wedding jitters

[babygirl00]

hello wifeys!! few months to go nalang and i'm getting married. nabaliw ako bigla ang dami ko naiisip habang papalapit na yung wedding namin. actually as time goes by mejo nawala excitement ko sa wedding preparations kasi puro yung buhay namin after the wedding naiisip ko. hayst. dami ko what ifs...

what if bigla niya marealize na nagkamali siya ng pagpili sakin?

what if hindi niya kayanin pagiging brat ko?

what if maumay siya sakin?

what if hindi ko pa pala kaya mahiwalay sa family ko?

what if hindi magwork?

although i'm so grateful that i'm soon marrying the man of my dreams at secured ako sa feelings niya and all.  i still have these what ifssssssssss... kayo wifeys... how did you handle wedding jitters?

[k_heart]

^Take it one day at a time and pray. Just enjoy the wedding preps and be the best wife that you can be.

[det060403]

i have the same dilemma... nag lie low muna ko sa wedding preps kasi overwhelming... naiisip ko naman ngayon yung life after the wedding itself. Kung papano kami mabubuhay, kung kaya ba namin ng kami lang, kung kaya ba namin mameet yung expectations ng families namin, what if he loses his job, what if ganito, what if ganyan... Sabi niya, God will provide and we'll be fine. Yun na lang muna talaga pinanghahawakan ko ngayon. Ugh! It scares me like H!  Oh man! Bahala na muna. Pinagpapray ko na lang na little by little we'll get by.

[k_heart]

Ilan taon ba kayo mga sis? Nung nagpakasal kasi kami ng hubby ko, i'm just too happy.
No jitters, Ang inaalala ko lang ay baka magka pimple ako on our wedding day and happily,wala naman.
I really enjoyed the journey sa wedding day. Still happily married to my hubby and with 3 kids already
sobra kasi kaming sure sa pagpapakasal kaya no room for worries or doubts maliban sa pimple
and looking forward sa being together.

[det060403]

^nyahaha natawa naman ako sa pimple! hindi ko naisip yun ah! LOL!
im 27.. old enough, i guess. maybe i just worry too much. and kasi i dont have a job, kakaresign ko lang sa work. LOL!

[k_heart]

Ha!ha!ha! I think you are old enough sis. Mga ganyang age din ako nagpakasal. Super busy din
ako sa work at that time. Then, no wedding coordinator. DIY wedding with the help of my mom
and sis. Nag leave alng ako sa work, ng 2 days before the wedding.
And yes, i really just want to be extra beautiful on that day and. pimple will ruin it, yan ang sabi
ng head ko ng paulet ulet. No fiasco on wedding day! Just happy and contented! : )

[det060403]

^Me, i have all the time i can get to prepare kasi nga walang work LOL! Kaya siguro napapaisip ako kung aanong buhay namin after the wedding! haha

[strawberrypep]

Sis, better relax relax ka muna hehe. Natural lang yung mga questions kasi kahit ako i had those kinds of questions too before i got married. Bka kakastress mo nyan sis eh, mgbreakdown ka! I suggest sbhin mo kay soon to be hubby mo about your concerns para alam nya and both of you can think of solutions.

[aarushived]

Thanks and nice that you are going to get marry soon.

[marose17]

Relax and pray.

Regarding sa pagiging bratty, I can somehow relate.  Before I got married, I was really spoiled and bratty.  I was an only child and ako ang nasusunod sa bahay namin.  But somehow, I learned to curb my brattinella tendencies.  Natuto ako mag-chores - dati ang alam ko lang eh magluto so kahit paano trump card ko iyon dahil totoo na maraming beauty points if hubby likes the dishes that you cook.  Natuto rin akong maglinis etc.  Pero plantsa at pamamalengke, fail ako.  Oh well, my hubby did not marry me for my domestic qualities.  Mas magaling siya sa akin sa chores (laking province kasi si hubby at bunso kaya nautusan ng lahat).  Noong una, wala kaming maid.  But when the children came, inevitable na kumuha ng helpers.

Enjoy your wedding preparations, ang saya niyan.

[det060403]

strawberrypep I do talk about it with my soon-to-be, and he always gives me reassurance that we will get by. Kelangan ko lang siguro talagang ayusin ang pagiging pessimistic ko LOL ...and yep, I should take it one step at a time... Thanks girls!! 

[IAMkrish]

hello girls, ang layo pa ng wedding namin pero parang masaya ako na hindi ko maintidihan, kinakabahan na natatakot. hindi ko alam kung ready na ba ko emotionally ready na ba kami financially. 3 months pa lang nung mag propose si bf saken and sa family ko, in reality meron naman daw talaga ganito. long engagement kami ni bf almost 2 years preparation kasi sabi ng family ko masyado daw mabilis par mag pakasal kami agad, 24 pa lang ako 25 si bf sabi namin wala naman sa bilis o tagal ng relationship yon, nasa 'this is it feeling' yon, okay naman ang 2 years namin masaya pero syempre hindi naman lagi masaya yan may konting tampuhan. wala nga ako masabi sakanya kasi napaka haba ng patience nya saken, baby ako sa family baby din nya ko. nakakatakot lang 'what if' mag bago sya pag mag asawa na kami, what if ganto ganyan. what if ma realize ko hindi pa pala ko tapos sa buhay dalaga ko, what if madami pa pala ko gusto gawin pero nandon na yung this is it feeling ko na sya na gusto ko maka sama. ideal age namin ito na magpa kasal even before magka kilala kami. haaay!

[popi]

Sis, jittery bride din ako. Hehe.

Broken family kasi kami, pati mga tito/tita palpak din mga marriage kaya takot ako talaga sa kasal.  Nung nakilala ko lang family ni hubby saka ako na-immerse sa kabilang side ng mundo na happy and whole ang mga family.

Pero shempre nung malapit na ang wedding, bumalik na naman mga fears and doubts.  Isa sa mga ginawa ko (aside from praying for it, shempre), yung napili ko na song for bridal march, pinapatugtog ko every night hanggang makatulog ako.  Naging lullaby ko na sya.

Kaya nung time na to walk down the aisle, kahit sobrang nerbyos ako, nung narinig ko na yung bridal march, nakalma ako.  Lalo nung nakita ko si hubby sa altar na abot tenga ang ngiti 

[IAMkrish]

sis popi grabe kinilabutan ako sa kwento mo. pareho tayo sis broken family din ako, isa din yan sa mga factor na kinakatakutan ko, parang mejo pareho tayo ng kwento kasi happy family din si h2b. minsan naiintindihan nya kung bakit ako nag a-attitude kasi alam nya na may kulang saken habang lumalaki. nakaka inspire ang story mo sis 

[popi]

^thanks sis.  Lakasan lang ng loob yan 

Pwede naman natin baguhin ang destiny natin e.  Pray lang saka shempre kelangan lagi i-nurture yung relationship with our husband 

[j.adore]

Wala pa naman akong nafifeel na jitters whatsoever pero it might help if you have Q&A sessions with your fiance Bonding session at date na rin yun. Try to Google "questions to ask before getting married" ang daming bagay na pwedeng malinaw sa inyong couple.

[SirChief]

hello wifeys!! few months to go nalang and i'm getting married. nabaliw ako bigla ang dami ko naiisip habang papalapit na yung wedding namin. actually as time goes by mejo nawala excitement ko sa wedding preparations kasi puro yung buhay namin after the wedding naiisip ko. hayst. dami ko what ifs...

what if bigla niya marealize na nagkamali siya ng pagpili sakin?

what if hindi niya kayanin pagiging brat ko?

what if maumay siya sakin?

what if hindi ko pa pala kaya mahiwalay sa family ko?

what if hindi magwork?

although i'm so grateful that i'm soon marrying the man of my dreams at secured ako sa feelings niya and all.  i still have these what ifssssssssss... kayo wifeys... how did you handle wedding jitters?

di na naka respond ang original poster.. if i were you i'd cancel the wedding and give it a thought...

[mrsmarilopez]

I think that's normal. Sana bago ikasal, magkaron muna kayo ng super heart-to-heart moment ng fiance mo. Para mapagusapan. Di biro ang ikasal. Grabe ang lifetime commitment kaya dapat pinaghahandaan nyo talaga yan... Good luck! Just talk to you soon-to-be husband and be honest with everything.

[grace0619]

I felt the same way when I was just engaged to my fiance (now my husband)... Talk about all your worries so he'll know. Hope this story has a happy ending!

[aquacharly]

Relax. Breathe. 

Life comes with no guarantees --  hence, the thrills.

Nobody can control all outcomes, but you can minimize your risk.
The way to go about that is to:
            Keep on growing as a a self-defining person;
            Keep on improving yourself, becoming a better person each day.
            Keep on loving, but be mindful you do not lose yourself.