Am I too needy and clingy

[snix]

Hindi ko alam kung macclassify ba ako as clingy or just having some of my own issues..

Last year, nawalan siya work.. Before that, Shifting yung sched niya dati so kung kelan sila avail ng mga kasama niya dun lang sila lalabas.. on days na pwede niya ko masundo, at sundays off dun kami nagkikita..

Ng nawalan siya work, nasanay ako na asamin siya every week..

Ngayon may bago na siya work.. Fixed sched, good salary, sundays off.. 

I don't text him na maya't maya siya hinahanap.. I don't have a problem kung aalis siya kasama mga friends niya.. Magouting, uminom sige lang basta magsabi lang siya at magtext pag nakauwi na.. Keri lang.. Kasi alam ko mapagkakatiwalaan ko siya.. And i believe it's healthy in a relationship to have space and do things on your own..

Kaso ngayon halos every week na lang siya may lakad minsan twice a week pa.. Tapos may outing pa sila sa Laguna.. Kung dati wala ako pakelam, how come ngayon i feel hurt na umaalis siya ng wala ako at napapadalas? although may scheduled dates pa rin kami.. 

dahil ba nasanay ako ng months na wala siya work na kami lang magkasama? 

At the same time natatakot ako na baka sa sobrang enjoy niya kasama yung mga kawork niya ngayon hindi na niya maenjoy yung mga simple namin ginagawa. 

Or dahil ba naiinggit ako na lagi siya may lakad tapos ako wala and that he seems to enjoy his life while everything for me right now sucks though i'm trying to work on that. 

I tried coping with it by trying to go out with my friends kapag umaalis siya kaya lang hindi rin lagi available mga kasama ko..

Ayoko rin naman na magsasama dahil una hindi naman ako inaaya. Pangalawa, ayoko rin naman nun kasi gusto ko may time din siya on his own so What, I wonder, is my problem

Guys are welcome to share their opinions too.. 

[ohcmon]

Just let him be. Nasabik lang din siguro sa labas 'yan dahil nabakante from work at sa inyo lang kamo lagi nagsstay. Siguro, noon, kahit gusto niyang umalis with his friends, wala siyang means, kaya ngayon siya bumabawi.

Hindi ka naman dapat magtampo kasi may dates pa rin naman pala kayo. Buti sana kung puro barkada niya na lang kasama niya, at hindi ka na nabibigyan ng oras.

Maybe it's time for you sis to go out and have fun din like what your boyfriend does? Para hindi ka nakakaramdam ng ganyan.

[snix]

^Hi sis thanks sa reply..  Siguro nga ganun nasabik plus he has the means na dahil malaki na sweldo niya andflexible na sched..

Yun nga, i tried coping eith it by going out with my friends kaya lang hindi rin sila lagi available..

On days na wala siya, out with his friends, ako stuck sa bahay doing nothing kasi wala naman ako pera or hini available friends ko..

Iniisip ko lang din kasi kung saan ba nanggagaling yung nararamdaman ko.. ayaw ko rin naman siya pagbawalan lalo na nakikita ko masaya naman siya at wala naman ginagawang masama.. Hindi lang talaga ko makagetover sa nararamdaman ko ngayon na parang naiinis ako na nasasaktan sa madalas niyang paglabas..

[Len0523]

Sis, hindi ka ba nya iniinvite sa mga lakad nya? Di mo ba kilala mga friends nya?
Mahirap nga yan. Kung ako lang, dapat alam ko kung sino kasama kung trusted ba sila.
Kase kami ni boyfriend, bilang respeto sa relationship namin kaya siguro
pinapakilala talaga namin ang isa't isa sa mga friends.
Para atleast kahit umalis sya gumala sya, alam mo naman kung sino kasama
di ka rin siguro masyadong mag iisip at syempre baka isama ka pa.

[ohcmon]

^^ Sis, sorry ha, pero parang naiinggit ka sa social life ni boyfie. Parang ang gusto mo kasing mangyari, mag-stick kayo sa dati niyong routine na kayong dalawa lagi ang magkasama. Sabi mo hindi ka lagi makalabas kasi hindi available friends mo or wala kang pera, and that alone must frustrate you kaya naghahanap ka ng karamay. Si bf naman, on the other hand, nag-eenjoy with his friends. Syempre hindi mo naman siya pwedeng pigilan na 'wag lumabas dahil hindi ka makalabas. You two have lives of your own outside of the relationship.

Kung nag-aaya ka lumabas with your friends, lahat ba sila as in kahit isa lang walang available? If you don't mind going out alone, do it. Refreshing din 'yun mag-enjoy ka even without friends. If not naman, maybe you could find some new friends para may kasama kang lumabas. Dito lang sa GT, I'm sure you'll make lots.

Kung wala talagang budget, maghanap ka ng pag-uubusan ng oras. Find a new hobby, get a pet, read books, watch movies... Don't compare your life to your bf kasi magkaiba kayong tao. Hindi por que ganun ang takbo ng buhay niya, eh ganun na rin dapat ang sa'yo.

[snix]

@sis Len0523- Hi sis.. Pinapakilala naman niya kahit sa previous work niya..although ngayon isa pa lang nakilala ko, magkalayo na kasi lami ng work kaya bihira ko na siya makita during weekdays..puro babae mga kasama niya sa work and kinkwento niya lagi..actually hindi ako nagwoworry dun.. stuff like that mapagkakatiwalaan naman yan..

@sis ocmon- feeling ko rin sis kasi nasanay ako na kami lagi umaalis..i'm not supposed to compare pero ganun nangyayari.. Parang nalulungkot ako para sa sarili ko while he's having fun on his own.. Gisto ko rin na kapag nagkita kami marami ako ikkwento sa kanya hindi yung siya lang lagi may kwentong masaya para sakin..

Maliit lang kasi circle of friends ko sis.. Natatakot din ako na baka sa sobrang saya niya ngayon kasama bago niya friends, makalimutan na niya ko o kaya hindi na niya maenjoy mga bagay na dati namin ginagawa.. This has been getting to me mula ng magwork siya ulit.. Imbis na maging masaya ko para sa kanya nakukumpara ko sarili ko sa kanya at maddepress..

[Len0523]

^^ Sis, sorry ha, pero parang naiinggit ka sa social life ni boyfie. Parang ang gusto mo kasing mangyari, mag-stick kayo sa dati niyong routine na kayong dalawa lagi ang magkasama. Sabi mo hindi ka lagi makalabas kasi hindi available friends mo or wala kang pera, and that alone must frustrate you kaya naghahanap ka ng karamay. Si bf naman, on the other hand, nag-eenjoy with his friends. Syempre hindi mo naman siya pwedeng pigilan na 'wag lumabas dahil hindi ka makalabas. You two have lives of your own outside of the relationship.

Kung nag-aaya ka lumabas with your friends, lahat ba sila as in kahit isa lang walang available? If you don't mind going out alone, do it. Refreshing din 'yun mag-enjoy ka even without friends. If not naman, maybe you could find some new friends para may kasama kang lumabas. Dito lang sa GT, I'm sure you'll make lots.

Kung wala talagang budget, maghanap ka ng pag-uubusan ng oras. Find a new hobby, get a pet, read books, watch movies... Don't compare your life to your bf kasi magkaiba kayong tao. Hindi por que ganun ang takbo ng buhay niya, eh ganun na rin dapat ang sa'yo.

Ay tama ka sis! Nainspire ako dito. May napulot ako dito. Ako kase since magkasundo kami ni boyfriend na taong bahay lang, internet lang katapat namin solve na kami.
Pero napaisip ako dapat meron pa din kanya - kanyang buhay na magpapasaya samen. =)

[aquacharly]

You have to let go of the negative thoughts/fears coz ang pagbabad  sa ganyan does not do any good.
You will just get more stressed out, and your resentment builds up.
Do not worry about things you cannot control.
If he will change to your disadvantage, even if you worry 24/7 -- he will change.
   So, why waste time worrying?

Better you spend time thinking how you will advance your career so you earn more. 
Or, spend time on some hobby/activity that will widen your circle of friends.

Oo, sasabihin ng iba dyan --   easier said than done. But what, susuko na lang without trying?

[jaemi33]

You have to let go of the negative thoughts/fears coz ang pagbabad  sa ganyan does not do any good.
You will just get more stressed out, and your resentment builds up.
Do not worry about things you cannot control.
If he will change to your disadvantage, even if you worry 24/7 -- he will change.
   So, why waste time worrying?

Better you spend time thinking how you will advance your career so you earn more. 
Or, spend time on some hobby/activity that will widen your circle of friends.

Oo, sasabihin ng iba dyan --   easier said than done. But what, susuko na lang without trying?

agree with this. Just let it go. So far, I don't see any problem sa relationship niyo so why bother fixing it? lalo na sinabi mo na you are sure na wala kayong magiging problem when it comes to other woman. I think you are being an awesome and understanding girlfriend. Feeling ko yan rin ang nasa isip ng boyfriend mo and I bet he doesn't even know na nag iisip ka na ng ganyan about sa relationship ninyo. Just focus on uplifting your life. I know it's not going to be easy but start thinking about positive things. Sabi nga nila your thoughts become things. Libre lang naman ang positive thoughts diba?

[baliwsayo]

Best is to talk to your bf and tell him your fear para magkaron ka ng peace of mind.

[angelzero]

maybe you're just adjusting to the way things are going. if you decide to also go out while he's not around pwede naman kahit hindi available friends mo. get into a hobby or something, na kahit mag isa ka lang maeenjoy mo. kung ayaw mo magastos eh di sa bahay ka lang. just be busy with something. basta occupy yourself para di ka napag iisip ng kung ano-ano. anyway, as long as hindi nawawala yung time nyo ni bf para sa isa't isa wala namang dapat ikatakot.

[kilabot]

tanong ko lang how old is your bf?

[snix]

Too late for this mga sis.. we already broke up.. Guess i should have taken him being distant as a sign..  Parang naging option na lang ako to fit into his schedule. Baka kaya ganun nararamdaman ko ng time na yun kasi maghihiwalay na pala kami