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[evhonnie_21]

Ask lang po ng opinion nyo, kung matatanggap nyo po ba na magkaron ng ibang anak ang asawa nyo sa dating nyang GF. pero nung time na nagpakasal kayo hindi nya alam na nabuntis pala nya yung dating GF.

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[mary_gee531]

ouch naman yan sis! naanakan nya ba yung ex nya while he is in a relationship with you or before pa naging kayo?  but in fairness to your hubby, he's not aware na may nabuntis sya so for me he came clean pa rin nung pinakasalan ka nya.  ako siguro given your situation, tatanggapin ko na lang kasi wala nko magagawa dyan andyan na yung bata at hindi naman kasalanan nung bata.  we will talk it over and i would be ok if he wants to support the child. pero siguro i would want to deal with his ex and child myself rather than hubby himself.  mahirap na kasi if hubby will be seeing his ex and their child from time to time eh..i wont be comfortable with that, at saka respeto na lang sakin being his wife di ba?

[imbisibol_]

timing is key.  how old is the child now?  when did you get married?

[aquacharly]

At ano ba yan, ikakasal na kayo eh effing around pa?!

Nang kayo na, tama  ba pagka getz ko --- eh he was 2-timing you??
Pinikot mo ba? Don't get mad -- kasi baket alam na nilang 2 na kayo eh engaged na, eh nag monkey-see monkey-do-it pa silang mag-Ex???

YOU are asking me kung matatanggap ko na while we were prepping our wedding eh silang mag-Ex busy sa pag look sa akin?
Aba OO! matatanggap ko yan, sabay hiwalay.  Umpisa pa lang he cannot commit -- ay, I will save myself the emo torture of it all

[princessrio]

ts, pakikuwento ng buo yung story.

[AngelicFez]

sis kung ako sa yo magpapa-annul na ko.. guguluhin lang ng batang yun ang married life nyo.. child support for life yan 

[prix]

IMO, sa akin matatanggap ko yun kasi hindi naman kasalanan ng bata. Mas mainam pa nga kung sa amin na titira yung baby para kung magkita man si husband at yung ex nya dahil sa suporta eh! sa bahay namin, kahit papaano nakikita ko..

[Girltalker2]

hindi naman sa hindi nya alam na nabuntis nya ang GF nya nung nagpakasal kayo...

ang hindi katanggap tanggap is he is sleeping with his other GF nung nagp plan kayo ng wedding or nung engaged kayo?  hindi ba pagsisinunangaling ang ginawa nya? 

yung pagbuntis ng gf nya dati is just the result of his infidelity.  unless sis, na sila talaga ng GF nya tapos biglang naging kayo at inagaw mo sya sa gf nya at nagtanan/pakasal agad kayo. ibang story yun.

[yang]

teka! napaisip ako ah. sa thread starter, paki bigyan naman kami ng background scenario nito. syempre kasi
usapang ikakasal hindi naman ito nangyayari ng biglaan.. my preps and all.. how old is the child and how long have you guys known each other.
but  just to answer your question. ako i simply cannot.

[Red Rack 21]

i think it's a stalemate on the part of the guy. if his ex-gf kept it as a secret to him and just revealed now...just the same confirmed na naging unfatihful yung guy. if he knew about it all along but lied to the present gf/wife. mas lalong hindi acceptable. kawawa ang present girl ng guy. she's about to start her married life in vain. siguro if i'm the girl and we don't have a child yet i'll definitely leave the guy but if we have a child na.. well, i'll think very very hard because splitting up is a complex process when there is a child involved

[danne]

for me, parang ang hirap tanggapin. kadiri siya. 

[Myealexis21]

What's done is done...it all boils down if gusto ko pa ituloy ang marriage namin after what I've learned.. at kung kaya ko pa sya mahalin after the revelation. If the answer is no...then goodbye! why stay if I can't accept him anymore, magiging miserable lang buhay ko if I stay.

But If yes...then i-accept ko rin yung fact that he has a kid outside our marriage.  And I will accept the child, after all its not the kid's fault.

And I will also do the following:
Consult my lawyer and draft a post-nuptial agreement.  Just to make sure that my properties and earnings prior to the marriage (if pede pa isama sa clause) and during the marriage will not be considered conjugal due to the recent developments of events.  I can cite siguro na kung alam ko ang tungkol sa bata before ako magpakasal nakagawa sana ng prenuptial agreement. but since hindi ko alam, hence the postnuptial agreement.  Para sigurado ako na ang mga pinaghirapan ko ay mapupunta sa mga magiging anak ko. Not being greedy and madamot, but I need to protect my future children's right. 

Consult my lawyer din para sa child support agreement to ensure that the kid will be taken cared of kase responsibility pa rin sya ng asawa ko.  But this is to ensure din na hindi mag-iinarte ang exgf ni hubby to demand more than necessary.

Note: I can't say for sure if kaya ko iaccept or not, kapag nasa sitwasyon ka na kase everything changes kaya pareho kong diniscuss ang pede kong gawin in both scenario (staying or leaving)

[pinktee]

to TS, depende yan sis eh. ilang taon na ang bata?  kung matagal ng nangyari yan sa kanila at wala pa ko sa eksena nung mga panahon na yun siguro matatanggap ko pa. pero kung baby pa yung bata or buntis palang ang ex gf.. aba ibang usapan na yun.. means to say na nag two time talaga sya.. pwedeng maging ground yan para maging void ang kasal.. eeskapo na ko bago pa mahuli ang lahat.. remember wag pairalin ang lahat sa awa.. nagawa nga nyang manloko nuon eh, di naman yan agad agad mababago..  magiging sakit sa ulo at sa puso lang yang husband na ganyan pagtagal kung sakali.