Being Independent

[littlekinselle]

I badly need your advise, how to be an independent woman I really don't know how to start kasi it's my first time na hihiwalay sa family ko ng matagal, and ofcourse im a bit nervous nandito lahat ng family ko sa abroad and may natira naman kami relatives sa pinas mga lola and tita ko pero chempre sa province sila nakatira and ayoko naman tumira ng matagal dun.. sa september pa naman uuwi ng pinas para mag school supportado ko sarili ko lahat bahay, school, food and so on..
sabi pa naman ng mama ko mahirap sa pinas humanap ng work pero kasi di ko na talaga gusto dito sa ibang bansa middle east pa naman ang limitado ng galaw haha ni di ko ma enjoy ang pagiging single ko haha. di ko magawa yung mga bagay na gusto ko gawin tapos wala ako friends dito puro. hayyy please sana may mag advise saken kung meron man previous thread na ganito paki delete and bigay n lang yung link
Thank you

[aquacharly]

How to be an independent woman?

By taking good care of yourself and  all your needs.
Sariling  sikap. Maayos ang buhay. Hwag umasa sa iba. 
Stay safe, stay healthy.
Choose the company you keep.  Do not get yourself into troublesome relationships & friendships.
Pray. Be spiritually centered so  you don't lose your way in life.

Enjoy! 
It's more fun in the Philippines, really.

[agape]

^^Do you mean living solo? Like living alone?

As long as you can support yourself financially, it's fine.

You can rent your own space near school,
Make it a secure home also in a safe location as well.
You would probably be doing all housework on your own,
or you could hire a stay-in maid for that,
or have a house chore service every now and then.

For food, you can cook or eat out.
Also just be responsible with whatever decisions you make.
Focus on God, and maybe church and have a ministry.

But you have to have friends and get busy if you want to fight the loneliness or boredom.
So you can join social groups or business clubs depending on your interests and hobbies.
Have real friends you can really count on, in case of emergencies, or for your emotional needs.
Find a job also.

You need to know your fears exactly so you would be able to address each one.
I also plan to live away from family, away from stress, and to be able to save money.

[littlekinselle]

@aquacharly agree mas masaya talaga sa Philippines nothing compares mejo natatakot lang ako kasi chempre in just a few months uuwi na ako at Im living on my own na, ayaw pa nga ako payagan ng papa ko pupunitin daw niya passport ko oh well wala naman sakanya yung passport ko nasaken  I'm 24 na kasi chempre gusto ko naman ma enjoy at the same time matuto maging independent Iknow its not easy at the beginning pero I'm sure kakayanin ko.  Thank u  for advice

@agape, living solo? yes sis but I have relatives  that I can visit every time I want, they're living in the province a few hrs away from manila. Actually I'm going back to school, so my plan is to rent maybe to a ladies dorm, most of my friends are living in manila i'am looking forward to meeting them again and  mejo extrovert ako so  it's not hard for me to make a new firends  Thank u for advice

[may12]

Sis, make sure muna na magkakaroon ka talaga ng work dito.
Hanggang ano natapos mo? KAsi sabi mo mag-school ka din. Hindi ganoon kadali maging full-time employee habang full-time student ka din. Lalo na't ikaw ang gagastos lahat-lahat para sa sarili mo.

I-compute mo na agad lahat ngayon pa lang. Expected salary mo - lahat ng expenses.

Sabi mo may friends ka naman dito. Have you considered sharing condo/apartment/townhouse with them? Or boarding house ang tutuluyan mo? Kasi dapat ngayon pa lang eh clear na lahat about financial para hindi ka masyado magkaka-problema.

I think naman ang bawat tao eh may survival instinct na talaga. Lol. So don't worry about it too much. Enjoy ka lang. 

[littlekinselle]

^graduate naman ako sis ng college, gusto ko lang mag school ulit  pero hindi na 4 yrs course crash course lang para maka- add sa education ko hehe.  Im so ready na maging independent.

[may12]

Sis, kayang kaya mo 'yan!
Good luck sayo... 

Oh, by the way... I'm just wondering... ayaw mo bang mag-apply ng flight attendant sa mga international airlines diyan sa Middle East? Mas madali daw diyan mag-apply, eh.

[littlekinselle]

^ I never try pa pero may nag sabi saken Arab mismo na marunong mag tagalog sabi niya wag na daw madami bastos, altho may nag-sasabi saken itry ko kaso nawawalan me ng gana haha mas feel ko talaga umuwi  saka di ko ata gusto maging FA

[littlekinselle]

^maybe I'll be stay for more than a year huhu di ko masabi sis dipende pag di nag work yung  plan A ko  go for plan B hehe, gusto ko mag apply sa AU gusto ko mag tour dun kasi I'm still dependent visa pa sa papa ko baka may chance na makapa tour muna na dun, next yr na lang siguro mag tour muna ako sa S.Korea by January tapos ayun saka Mag apply na sa AU/Canada san pa pwede hehe. gusto ko lang enjoy talaga kasi dito sa middle east "NO Life" para saken ang hirap wala ako friends di ako makagala ng  gusto ko, saka naisip ko there's no place na safe ka,. tumira na din ako sa manila ng halos 4 months sa may metro dorm ortigas, un nga lang supportado ako financially ng parents ko. hehe