Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 2)

[sacred cow]

I don't agree with this.  I don't think its the girls fault.  Kayo nagpapacomplicate sa sarili niyo.
It's other your pursuing the girl or not.  Indecisiveness is a bad sign for us in the first place.
And, upon first meeting palang we categorize guys as friends and potential partners na eh.  Once we treat you as a friend, forever na yun.

I agree, which is why ligaw is BS kasi the guy is just wasting his time kung friend lang talaga tingin sakanya nung guy. I didn't say fault 'to nung girl, since she can't help it kung wala siyang maramdaman na attraction para dun sa guy. What's frustrating is that women like giving men sh*t tests and letting guys jump through hoops, it would make everyone's lives easier if people would just be clear if they like each other or not.

[mimiku]

^ i noticed to some girls if you visit them too often, they get bored. you don't visit them enough, they get pissed off. they play coy and hard to get, but when you leave them, they'll come running after you.

Some guys they lose interest when a lady is all over them. Kapag nakuha na ang gusto or napasagot na biglang manlalamig. So I guess it goes on both sides.

Now I think there are some girls who do this to see the real intention of a guy. I don't know but with us females, it is already ingrained in our minds that if a guy likes you he will do anything to be with you. I sometimes is guilty of this especially if I'm dealing with a guy whose character is kinda shady and sketchy. I don't give in easily to know more about him. Mahirap kasing magtiwala kaagad agad eh. Kinikilala ko muna ng mabuti if he is sincere with what he says or does. Sa isip ko malay mu di ba ok pala siya despite his reputation? Pero of course I take it slow. If he stops, then I know he is not really that interested in the first place. However, if I know the guy and has somewhat flawless character - I mean hindi babaero and alland if I really like him - ako na mismo maghahabol. hehe. Wala nang delay delay.  Wala ng pagpapakipot pa.

[tough_guy]

Some guys they lose interest when a lady is all over them. Kapag nakuha na ang gusto or napasagot na biglang manlalamig. So I guess it goes on both sides.

Now I think there are some girls who do this to see the real intention of a guy. I don't know but with us females, it is already ingrained in our minds that if a guy likes you he will do anything to be with you. I sometimes is guilty of this especially if I'm dealing with a guy whose character is kinda shady and sketchy. I don't give in easily to know more about him. Mahirap kasing magtiwala kaagad agad eh. Kinikilala ko muna ng mabuti if he is sincere with what he says or does. Sa isip ko malay mu di ba ok pala siya despite his reputation? Pero of course I take it slow. If he stops, then I know he is not really that interested in the first place. However, if I know the guy and has somewhat flawless character - I mean hindi babaero and alland if I really like him - ako na mismo maghahabol. hehe. Wala nang delay delay.  Wala ng pagpapakipot pa.

kaya hirap ang mga babae sa paghahanap ng lalaki particularly, women i speak to say that they can't find a good man and to marry with. They lament over the guys that is many is not sincere in finding women, I would like to posit that cultural and biological factors have been pitted at odds, leaving women in a "no win situation" most of the time in modern life.

[bubbles_sandy]

how to deal with a partner who keeps on lying? i recently found out that he is sending messaages to a girl na patago in fb and viber.

[tough_guy]

how to deal with a partner who keeps on lying? i recently found out that he is sending messaages to a girl na patago in fb and viber.

ay mahirap yan, try to make a deal. kung patuloy parin nyang gagawin yun hiwalayan mo siya at kung tumatanggi pa rin siya na hindi niya ginagawa yun iprintscreen mo yung mga messages galing viber at fb at pakita mo sa kanya..

[bubbles_sandy]

thanks tough_guy

[tough_guy]

thanks tough_guy

my pleasure. balitaan mo ko,

[urGUY]

how to deal with a partner who keeps on lying? i recently found out that he is sending messaages to a girl na patago in fb and viber.

Ask him directly kung sino at ano [textspeak!] girl para sa kanya. Depending on his answer you'll have the truth agad.
If umulit pa sya hiwalayan mo na. If hindi na at friends [textspeak!] pala give a little trust girls.

[Ichiro]

how to deal with a partner who keeps on lying? i recently found out that he is sending messaages to a girl na patago in fb and viber.

paano mo nalaman na patago? do you know the girl?

clear ba sa FB nya na ikaw ang GF nya?

di mo naman kailangang hawakan sa leeg ang BF mo... give him the freedom na makipagkaibigan sa ibang tao... pero make it clear and give him an ultimatum na once na lokohin ka nya... there will be no second chances...

[bubbles_sandy]

^patago kasi i have access to his fb account. saw the message pero binura nya without telling me. ex crush niya but i asked him to unfriend for a different reason. inamin niya naman na they are friends only. but why not tell me diba? he was sorry though but im not convinced. and the reason bakit niya itinago kasi i might think different daw.

[Ichiro]

^come to think of it... kung gagawa sya kalokohan sa FB nya... hindi ka nya bibigyan ng access jan... pero binigyan ka pa rin... kung magloloko ang isang tao... gagawa at gagawa yan ng paraan para makapangloko.... maybe another dummy FB account para lang makipag usap sa gusto nya kausapin...

my advice to you is wag mo syang hawakan sa leeg... the more ka naghihigpit... the more nya itatago yan... kung gusto nya makipag usap sa ex nya... let it be... mas maganda yung ikinukuwento nya sayo kesa need mo pang maghalungkat bago mo malaman... if possible kamo... ipakilala ka nya... sabi nga nila "Keep your friends close and your enemies closer"... wag ng magselos... kung gusto nya ganyang setup... you can also have guy friends kamo... hehe...

[budzwhiz]

@bubbles_sandy I totally get you. Tell him na ayaw mo ng ganon. Sabihin mo na hindi nya kailangan magbura kasi kung wala naman talaga, bakit nya nga buburahin? Kasi ayaw nyang mag-isip ka ng kung [textspeak!]-ano? Yun na nga e. Mas lalo kang napagiisip kapag nagbubura sya, diba?
And tama sila, balaan mo. Na kapag inulit pa nya yun... kaw na bahala.

Ugh. GUYS. Bakit nga ba ganyan kayo? Kapag ba nagbubura kayo ibig sabihin may tinatago kayo or is there even a slight probability na ayaw nyo nga lang talaga na pagisipan namin ng masama. Please explain! haha. Ganyan din kasi nagiging problema ko.

[bubbles_sandy]

^he sent the girl message in viber tapos yung girl sa fb nag reply. inamin niya when i confronted him. i gave him another chance kasi alam ko naman na mahal niya ako sobra, it was so wrong lang na itago sa akin. they were talking about sharing some links. my point is he is not totally honest about it tapos todo deny pa. i sent the girl message sa fb using his account saying stop messenging my bf. yung girl hindi na ngreply.

[Ichiro]

^he sent the girl message in viber tapos yung girl sa fb nag reply. inamin niya when i confronted him. i gave him another chance kasi alam ko naman na mahal niya ako sobra, it was so wrong lang na itago sa akin. they were talking about sharing some links. my point is he is not totally honest about it tapos todo deny pa. i sent the girl message sa fb using his account saying stop messenging my bf. yung girl hindi na ngreply.

i already told you... the more mo paghihigpitan... the more nya itatago... kung gusto nila mag usap gagawa at gagawa sila ng paraan para makapag usap... and since ayaw mong nag uusap sila... if mag uusap sila... itatago yan sayo...

since yan na ang pinili mong style... you have to be very clear to your BF na once nalaman mo na nag uusap pa sila... your relationship is OVER! no ifs no buts... mahigpit at martial law ang dating... pero need mong maging firm... goodluck!

[tough_guy]

@bubble_sandy to be specific, what kind of message has been sent by each? can this made you jealous?

Ugh. GUYS. Bakit nga ba ganyan kayo? Kapag ba nagbubura kayo ibig sabihin may tinatago kayo or is there even a slight probability na ayaw nyo nga lang talaga na pagisipan namin ng masama. Please explain! haha. Ganyan din kasi nagiging problema ko.

for nothing further explanation,  para malinis

kung loyal naman ang guy di na siya hahanap ng ibang girl na kachat or something basta walang pagkukulang ang bawat isa na di na kailangan pa punan ng iba.. pag may kulang wag sa iba hanapin. tsk

[bubbles_sandy]

^he posted a confession online about an incident wherein katabi niya crush and he said something stupid tapos andun crush niya (si girl). that was college days pa and send that link to the girl thru viber kasi unfriend niya na sa fb.
- may point is why relive the past and hide it unless he was trying to make pa cute again doon sa girl. i asked him to delete the girl sa lahat ng contacts niya.
@ichiro, sana man lang he could have told me about it if walang malisya talaga.

[minatay91]

this goes out to any guy talker.

How would you react to and WOULD you entertain your gay admirers who are generous?

[tough_guy]

@bubbles_sandy mas mabuting kausapin mo na lang siya na ayaw mo sa ginagawa niya at sana matigil na.

this goes out to any guy talker.

How would you react to and WOULD you entertain your gay admirers who are generous?

no, kahit ano pang ioffer nila, di ko kelangan ng pera nila.

[minatay91]

^ not necessarily pera, pwedeng mga gifts.. like shoes, cellphone

What would you say about guys na nagtake advantage nagpaasa nagentertain sa kanila just to get money or freebies?

[sacred cow]

What would you say about guys na nagtake advantage nagpaasa nagentertain sa kanila just to get money or freebies?

I think they're desperate