Unique (non-traditional, rebellious) Wedding

[j.adore]

Sis hanson15, baka dapat maging rebellious ka na as in wag mo sundun mga gusto nila wedding mo naman yan hehe

Ang kulit ng plans niyo sis pauleenaubrey! Sa La Mesa ba yung ceremony niyo? Super like ko yung wings

[ToughEmpress]

we will do the tree planting ceremony (sa halip na candle, veil and cords, we will use water, soil, and seedlings na nakalagay sa glass vases)  to symbolize the roots of our relationship, and the continued growth of our love, as we became each other’s family on that day.

This is a very nice alternative, sis! Re: Adult Event only, I really wish na ganito rin maging event namin. Siguro of all things eto lang ang hindi ko pwede insist kay bf kasi yung two Kuyas has their own children. Kaya no choice.

@j.adore: Wedding is in 2014 pa naman. She's not really that untrained naman. With around adults okay sya pero with children not so.

@Anyamcbeal: It feels to be liberated kasi on things na you know naman is acceptable pero not usually in the norms esp sa weddings. And probably this is one of the biggest decisions na kaming dalawa lang talaga ni bf ang involved and no other.  Thank you din sis for sharing unique things on your weddings!

[polar_bear]

hi mga sis, ang cute naman ng mga ideas nyo.. sana nung wedding ko din na execute yung mga nontraditional ideas ko..

like ayoko sana ng entourage.. gusto ko ako lang ang magmarch.. kaso ayaw pumayag ni hubby kasi magagalit daw yung mga relatives nya.

tapos gusto ko sana ng black and white na theme..dami naman kontra. 

ang naging nontraditional nalang namin siguro is yung wala kaming doves saka yung engagement ring ko hinde diamond, hello kitty...    Tapos yung wedding cake namin, instead na human couple ang topper.. ginawa naming bears. 

[maeka]

nakakainggit... naiinggit ako sa inyo kase sinunod nyo mga gusto nyo...from the first day na nagplan kami ng hubby ko ng church wedding lahat ng ideas ko opposite ng gusto nya...like ayaw ko ng wedding cake, instead gusto ko sana ng cheesecakes and pies...ayaw ko din sana sa couple's table kase gusto ko kasama ko sa table yung mga anak ko...pero syempre dami din kontra...

[caterpillar-girl]

Sorry OT! Just wanted to ask about the rectangular tables, since some of you here prefer that. My caterer and florist also suggested having rectangular tables, but they said that while long tables do look nicer, ROUND tables are better at facilitating conversation.

Which I kinda agree with, because I attended a wedding where the tables were rectangular, and for some reason, I got separated from my friends and I wasn't able to talk to them the whole night. At least during dinner. My fiance and I sat in front of people we didn't know. But I guess if everybody knows everybody at the wedding that shouldn't be a problem. Or should it? Any thoughts?

[shegie_285]

caterpillar-girl agree with your caterer, the round table facilitates discussion so mas maganda sa mga guests. the rectangular ang hirap makipag-usap, normally katabi mo lang makausap mo. kami ang rectangular lang is head table tapos lahat ng nasa head table nakaharap sa guests.

j.adore and hanson ayaw nga ni hubby ng money dance dahil para ngang nanghihingi ng pera. sa invites nga quiet kami about gifts, even if we live abroad, we didnt say we prefer money. walang preference na gift sa invites.  pumayag na din ako sa nanay ko and i asked the host to explain na lang the tradition of the money dance, na blessings to the couple. tapos dapat sa welcome letter namin we would say 'please bring a small note for the couple's prosperity dance - a Filipino tradition.' ayaw ni hubby isulat so nagulat na lang ang mga foreigner guests. after the wedding pinag-uusapan namin, they thought nga daw small note lang like Php100, nagulat daw sila kase paglapit nila may mga nakasabit na Php1,000. i learned from my dad recently he gave Php1000 bills to my relations para isabit. sabi ko kaya pala ang laki ng nakuha ko baka sa kanya lang galing! kung both pinoy kami, i wouldnt have money dance too.

j.adore actually looking back, i might have done the father-daughter dance. i guess moment din ng tatay ang wedding, daddy's girl pa naman ako. he's a seaman and recently their ship was here in Ireland, so bonding kami na kaming dalawa lang, dun ko naisip na sana nag father-daughter dance ako.

yes trivia game was about us.

hi sis anyamcbeal! really nice if you can make your wedding your own. i didnt have prenup too. i thought no trial make up din pero at the last minute i decided to have one. i had my trial make up the day before the wedding, sakto for the wedding drinks the night before the wedding. although hindi nya na inayos ang buhok ko masyado kase sabi nya makikita na ng guests mo itsura mo bukas.

sa mga ibang sisses, wag nyong pansinin ang mga sinasabi ng ibang tao. sa wedding namin, kami lang talaga ni hubby. although i listened to my mom din (because she's my mom) so may mga pinagbigyan na ako sa kanya. i was glad my mom just supported our decisions. ang pinakatanong niya lang is bakit boracay, ang layo! in the end, super enjoy naman sya na boracay.

[pauleenaubrey]

Ang kulit ng plans niyo sis pauleenaubrey! Sa La Mesa ba yung ceremony niyo? Super like ko yung wings

sis sa The Cabanas Grand Pavilion yung venue namin,located at Malolos Bulacan. hindi sya garden but our florist and caterer will turn it into a garden, with lots of branches and lights and flowers :-) summer kasi yung kaya gusto sana namin naka-aircon yung venue, hehe

[hanson15]

we won't be buying a new ring para sa wedding. Gagamitin natin yung silver ring na suot namin. Kasi naman if i would analyze everything mas may sentimental value yung ring na suot namin ngayon.
Than buying a new ring tapos ganda lang sa picture etc.

Mura ang ring sa saudi 21k gold na ring nsa 8k pesos lang isa. Nanghinayang si bf na wag bumili kaso sabi ko saka nalang kami bibili pag hindi na kasya tong ring namin. Pero maguusap pa kami mamaya about that.

[mooncake and leaves]

Sorry OT! Just wanted to ask about the rectangular tables, since some of you here prefer that. My caterer and florist also suggested having rectangular tables, but they said that while long tables do look nicer, ROUND tables are better at facilitating conversation.

 Any thoughts?

most of the weddings i attend, they use round tables. i found that no, at least from experience, i still ended up talking to just the ones i know. more than anything, i blame the seating chart. last wedding i attended, i think they grouped us by age, hoping we'd find something to talk about but we didn't. mahirap pa din to reach out to strangers. but i'd trust your caterer because they know more hehe.
i only really like rectangular tables because parang a moveable feast. kababawan lang talaga lahat ng preferences ko.

[ToughEmpress]

@caterpillar-girl: Siguro nga for intimate events lang ang rectangular tables which is ganun naman ang mangyayari sa wedding namin. Most of the guests eh magkakakilala talaga. We are planning nga sana na walang seating arrangements pero we'll see.

[hanson15]

totoo bang nakakahiya pag ninong at ninang ang gagawa ng mga candle, veil etc? Ayaw talaga pumayag ng mother ko na walang entourage. Kainis

papunta nga ata ako sa pagiging rebellious bride

[jhellie]

Wow! Very Nice Thread 

Share ko lang yung pagka rebellious ko nung wedding namin. Hihi!

Motiff:
Hindi ako mahilig sa super bonggang bongga na wedding. Basta ang gusto lang namin ni hubby is red and black pero gusto ko fun pa rin sya tignan at hindi gothic So what I did, hinaluan ko ng white.

Tagline:
Wala rin ako maisip na theme kase feeling ko mas mahal pag may theme. So what I did ulet, I have a tagline "Live Laugh Love" . Alam kong ilang beses na nagamit ito sa mga wedding pero sa wedding namin, gamit na gamit. hehe! At lahat ng guest nakita nila yun. After our wedding, nung nag post na sila ng mga picture sa facebook, natutuwa ako kase ang title ng album nila is our tagline Hanggang sa backdrop ginamit namit to.

https://fbcdn-sphotos-b-a.akamaihd.net/hphotos-ak-ash3/598923_164770937010547_1664952254_n.jpg


Invite:
Since I'm a web designer, ako na lang ang nag design mostly lahat ng kaya ko i-design sa wedding namin (invitation, table number, menu card, place card) Simple lang ang invite namin kase itatapon lang naman ito after makita e. Kame na rin ang nag print. 50 pcs. lang pra sa mga relatives at principal sponsors. The rest, ginawa ko na lang na e-invite at sinend sa kanila sa facebook.

http://artistic-works.com/wedding/invite/
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Bouquet and Boutonniere:
I don't like the usual fresh flower. Di naman ako fresh e. hahahaha! I won my flower sa w@w auction. I so love it Tapos pinagawa ko na lang ang boutonniere ni hubby sa kanila.
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Shoes:
Nainis ako kay MIL ko kase nagtatanong sya bakit daw red ang shoes ko at hindi white. Hello, red and black ang motiff namin hehe.
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Wine Toasting:
Dahil we love tanduay ice very much, ito ang ginamit namin sa wine toasting. Buti na lang may red sila kaya nag akma sa motiff namin. hehe.
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Cake Topper:
Dahil maloko akong tao, nag reflect yun sa cake topper namin. Ang tagal namin nagkulitan ng designer ng cake namin pra sa topper ko. Hahaha!

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Gowns:
Kinalat ko sa motiff namin ang mga kulay ng gowns ng mga abay. Marami akong nakita sa net na mga sample at inedit edit ko pra bumagay sa mga abay, flower girls at mothers ang mga damit nila.
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Grand Entrance:
Since ayaw ko yung usual na parang freestyle lang na sayaw at tuloy sa first dance lang kame ni hubby, sinabi ko sa kanya na mag sing and dance kame sa entrance namin. Medyo kakaiba rin ang entrance ng whole ento namin. Gumawa si hubby ng monicker sa mga guys ento kaya ang naisip ni Ms. Darlene, naka group ang entrance nila. Sabay sabay ang groomsmen, bridesmaids, secondary sponsor tapos yung moh saka bestman. At nakakatuwa dahil lahat sila game.
https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?v=10151308925949397

SDE:
Dinagdag namin to mga 1 month before our wedding. Kase sa totoo lang may pagkamahal ito. At hindi talaga kame nagisisi. Kitang kita sa vows namin kung gano ka totoo kame sa isa't isa.
https://vimeo.com/60915972

Save the date:
I won this on w@w auction din. Hindi din ito yung usual na pa keme keme na style. Yung sweet sweetan. Natutuwa kc ako dahil may story sya. Saka hindi din yung prang nagkakilala sila tapos bigla na lang may date ng kasal nila. hehe. Kame sa story, mag bf/gf na talaga. Na featured din kame sa Rebellious Brides
https://vimeo.com/58377774

Groom and Groomsmen moment:
Usually bride ang nag shine sa wedding, pero hindi nagpa awat si Hubby ko. Meron din dapat siya moment. tee hee!!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FNeQakd0tOk

Photobooth:
Ayaw ko rin nung usual na prang rectangular style na design. Buti na lang marami silang sample na design at may maiiwan pa samin na souvenir. Ako na lang nag design ng layout tapos ang maganda magnetic siya. Kahit ilagay mo sa ref hindi sya mag o-occupy ng malaking space I cut nila ito tapos mapupunta samin yung right part with their message.
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Even yung mga matatanda na appreciate yung wedding namin kaya mas lalo kameng kinilig. tee hee!!

Thanks mga sisters

[hanson15]

sis ikaw yung hindi mahilig na prenup sa w@w no? Saka photographer mo si JR Salonga 

Anyway mas fun para sakin yung mga non-traditional wedding. Ayokong mastress na sunod ng sunod sa nakagawian na wedding at ang boring din kasi. Tapos usually sa dami ng ritwal na ginagawa nakakapagod at alalahanin pa ni bride.

Jinujustify ko pa rin sa parents ko na hindi kami susunod sa traditional ones. Kasi naman kung titignan sa family namin yung mga hindi sumunod sila pa yung happily married /couple. Kesa sa mga sumunod sa ritwal na yan. So hindi effective ang ritwal sa family namin

For a change i won't follow them! Cheers

[jhellie]

Yes Sis Hanson ako yun! tee hee!! Natawa naman ako sa mahilig sa prenup. Pero oo, prang hobby samin ang prenup. hahaha!

Go for the gold sis! Kung ano yung gusto mo sa wedding mo, sundin mo. Basta approve kay h2b. Besides its your big day

sis ikaw yung hindi mahilig na prenup sa w@w no? Saka photographer mo si JR Salonga 

Anyway mas fun para sakin yung mga non-traditional wedding. Ayokong mastress na sunod ng sunod sa nakagawian na wedding at ang boring din kasi. Tapos usually sa dami ng ritwal na ginagawa nakakapagod at alalahanin pa ni bride.

Jinujustify ko pa rin sa parents ko na hindi kami susunod sa traditional ones. Kasi naman kung titignan sa family namin yung mga hindi sumunod sila pa yung happily married /couple. Kesa sa mga sumunod sa ritwal na yan. So hindi effective ang ritwal sa family namin

For a change i won't follow them! Cheers

[j.adore]

Sis ToughEmpress, I think pwede pa i-prepare saka on the day, just have someone look after them

Sis polar_bear, ang cute naman ng engagement ring mo!

Sis maeka, baka pwede compromise na lang kung magkakaiba ng gusto?

Sis caterpillar-girl, I think the shape of the table matters with respect to the theme. I think even with round tables, some people do get separated from those they know or don't know anyone at all. It will depend on how well you know your guests and who you would complement them with on seat plan.

Sis shegie_285, nabasa ko na pag magkaibang culture yung mga guests, need din explain beforehand yung parts ng program na hindi sila familiar at kung bakit meron. Hindi naman kailangan sa invitation dahil pwede din vocal lang ganon. Para daw maiwasan yung pagka-shock o kung meron man ma-offend.

Sis jhellie, ang cute ng wedding mo and site

[erich84]

I like the plan of sis simplybrilliant. 5 years civilly married and I opted to have a non traditional church wedding if marealize nami ang church wedding plan. Gusto ko mga ideas ng mga sisses here. Thank you sa updates and insights

[angelzero]

i enjoyed browsing www.rebelliousbrides.com. i also love looking at www.stylemepretty.com for rustic wedding details. yung mga madaling i-DIY.

i would love to get ideas and inspiration from this thread. i'm all for nontraditional details. i want people to describe my wedding as cute, unique and cool.

for my music mas type ko indie alternative kesa yung usual na love songs. for my gown, no beadwork on the dress and no veil please. for my shoes, black studded gladiator sandals and they should be flat.

wala pa kong naiisip na motif since mahilig ako sa colors, paiba iba gusto ko. sabagay matagal pa naman. brainstorming stages pa lang. glad to have stumbled upon this thread.

[caterpillar-girl]

Thanks for the comments on the rectangular tables, girls. Another thing about them daw is that they're space savers. Which might be handy for small venues with plenty of guests. Round tables occupy more space. Anyway thanks again and happy preps

[bluegintonic]

Hindi na uso ang masyadong traditional na weddings ngayon.Una hindi na practical,tapos hindi pa nagiging memorable kasi ho-hum na.Any wedding would be fun if it's not too religious,the ceremony takes too long...etc...etc.

Here in Aussie, your wedding can be as intimate and simple as possible-pwede nga rin non-religious eh.If it's a small wedding-why not do a breakfast ceremony, or a cocktail reception na lang para hindi kailangan sit-down meal.Or if your budget allows it, do a destination wedding-para ma narrow down niyo ang guest list and maeenjoy pa ninyo as newly weds and your guests ang lugar di ba?

I even saw a backyard BBQ and reception.Fun,hindi pa magastos!

As for wedding dresses, depende yan sa inyo kung ano ang theme at feel ng wedding na gusto niyo. Personally I like the simpler the clothes, the better.Think Audrey Hepburn's wedding dress in Funny Face.Simple pero rock! Ewan ko ba bakit pag sinabing wedding dress kailangan sayad sa sahig eh. Pwede short,kneee length or ankle length, lalo pag hindi naman formal ang wedding or destination wedding.Uso na rin colored gowns.

[ToughEmpress]

Sis Jhellie, I want to see the entrance nyo sana and your entou pero parang nakaprivate ang fb link. I love your giant paper flower, gusto ko rin sana nyan pero ang mahal. Try ko na lang muna i-DIY, if hindi kaya ng powers ko, mag fabric bouquet na lang ako. Thank you for sharing your ideas!