Out of curiosity, would you settle to be the other woman?

[candygrenade]

Only if the other woman is his mother

[alexmack]

Of course not! Walang forever dyan eh!

[cosmochick]

Even if I love the guy, I can't and I won't. To be honest,  I love myself too much to inflict hurt on myself.

If he really loves me, pa annul sya.  I cannot share my man.
But it's a different story if he has small kids pa. I don't give a damn about his wife but I don't have the heart to hurt innocent kids.

[kvandenhaak]

LOL...Just last weekend. Merong dramang nangyari sa bldg namin. A Filipino couple with a young child moved in a couple of weeks ago. I don't know them and I never talked to them until that incident. Around 6am, umuwi si wife from a night shift. Nadatnan nya there's a girl in their bedroom. Nakakaloka! I feel so sorry for the wife. I had took her to my room to calm her down. Iyak sya ng iyak.

With that saying. I have no words to describe ang kakapalan ng kabit. Hindi ko kaya maging kabet.

[Ma.Jewel_1987]

Never, respeto na lang sa sarili at hindi masaya na lagi kang may kaagaw.
I also believe in karma, based on by officemate's life being a kabit, sobrang doble dobleng kamalasan ngyayari sa buhay nya at sa family nya.

[izabelle]

Never. And I'm not saying this dahil hindi ko pa naexperience. Talagang hindi ko maexperience kasi hindi ko gugustuhin.

Just the mere thought na meron bata na pwedeng mawalan ng maayos na pamilya, meron babae na maagrabyado dahil sa kalandian ko at meron isang pamilya na masisira, hindi ko keri.

Takot din ako sa karma. What goes around, comes around.  No justification ever for being a kabit. Ako na righteous pero nakakadiri talaga yung pagkatao nila. 

[tischarmedlife]

Never. Kahit pa siguro gaano ko ka-mahal yung tao, no way. In the first place, I would not let myself be involved with someone who's already married. 

[Girltalker2]

LOL...Just last weekend. Merong dramang nangyari sa bldg namin. A Filipino couple with a young child moved in a couple of weeks ago. I don't know them and I never talked to them until that incident. Around 6am, umuwi si wife from a night shift. Nadatnan nya there's a girl in their bedroom. Nakakaloka! I feel so sorry for the wife. I had took her to my room to calm her down. Iyak sya ng iyak.

With that saying. I have no words to describe ang kakapalan ng kabit. Hindi ko kaya maging kabet.

Grabe naman! Their child was also in the house? And the kabit- pinay din?

[kvandenhaak]

^Fortunately, the child was with the lola. Otherwise, he will be arrested and charged right there and then. It's against the child protection law. I assume Pinay din si girl. Kilala kasi ni misis eh. Before we left, tinatanong ni misis kung sya daw yung nagtatrabaho sa mall. Gusto makita ni misis to confirm pero pinipigilan nya mabuksan ni misis yung pinto. Nakakaloka talaga. Never pa ako naka-witness ng ganon. I wish I captured in on Facebook live...hahahaha!

[hisana]

Kawawa naman, how traumatic.

Ayoko maging other woman. Iniisip ko kasi, wala na ba akong makuhang ibang lalaki kaya ako pumasok sa ganitong setup? Sya na ba ang nag-iisang lalaki sa mundo? Sya ba yung hinahanap kong perfect guy for me, bahala na na may asawa na sya? (although sa akin lang ha, by default, any guy who is a cheater is not perfect for ANYONE) Also, I know yung iba namang kabit, they do it for the thrill, or out of boredom, etc. Pero hindi kasi ako ganun. I don't think the stress is worth the "excitement" or "fantasy" or kung ano mang high ang nakukuha nila sa ganito.

[ohmygorjosh]

Mga sis, would you settle to be the other woman? Let's say you really love this guy, he is spending most of his time sayo. He shows so much effort just to make you happy but at the end of the day meron siyang iba like girlfriend or worse asawa? What would you do in this kind of situation?

Definitely not! Put yourself on the wife/gf's position. How would you feel? Madami naman single dyan. Why settle to be just the other woman?

[The Lioness]

12 years ago, I had a relationship with a married man. I was 20, he was 32. He was just perfect, everything I was looking for in a man. We're one year into the relationship when I found out he was married. I was furious, but I couldn't help myself. Eventually, we parted ways. I changed everything. Lahat ng contacts ko na alam nya pinalitan ko, or hindi ko na ginamit. 5 years later, I saw an email from him. He was looking for me pala all those while. Nagkita kami to catch up. The world shattered when I saw him again. He looked miserable, unhappy. He told me he was never happy with his life, his married life specifically. But the wife is just so nice and good to him he had to keep her. So nagtrabaho sya sa barko (he's a mechanical engineer), and twice lang sya umuuwi sa pinas, 2 weeks per vacation. He said he's rather be alone than show people what he really feels.

Past forward to last year, before I got pregnant. He wanted to see me. But I chose not to. Sa fb lang kami nag uusap. Wala pa rin syang anak til now. I always ask him why, he wouldnt answer. Naawa ako sa kanya because I think he'll be the perfect dad given the best circumstances.

I told him before, he's one chapter of my life and i wouldnt be that book without him. i loved him, and i think he loved me too. he saw me through actually. from my 20-year old self to that day he probably realized it's never going to happen.

your married man might love you. he might actually show you he really does. he will give you the world if he can. but he's never going to leave his wife for you. and you honestly dont wanna be that one woman who'll rob another woman of her happines. even if your married man says his happiness is you.

..."it's meeting the man of my dreams, and then meeting his beautiful wife"

[kvandenhaak]

^Or he is just trying to play you. Niloko ka na nung una so tama lang wag ka na paloko ulit. Lahat naman yan sasabihin ang masarap pakinggan sa tenga just to get what they want. If he's still with his wife and has no plans to leave, what's the point of getting in touch with you? Sus, mga lalake talaga...LOL!

[hisana]

Agree din naman ako na meron ibang lalaki dyan who really fell in love with the other woman and it seems romantic and perfect and all, but it's really no excuse eh na lokohin nya yung asawa nya and also lokohin nya yung other woman na he's unmarried or he's gonna leave his wife or he loves the other woman more than his wife. Ang selfish lang.  Ang dating sa akin is hindi bale na lokohin nya yung mga babae sa buhay nya, basta makuha nya gusto nya. Akala nya napakaromantic nya pero the truth is he's putting the women into a setup that is the most beneficial TO HIM. Yeah, may kasalanan din yung kabit, but I think the happiest of them all is the man, haha.

Nakaencounter na rin ako ng mga married men who'd do and say things na feeling ko naman talaga na they cant live without me, LOL, so I get why women fall, but then can you really fully trust and love a man who cheats on his wife.

[yannuh]

nope. sobrang sakit pag ang partner mo ay may other woman/man so bakit mo ieentertain ang thought na ikaw naman ang magiging cause ng sakit na yon sa ibang tao? hmm

[Mowleyyy]

No. Not at all. I have this friend who fallen in love with the guy who's already has a girlfriend. THEY kept it secret since the GF was in abroad.

I told my friend "girl, you do not deserved to be the other woman, you do not deserved to be tagged as mangaagaw or what, he already has a Gf, do you think he really loves you more than he loves his Gf? Of course not! Coz if he really does, he will not let this happen and makes you a kabit.

Let's say, he broke up with his GF, then he choose you. There is also a possibility that he will cheat on you. He already did it to his ex Gf. Ano pinagkaiba mo?  Isipin mo na lang din if you're on the same shoes as her, ano mafefeel mo kapag niloloko ka pala?"

Kaya sometimes I understand yung ibang kabit. Yung iba lang na alam ko na pinanlalabanan nila yung feelings nila. But sa iba na ang kakapal ng mukha na sila pa tong kala mo original, sila pa tong nagpapamukha sayo na mas gusto sila ng partner mo. Hay please, do not settle for less. Hindi nyo deserved maging kabit lang. Please respect yung relationship ng iba. Kung ikaw ang nasa kalagayan ng inaagawan mo, I'm sure you'll get hurt, too.

[sexykhuletzky]

No. Never, ever settle for less.

[jelai424]

My aunt is going through an ordeal now because of her unfaithful spouse. Sobrang depressed nya and anxious, she can't sleep at balisa, she went to a psychiatrist for meds. Also everytime she's being a nagger because nagpatay nanaman ng phone yung asawa nya, sinasaktan pa sya ng husband nya. Pure evil talaga. The guy is mayaman, he's a good provider but he can't keep his di#@ inside his pants. And as for the kabit, nagiimbestiga pa sa mga katulong ng tita ko, just to know what is the guy's job, about my cousins and my tita. Desperate mistress. My cousins are really depressed too, I saw posts on their fb about suicide, stressful situations at home... teenager pa lang sila and ganun na pinagdadaanan nila, nakakaawa.
At kala nyo ba sa immediate family lang natatapos yung ganung problema, it transcends upto us, my tita's kamaganak.  Because all the while that she's shaky and she cannot make sane decisions,  we were there for her, we took our leave sa mga trabaho namin just to check with her and her kids as well. At namomroblema kami because there are times that she looks unstable. Because her husband works abroad and they have to fix their marriage,  hinahatid namin ang tita namin sa airport. Sa business nila pag hindi makabayad agad ng bills dahil nga magulo nanaman sila kami ang nagaasikaso.

So yeah. My answer is a huge NO. No matter what. Gusto kong murahin yung kabit at asawa ng Tita ko. But I was not raised to behave that way. Anyway,  I know aanihin mo naman yun, maging babaero ka man o kabit, I don't need to say bad things because lahat naman may consequences.

[cosmochick]

Funny, my friend just talked to me about her kabit friends this morning.

The kabits are explicitly there for the money lang daw. These kabits are mga hiwalay na sa asawa and have their own kids and kumabit sa mga politicos. Mind you, they're not young. mga mid 30's to early 40s na ang mga kabits .

Makikita mo FB, luxurious nga ang lifestyle and dapat maintain ang figure and beauty otherwise baka palitan.. My friend was kind of jealous because they're living a luxurious life. Dami daw pera.

I told her, kahit may financial problems every now and then ka , consider yourself the luckier one kasi you have a peaceful life , you have a good husband with a nice job and you can sleep well at night.

I think these kabits even those who are only after the money, still long for someone who they can really call theirs. And at the age of mid 30s, kabit ka pa rin?? Naku ha... mayaman ka nga, ang gulo naman ng buhay mo. No thanks.

[tychenemesis]

I had one experience where I became the other woman. He was not yet married. They were just bf-gf that time. I know he was taken na pero wala eh, talagang naattract ako. He keeps on telling me he will not leave his gf for me pero kapag ako naman ang lumalayo, siya naman ang lapit ng lapit. It became a cat and mouse chase between thet two of us until the time na I got tired of the chasing. It will lead to nowhere anyway. Nauntog din ang loka kaya after that experience, ako naman ang niloko ng sumunod kong bf. Karma is always around the corner. I learned my lesson the hard way. Now that I am married, I wish my past sins will not continue to haunt me.