When an older person calls you Ate/Kuya

[inluvewithmikewesten]

Hello. Do you know someone who's obviously a lot older than you are and who addresses you Ate/Kuya?
I have this office mate who's 9 years older than me (she did tell us she's almost 40 and I'm 31). She calls me Ate, noong una di ko naman pinapansin pero ngayon parang naiinis na ako.  I wouldn't mind kung di ganoon kalayo age gap namin and if she looks younger than me, but no. Alam ko mababaw lang pero I'm starting to get annoyed na maybe because it makes me feel older hahaha! I think nag start lang ako mainis noong lagi nagkukuwento iyong friend ko which she also calls Ate and this friend is 2 years younger than her. Naiinis daw si friend tawag sa kanya Ate eh siya pinakamatandang girl sa office. Immature ba ako na I feel sensitive about this? And Am I going too far if I tell this person to stop calling me Ate because I'm uncomfortable?

[airish_2]

ang teknik dyan tawagin mo rin syang ate yung parang wala lang ganun kasi ginagawa ko. dati may tumatawag sa aking Madam tapos parang na ka quote pa yung "MADAM" may diin pa kaya ginawa ko tinawag ko rin syang madam kada salita ko may madam, "Eto yung hinihingi mo madam, salamat madam" ayun tumigil sya although wala akong nakikitang masam sa salitang madam ayaw ko lang na may diin, same sayo yung ate try mo 

[inluvewithmikewesten]

Oo nga no? Bakit hindi ko naisip yan hahaha! Sige sis from now I will call her Ate. As much as possible I don't want to address any of my office mates Ate or Kuya kasi mga bata pa naman kami (ahem). And mas professional if first name basis. Pero I will try, thanks!

[sacred cow]

Simple. When someone calls me Ate/Kuya, I call them Inday or Boy para tigilan kaagad nila ako

[saidee]

Simple. When someone calls me Ate/Kuya, I call them Inday or Boy para tigilan kaagad nila ako

haha ma-try nga ito, ayokong ayoko pa naman akong tinatawag na ate, pero ako mahilig tumawag ng ate at kuya sa iba

nakakairita nga tapos alam mong mas matanda pa sila sayo tapos tatawagin kang ate, hmp kapatid ko ngang bunso sabi ko wag akong tawaging ate, sa pangalan ko lang

[snowberry]

^ Hahha Ako din . Actually sa start of employment ko pa lang, I tell my subordinates not to call me Ate, otherwise I'll call them Inday or Dong

They can call me ma'am or first name  basta not Ate 'coz it doesn't sound professional considering nasa corporate set up naman kami

[Bab_z]

^ Hahha Ako din . Actually sa start of employment ko pa lang, I tell my subordinates not to call me Ate, otherwise I'll call them Inday or Dong

Good one Sis.... Like ko to..

[pret_ty68]

Na experience ko na rin ito ginagawa ko tinatawag ko rin nang ate/kuya. Kahit nga mga mas bata sa akin like 1 to 5 years gap ayoko rin na tinatawag nang ate kaya lang ang iba hindi mapagsabihan kaya hinahayaan ko na lang kaya ako as much as possible I refrain from calling someone ate lalo na kung sa tingin ko hindi naman masyadong kalayuan ang age gap namin nagtatawag lang ako nang ate pag narinig ko na maraming tumatawag nun sa kanya.

[ilykeee]

haha naalala ko tuloy yung officemate ko nung bago pa lang sya tinawag nya akong ate, kala nya kasi mas matanda ako kasi matagal na ako sa office, nung inexplain ko sa kanya na mas bata ako, lalo pa akong tinawag na ate, kahit san ako makita, makapang asar lang. Then one time bumigay na lang ako sabi ko "don't talk to me" nagbago naman sya, then di na ako tinawag na ate, hehe. Tawagin mong "mars" sis pag ayaw nya parin tumigil. hehe

[inluvewithmikewesten]

Pag di niya ako tinigilan kakatawag Ate, tatawagin ko siya Manang hahaha!

[rastagurl11]

Argh, I hate being called Ate too whether that person is younger or older. I know it's a form of respect pero my god, they're not my kasambahay and I am not their amo. Just call me by my first name and we'll be fine lalo na if nasa office.

I remember there was one girl who'd address everyone as Ate or kuya, I told her not to call me that, pero she still kept on addressing me as ate and I told her to stop calling me Ate because she is not my sister and she'll never be my sister. Ayun, nanahimik siya.

Maganda yung riposte na "Dong or Inday", tingnan ko lang kung humirit pa sila. hehe.   

[bellaella]

Yeah at my old work also the people there called me Ate although I was the youngest there. At first I was a bit annoyed but then I realized it was just  a form of endearment so I was eventually ok with it

[lisse]

Argh, I hate being called Ate too whether that person is younger or older. I know it's a form of respect pero my god, they're not my kasambahay and I am not their amo. Just call me by my first name and we'll be fine lalo na if nasa office.

I remember there was one girl who'd address everyone as Ate or kuya, I told her not to call me that, pero she still kept on addressing me as ate and I told her to stop calling me Ate because she is not my sister and she'll never be my sister. Ayun, nanahimik siya.

Maganda yung riposte na "Dong or Inday", tingnan ko lang kung humirit pa sila. hehe. 

Haha! May ganito din akong officemate before nung nandyan pa ko satin. Bago lang siya that time pero same age kami. Lahat na lang ate or kuya niya. feeling close? nagpapa-cute? or pa-family effect? ako actually ang nahihiya for her kasi puro CPAs and Lawyers kami sa office tapos bigla may ate-kuya. Sina boss (lawyers) they call their collegues "panyero" since same age sila and well I think its fine. Kami naman porke walang title before the name ang CPA e first name basis. May western collegues din kami so hindi uso "sir" or ma'am. one time tinatwag ako, ate, ate. dedma ako. tapos sabi "ate lisse!" sabi ko ako ba? hindi naman tayo magkapatid ah. officemates tayo. sabay hirit she considers us as her family na daw. may ganon e ni hindi pa nga regular lol! anyway, na-regular din naman siya pero nasabihan ng HR namin to change her pa-baby attitude bec we're all professionals and grown ups there.

[molybdenumstudios]

UMAYGAD! I usually call my kasambahay(s)/yayas as "ate" even though I am older than them. Pero sa OJT, ang youngest 'ata dun sa office, I just call her as is without any salutations. HAHA ((((:

[polar_bear]

ako sanay na ko tinatawag na ate.. kasi kahit sa bahay, ako panganay at sa magpipinsan naman, 3rd ako sa pinakamatanda..

tapos sa ofc naman.. majority eh nasa early 20s.. yung iba naman kc nakikigaya na lang ng tawag... pero nakakairita lang talaga pag alam mong mas matanda syo eh tinatawag kang ate.. papabata ka teh?.. LOL... ako din naman tumatawag ng ate sa mas matanda sakin..  kaso one time, may tinatawag akong ate sa office since lahat kasi ganun tawag sa kanya.. tapos eventually, nalaman ko mas matanda pala ako... heheh.. so i stopped calling her ate na.. first name na lang..

pansin ko lang, mga girls lang naman mahilig tumawag ng ate/kuya eh.. ang mga boys.. hinde masyado.. more on "tol/pare" nalang sila kahit malaki pa agwat sa kanila. 

[GD]

Oo, pero kapag sinasabihan ako ng ganon tinatawag ko sila "Manang o tatang" Haha! Bawal magpatalo sa mga alaskador na mga yan. =))

[inluvewithmikewesten]

pansin ko lang, mga girls lang naman mahilig tumawag ng ate/kuya eh.. ang mga boys.. hinde masyado.. more on "tol/pare" nalang sila kahit malaki pa agwat sa kanila.

Sis true! Mostly naman yong mga pa cute na girl yong ganito hehe. Yong mga guys hindi nga.

[aquacharly]

Lol.
If she calls me Ate, I will call her 'TEH or 'DAY.

[tomatostellar]

tawang tawa naman ako sa "inday" or "dong"
I think may mga ganyang tao talaga, parang "pa-cute" or something to call everyone Ate..kahit hindi bagay.,
I guess it's okay to tell her na name na lang.,
I have a friend a year older than me, who says "po" sa text,,medyo nakakairita ewan ko kung bakit

[inluvewithmikewesten]

Sis iritang irita din ako sa "po". Last week a friend introduced an officemate to me, tapos nung paalis na sila sabi sa akin "bye po". Pabata ang peg! Okay...