HUBBY chose my inlaws over me...

[switblububbles]

Hi sisses!

Hubby and I are staying with my inlaws. Twice na kame ngkabangga ng MIL ko...I realized we will never get along...

The second time dahil dinala nila si baby sa hotel without informing me...The next day umalis kame ni baby sa bahay.

I told hubby we cannot get along so we find apartment for rent...Minadali ko sya na maghanap dahil nahhirapan rin ako magstay sa house ng sis ko dahil masikip...

Nung nakakita na kame ngdownpayment na kame...the day na dapat lilipat kame hubby told me he chose his family over me...he can't leave their house and be with me...

I feel like the whole world is against me...im taking care of our baby alone and he doesnt want to talk to me...He just said he wants us separated and his decision is final.

Im super hurt, depressed and problematic...I can't imagine my baby having a broken family...

[imbisibol_]

there's probably a lot more back story we haven't read.  a man cannot abandon his family (wife and child) just like that. 

[babyboo.0326]

are you legally married, sis? what's your whole story like since you were starting to date pa lang and others... sis imbisibol_ is right, there might be a back story behind all these. that was just so easy for a  man to do 

[switblububbles]

We are legally married and very happy with our child before this incident happen that his mom and I argue.

Even our friends are wondering how can he did that...But I guess he really can't leave his family. I noticed that even from the start. She follows everything her mom says.

[bhey0624]

switblububbles, hugs hugs and hugs. i'm out of words here. but will pray that your hubby will soon realise what he did. be strong sis, baby K needs you more.

[switblububbles]

^thanks sis...I am praying also that he realized what is the right thing to do...I feel that this is the toughest trial God has given me...When you lose someone you needed the most...

[theshopaholicprincess]

oh my... i feel for you sis. I know how hard it is to think na wala ka kasama with your baby. I might agree with our other sisses why it ended up na ganun ganun lang nya kayo iniwan.. grabe naman hubby mo, he should know na once nag asawa na sya kayo na dapat priority nya.

I wish your hubby will come into senses.

[May24]

oh my God... what kind of a man is your husband sis...
Wala ba syang syang balls to stand up for his own family?
Given na yun hindi nya pedeng give-up parents nya... sana hindi muna pala sya nag asawa

[switblububbles]

^Sinabi ko na rin sa kanya yan sis na sana nung una palang sinabi nya sakin na di pala sya makakaalis dun sa kanila...All the comfort and luxury is there...

[mslcgrey]

^ sis, i really hope na maayos nyo ito. baka naman ipinayo sa kanya na wag kayong samahan ng baby mo para umuwi ka rin sa house ng in-laws mo. hindi na ba talaga maayos yung pagtatalo nyo ng mom nya? kasi di ba if hihiwalay kayo, mas okay if you will do that because of the right reasons and not because nag-away kayo.

you said dinala nila si baby sa hotel without you knowing. overnight ba iyon? i know naman na gusto mo you will be consulted about anything regarding your baby. siguro hindi sila ganun ka-aware na it will be a big deal sa iyo. kasi apo naman nila si baby and siguro naman hindi nila pababayaan si baby.

don't give up yet on your marriage. mas okay sana if siya ang susuyo sa iyo. but wala naman namamatay kapag nagbaba ng pride. of course ha, may limit din ang pagbaba ng pride. sabi mo nga parang ito naman ang first major problem nyo. ayusin nyo muna.

[switblububbles]

^thanks sis!

Naku sis hindi nako babalik dun...i tried to go there pero binastos nako ni MIL at SIL. So no chances talaga dun.

Hindi overnyt pero naintindihan ko yung point mo yun nga ang mali ko kaya naging big deal pero naging malaki talaga yung gulo.

Im not giving up sis...pero wala ako magagawa if si hubby ang sumuko eh...I want to talk to him pero parang ayaw nya pa. Wag daw muna ngayon im giving him time....

[babyboo.0326]

i feel bad for you and lalo for your kid, sis 

but i guess kasi kaya naging ganun dahil he was sheltered. sabi mo kasi all the luxuries andun. baka he does not want to let go of that, and alaga talaga siya ng mom niya. kaya he grew up like that. sad lang kasi he cannot stand up for his own family na now, which is you and your kid.

best you can do muna for now is be strong, kailangan ka ng baby mo. and live your own life muna, kahit wala siya, kasi mas importante the kid.

frankly, if my boys (i have 2 boys na) would have a father pero he's like that? i'd rather be on my own instead of teaching my boys to be dependent sa ibang tao, lalo sa family niya. i'd want my children to have the right values of raising a family.

[may12]

Bigla akong napa "What the--" nang mabasa ko 'to. Grabe naman! 
I'm not sure if you're both Christians sis, pero di ba may verse sa bible na ang lalaki, kapag nagpakasal siya, dapat talaga na bubukod na siya ng tirahan. Hindi na siya dapat titira sa bahay ng mga parents niya.

Siguro maiiintindihan pa kung talaga kapos kayo sa budget at hindi niyo pa talaga kayang bumukod. Pero kung ganyang kaya niyo naman, eh dapat mas piliin niyang sumama sa inyo.

Sorry sis, ha. Siguro mahal mo pa ang husband mo, pero ito lang ang masasabi ko sa kanya... He has no balls!

Kahit pa sabihin nating malaki ang nagawa mo noon. Eh bakit pa kayo nagpakasal, di ba? Hindi mo naman siguro siya tinutukan ng baril para lang pakasalan ka.

Ikaw at ang baby niyo na ang dapat niyang priority. Kayo na ang new family niya. Kung di niya kayang tumayo bilang haligi ng tahanan niyo, then he's not a man.

[mrsB]

Sis, if I may ask... ilang taon na ang husband mo? At gaano katagal na kayong kasal?

[switblububbles]

I never thought he could be this dependent to his family...to his mom...to his luxury...that he can abandon us...

Upto now I cant believe he did this...

1 year married palang kame...hubby is 29yo. we both have work and i know kakayanin naman namin kung gugustuhin nya.

Ansakit nung sinabi nya sakin hanggang ngayon di ko makalimutan yung phrase na...he chose his family over me...

[switblububbles]

It's so hard mga sis...taking care of my baby alone...my sis is helping me pero iba pag father talagang maoobliga mo sa pagalaga.
Tapos aalis pa yung kinuha kong yaya...
Everything that is happening now is against me...

[bhey0624]

^ouch naman un sis buti di mo sinabihan ng "then you don't have balls!"
naku nag-init ang ulo ko ha! aasa-asawa di naman pala kayang to live on his own!
but let's continue to pray that he'll soon realise that you and baby K should be his priority now.
hugs sis! stay strong!

[switblububbles]

Yah sis...thanks...i wont stop praying...

I really want to burst in tears whenever i hear or read someone commenting me na kawawa naman si baby...I hate myself...This is not the life I promised to her...

[May24]

Be strong sis... Make your hubby realize his loss. Dapat man lang naging in between sya sa away nyo in-laws mo. Prove to him that you can survive without him. In fact, how can he raise a child if he is a child himself... isip bata!

[bhey0624]

@switblububbles, i don't think your baby is kawawa because she has you and i'm sure you'll raise her to be independent, have life on her own when the right time comes. ang kawawa ang father nya kasi ang tanda na pero nakadepende pa rin sa magulang!