Dating a Japanese

[annamironova]

Based from what i have observed sa mga japanese.
Mostly sa kanila sobrang dedicated sa work to the point na priority nila ang work
and then saka lang ang family..
Yung mga officemate ko na japanese mapa-bata or matanda grabe kung mag-overtime..
I wonder kung may social life pa sila..

Marami sa kanila na matindi magtarbaho kasi madami sa kanila ang nag-student loan. So after nila mag-aral, kailangan nila magtarbaho ng solid. Sabi saken ng "friend" ko mababa na daw ang 5 million yen na student loan. Kailangan nila magtarbaho para mabayaran yung utang nila sa university. Medyo naawa nga ako sa kanila e.  Parang mas masarahap pa ang buhay ng mga pinoy kahit di kasing yaman ng bansa naten yung bansa nila.

[vhanya]

Ganyan din sa US, angmahal din ng student loans nila kaya minsan nababayaran nila lahat yan on their 40s. Mas mura talaga cost of living dito.

[annamironova]

^ Plus ang dami pa nag-iisip na dream land ang Japan. -_-
Di pa talaga ako nakakapunta sa Japan, pero based lang sa mga nakwento saken ng mga Japanese students ko, mahirap ang buhay doon. Kailangan conform, confrom, at conform. Sobrang fast-paced pa naman doon, so kung hindi ka makahabol sa takbo ng society, olats ka. Ironic kase mabagal sila tumarbaho kase gusto nila sobrang sure sila na okay yung gawa nila, minsan di na maganda yun kase napapa-overtime sila dahil doon. Pwede naman nila tapusin ng maaga, pero natatakot sila na baka mali sila. Sobrang taas pa ng suicide rate sa kanila. Tapos pahirap pa ng pahirap ang economy nila dahil sa recession at sobrang babang birth rate.

Kung makikipag-date kayo or magpapakasal kayo sa Japanese, alamin niyo ekonomiya at kultura nila, at please, iba ang sinasabi ng anime sa real world. Pero ano nga ba ang alam ko? Di pa ako nabuhay doon ng matagal. Binabase ko lang naman paniniwala ko sa kwento ng mga students ko.

Anyway, malapit na yung date namen ng Japanese "friend" ko. Sana maging okay lahat. Heehee.

[beautywhite]

 Pag malapit kayo masyado sa sarili nyong family,kilalanin nyo muna ang Japanese na mapapangasawa nyo kung sakali. Di sila katulad ng mga Pilipino na ''extended family''. Mostly sa mga Pilipina nakakilala ko,kailangan nilang magtrabaho sa sarili para ipadala sa pamilya sa Pilipinas or nag aaway dahil sa pagpapadala ng tulong na pinansyal sa mga kamag-anak o pamilya sa Pilipinas. Independent silang tao kaya hindi sila masyadong pabor sa ganitong nakagawian.
99.9% ay hindi karinyoso ang mga Japanese."Sumetai'' ( cold) sila madalas.Mas affectionate at cuddly ang mga Pilipino.
Madalas sa mga kakilala ko,generous ang mga Japanese pag nanliligaw,pero pag asawa na ay nagbabago.

Again,hindi lahat ng Japanese ay sinasabing ganito but majority ganito ang nangyayari. Perhaps,dahil sa kultura.Ito ay base sa actual na experiences ng mga kaibigang kong mga Pilipina na involved, at presently may mga bf/asawa na Japanese.

[jaemi33]

This is an interesting topic for me kasi I'm half-Japanese/Filipino currently living in Japan but I've also lived in the philippines for quite long before I came here.

It's really flattening to read all the positive feedbacks dito and I agree on most of them. Workaholics talaga ang mga Japanese and super important talaga ang career nila. They are the type of people na ayaw ng mga mistakes and very hard-workers. Culture na talaga nila yan kasi it all came from the history na nung nag hirap yung Japan after World War, sila sila rin yung nag tulungan at inangat yung bansa nila. They don't really believe in individualism. Important talaga yung nag coconform sila sa society nila.

I have friends who came from a happy family with the same background as me, and I also have friends who came from a broken family. I think culture plays a part sa relationship but not a major one. Patience and love talaga.

Personally, I don't mind dating one but I guess they don't know how to handle a girl like me I'm very westernized na kasi so I don't really act like those submissive type of Japanese girls lol Marami parin talaga na guys na torpe (kung sa pinas) dito, so that's why there are more cases na yung girl talaga yung nag coconfess ng love. I  personally love Asian-American guys. Yung Asian looking but super westernized yung mind because I'm more like that as well, so I guess for my POV, it's really about meeting your own set of standard na mag memeet kayo pareho in the middle. If you understand and love Japanese culture, I don't think it would be hard to date a Japanese man. 

[Beng01]

off topic..

I am married, pero I want to date Robert Akizuki (his Masked Rider Black years).

He is my childhood crush, until now crush ko pa rin sya, not the old grown up one, but yung chararcter nya sa Masked Rider Black, kaka-inlove eh 

[annamironova]

50-50 talaga bayaran sa pag date? Pano kung sinabi niya na babayaran niya lahat, dapat ba i-insist ko paren na bayaran ko yung part ko?

27 siya, a bit westernized kasi sa UK siya nag-grad school.

Ok lang ba kung mag-kiss kame sa 1st date?

[vhanya]

^if he insists na babayaran nya lahat then fine, hayaan mo siya as long as it is also OK with you. honestly, kahit sino pa ka-date ko na nationality, i myself insist na 50-50 lols!

[annamironova]

^ Ok lang naman saken kahit ano, kahit 50-50, 100-0, or 0-100. Ang iniisip ko is kung ano yung iisipin mnya. Pag pumayag agad ako na sagot niya lahat, he might think na makapal ako. Pag di naman ako pumayag na siya magbayad lahat, baka maapakan ko yung pride niya. Dito kase sa Pinas, ayaw ng most guys na pabayaren yung ka-date nila because of the pride. Pero ewan, bahala na. -_-

[molybdenumstudios]

I must say that puro positive ang feedback dito when it comes to dating a Japanese guy, pero careful lang, baka mamaya you might not know he's a perv (not to generalize, though). Sexlessness kasi is a problem there so it's normal to see hentai art or even gravure idols.

[j_in_tokyo]

^^ true ka jan sis..maraming hentai na Japanese.
andaming nanghihipo sa train.

[molybdenumstudios]

Sad to say about the hentai people. :/ But anyways, do you know some Japanese men who are very respectful na almost zero percent ang hentai side niya? Hehe.

[séductrice]

My bf is half-Japanese and half-Filipino (Japanese mother, Filipino father). He was born and raised here in the Philippines pero nandun pa din yung pagiging seryoso at workaholic, must have been instilled by his mother. But at least, yung Filipino qualities ay umiiral pa din kaya ok na ok naman lahat, lalo na that he's mature (he's 18 years older than me)

[Respect]

How about dating pure japanese girls? naiisip ko si maria ozawa o si sailormoon eh.. 

[molybdenumstudios]

Bro Respect, Maria Ozawa is half-French Canadian. Ang mga pure Japanese ay sila Gakky, Keiko Kitagawa and hmmm...

- Koyuki
- Ryoko Hirosue
- Aya Ueto
- Karina
- Nozomi Sasaki

But yeah, consider na namin sila Maria Ozawa. xD

[glamorous_aisha]

i always hear scary stories about dating japanese girls from my guy friends. haha.
yung tipong akala mo conservative pero super possessive and obsessed pala. karamihan kasi super dependent.

the thing is i think mas swak ang japanese guy and filipina than filipino to a japanese girl. 
madami rin naman na okay na japanese girls since time is changing marami na ring independent.

[molybdenumstudios]

Actually sis glamorous_aisha, sexism is still rampant in Japan, kaya kapag Japanese girl, expect that they're being dependent because of society's dictates. Observation ko lang. Not sure kung clingy type din sila or what. But you're right about sa swak thing.

[glamorous_aisha]

^oo. that's why no japanese guy likes me here in japan. haha natatakot ata sila sakin kasi i'm not the submissive type.  at dedma ako sa dapat pacute at dapat damsel in distress ang babae dito para maging attractive.

[molybdenumstudios]

No wonder, naging IT GIRL nga si Yui Aragaki mainly because she's a wholesome celebrity by Japanese standards. The likes of Ryoko Hirosue, however, are often rejected because she has married twice (she's at the most disliked list (aramatheydidnt.livejournal.com and majide2ch.blogspot.com). But no one can deny how classy Hirosue is despite her personal life, unlike local Pinay celebrities who are kunwaring sossy pero mukha naman silang cheapipay.

[glamorous_aisha]

^kaya siya nasa most disliked list din siya kasi maingay siya at pranka type. karamihan sa nasa disliked list mapapansin mo mostly independent girls at mga kilalang kalog.