Girls who go to multiple dates = playgirl?

[j.adore]

Aside from having fun, testing the waters etc. There are girls who are REQUIRED to do this.

If they've been single for a while, their families, relatives, and friends introduce them to guys.
The chore begins where they go on dates several times a week or even several times a day with different guys. No intimacy whatsoever but finding connection until they narrow it down to a boyfriend. All the guys know the girl is on the dating field.

[simang]

You date guys na hindi mo type? Para ka naman mauubusan kung makipag date

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[sacred cow]

Aside from having fun, testing the waters etc. There are girls who are REQUIRED to do this.

If they've been single for a while, their families, relatives, and friends introduce them to guys.
The chore begins where they go on dates several times a week or even several times a day with different guys. No intimacy whatsoever but finding connection until they narrow it down to a boyfriend. All the guys know the girl is on the dating field.

interesting. I wonder kung anong klaseng girls 'tong mga 'to since wala ata akong personally na kakilalang ganito

[bonita111809]

para saken, depende sa ginagawa. kung pure dates lang naman siguro hindi ka matatawag na playgirl. you're just available.


pero pag ikaw eh dating with intimacy on the side, with a few men or a number of them, yan playgirl ka na. actually nagbago na ang tawag sa mga ganyan. professional slvt. 

[Girltalker2]

interesting. I wonder kung anong klaseng girls 'tong mga 'to since wala ata akong personally na kakilalang ganito

Wala kang kilala? 

Sa bagay. It's either the girl is dating guys na nakilala nya through her own network. Puede pa.   

Pero bihira nga yung relatives/family will introduce her to several men, kasi kadalasan ito ay piling pili, at most likely, isa isa pinapakilala (through time), hindi sabay sabay.

pero pag ikaw eh dating with intimacy on the side, with a few men or a number of them, yan playgirl ka na. actually nagbago na ang tawag sa mga ganyan. professional slvt. 

I think may mga hindi nanga din nag-d-date, direcho na agad sa kama for fubus etc?  Kapag fubus ba tapos nakikipagkita pa sa ibang guys, playgirl?

[euandeniel]

Yun ang playgirl..
sana may makilala din akong ganun.. I mean yung satisfaction lang ang gusto where we are looking for that same thing.

[j.adore]

They are Chinese and have big clans and networks that's why nagkakasabay even if piling pili (reputation is key).  Also, because they don't want the women to stay single for long so di kailangan ng spacing.

So a single woman who has several dates does not necessarily mean play girl na. It would be when she "plays" with the emotions time money etc of the men she goes out with.

[sacred cow]

^ being Chinese myself, eto ba yung mga girls na walang nagkakagusto/nag-aaskout (usually fat and ugly) and in desperation ng mga magulang na makapag-asawa ay pinapakilala sa other guys who also don't have a clue on getting girls but are filthy rich or come from rich clans? Then I guess I know what you're talking about ;p hindi nga sila playgirl, wala lang silang no choice

[j.adore]

No. They're pretty at inaabangan maging single that's why the line gets long during their dating phase.

So surprising na as Chinese, this is new to you. Baka ikaw yung na filter out that's why you don't know them

[Girltalker2]

^ sacred cow, I know and have witnessed what you are talking about.

^ j.adore, not sure what you mean though.  Kung may Bf na yung girl, bakit pinapagtulakan pa ang isang katerba na lalaki sa harapan nya?

[j.adore]

walang BF

If they've been single for a while, their families, relatives, and friends introduce them to guys.

[jan888]

Aside from having fun, testing the waters etc. There are girls who are REQUIRED to do this.

If they've been single for a while, their families, relatives, and friends introduce them to guys.
The chore begins where they go on dates several times a week or even several times a day with different guys. No intimacy whatsoever but finding connection until they narrow it down to a boyfriend. All the guys know the girl is on the dating field.

wow..this is interesting! I've never heard of this before!  is this kind of 'practice' exclusively for the super rich only?  ang alam ko lang is the usual 'Kai shao'     

[sacred cow]

No. They're pretty at inaabangan maging single that's why the line gets long during their dating phase.

So surprising na as Chinese, this is new to you. Baka ikaw yung na filter out that's why you don't know them

Excuse me, in the first place, why would I even want na mapabilang sa mga guys na yun na kelangan pa magpa kai shao? why would I have to go on blind dates when I can go out with equally pretty girls that come from good families too na ako mismo yung nag ask out and not relying on someone else or my family's wealth para ibenta sarili ko.

kai shao is passé (at least in the local chinese community sa generation na 'to), originally may matchmaker talaga na naghahanap ng isang guy for a girl or vice versa na chine check ang compatibility based on zodiac, feng shui and of course family's fortune. But I do think there's more to dating than those things.

Ilang taon na ba yung mga girls na kilala mong ganito? If they are in their early-mid twenties, I pity them kasi they don't get to enjoy a 'normal' dating life...pano naging masaya ang makipagdate kung REQUIRED ka makipagdate sa hindi mo kakilala (in hopes of expanding the family fortune kung parents niyo ang nagsetup). Pano naging romantic yung first meeting niyo nun kung ang setup ay
ARRANGED, nawala na yung thrill from the first encounter, to getting each others digits and me asking her to go out, how would the girl feel that she got swept off her feet?

If the girls are in their 30's, then there's probably a reason why they're still single at that age and wala na akong balak malaman kung ano yun .

Matatawa na lang ako kung mga taga XAVIER and ICA lang naman pala pinaguusapan ni j.adore dito (no offense to alumni of these schools) wow, sobrang exclusive nga!!!

[t_r_i_s_h]

another case to case basis topic. it depend rin if there's sex involve pag ganon eh play girl nga or "professional slut" pero if medyo maraming manliligaw si girl okay lang siguro, maybe she's keeping her options.

[creativehunk]

my take on this is for as long as the girl is single and doesnt have a commitment yet with a guy, she can do whatever she wants to do. thats her life and people should not be judgemental on the things or choices she makes with her life. be it dating several guys or even having sex with them. people cannot just pass judgement on them because we dont know what they are looking for. so for me, no! i cant call them playgirl. i called it living the life that they wanted.

[sacred cow]

^ what he said. girls should stop judging other girls, slut shaming is stupid

[amethyst028]

alam ko yung sinasabi ni j.adore this usually happens if a girl is a really good catch and nagmamadali na talaga ang family ng guys (marrying age na). may mga matchmakers kasi sa chinese who gets p50k commission or higher pag may nagkatuluyan kaya ganon na lang kung mag push yung iba. pag rich kasi ang families very picky sila sa makakatuluyan ng anak nila ayaw nila na basta basta lang. and usually napaka lawak ng social network.

[j.adore]

Well good for you sacred cow but just because you don't know women like them, doesn't mean di nangyayari sa mga maganda/gwapo/sexy/etc.
The age spans from early 20s to late 20s (pero may kwento sila na even sa mga nasa 30s na). You pity them but isn't that how it is sa Chinese? They have to and they choose to follow else suffer the consequences of being disowned.
I don't even know why you have to single out Xavier and ICA (or if you were referring to Jan's post too), matatawa sabay bawi no offense sa kanila, but the answer is no.

amethyst028, matchmakers nila family/relatives/friends. Walang ganyan but they did say it happens sa iba.

[sacred cow]

I singled out xavier and ica kasi sobrang cliche na kapag mga chinese na tulad ng mga tinutukoy mo (rich kids) na taga manila dun nag high school (e.g. Chris Tiu.) It's good din na yung mga kilala mo magaganda, yun (unfortunate looking) kasi stereotype naming mga nag-aral sa binondo/masangkay area pagdating sa mga girls na nirereto. Depende din naman sa family yun, may iba nananakot lang na disown para magasawa ng pure chinese din, like sa family ko wala namang pananakot na itatakwil pero lagi lang pinapaalala na marry someone Chinese. I also hear na may iba na tinatakwil nga pero wala pa rin akong kakilalang nababalitaan...baka nga takot lahat..hahaha

[amethyst028]

amethyst028, matchmakers nila family/relatives/friends. Walang ganyan but they did say it happens sa iba.

common knowledge na may commission. kaya nga yung iba sobrang kulit. sister in law ng tita ko eto ang pinagkaka kitaan. i met her once sa party ng tita ko and naku hindi ako tinitigilan sobrang kulit. sabi ng mom ko kasi kumikita daw ang mga matchmakers. pati best friend ko may mga nagpapa hanap din sa kanya ng pure chinese na girls may commission siya pag nagkatuluyan. may scarcity kasi ng babaeng chinese. sa iba reto reto lang pero yung iba ginagawang negosyo na rin to. alam mo naman sa mga chinese lahat pinagkaka kitaan. hehe!