurting each other even more. God gave you this path, this path where it might hurt now but things will get better soon enough. And if you ever forgive him/her for what he/she did, you are in the right way to closure. And when the time comes where you finally meet him/her again, things will be casual. You can talk to him/her with no bitter feelings.

This is what I've experienced. I came to the point on posting my feeling at tumblr on how i still love him and how i wish i fight for him even harder. And it turns out i saw my self praying that if we were destined to each other God will give me a sign. And that sign came where (my ex) he is already making fun of me and talking s*** about what we were before (ex: "f*** what we were before i don't care anymore"). Its like a "Go signal" to back off and forgive him for what he did. Move on and make everything better.

After a few weeks of over thinking i am already at the stage where everything is fine. That if it didn't happen we might end up hurting each other even more. And at our situation, i guess closure is not advisable.

[chamille]

Oo, gusto ko ng closure. Whether ako ang nakipagbreak or not, gusto ko ng closure para masagot ng both parties yun mga questions, makapagpaliwanagan kung kinakailangan, at makapaghiwalay ng maayos.

[krystalB]

Ako din gusto ko talaga ng closure ang hirap ng naka hang lang talaga