For introverts!!

[saltandpepper001]

I am confused. ang introvert ba gustong gustong gusto maki halubilo sa mga tao pero nahihiya lang O ayaw talaga nila ng maraming friends?

[schizo_me]

eto yung link sa old thread http://www.femalenetwork.com/girltalk/index.php/topic,236300.560.html

nice read
Accepting Yourself as an Introvert and Loving Your Inner Tortoise http://tinybuddha.com/blog/accepting-yourself-as-as-introvert-and-loving-your-inner-tortoise

[05149S2]

Everything you guys mentioned in this thread, I also feel/do it.

Here's my list:

- I can do almost anything alone and never will I have a problem with it. I can eat alone in restos, fastfood, malling and even watch a movie in the cinema. To be honest, I feel better when I'm alone. Feeling ko kapag may kasama, napapagod ako i-entertain because I have to talk. I have to think. I have to socialize. Favorite past time ko shopping/window shopping on my own.

- It's true what the other member mentioned in this thread too, I hate dealing with people with mababaw intellect. I'm sorry, pero I can't stand kanto talk or kung puro chismis lang. I can sense fake people too like the others here.

- In school, I was a loner. I have a few friends pero we have different courses so this was a problem. I had a difficult time during group works kasi those people do not understand where I'm coming from. Sometimes, iniiwasan ko umattend nang group meetings if we're doing it after school hours or in my classmate's condo. I know it should be a responsibility of mine to do these things but the truth is, I'm scared of mingling with them. If during school hours or after class, that I can manage. I know, ang weird.

- I prefer to stay at home, read books or surf the internet. If I'm going out, it's usually with family where I won't be judged. It's a safe zone for me kasi I can be silent without them judging me.

- Most people think I'm suplada. Or that ang maldita ko sa kanila. The truth is, I'm really, really, really having a difficult time expressing myself. I cannot emphasize this even more. I keep mum most of the time and they would take it the other way. If I try to explain myself, I'm pretty sure I'll screw it up anyway because attempting to share what I am way is too exhausting for my part. Every time I talk, feeling ko talaga yung energy level ko pababa ng pababa.

- In yoga, I don't talk to my instructors. Sometimes, I really need a refresher on some poses but instead of going straight to the pros, I would Google my dilemma instead.

- I don't use Facebook. I can't delete it right now kasi sayang, it's the only contact I have of my college classmates/blockmates pero it's good as gone now. I was forced to keep it during school kasi most profs would send lectures in the class Facebook group. Ughh.

- I don't party. I don't like the idea of partying at all. In college, there were many temptations but as an introvert plus loner, it's easy to brush these away.

- Hence, no love life. I mean, who wants to date a sad, boring introvert?

It gets lonely at times, especially when I was in college. Imagine living in a dorm room alone (kasi I don't like sharing din) near the university where you can practically hear people after school hours talking to friends, having fun or eating out in nearby restos. I never had that. My friends were all too busy. I usually drop by a restaurant after class, buy takeout and bring it over to my room. My company? My laptop and some movies.

[saltandpepper001]

Di ko alam kung introvert ako o may social anxiety ako. Gustong gusto kong magkaroon ng maraming kaibigan. Yung tipong lagi mong hawak cp mo kasi lagi kang may katext, lagi kang may kachikahan, cp ko lagi lang nasa mesa, fb ko may notif man pero mga game request . Naiinggit ako sa mga may kausap sa fb, maraming likes at mga comments sa pics nila. Babaw ko. Pero dun mo kasi malalaman na masaya yung social life nila. Sakin boring. May kaibigan man pero di yung lagi mong nakakasama o nakakausap. Minsan paparamdam lang pag uutang o papasama. Kaya di ko narin sila masyadong pinagkakausap, umiiwas na ko. Housewife ako, pero di ko talaga gusto maging housewife. Laging nasa labas yung isip ko. Gusto ko magwork kasi sobrang nakakabagot yung nasa bahay lang, at magalaga ng anak buong araw. Tas araw araw ganon at ganon parin gagawin mo. Kaso di ko nga kayang makihalubilo sa mga tao. Gusto ko talaga maging extrovert. Promise.

[oshiawase]

Everything you guys mentioned in this thread, I also feel/do it.

Hi, we have several commonalities.

I am currently in school too. I do have a "big barkada" but I only have few really really close friends. I think there's nothing wrong in that. I've always been "quality" over "quantity". Why don't you join workshops or cooking lessons or any outdoor classes/activities where you can meet other people? Or reunite with friends one at a time..Don't be too hasty about it. Drop a message or two with one good friend you have.

like you, after a day's work, I'd usually order take out and eat meals at my place, alone, when some of my friends would go have a quick bite somewhere. It's not that I do not want to join them but it's because of our schedule. But as much as possible, I join them and it's always fun.

You just have to try.

I also like widow shopping alone (it's the best!) but shopping with someone, i realized, isn't so bad. It really depends on who you are with.

[Perfume_Lover]

I am introvert too

First - honestly I love to mingle and I love talking to many people with same interests. Super love ko pa nga ang party and disco (haha ang luma) siguro this is my wild side of me. Narealize kong madalas akong magsolo kesa nasa mga kaibigan (fake and true friends). Minsan friendly ako minsan hindi.

Second - I honestly don't like being introvert. I felt different and isolated. Siguro kaya ganun ako (read above my post) dahil frustration ko na mabago ako. Malungkot kasi being an introvert. Aminin natin!

Akala ng mga tao suplada ako pero pag naging close ako, ako pa yung comedian tapos ako pa yung medyo may martir attitude - apihin mo ako I'll just sit and cry.

Nung bata ako super dami kong kaibigan lahat ng kanto may barkada ako ganun din sa school namin pero nung nag college na ako dun nag start yung pagiging introvert ko. One time yung professor namin nag bigay ng evaluation about introvert and extrovert I realized na introvert na pala ako base sa test ko and evalutation ng prof ko. Sad but it's okay. This is me siguro.

[05149S2]

@oshiawase - I go out with a few friends in college. In fact, we would work around our class schedules to have lunch all together which is super fun. Then a few gala here and there. Pero I don't want to initiate the "gala". I'm the type of person who refuses to bother anyone, scared that I'll might annoy them. Or worse, ayoko yung feeling na ma-turn down kasi So I go out with my younger sister, which is equally fun, as I get to watch movies and do little shopping with a company naman if other friends are not available

It's so true that we just have to try. I guess half of this is nature and the other half I blame my passive self for sitting there and doing nothing. Funny lang din, I'm so good where I'm at that I don't need anything more Pero introverts should work on this, stepping out of the comfort zone and reaching out to the society not because we have something to prove but because we are productive people too with thoughts, ideas and passion.

@Perfume_Lover - True, introverts are practically isolated. We confine ourselves around walls we built because this is where comfort and relief are. Same here, I have many friends in high school, but had a difficult time forging ties in college. We do have our wild, madaldal side as well! We have our kalog side. We do have a fun, interesting sides too. But that depends on how we unleash those personas and more importantly, to whom do we show it too.

[jepoy22]

It's tough to initiate a conversation with people other than those i regularly talk to. (kulang lang ata ako ng socialization skills).
However, i'm not shy at all if it's text chat. before, i frequent in mIRC just to chat with people.
I prefer to listen than talk.
I also prefer to be in small groups, thus, i dont like to be in parties, etc.

Although Sometimes, i feel lonely and leftout when people in the office talk about stuff and they dont include you in their conversations.

[fn_kaizen]

Introvert din ako. I tried chat sites pero natatameme ako. I am not comfortable whenever people asks me stuff. In turn, ayoko rin magtanong. Parang nakakailang. Pero kapag around people I know well naman, okay naman ako.

[jepoy22]

Introvert din ako. I tried chat sites pero natatameme ako. I am not comfortable whenever people asks me stuff. In turn, ayoko rin magtanong. Parang nakakailang. Pero kapag around people I know well naman, okay naman ako.

kaizen = improvement, uso sa office namin yan
 
Parang mahirap naman ata na you don't want to talk to anybody. i don't want to be rude, but i believe we need good communication skills in order to be successful in whatever we do, and is most applicable for work...that unless you have excellent skills that people will have to approach you for stuff.
Usually, i have a hard time explaining stuff at work using words,, i usually need to use materials (source code/demo the application) in order for my groupmates to understand me.

[Project60]

sis jepoy22 are you from anz? hehe wala lang uso din kasi dun ang kaizen

[jepoy22]

sis jepoy22 are you from anz? hehe wala lang uso din kasi dun ang kaizen

not a sis, and i have no idea what's anz. hehe.
i think kaizen is normal for most japanese companies, especial in the manufacturing/IT industry. i'm in an IT firm in ortigas

[shadow_man]

im an indenial introvert but every time i take the test i says that i am, well i think i am, its not that i dont know how to socialize but i prefer to stay alone and enjoy tranquil moments.

but we should not feel as if we are not the social creatures, we how to if we want to, after all we are deep thinkers....

[hushkirby]

@05149S2 Wow, that's exactly how I am.

I actually get tired of trying to socialize. Parang, being alone gives me a sense of relief.

I want to have more friends though. I wish I can meet some new friends here

[grace.kelly]

Introvert here pero tulad rin ng marami, gusto ko maging extrovert. Kinulang din ata ako sa socialization skills or may anxiety hehe pero I'm going out of my comfort zone na. May pagkaextrovert na rin ako. I like the idea of maarmi talagang friends, at friendly talaga ako and madaling makipag-friends but say yung doing things with others, medyo di ko trip. Minsan madaldal din ako minsan naman hindi. I guess it depends kung komportable ako sa kasama ko.

Tama kasi yung nabasa ako about introverts na emotionally and physically draining for introverts kapag madaming tao. Ganun kasi ako, kapag small groups okay pa ako pero kapag marami nang tao madali ako mapagod at di ko talaga feel.

One of the reasons rin kaya gusto ko maging extrovert dahil sa kapatid ko na extrovert. Mga tao kasi hindi naiintindihan ang mga introverts, parang it's wrong to be an introvert. Yung kapatid ko na extrovert saka mga tita ko lagi ako pinapagalitan dahil di ako naglalalabas with friends, bakit daw kaunti lang friends ko. Parang napapagod na ako na laging naririnig to sa mga tao kaya gusto ko talaga maging extrovert.

[gorgeous_me]

^same here sis

nagtry akong maging extorvert dati, lol
bumalik pa din ako sa pagiging introvert, haha

minsan comfy lang talaga ako na naglilibot mag-isa, lalo na kapag sa mall, mas nakakapili ako kapag ako lang.

tapos kapag lalabas, yung isang friend ko lang ang niyaya ko, butinga pumapayag, lol
kasi kasundo ko talaga siya, comapare sa mga barkada ko nung HS at college.
yung friend ko na yun,nameet ko lang sa GT at nakasama ko sa travel, gang ngayon kausap ko pa din

kapag maraming tao, feeling ko kasi ma-OP ako, LOL

kinulang nga din ako sa pakikipag-socialize, hehe

[GreenArcher]

sobrang mahiyain ako dati i can't even be alone with a girl nung start ng highschool. I tried going out with friends to build and learn then pagdating ng 4th year sinabi ko lang sa sarili ko na maging confident kahit na shy pa din minsan kasi mas malaki mawawala pag wala ka ginawa kaysa may ginawa ka kahit na reject at least nagtry. So sa senior prom I had the courage to ask a girl to be my date kahit na hindi ko talaga kaya was super nervous buti nag yes siya haha sometimes nahihirapan ako kasi siguro introvert talaga ako haha

[imprincessfiona]

same here mga sis.introvert din ako.hirap ako mag-start ng conversation with someone i just met.nakikiramdam ba if that person is fake or not.i have few real friends.saka ang problem ko talaga with myself is im not good with words.pag nagsalita ako madalas i cannot be understood.kumbaga nasa isip mo na yung sasabihin mo and yet i cannot really put it in words.hay medyo mahirap din maging intro kasi madalas napagkakamalan kang suplada e ang totoo tahimik ka lang naman talaga saka with real friend i can be myself daldalera din ako.

[ikaela]

Fellow introvert here who is so so so very drained by all the holiday hoopla. I am happy to see all my family and friends, but I am in dire need of recharging alone time.

A big part of my energy is already used up by taking care of my daughter. Now that we're visiting family, I have to care for ailing relatives too.

All the gossiping that friends and acquaintances like to do at parties is complete nonsense to me. Nakakabobo all the talk about other people's lives!

I cannot take any more of this noise, these crowds, the traffic, and the never-ending bombardment of buy buy buy.

I cannot live in my hometown anymore. Everyone and everything is just so noisy -- people talk at the top of their voices, tiangges have encroached every empty space, and the development (if you can call it that) is so disorderly.

I could probably deal with this longer if I could get away even for one day. Anyone else just want the holidays to be over?

[maria helga]

Nag-take na ba kayo nung Myers-Briggs Personality test?

INFP nakuha ko dun...nakaka-amaze kasi sobrang sakto yung description. Take nyo din!

Masaya naman maging introvert kaya lang minsan prone sa judgment. Akala mahiyain lagi tsaka socially-awkward eh ang totoo naman eh mas preferred lang talaga natin ang konting tao kesa marami. Nakadrain kaya pag sobrang daming tao. Pakiramdam ko nauubusan ako ng dugo.