Girls who go to multiple dates = playgirl?

[sacred cow]

may scarcity kasi ng babaeng chinese. sa iba reto reto lang pero yung iba ginagawang negosyo na rin to. alam mo naman sa mga chinese lahat pinagkaka kitaan. hehe!

may scarcity ng babaeng chinese na PANALO (pretty, smart, maganda ugali at good ang family background) - fixed for you

[aubb]

haha. so good girl ako dahil i only date one at a time? pa- isa isa lang ang COCOL and HOHOL, at yun lang, nothing morethan so. ahaha

[sacred cow]

^ don't flatter yourself meron din namang girls na paisa isa lang magdate dahil konti nagkakagusto sa kanila

[aubb]

^ haha. seryoso mo naman that was rhetorical 

[Girltalker2]

common knowledge na may commission. kaya nga yung iba sobrang kulit. sister in law ng tita ko eto ang pinagkaka kitaan. i met her once sa party ng tita ko and naku hindi ako tinitigilan sobrang kulit. sabi ng mom ko kasi kumikita daw ang mga matchmakers. pati best friend ko may mga nagpapa hanap din sa kanya ng pure chinese na girls may commission siya pag nagkatuluyan. may scarcity kasi ng babaeng chinese. sa iba reto reto lang pero yung iba ginagawang negosyo na rin to. alam mo naman sa mga chinese lahat pinagkaka kitaan. hehe!

hindi ko alam about commission.
hindi ko din alam na may full time position na "matchmaker".

Ang alam ko lang, pag may nakita ka na single pa, pero alam mong may pinag aralan tsaka single na female, yun tipong hindi mo ikahihiya; tapos may alam ka rin na ok na guy, tsaka mo lang sila gusto ipakilala - as you mean them well. You want them to get married kasi alam mong eligible silang dalawa. 

may scarcity ng babaeng chinese na PANALO (pretty, smart, maganda ugali at good ang family background) - fixed for you

I think this is more accurate.  dagdagan ko pa, scarcity ng chinese na babae na panalo and UNATTACHED.   

 

[amethyst028]

^pure chinese ka ba sis? you can try to google it siguro. i remember the movie joy luck club parang may scene na ganito. sa china usong uso ito, even here uso din. ipapa consult pa nga sa buddhist temple yung birth charts ng mga ire-reto thats for those na sobrang mapamahiin na chinese.

yup may scarcity ng mga pure chinese na panalo and still single kasi yung iba ayaw din mag asawa ng kapwa pure chinese na lalake. im pure chinese and ayoko mag asawa ng chinese iba kasi ugali lalo na yung mga mayaman at sobrang conservative na family. tipong sinusunid pa rin lumang kaugalian na pabor lang sa lalake.

[Girltalker2]

^ yung setting of the movie sa joy luck club happened during the olden days - pre-communist era. Before the chinese fled out of china.  During those times kasi kahit hindi pa pinapanganak or mga baby pa, or less than 10 years old minamatch na ang mga bata to get married (yes I had Chinese History). Those things truly EXISTED.  Pero now?  I am not sure if it still exists as I have not witnessed any of that in China, Taiwan, HK or even in Sg.

What we are talking about is matchmaking single men/women at marrying age or at least at dating age. Meaning in their 20s.  Or possible in their 30s or 40s, basta single pa at mas matanda ang lalaki sa babae.

Tell me more about it - yung pagconsult sa buddhist temple - as I go there as well from time to time but maybe not often enough to witness that.  I just know that people consult on events in their lives kung ok ba o hindi ok, kung may event sila (like wedding for the couple), when ang good date for them to get married, etc.  But never ko alam na meron pang mga bata ngyon na dinadala sa temple para imatch with potential partner na puede sila ikasal as a minor (ie joy luck club).

Sa pagsunod ng lumang kaugalian, siguro di ko na sila masyado nakikita.  Kasi I have seen chinese guys/gals who had married non-chinese counterparts na eventually ok narin sa inlaws.  Accepted narin these days as chinese here in Pinas have existed already for 4 generations. First and 2nd generation, taboo iyan. 3rd generaion, medyo taboo. 4th generation, accepted na.

You will also be surprised, kahit sa China, hindi ko mahanap na now ang mga kaugalian na iyan. In fact, I find the Chinese in Pinas more conservative compared to the other chinese in China.  Siguro mas similar ang chinese tradition dito kesa sa Taiwan.  Sa China kasi parang nawala na because of the communist era, especially the northern part - hindi sila familiar sa engagement 'ting hun'.

Anyway, enough of chinese culture and all.  Baka marami kang kakilala na chinese elite few or baka isa ka rin sa kanila, kaya parang kakaiba ang shine-share mo sa impression ko.

[amethyst028]

^yup i think OT na. just because wala ka naririg it doesn't mean it's not happening. sana let's all keep an open mind hindi yung mag kontrahan sa forum. lalo na kung yung nag sasalita lahi niya so mas alam niya ang loob at labas ng culutre niya and she has a first hand experience on what she is saying. wala akong gustong makabangga just want to share what i know and its always interesting to find out something new diba?

let's go back to topic na. enough of this. yung hindi naniniwala e di huwag tahimik na lang tayo. let's all respect each other here. happy posting!

[sacred cow]

I think this is more accurate.  dagdagan ko pa, scarcity ng chinese na babae na panalo and UNATTACHED.   

exactly! which goes back kung bakit ko nasabi na siguro mga olats yung mga kilala ni j.adore na nirereto

[aubb]

hindi ko din alam na may full time position na "matchmaker".

Cousin ng ex ko was matched by a matchmaker, yun talaga designation niya, it might not be a full-time post, parang sideline siguro. i never knew if that person was renumerated when the couple got married like sis amethyst said, pero apparently yes, kasi i heard kinuha talaga "service" niya, the girl was late 30s, guy was mid-40s

Going back to the topic if were a guy, i'm not sure how i'd convince myself to take a girl who multi-dates seriously, i think it's a flippant behavior, di ko bet

[Girltalker2]

^ I have done matchmaking a couple of times. Once naging successful, they are married now with 3 kids.  The other one hindi naging successful. But I do it out of my own matching skills (personality, from good family background etc).  kaya masasabi ko wala nakong napakilala in the last 10 years, kasi aside from different age group na (not marrying age na), wala narin akong makita na single na guy na matino. Single ladies, yes.

[aubb]

^true that. Wala atang matinong single guy, kundi babaero, may attitude problem lang talaga, nakakaumay ang bloated ego       

[j.adore]

The good ones are usually taken and if they become available, konti nga lang as they said.

I guess we just really have different experiences kasi ako naman walang kilala na madaming kadate via recommendations na kagaya ng stereotype niyo (pangit, mataba, etc.).

On being disowned, meron isa as in not just inheritance tinaggal pati wala na silang communication ng family at relatives niya.

[sacred cow]

@j.adore

yup, I agree with you

that sucks para dun sa kakilala mo, I hope my fellow Chinese living in the Phil. would stop doing this to their own relatives, it's so archaic IMO.

@aubb

^true that. Wala atang matinong single guy, kundi babaero, may attitude problem lang talaga, nakakaumay ang bloated ego       

Wala atang matinong single guy NA ATTRACTIVE SA MGA BABAE/ELIGIBLE, kundi babaero, may attitude problem lang talaga, nakakaumay ang bloated ego - fix'd

kasi most ng matitinong single guys are either too nice, pussies or can't even talk to women.

yung iba naman dating matino, pero nakitang being an *censored* works in getting women kaya nagbago din. you end up with natural assholes and guys who pretend to be assholes to get pvssy...kayo rin talo

[aubb]

kasi most ng matitinong single guys are either too nice, pussies or can't even talk to women.

yung iba naman dating matino, pero nakitang being an *censored* works in getting women kaya nagbago din. you end up with natural assholes and guys who pretend to be assholes to get pvssy...kayo rin talo

     


Dang.. Men are so smart, how come we don't get to be brilliant as you are??     

...kayo rin talo

-fix'd


I pity the nice and the pussies, they don't have the guts to muster up assholeness to get some pvssies 

[sacred cow]

   

Dang.. Men are so smart, how come we don't get to be brilliant as you are??     

Au contraire, when it comes to seduction women are leaps and bounds ahead of men, as the great courtesan Ninon de l'Enclos once said "Much more genius is needed to make love than to command armies."

Women are so adept at reading body language and understanding social dynamics that powerful women in history like Cleopatra and intellectuals like Lou Andreas-Salomé have great men at the palm of their hands.

Not sure if you were being sarcastic with your comment though

[Ichiro]

Not sure if you were being sarcastic with your comment though

hahahah!!! I bet she was.

[t_r_i_s_h]

I think so too hahah this thread made my day.

[aubb]

No, no. I wasn't! How could you think that was sarcasm?!  bahahaha

[tisaygirl123]

No, not that way. If that girl is committing herself in every guys that she dated. well, It's a confirmation then. pero if it's just a clean date, ok lang naman siguro.

Wala namang masama makipag date, as long as wala din ginagawang masama. lol