possessive partner

[amethyst028]

 

[chicafabulosa]

For me lang I have seen this kind of relationship from close friends of mine and I must say walang happy ending sa kanila. All of them feel that they don't have freedom to do things that makes them happy without their partner's approval. Over the time, i have seen they are even losing their identity, moral and self esteem. This kind of relationship is for masochist i must say. They say at first wow kilig naman nagseselos sya sa akin. They feel so love and protected but as time goes by, nasasakal na sila. And i dont think its even healthy. One of my friend nga even stop talking to us kasi ayaw ng partner nya na may nakakausap syanh friends nya. Gusto nung guy sya lang ang kasama, nakakagimmickan etc. pwede ba yun? So now if you will ask me if there's a happy ending, my Opinion lang ha, NO HAPPY ENDING TALAGA. unless you love to controlled to the extreme.

[j.adore]

Haven't seen any happy ending for this type of situation.

[kaiz]

been in this kind of relationship, wala talagang happy ending

[may12]

I used to be very possessive... kahit nga magpaalam lang siya na sasama sa reunion ng high school barkadas niya, ayaw ko siya payagan noon.
Tumagal kami ng 2 years...pero away-bati lagi.
Then we broke up and we had other relationships.
Nung nagkabalikan na kami... medyo naka-learn na ako ng lesson at nabawasan na pagiging possessive ko. Isang girl na lang talaga ang pinagbabawalan kong kausapin niya. 

[may12]

^Yes, sis. Nagbago na ako. Hehe.
Insecurities kasi reason ng pagiging possessive ko noon. At sobrang nakakapagod maging insecure. Lagi kang tinu-torture ng imagination mo.

Nung nagkaroon ako ng ibang bf, hindi ako possessive (hindi ko alam kung bakit). So parang na-realize ko na super unfair ako doon sa ex. Narealize ko lahat ng pagkakamali kung nung kami pa.

Nung naghiwalay na kami nung bf #2, nanligaw ulit si #1 at mahal pa naman namin isa't isa so nagkabalikan kami. Minsan iniisip ko talagang pinaghiwalay lang kami dati para may "time-out" muna sa mga away namin at maka-learn kami ng lesson. Hehe.

[nikki09]

From my experience, wala happy ending ang ganyan. Masyado kasing nasasaktan and nasasakal yung isa and minsan (or should I say 'madalas') ang pagiging possessive pa yung root cause for physical, emotional and psychological abuse.

Some people were not just brave enough umalis sa ganyang type of relationship so akala nung iba it works pero ang hindi alam ng lahat yung isa sa kanila dying na inside.

[aquacharly]

IMO, Possessiveness indicates immaturity & insecurity.
But it can be controlled/curbed.
If not, haynako:  expect frequent dramas. Expect masakal ka, bago ka (hopefully) mauntog.