Ako madalas ang gumagastos :(

[imyourangel]

^Normal that you miss him, kumbaga "nasanay" ka na na andiyan palagi yung boy eh. But in the long run, I know you can confidently say, "Good thing I was able to get my hands off that boy!"

[khriseeee]

There was a time when we were dating, a year or so out of college, when hubby-then-BF,was out of work for about 8 months. I felt bad for him that he didn't have money, he could borrow from his dad but of course he would have to pay it back eventually. So I paid for all our dates (he would pay occasionally). It wasn't a big deal for me and I never rubbed it in his face either.

Looking bad he would say he's amazed that I put up with it as a lot of girls wouldn't.

Now that we're married he pays for majority of our "dates" or meals out as a family, though once in a while I'll volunteer to pay parin.

[ysa.belle]

when me and my hubby were on the b.f.-g.f. stage there was a time that i paid for our dates, maybe since ang layo ng sweldo ko sa sweldo niya + he helps his parents and sa akin lang sweldo ko. okay lang naman for me and money was never an issue between the two of us. pag broke ako, hihingi ako sa kanya and pag siya naman ang walang pera, he will tell me.

[simang]

Kahit pa anong sabihin natin, there will always come a time na money will be an issue. Pero sa lahat ng issues, yan ang pinakaayaw kong pinagtatalunan.

[Girltalker2]

^ mahirap nga pag money ang issue.

I think ma-avoid lang na maging issues sya if -

1.  both of you are responsible for your own needs, living within your means, it should never be an issue. 

2. Both of you have the same values sa money

3. Kung maging issue man, dapat open kayo sa pag uusap paano ninyo ihandle yung issue.

 

[candygrenade]

Icebreaker lang, a friend of mine calls this club BAYAG:

Bakit Ako Yata Ang Gumagastos

If symptoms persist, you’re dating a dick...

[j.adore]

Hahahaha omg bentang benta sa akin!

[imyourangel]

^^Oemgee hahaha. B*yagan na yang mga ganyang lalaki!!

[candygrenade]

^ TROO!

Kapon then TAPON!

Paaakkk

[bronze]

Nung previous relationship ko ako yung palaging napapagastos. Ngayon hindi na. Balance na, at more pa nga ang bf ko. mas OK pala makikita mo talaga kung sino ang nag-eeffort at nagmamahal sayo ng tunay.

[khriseeee]

Well depends on the girl's mentality and honestly maturity too. If the girl is earning more than the guy then why not pay? Is it because the girl wants to feel pampered? In the age of female empowerment I find it weird na some girls want to be treated as "equals" and then want to be spoiled and pampered by their men, it just doesn't jive.

I agree, open communication is important and I also recognize the fact na there are some men who are just freeloaders and looking for a free meal. Of course it's up to the women to understand where the relationship is headed and whether the man will be responsible or a freeloader lang.

[kukii]

Icebreaker lang, a friend of mine calls this club BAYAG:

Bakit Ako Yata Ang Gumagastos

If symptoms persist, you’re dating a dick...

HAHAHA! Yung ex ko din ganyan pero naintindihan ko naman kasi student palang siya ako may work na and hindi naman siya ang nanghihingi ako lang nagkukusa tsaka nakikita ko naman ang efforts din niya yung kahit anong meron siya ibibigay niya ng buo tipong kahit maglakad na siya pauwi pero pag ganon shempre I wont allow it kaya I shoshoulder ko nalang yung kinain namin or yung pamasahe ko.

[Eastsider]

im in the same situation right now. Im 18, he's 35.. Im a call center agent tapos siya walang work as of now. dati siya lagi nagastos tapos nung dumating yung season of enrollment napansin ko bumagsak ang ekonomiya sa aming dalawa! haha may 2 daughters kasi siya, yung panganay sa UST pa. Engineering kaya ayun waldas. Iniisip ko na lang since bongga din naman siya manlibre dati, Parang it's my way of giving back na lang. Pero lately napansin ko ang laki na ng nagagastos ko haha kasi medyo maluho mga gala namin. E pinag aaral ko kuya ko sa La salle. Kaya minsan nalulungkot ako pag di kami nagkikita dahil lang dun. Pero nag eeffort naman siya like mag SM kami. Masipag siya mag ikot ganun.. Tapos this week mag aapply na daw siya ulit ng work. Sana po matuloy Lord. hehe

[klariza_yabu001]

This is our stituation now. I really don't mind naman since he's in college palang and I'm working na tho same lang age namin. He stopped kasi when he entered HS dahil sa kaadikan sa computer games.

When we go on dates hati naman kami pero minsan mas malaki gastos ko kasi if may need bilin ako naglalabas ng pera. Ang kaya lang kasi nya food lang namin then the rest ng expenses sakin na except sa pamasahe. Tapos pag may occasions he can't give me gifts tho he gives me chocolates from time to time kasi ayun lang afford nya. I can see all his efforts naman and he always tell me na pag may work na sya ibibili na lahat ng gusto ko tapos kakain kami sa maganda restau and give me flowers. I appreciate naman kahit ganun lang hindi ko din naman sinusumbat sa kanya yung mga ginagastos ko sa kanya kahit anong pag aaway namin. And he says sorry naman palagi pag kinakapos na ko minsan dahil sa dates namin tas ako wala mabili para sa sarili ko kasi may expenses din ako binabayaran para sa family ko. Okay lang naman sakin kahit wala ako naiipon minsan at least masaya kami. Madami naman ako oras para mag ipon once he gets a job na. Programmer sya btw. I love him so much and matagal na din kami kahit papano. And I have trust and faith sa kanya so ayun strong and happy pa din despite being broke hahahaha

[kobrakid]

medyo relate ako here, hehe. engaged palang kami pero from the first day na nag meet kami ako na tlaga gumagastos. ganun kasi ako pag may bagong friend, i treat them. di ko naman alam na tutuloy tuloy na pala relationship  hanggang ngayon, ako pa din. di ko rin alam bakit ko ginagawa iyon, sa totoo lang, okay, medyo tight kasi sa pera ang bf ko. honestly, di ko na alam hahaha kung saan ba ko lulugar. kasi kahit isang beses sa buhay ko, gusto kong ma treat man sana nya ako kahit tusok tusok hahahaa but i still love him

[j.adore]

Kung di niyo pa napagusapan eh simulan mo na. Baka pag kasal na kayo at magkafamily, ikaw pa din sa lahat ng expenses?

[SexyLashei]

Hi sis, same here! always ako ang nagastos.. Ewan ko ba feeling ko mali din ako kase sinasanay ko sila (ex ko) na [textspeak!] nagastos, nahihiya ako magpalibre kahit wala na akong budget nagtitiis ako.. Hayssss

[estelle21]

nung bago kami ng ex ko, maliit lang sweldo. na try pa nya mangutang sakin (di naman natuloy)

di ako na turn off. kahit sa mga karenderya nya lang ako dinadala o dini date ok na ok na ok na yun saken.

pero nung naging ok na sya sa work, super super galante sa akin.

tiwala lang. tignan nyo rin potensyal at sipag. minsan nasa stage pa lang pala ng pag iimpok ng skills yung mga BF nyo.

pero at the same time, wag rin papaabuso.

and to be honest women are hard wired to find men who can provide them food and shelter. yung evolutionary men hard wired to provide.

kaya nga sa movies ugly and old guy but very rich has a sexy and beautiful girl on his side diba?

darating time esp. pag 25-30 na maghahanap na tayo girls ng guy na STABLE. di kilig kilig lang...IMO

[TysLolakins]

noong hindi pa ako nakaka-alis ng country,  my bf (now my husband) would pay for our dates (food+movie).  tapos when i came back after being away for a few years,  we got together and resumed dating.  ako na this time ang gumagastos, kasi may dollar allowance na ako noon monthly and it was pretty substantial.  but not once did he ask money for his own expenses like his pamasahe or pang shopping niya.  i paid for everything incurred during our dates pero never niya ako ginawa na sugar mommy.

[purplegravity]

Kami naman, we decided na alternate kami pag magdadate. Minsan hati. Minsan naman we treat each other.  Sa akin kasi equal na ang babae at lalake. We both have work naman.  Wala naman pinagkaiba ang sweldo ng lalaki at babae. Kawawa naman sila kung palaging sila ang gagastos.

Of course in reality, magiging issue ang pera kaya both of you should be financially stable before getting married.  If anyone of you is supporting your family, you have to both agree up to what amount you will be giving out for your respective family.