I begged, pleaded and threw away my pride now i feel pathetic

[easytwinkle08]

Siguro naman mostly sa ating mga babae, nagmamakaawa talaga tayo para sa maging ok ulit. Araw araw akong umiiyak. Lagi akong nagmamakaawa na kahit one sided love na lang. kahit ako na lang muna ang mag mahal sa kanya at in time mamahalin niya ako ulit. i told him to try kahit huling chance na lang. Pero ang sabi niya lang sa akin hindi niya na ako mahal at hindi niya na talaga ako kaya pang tanggapin.

Lagi kong pinapaalala sa kanya na bakit dati sabi ko nung pangalawang beses niya akong niligawan "ayaw ko" pero sabi niya "lalaban siya" pero ako ngayon na nagmamakaawa na ilalaban ko yung sa amin. "ayaw niya na daw talaga" basta ayaw niya na.

Ang unfair diba. Hanggang ngayon nagmamakaawa pa din ako. hindi ko nga alam kung kelan ako matatauhan o matatauhan pa ba ako sa mga katangahan na ginagawa ko. anong magagawa ko mahal ko eh. hindi ko kasi matanggap. ang hirap hirap.

Saksi ang mga unan ko sa iyak na naranasan ko. at alam kong alam ni Lord kung gaano ko siya kamahal.

[kvandenhaak]

It's done so no point of beating yourself over what happened. I have been there. Well, not exactly but I asked if we can at least talk for the last time. Naghintay ako sa meeting place and he didn't even show up. I felt like an idiot. Looking back, natatawa na lang ako sa mga katangahan ko. Truth is, you will get over it no matter how heart broken you are.

[easytwinkle08]

Actually binalak ko din yan. Mag book ng plane ticket pa cebu tas pagka hndi siya dumating. Move on nko dun sa cebu hehe. Kung dumating may chance.

[plumpolka]

the sad truth is pag ang lalaki na ang umayaw, wala na talaga yan. it means natry na nya ang lahat, nagawan na nya ng paraan pero wala na lang talaga. that's what my mom always told me. pag ang lalaki sinabi nya na ayaw na nya, the more you beg for him to stay, the more it justifies his decision na ayaw na talaga nya. pwede din nyang sabihin na sige bigyan ng chance pero ginawa na lang nya yun kasi naawa sila sa girl but their feelings wont change. i've never done this in my life. sa akin kasi pag ayaw na ng lalaki, edi wag. kahit mahal ko pa sya, i will respect his decision and i will give respect to myself din na hindi magmakaawa para lang sa lalaki. lalaki lang yan.


sabi din sakin ng mom ko na dapat mas mahal ka ng guy kesa sa mahal mo sya. pero wala naman sigurong sukatan yun. siguro its her way of telling me na wag kong gawing mundo yung lalaki and mas mahalin ko ang sarili ko kesa sa lalaki.


siguro advise ko na lang sa ibang mga girls na on the brink of begging, kung mahal ka talaga ni guy, he wont let you beg for his love. pag umayaw, accept it, move on. mahirap pero mas maganda na sila yung maka-realize na kawalan nila tayo at sila ang mag makaawa sa atin na tanggapin natin ulit sila, na nagkamali sila na pinakawalan nila tayo. di ba? win-win situation din yan. pwedeng bumalik sya or you'll meet someone better na hindi mo kailangan pang magmaka-awa sa love nila plus you get to be more confident with yourself.


guys love girls who value themselves. yung alam nila yung worth nila kaya hindi sila papayag na babastahin lang ng lalaki. we should always value ourselves first kasi that's the basis ng ibang tao on how they will value us.


parang yung ibang mga babae na wala ng tinago sa katawan, guys wont respect them kasi sila mismo di nila nirespeto sarili nila. siguro ok lang naman to ask for another chance, pag-isipan niya kahit one week man lang if pwede pa i-save, pero to beg kahit ilang beses ng sinabi ng lalaki na ayaw na... that's too much.  sorry medyo feminist hahaha i just believe na dapat girls are emotionally strong to be able to handle a relationship. hindi naman pusong bato pero she knows her limit, loves herself first, and love like there's no tomorrow.

[arrabels]

Ginawa ko na din ang mag-beg but he still didn't choose to be with me. Pero atleast masasabi ko na I did everything I could. No regrets, no what ifs. Tsaka okay lang mag beg ka ng isang beses, after nyan pag wala talaga awat na. Once is enough, twice is too many, thrice is b******t.

[Filipinasadhart]

Last April 9, i beg to him. sabi ko ano ba nagmamakaawa ako sayo tell me kung san ka na at paalis ka na ba? nakabihis na ko kanina pa 7pm. sabi nya mga 9, tapos 10pm then 1am na wala pa din. Aba , naiinis na ko.  Ano ba... Hanggang 5am ng umaga wala pa din. Tapos bigla nagtext 10am nakatulog daw sya. Eh hindi naman sya natutulog ng maaga. Sana inform ako na hindi matutuloy. Ako naman excited na makita sya kase may ibibigay ako gift sa kanya at sa mama nya.

NAg-antay ako sobra na ayoko na. Indian ako. Pinaasa ako. Pinahabol ako. Ayoko na muhka na ko "T".  Sobra ng umabuso.

I can relate wag mag beg :-( :-( :-(  Kapag nasagad ka na tumigil ka na. Stop mo na. Kalimutan na.

[DeathToMondays]

Been there once, never doing that again. Looking back, he wasn't worth it at all, prolly even enjoyed all the attention from begging. He likes a lot of attention like that, either by playing the victim or by being the bully.

He's actually in this forum, currently inactive, and last posted on the day I came here. Chances are he's still on the hunt for the next impressionable prey.

I hope his daughter falls hard for a man exactly like him. 

[Ms. Undecided]

I hope his daughter falls hard for a man exactly like him.
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Yas!
Di naman sa pagiging bad diba? Pero ganun din winiwish ko sa mga lalaking nanloloko sakin. Kung di man sila makahanap ng katapat nila (But I know they will, Karma is everywhere) bumalik sana sa babaeng pinahahalagahan nila (Daughter or sister).

[AkosiBella]

Found this somewhere. What can you say about this?

"ADVICE KO SA MGA BROKEN HEARTED!

Bat ba kung makareact yung mga taong naloko eh talagang wagas? Come to think of it ha.. Buhay niya yon. Kung ayaw na niya sayo at trip ka niya lokohin wala ka magagawa. Choice niya mahalin ka nung una, choice din niya magquit anytime. Bat kung makaasta eh kala mo may utang na loob pa sayo yung tao? Choice mo din naman na minahal mo siya so kasama lahat ng risk don. Kahit pa kasal yan, o may anak, nadagdagan lang ng papel at bata pero nilabas ka ng nanay mo sa tiyan niya na hindi mo naman kasama yung tao na yon. So technically hindi naman talaga kayo magka ano ano. Binuhay mo ba sya? Pinalaki pinakaen pinag aral? Why dont you people just grow the f*ck up and move on. If they're not happy with you anymore then that's it, LOL.. It cannot be forced. Sino ka para pwersahin at pilitin yung tao and kapag hindi na niya kaya, you judge and make kalat the pics of them and their no. 2 on FB, like you f*cking bought and owned the person? Hell, binili mo ba syota mo? You didn't even have a pride to be like "hey, i'm showing the whole social media community na niloko ako! Yeheyy.. Niloko ako. And these are their pics! Their convo!" or whatever. haha. So you're being proud pa?

You really expect everything to be perfect while people just simply can't? Everyone can't. People lie, people make mistakes. Yeah, i get it, masakit nasaktan ka napangakuan and all that s*** and what not. And maybe, one of their biggest mistakes was choosing you. So tanggapin mo yon. But, choosing to be with him/her was also your choice in the first place. Choosing to love was your choice. And your brain is f*cking tricking yourself the moment you took the fall, you didn't know? You should've been aware of the pain that comes with love na yan. Yeah, you chose to dedicate your whole life, or gave your everything "in the name of love." So why in the world then are you looking for kapalit sa mga ginawa mo? And you call that "love," hun? I don't get it guys.. hindi ka laging panalo sa buhay noh. Pasayahin mo sarili mo, matanda ka na. Wag mo idepende sa ibang tao yung kaligayahan mo. Kung masaya ka sa kanya sa panahong masaya kayo then good. Pasalamat ka pa dahil nagawa ka naman pasayahin kahit papano, kahit temporary lang. Pero kung hindi na masaya, lunukin mo yung sakit period. Kasama yan. Ibibigay ng isang tao ang kaligayahan sayo ng kusa kung talagang gusto nya ibigay sayo. Wag mo ilimos yan. They have every right and freedom to choose. May utak yan, be. They are the ones to decide what to do with their genitals. They ain't your slaves, man.

Yan na yung best words of wisdom na mabibigay ko hahaha. Wala lang"

May point naman siya. Pero di ko mawari parang may mali kasi sa sinasabi niya.

[amethyst028]

i think most of us have been in this situation.

this happened to me when my son was only 2-3months old. who doesn't want a complete family diba? so i fought for him. i went to his house at 11pm we outside his house until 5am. we were together for 6yrs. on and off. but in the end i gave up rin.

he was the one who begged and pleaded, even kneel in front of me while my mom saw it. i really don't feel anything for him anymore. i told him to leave. he stayed in front of our house until i don't know kasi we all slept na and he was still there.

i guess we just have to hit rock bottom at one point the it's time to move on na. we just have to put our faith that someone better is going to come along.

[Ms. Undecided]

^^ May point naman, di naman kasi talaga siya kasama nung pinanganak ka. Nabuhay ka mag-isa, naging masaya ka bago mo siya nakilala. Pero hindi din naman natin masisisi yung mga taong nagmahal, nasaktan, nagpost sa FB (hehe) kasi baka naman hindi maayos yung break up. Karamihan kasi talaga ng lalaking nang-iiwan hindi nalang maging honest na 'may iba na', Palalabasin pa nila na kesyo mali si babae, kesyo masama ugali, clingy and so on and so forth kaya nila iniwan pero the truth is meron ng reserba. Gigil ako ng mga lalaking ganun eh. Kaya kapag may mga post sa FB na ganun, di ako basta basta nagse-share. Binabasa ko lang tas nagbibigay ng opinion on my own, di ko na sineshare.

[DeathToMondays]

// Why dont you people just grow the f*ck up and move on. If they're not happy with you anymore then that's it, LOL..//

Maybe someone should break that person's legs with a baseball bat and tell them to just grow up and walk. LOL

The rest of that "Advice Ko sa Broken Hearted" just smacks of victim-blaming and it's tl;dr. The premise is based on someone who betrayed your trust so why even berate the person who was wronged? Although they have some points to raise, on the whole it's just self-serving BS 'advice' by a person who likes the sound of their own voice. 

Everyone recovers in their own way and in their own time. When you force other grieving people to forgive and move on, you're just doing it for yourself, not for their sake. If you can't take their grief, that's your problem; just get out of their way and let them deal with it with someone kinder.

[AkosiBella]

^ The one who gave this advice is actually a cheating wife. Ilang beses na siya nagcheat sa husband niya at nabuntis pa ng iba. So, I guess, she's just defending herself. 😂 Because she's not perfect. 😂 Eh hindi mo naman kailangan maging perfect para malaman kung ano ang tama sa mali.

Yep. Tama ka dun. Victim blaming nga. Ikaw na ginawan ng masama, ikaw pa ang palalabasin na may problema.

[kvandenhaak]

^Ah kaya naman pala...lol! At some point, yes, we should just really have to move on. Pero, we know. At least I know, by experience, that it's very difficult. It takes time. It takes support from people around us to make the road to recovery easier.

Pero, siguro naman after 5 years medyo dapat kalma ka na...lol!

[AkosiBella]

^ And syempre pag nadiscover mong nagcheat yung partner mo, grabeng emosyon yun. Tao lang din tayo na pag grabe ang emosyon minsan kung anong nagagawa natin. Di na naiisip yang pride pride na yan. Minsan iniisip na lang na gumanti. Though di naman lahat ganun.

Ewan ko ba. Imbes na makatulong yung post niya, mas nakakainis eh. Hahaha!

[Ms. Undecided]

^ Indeed sis. Kapag nasaktan ka talaga ng bongga diba, makakagawa ka ng mga bagay na di mo akalain na magagawa mo. Hindi naman lahat, pero sakin kasi nangyari yun eh haha

Naalala ko nung kami ng ex ko, nagmahal, nasaktan at nag-post din ako sa FB na pagkahaba-habang istorya tungkol sa pangchecheat niya. After a month, ni-private ko yung post. hehe. Sabi ko, "hala, bakit ko pinost 'to? mukha akong t****" hahaahah. Ayun, di ko binura, pinalitan ko lang privacy sa 'only me'. Pati yung mga friends niya na inaway ko, nahiya ako, pinagmemessage ko sa FB tas nag-sorry ako. Well, the damaged has been done. Nagsisisi ako bakit ako gumawa ng eksenang ganun hahahahaha nakakabwiseeet! xD

[Girltalker2]

Karamihan kasi talaga ng lalaking nang-iiwan hindi nalang maging honest na 'may iba na', Palalabasin pa nila na kesyo mali si babae, kesyo masama ugali, clingy and so on and so forth kaya nila iniwan pero the truth is meron ng reserba. Gigil ako ng mga lalaking ganun eh.

Ayaw umamin kasi yung guy - na at some point in their relationship, he 'explored' other options. Otherwise papano magkaroon ng reserba. Worse, he didn't even made his partner aware of his waning interest para man lang ma -save ang relationship nila. Especially for married na guys.

[kvandenhaak]

^A lot of them are cowards, that is the bottom line. Not sure what about telling you the truth and giving you closure is so scary when damage is already done anyway? Mga duwag!

[AkosiBella]

^ exactly, sis! Yung ex ko na nakabuntis ng iba, he has no future plans for the girl na nabuntis niya. Pero hindi niya masabi kay girl, ang gusto pa niya unti-untiin niya. Sabi ko sa kanya parang pinapatay mo siya ng dahan dahan. Ang complicated naman kasi ng situation nila. Married yung girl na nabuntis niya at ngayon inaayawan na yung asawa dahil siya ang gusto.  Mahirap naman talaga magsabi ng totoo at the truth hurts talaga. Maganda na yung malaman kung ano ang totoo para diba wala ng expectations and disappointments. Sabi ko nga sa kanya eh duwag siya at walang balls.

[Ms. Undecided]

Ako nga feeling ko super hirap na ko magtiwala Lalo sa lalaki. Kapag may mga nagpaparamdam saking guy, pumapasok lagi sa isip ko na 'sus, gaya ka rin ng ex ko', something like that. Hay, hopefully one day may makapagpabago ng tingin ko sa mga lalaki