ANO NAKAKAINIS GINAWA NG YAYA/MAID MO TODAY? THREAD IV

[imeego]

medyo matagal na akong di nagpopost dito since generally, ok naman na tong helpers ko..except dito sa ginawa nya few nights ago...kukuha ng food tapos iiwan lang at hahayaang mapanis, wala naman palang balak kainin, sana di na lang kinuha...susme, sa dami ng nagugutom ngayon, maski ako nga nakukunsensya pa kumain ng madami while madami sa mga kababayan natin halos mamatay na sa gutom, kung pwede nga lang ilusot yung kamay ko sa tv para maibigay agad yung food sa mga nagugutom na taong napapanood ko sa tv eh...tapos etong helper kong magaling nagsasayang lang ng pagkain, parang wala lang sa kanya...grrr sarap sakalin

[sugardrop]

Mareklamo, intrigera (gustong magalit ako sa tita ko), adelentada, lahat alam nya, makes faces pag nasabihan, pag inutusan sobrang tagal bago bumalik, hindi makahintay sa sweldo - ilang days pa before sweldo paulit ulit sasabihin na wag kalimutan sweldo nya, laging naka-cellphone, hindi makahintay na sabihing kasama sya pag aalis - sama ako lagi ang tanong pag nalamang may lakad kami.

[babykat]

Lumayas, AWOL sya.  Nagpaalam na magsecelebrate lang ng birthday ng anak nya, pero babalik the next day.  Nagadvance pa ng sweldo.  Buti na lang di ko binigay pero nakakuha pa din sya.  Umalis Saturday, dapat balik Sunday pm.  Sunday pm, nakaoff na lahat ng phone numbers.  Monday morning, tinawagan ko, sabi pabalik na sya.  Umabot ng hapon, wala pa din.  Nung tinawagan ko, ayaw na sagutin ang phone then inoff na ulit.  Ako tuloy di nakapasok.  Till now wala pa.  Mga damit at gamit nya, nandito pa sa bahay.  Kapal lang ng mukha talaga.

[aquacharly]

So, kesyo yung roof ng house nila eh nadala ng Yolanda --  but they were not washed away/flooded. They still have their livestock, and food stocks.  Wala lang koryente.  They live someways from Ormoc.  She described her house & it's galvanized roof.

So I gave P10thou with the instructions to inquire if her family members wanted to come to Manila & stay with relatives -- I will foot the plane fares (6 people).

She said she got to talk to them, again (the 1st time, they called to say they were all ok but their roof got blown off) & she said she was sending thru LBC : yung konting sampung libo  binigay ng amo ko.

Lol,  konti pala -- she expected 50thou? Hubby said the way she described their roof -  yero yero & will not cost even 5thou.  Napagalitan  pa ko. Dapat natuto na daw ako  by now that they are generally ingrato.
Hubby confronted her and said:  konti pala, o sige hindi na magbibigay si ma'-m ng plane tickets kasi sasama lang loob nyo "konti" lang bigay nya.  I am gonna replace this one after this year. 

[momentum]

^ wtf..kapal nyang maid na yan sis ah..if you will get rid of her next year, you will deduct ba the 10k sa sweldo niya? talagang dapat sipain para matuto siya..hindi siya basta2x makakahanap ng amo na katulad mo kala ba niya..

[aquacharly]

^No.  My intent was really to help her out. She was the only 1 whose family was affected by Yolanda. 
LGUs where we have projects "request" us for all kinds of assistance. So, I am quite helpful to helpers hit by calamities.

Sis, she has been with us for 3 years, and she's 50yo.

After this incident, it's as if nag-iba ugali.  She lies, perhaps because she is preoccupied with family problems.  She blames the others for work not done/damages, etc.  It's always someone's fault/act that prevents her from doing her job.  When she is sent out on errands -- ang tagal before she returns (the others say she does window/personal shopping.). The driver complains she takes too long to dress up, so he is the one naiipit sa schedule. Susko. 

Hubby says she will likely be stealing soon.  Her family needs money all the time. The others say she has a new bf, a young 1 in his 20s. Actually, I will tell her to leave by month' s end; and give her a month's pay for the termination with no advance notice.  Bad vibes na ko sa kanya, I don't want to see her face na.

[momentum]

aww 50yo na pala..and 3yrs na siya with you.
in my personal experience, ang hirap pag matanda yung maid ..ang tigas ng ulo and has so many excuses. kaya I don't get maids na 45yrs old and up, no matter how desperate I am, kasi nadala na ako..

good decision sis. hirap pag mabigat na loob mo sa kasambahay.

[aquacharly]

^actually, mga 40s to 50s ang preferred househelp ng family namin.  They are generally strong & healthy -- sanay daw kasi "mag banat ng buto" eh parang daily rigorous exercise daw.
No need to train, supposedly na break-in na sa service with other households. And supposedly hindi na lumalandi.  Lol

Yung 20s kasi, are searching pa & in the midst of relationships.  May demands ang BF - ayon, they can drop everything in a heartbeat.  Ayon, mag weekend off or bakasyon fiesta -- pagbalik, buntis! Hahaha.
Nag sawa na rin ako pa gastos for pre-natal PFs & meds & tests -- and susko, fitting all that into the household schedule. The worst that happened to me -- 3 got preggers  in 2 months. OMGrief. 

Yung  30s naman, their kids are small & needy - pag magkasakit, their husbands (kahit bums) demand they go home to take care of the sick kid.  Atchaka, yan yung I dad they are convinced kelangan bantayan hubbies nila.  Maybe they feel their youth passing, & feel insecure about their husbands' fidelity.

I have had good experience with this 40-50 age bracket, until  recently -- the past year or so. 
Nagkaka BF & text mates!   Sabi ng old driver ko - marami daw unemployed or bum men in their 20s naghahanap ng sugar mommy. Imagine sa ganong economic bracket!  These older women naman fall for them, konti boladas  lang daw.
Well, IMO - pag ang married woman cheats on her husband --  once nagawa nya yon, she crossed the line --  serial cheater na yan.  So dangerous na yan as househelp.  Prone na yan to manipulation by bad elements. 

Ayoko naman below 20 - ang hirap to train. And may nagets kami noon, pag nag off at nag enjoy sa barkada -- won't come back for a week! 

Because I am younger than them, I don't do chummy chummy. I don't call them Manang or whatever.  Basta suplada & strict na ko from the start.  May personal barrier.  Sis MOMENTUM -  masama say but -- Fear is a better motivator for them to do good service. Pag ang tenor mo eh request/paki paki --  they will not give you what you want, they modify it.

[babykat]

^ Yes, I agree. Yung unang maid namin, I was nice and nakikipagkwentuhan pa. kaya ayun, niloko lang kami.  She left us last Saturday and di na bumalik even though she knows wala magaalaga sa mom ko. Her kids don't know where she is.  Yun pala sumama sa bf.  Pati mga neighbors namin, may utang sya. Pinapaload kasi nya yung jowa nya.  Di sya nagpaalam kasi may plan magadvance then tumakbo.  Kapal talaga.

Kaya now, plan ko not to be very nice and chummy with them.  Magiging silent and strict na ako.  Para matakot kahit papano.

[momentum]

^ ako naman sis, kahit strict ako (but respectful naman) sa mga nakuha ko before na 50+ eh jusko, masyado silang feeling..feeling lahat alam kahit hindi, tigas ulo and actually even if they said sanay sila sa trabaho sa bukid sa province kaya sanay sa work etc etc hindi naman yun ang nakita ko sadly  bagal kumilos, antukin, mabigat katawan, sakitin, ang arte sa food (there was even one na hindi daw siya kumakain ng gulay) and the way they took care of my daughter..hindi rin okay..muka siyang gusgusin when I get home from work. she doesn't eat well, etc. There was even one maid who went thru my old pile of clothes I set aside, sealed and all for alterations, and got what she wanted without asking permission first. napansin ko nalang naka balandra sa floor, teared up the plastic to open it. at first sabi niya pusa daw gumawa, then inamin din na siya and showed me the clothes  she took a day-off that weekend, when she left, I packed her stuff and gave it to the guard, and texted the person who referred her to us to tell her to not come back na and get her stuff sa guard. marami pa kasi siyang ibang ginawa aside from that clothes incident. wala pa siyang 1 week samin

I guess they are okay when it comes to cleaning the house, cooking etc..pero pagdating sa pag-yaya, ewan ko kung minalas lang talaga ako, pero hindi naging okay sakin experience. baka kasi my kiddo was still maalagain back then..she was 3+yrs old and malikot..di ata nila kaya yung energy niya? I don't know sis, minalas lang ata ako. learned lesson narin na wag chummy chummy..wag maging super nice. quiet and strict nalang talaga.

ako naman preferred age ko is 30+ to early 40s. yes problem minsan sa asawa, pero itong 2 kasambahays namin ngayon, mejo they are better than the others we had in the past. magkapatid sila, both single moms ..the maid is in her early 30's and my yaya 25yo (altho ayaw ko sana itong age bracket na ito, same reasons you mentioed). nauna yung older maid, then when I couldn't find a yaya, we got her sister nalang and thought baka magtagal sila since magkapatid (even if we didn't want in the beginning to get siblings etc). yung maid okay siya, masipag, may kusa, di naman minsan maiwas yung nagkakamali but very minimal lang,. itong yaya ko hay nako.mukang may bf na..may ugali din siya na hindi tumatanggap ng pagkakamali and may pagka tamad..ilang beses narin nagreklamo the older sister about her kasi tigas ulo

dilemma ko ngayon is we have to get rid of one of them before the year ends, coz my grandma passed away 2 months ago and my uncle who shoulder's the older maid's salary is only going to pay until end of December..kasi yun yung nag-alaga ng lola ko before. my mom and I both want to keep the older sister, and get rid of my yaya. sana lang pumayag yung older sister to take care of my daughter nalang para 1 maid nalang. hirap na kasi makahanap ng mapagkakatiwalaan and so far this older maid is mapagkakatiwalaan and masipag. parehas na silang 6 months ng nasa amin

[marose17]

My maid who just left (after around 15 days, kinuha lang sweldo) was on her cellphone 80% of the time she was with us.  I really blame these telcos for their unlitext, unlicall promos.  Masyadong naging addict ang mga helpers sa cellphone - as if may important business silang kailangan nakatutok sa telepono all the time.  Good riddance to her.

[Diane]

The one i told earlier na matext din at gusto ng FB, pinalayas ko na din. She even had the guts to tell my mom "ate, pakihawakan muna sa baby kasi di ako makapagconcentrate sa kausap ko (sa text)" - KAPAL much di ba?

So nung pagdating ko, nag iinarte na at nagpapaalam, dun ko na sya dinakdakan kasi nakwento na sa akin yung nangyri. Iniinsist nya yung anak daw nya kasi may sakit, pero wag ka, kausap lagi ang imaginary bf (taga mindanao at di pa sila nagme-meet)

Kahit mahihirapan kami kasi im a working mom, pinaalis ko na kesa ihold ko sya e naasar na naman ako.1month lang sya samen, and i even paid her transpo at nung aalis na sya inask pa ko if gusto ko ba daw dagdagan pamasahe nya, sabi ko hinde, kasusweldo nya lang at lugi pa ko sa kanya.

Ayun pala, may utang sya sa lola ko, sa ninang ko at sa pinsan ko. kapal ng pagmumukha talaga ng mga kasambahay ngayun kaya yang kasambahay bill, one way lang yan, dapat tayong employer covered din. Imagine pinaghihirapan natin pasweldo sa kanila, ganon pa sila!

at kaya pala nagmamadali umalis, nilalandi nya yung asawa ng maid ng mom ko

[marose17]

^ I can feel your inis, sis.

With all these stories about maids and yayas, lugi talaga tayong mga employers sa Kasambahay Law na iyan.   

[lisse]

I agree, re: sa hiring young-ish helpers. Experience namin non, my mom hired 2 mag-cousin. Ages 21 and 24. Aba nilalandi bro ko. Tapos si daddy nung nagna-nap sa sofa aba tinabihan nung yaya ng baby sis ko noon. (nasa gitna nila si baby sis) tapos dinatnan ni mommy from school talagang ginsing niya si daddy, sabi, ano yan, kayo ang mag-asawa? gulat si dad kasi hindi niya alam may katabi na pala siya. that was in the living room, buti na lang hindi sa bedroom kung hindi naku! that same night pinag-bakasyon muna siya ni mommy. tapos after a week pinaalis na rin silang magpinsan.

[Diane]

nag papaka "maya" ang mga maids ngaun. Feeling nila yung napapanood nila sa TV e mangyayari sa tunay na buhay!

[stormy]

Sana hindi ninyo ito yaya mga sis.

Nasa GB5  na naka-green na blouse at denim pants. Color red ang quinny stroller na tinutulak. Kakaawa ang baby, pinapa-inom ng milk habang nakahiga d pa makahawak ng bottle yun baby. Now, halos ubos na milk so yun baby puros hangin na lang siguro nakukuha. Umuubo-ubo yun baby kaya nakatawag pansin.

Naka-cp yun yaya, daldal ng daldal sa phone. Well hirap i-call ang attention kasi baka mamya sya pala ang mommy.

[hunny_ally]

My son broke his yaya's cellphone. She placed it on the canopy of the stroller and it fell hard when he push the stroller. Di ko alam bakit ginagawang patunggain yung canopy and hindi na patungan ng gamit. This is the second time he broke her phone. First time is pinalaro nya sa bata and he threw it. Ang burara at walang paki sa gamit tapos pag masira ng bata, wala akong choice but palitan.

[biyach]

today, after checking my brassieres i found out that most of them are disfigured due to improper handling when washing.. nayupi sila, and now yung pangit na contour kitang kita pag nakaplain and fitted tops ako.. kakainis! i invest on these kasi e, kaya kung pwede lang na ipamukha sa kanya na mas mahal pa yung mga sinira niya sa sahod niya, but i kept my mouth shut, kasi i cannot lose my maid, walang magbabantay sa anak ko.

[sistah!]

I have a new yaya! actually, 2 weeks na sya sa akin. I had to get her on the fly. thankfully the agency had someone available. the problem is, she has to look after my 2 year old who is incredibly makulit, energetic and mabilis! she was moving rather slowly and medyo tulala/zoned out for a full week. I asked the agency to find a replacement nga eh kasi feeling ko she cant keep up with the demands of the job. wala pa napalit yung agency but in the last couple of days, she has improved na. she seems happy, energetic and playful towards my daughter.

there are some things that she does pa rin that annoys me but I am willing to ignore na lang muna until she improves or until the agency offers another applicant.

[lovethebeach]

our maid has been with us for 5 years or so already pero till now she still waits what ill say to her to cook etc. kainis walang kusa at all pati maglinis parang pag dinaan ko ulit ng walis  madumi pa rin..

my yaya naman cellphone whenever someone calls and nagmamagaling pero pag sinasabihan ko naman bingi bingihan and pasaway.