How much do you give to parents?

[chedz.03]

When i'm still single at sa pinas palang nagwowork di humihingi sila nanay ko samin since working pa si tatay nun. Madalas nga sila padin gumagastos samin. So ginagawa ko bumibili ako groceries every month at pasalubong na pagkain or treat ko sila sa movie house at lunch sa mall. Paminsan nag aabot din ako ng 1k or 2k then gifts sa mga important occassions. Dun din ako nakabawi kila nanay like buy ko sya ng clothes or kikay stuffs kasi alam ko di nya nagawa yun nung dalaga sya or even may asawa na since lagi nya inuuna ang family. Ganun din si tatay.now that i'm married at working abroad i send them monthy 14k then yung bro ko nakapag abroad din though di naman kalakihan sahod pinapadala din buong sahod pero si nanay ko di nya ginagalaw yung sa bro ko. Nsa bank lang then if need lang ng money pag may sira ang sasakyan saka lang sya kukuha ng pandagdag sa money ng bro ko. May konti pa naman kasi sideline si nanay bale si tatay pina-stop na namin sa pagwork abroad. It's time na nilang magkasama ng matagal since di nila nagawa yung during the time na kami inaasikaso nila. Nag iipon din ako ng mga pangpadala sa kanila at sa in-laws ko. This month papadala kami balikbayan box each side. Si hubby 12k naman pinapadala sa parents nya. Wala pa naman kami baby kaya di naman mabigat.
Di rin naman ako inobliga ng parents ko masaya ako na nakakatulong ako sa kanila ngayon. Maliit na halaga kumpara sa pag aalaga nila at sakripisyo dati sa amin.

[Lizi]

Curious lang ako, mga sis, magkano binibigay niyo sa parents niyo nung single pa kayo (kung married na kayo ngayon)? Every payday ba o tuwing special occasions lang? Nagbago ba amount when you moved out of home or ganun pa rin? for sure it will be a big help.

I'm an only child and both of my parents have stable jobs. We live quite comfortably naman, we could afford luxuries every now and then, pero confused ako how much to give my parents. They're not the type na magsabi ng fixed amount na kailangan bigyan ko sila, actually kahit nga hindi ako magbigay okay lang pero syempre nahihiya ako.

Inputs?

Hi sis, it's up to you. Kung mag-open up ang parents mo ng something na need mong bayaran, if kaya ng salary mo, okay lang. Pero if they don't say anything but still you insist, why not suggest na akuin mo yung expenses sa bills like elec. /water/telephone etc.

Nung nasa pinas pa ko nag-wowork and minimum salary lang ako I still give my mom even if small amount. Kasi that time abroad pa ang tatay ko pati ate ko din. So for me, hiya ko na lang, kahit pambili ng shellane nun kinocover ko na lang.

But now, retired na father ko nakakatanggap siya ng magandang pension, ate ko naman nag-asawa na but she still gives half of her salary kasi mother ko ang ginawa niyang allottee as per their agency's regulation na din kasi. Ganun yata pag sea base my mga allotee na tumatanggap. Yung bunsong kapatid ko naman is nag-wowork na din as auditor sa hotel.

Im now working also here in middle east, ngayon na maganda ang kinikita ko I give my mom 20% of my salary. Kahit married na ko I still give her kasi gusto ko. Iyon naman ang importante, at your own free will.

In the end, it's all up to you unless your parents say so.

Good luck on your decision sis.

[babythug28]

i dont give them cash. what i do is that me and hubby buy groceries enough for a two weeks or more. give them money as share namin sa meralco, PLDT, and tubig. ok na for them yun. parang hindi lang ako comfortable na magbigay ng cash

[goldengeese]

kahit married with a baby na ako, breadwinner pa rin ako ng pamilya namin since my parents are both retired and my brother is still a minor. mabigat din talaga sa bulsa at kung inipon ko na lahat ng sustento ko siguro milyonaryo na ko ngayon. pero walang regrets at all, walang bitterness, dahil alam ko naman na kaya ako binigyan ng maayos ng trabaho ng diyos dahil sa pamilya ko. he takes care of them through me.  isa pa, tagal din akong inalagaan ng mga magulang ko. hindi sila nagdedemand, hindi sila nang-oobliga, pero  syempre duty ko pa rin na alagaan sila.

pero yung binibigay ko a family ko, sarili kong pera. kaya wala namang dahilan magreklamo si hubby, hehe.

[nageinna]

im the youngest and the first one to get married. mga expenses sa bahay share yung two older sisters ko. they never require me naman to give or make a contribution sa kanila. dad is still working kahit past senior na siya, mom naman had an early retirement. every month, i would give her 2,000, kasi ayaw niya tumanggap samin ni hubby ng any amount. then minsan pag mag shopping kami, i would be the one to pay for her things. both sila ng dad ko ayaw tumanggap from us. but pag nag asawa na siguro both my older sisters, dun siguro kami magbigay ng fixed allowance to them.

[imyourangel]

^^ hehe, thanks, sis stormy. kung kaya lang talaga namin ibigay lahat sa parents namin e ibibigay namin...

I agree with you. Kung kaya lang talaga... They deserve it.

Anyway, I give 1k every pay day (nagstart lang this summer yung pagbibigay ko)

[brattyjen]

Hindi ko na kailangan magbigay lagi akong nahihingan.    Kasi like pandagdag sa pambayad ng kuryente.  My brother earns more than I do and naka air-con siya everyday.  Ako, rarely use the air-con para makatipid.  I live in another house.  Tapos pambayad sa electricity?  Parang mali, di ba?  So, laging in kind like food.

[strawberrypep]

When i was single, wala ako maibigay kasi ngaaral ako. I worked part-time so half ng salary ko binibigay ko, although ndi ganun kalake. When i got married, my hubby was generous to give my parents monthly allowance kasi hindi pa ako mkpgbigay (still a student). nabibigay din namen is equivalent to 12k a month; hindi naman obligation mgbigay but of course tulong na din yun sa kanila although both my parents have stable jobs. Msarap lang sa pkiramdam na kahit papano nakakatulong sa parents for all their sacrifices.

[Marin]

None, nung wala pakong work nala-pension pa ako hehe. Both are still working and are earning way better than me

[Superjoie]

20% of my net pay.

[0118999]

Hindi ako nagbibigay pero since I started working sagot ko na utility bills namin + groceries. Recently sinagot ko rin everyday gastos ng younger sibling ko, saka mga biglaang gastos sagot ko rin yan. My father still works pero inaako ko yung keri ng sweldo ko. Pero kami required ng parents ko magbigay.

Oldest sibling ko sends us money from abroad pero hindi ginagalaw nakalagay lang sa savings.

[mhy_pie03]

I pay some of the utility bills. Treats my mom most of the time and buys her stuffs she likes. 

[choco_banana08]

honestly ngyon wala pa, finufull amount ko kceng bayarang [textspeak!] debt ko. ayoko na ng utang!!! haha

[gorgeousgem]

Nung single ako at working abroad 10k monthly allowance ng parents ko then nagpapaaral pa ako sa youngest brother at yung iba pang gastusin sa bahay na hindi inaasahan like pag nagpapagawa ng jeep pag nasisira. Hindi naman ako obliged na sumuporta but then para sa akin its my way of pasasalamat sa lahat ng hirap na dinanas nila mairaos lang kami. Now na may asawa na ako at SAHM meron pa din sila 3K monthly plus 3K birthday gift plus 3K christmas gift at mga pasalubong pag umuwi kami ng province.  Si hubby naman ganun din sa parents nya pero 5K monthly yung sa inlaws ko which is ok lang sa akin. Kaya alamost wala din natitira sa amin but ok lang kase masarap sa pakiramdam na nagbibigay sa magulang

[isa.v00]

Hi sis, it's up to you. Kung mag-open up ang parents mo ng something na need mong bayaran, if kaya ng salary mo, okay lang. Pero if they don't say anything but still you insist, why not suggest na akuin mo yung expenses sa bills like elec. /water/telephone etc.

Im now working also here in middle east, ngayon na maganda ang kinikita ko I give my mom 20% of my salary. Kahit married na ko I still give her kasi gusto ko. Iyon naman ang importante, at your own free will.

I agree with this advice... I remember watching somewhere before that you can give any amount that you're willing to give. If they ask for a certain amount and you can give it, then do. What's most important is that you're sincere about it. Our parents spent more money (plus time and effort) on us while we were getting older so we should pretty musch do the same for them once we become mature enough...

[mrsmarilopez]

I agree with this advice... I remember watching somewhere before that you can give any amount that you're willing to give. If they ask for a certain amount and you can give it, then do. What's most important is that you're sincere about it. Our parents spent more money (plus time and effort) on us while we were getting older so we should pretty musch do the same for them once we become mature enough...

Mabuting bata ito... He he. I'm a mother of 3. Yung isa college na while yung 2 naman ay bata pa... My husband's an OFW. Natutuwa lang ako isipin na one day ay makakatulong na rin yung daughter ko sa mga gastusin. Like what most of you said here, hindi naman obligated na magbigay pero parang masarap lang sa pakiramdam na nakaktulong yung anak mo sayo, kumbaga ay bumabawi kahit wala namang dapat ibawi. Tsaka yung asawa ko na OFW, parang yung dad mo^. Laging sinasabihan ang mga anak namin na hindi nila kailangan bumawi pero alam ko na maaappreciate rin naman nya pag nilibre sya ng mga anak nya. Ha ha ha ha

[ayami]

Gusto ko na ring simulan sana to, kasi may work na yung asawa ko. Sa parents niya malamang hindi kailangang bigyan lol parehong may work tapos ang lalaki pa ng suweldo pero ang mom ko mukhang dapat bigyan, aside sa pension lang ng dad ko nakukuha niya at yung income niya sa boarding house, pinapakain din kami at nakatira kami with her. Sagot ng inlaws ko yung kuryente, so balak ko starting next month, magbibigay na kami for grocery and Manila Water.

[Ms.Practical.88]

Ako mga sis I'm giving my mom 10k/month, 2k/month for my sister's allowance and another 2k/month for their medical insurance kaya all in all ang fix monthly na share ko sa household namin is 14k/month + kapag may special occasions ako din. 1 school year nalang and graduate na yung sis ko kaya may makakatulong nako. hehe

[grace0619]

Since I just got married, my husband and I haven't talked about it yet... But when I was still single and working, I used to give my parent's about 10% of what I earned... I'm sure tataas yun since 2 na kami ng husband ko na magbibigay ngayon. Will update pag napag-usapan na namin.

[gracita13]

me im giving my mom 20k monthly nung pinapaaral ko pa kapatid ko now na graduate na just last month lang siguro 10k na lang at kapag nakapag work na si bro baka babaan ko ng kunti we just got married at ubos ang savings! need na mag ipon para handa if ever ibigay na ni God si baby namen