Girl to Girl Relationships Part V :)

[pumpkin13]

^Hmmm. Does she talk to them about you? Kasi there must be a reason for them not liking you, and if miscommunication or misunderstanding lang yun, dapat linawin nya sa kanila since sya yung nakakausap. Does it affect your relationship or ikaw lang? Talk to your girlfriend since friends nya yun. Unfair naman na ayaw nila sayo tapos di mo alam kung bakit. Pero if it's not a biggie in the relationship, yaan mo na lang muna sila. Baka insecure or something.

[Gracianas]

^ Well, ganito kasi yan. Everytime na nandito siya samin, ayaw niyang ipapaalam sa friends niya. And nagagalit daw yung friends niya kapag kasama ako kasi ang labas eh parang sobra na daw kasi. Sobra na daw ang effort ni girlfriend for me siguro, parang ganun. 

Recently ko lang nalaman na ayaw ng friends niya sakin. Nito lang anniversary namin. Napakasakit nga eh. Pero ngayon, di ko nalang iniisip kasi hindi rin naman makakatulong sa relationship namin. Pilit ko nalang kinakalimutan.

[tenshi26]

Hi

Thanks for the response and sorry for the late reply. Medyo okay na siya ngayon kasi palagi ko siyang pinaprangka tapos pag inuutusan niya ako inaaway ko siya. Pansin ko lang lately hindi na siya masyadong pala utos sa akin. Pero palagi parin kami nag aaway sa ibang bagay ganito ba talaga to? I mean hindi naman ako bago sa g2g relationship.. Medyo immature kasi siya she's 24 and I am turning 29.

[akosimaiatot]

hi just to give you a breif details about my story, I'm already separated and have 2 kids na , I'm in a 4 years LDR with a brit guy until I met this girl ,she is a leasbian but not the butch type becasue she have long hair and she's pretty too, she just ended her 6 years relationship (3 years live-in) when i met her, I thought that I'm curious about this kind of thing so i make patol na rin until i noticed that I'm really having fun and start falling for her. its like meeting someone who has another part of you..to be honest i never imagine myself falling for a girl kasi I know that I am straight (errrrr...)ok, so me and her get things seriously, she spends her weekends with me, met my kids and my family who is clueless about our relationship, I even ended my 4 relationship with my brif bf just to be with her as in ganoon ako kaseryoso and ganoon ko na sya kamahal. I see myself with her in the long run we even have plans to live together but here is my prob:
1: I don't know how to open up with my family about my relationship with her, its not that nahihiya ako kaso I'm married for 10 yrs. and have kids for crying out loud! hindi ko alam paano ako magsisimula sabihin na after years and years or my existence i just found out that I am gay

2: My gf plans to have a kid someday, which is ok with me kasi I'm a mother and i know the happiness the kids can bring, I want her to have someone na magaalaga sa kanya pag tanda nya kaya supportive ako but the thing is..she wants to do it in a natural way, kaloka! I can't imagine the feelings I'm having. thinking that she will be having s** with a guy. I don't know if I'm jealous or something ,maybe I'm scared, scared na baka magbago isip nya and iwan nya ako..IDK what to do guys pls enlighten me TIA!

[catblox]

Hi! Thanks for opening up to us. I think what you're doing is brave.

1: I don't know how to open up with my family about my relationship with her, its not that nahihiya ako kaso I'm married for 10 yrs. and have kids for crying out loud! hindi ko alam paano ako magsisimula sabihin na after years and years or my existence i just found out that I am gay

Ok lang po na you feel confused with how to open up, kahit nga nahihiya ka ok lang esp since we've been brought up to perceive same-sex relationships as weird. Siguro pinakaimportant to open it up with your kids. One kid of a lesbian friend has been so loving and accepting of her mom na sobrang nakaka-inspire: http://lifestyle.inquirer.net/174235/lgbt-community-comes-out-for-love. Wala po akong anak but anak din tayong lahat. If our parents go to us with a big reveal and we know that they are sincere and have showered us with love, it'll be natural to respond with respect na may confusion. Be calm, certain and loving, and your kids will respond well. Explain ka lang tuwing they look confused (even if they don't say anything).
About our parents naman, eh medyo ibang usapan. hehe. Dpende yun sa relationship nyo. Mukha ngang magugulat sila sa yo kasi you were married and have kids. Ready ka lang sa response. Pwedeng magalit or magdrama. Nagalit yung mom ng gf ko when she came out (girl na girl kasi yun so they hadn't seen it coming). Hindi sila nag-usap ng matagal, one year yata. Her Ate only started looking at me when I talk to her this year (after 8 years). Parents ko naman eh already knew, I just needed to say it, haha.

2: My gf plans to have a kid someday, which is ok with me kasi I'm a mother and i know the happiness the kids can bring, I want her to have someone na magaalaga sa kanya pag tanda nya kaya supportive ako but the thing is..she wants to do it in a natural way, kaloka! I can't imagine the feelings I'm having. thinking that she will be having s** with a guy. I don't know if I'm jealous or something ,maybe I'm scared, scared na baka magbago isip nya and iwan nya ako..IDK what to do guys pls enlighten me TIA!

Lol. Ayan na!!! Haha, I'm happy you guys are talking about this na. Siguro, just let her know your fears and see that she doesn't just dismiss them (wag naman mag-away kayo). Who knows, she's probably scared too. Mahaba-habang usapan yan. If you want sis, you can go through couple's counseling para ma-process nyo ng maayos yung mga nararamdaman nyo.

[genfinity]

Good day, i'm a typical girl who likes many but love only few, i don't know how to start this .. I have a GIRLFRIEND , yes girlfriend  she was my crush last April , i don't know how it all came down to this , we texted all day , hangang sa we decided na magkita , swimming with my friends , at first it's super awkward , parehas kami babae ee.. wala pang pansinan nun hangang sa siya na yung gumawa ng paraan para madalas kami magkasma at magkita, sinusundo niya ako with her bestfriend sa bahay just to hang out.. alam ko biro biro lang nung una pero ngayon hindi na  we're both serious na .. We shared great moments, I do silly things just to make her laugh, ang sarap lang ng feeling na napapasaya ko siya.. Nag-absent nga din siya for two weeks para lang mkasama ako kase pupunta na ako ng manila to work.. Sobrang nag-eenjoy siya kasama ako, i can feel that , parang mas mahal na nga nya ako ee .. di ko alam kung pano yun nangyare.. Ngayon nandito ako sa manila, working, bago ako pumasok tumatawag siya, then pag-uwi ko ng gabi 10 to 2 or 3 am magkausap ulit kami.. LAgi kami nag-iiyakan coz we miss each other so much.. The problem is madalas wala na kami mapag-usapan , pag sinabi kong text or mamaya nalang ulit she gets mad at sasabihin nyang nagsasawa na ako o may kausap siguro akong iba.. I Love Her So Much and i don't want to lose her.. Alam ko one day may magbabago , parehas kasi kaming babae , it's just a matter of when  at kung sino ang mang-iiwan..

Sorry ang gulo , first time kasi 

[catblox]

^ i'm proud of you sis i hope everything works well for you.

[catblox]

happy holidays din!

sabihin mo na lang at least for practice hehe. the more you tell people, the easier the next coming out becomes. para sa 'tin kasi di matapostapos ang pagcome-out unless you really dress like a guy. lol.

medyo regret ko rin kasi yan kung bakit in all my previous work di ko na lang ipinagsigawan  dati kasi teacher ako so bawal tlaga siya malaman ng students because they might pull out of their enrollment; i could lose my job. pero ngayon, alam na ng buong office and it feels good. kung hindi naman trabaho ang nakasalalay, OUT na sis!!!!   

[beachpatrol]

Paano kayo nagsabi sa family na may gf kayo? I read Shakira Sison's article recently about the coming out letter, so was wondering how you did it?

[SexyHenessy]

Nakakatuwa naman makabasa ng ganitong thread.

Kami ng girlfriend ko, 4 years and 3 months na. (and counting!)
Open kami sa mga family namin, maliban nalang sa mga tita niya kasi INC sila.
Ako na din ang nagsabi na limitahan lang niya, kasi ang alam ko, may katungkulan yung parents niya sa INC, so baka magkaroon pa ng problema pag may nagsumbong sa INC about us.

Happy naman kami, sobra. Nag-aaway din, minsan madalas, minsan bihira.
Kung sino ang may mali, sya ang nag-aapologize, kasi nakuha na niya yung ugali ko na tahimik lang pag galit. Dati kasi nagger un. >_< Pero ngaun, kalmado na.

The best way we handle our relationship, give and take lang. Hati sa lahat ng expenses, pero pag walang pera yung] isa, sagot muna nung meron. Minsan nga Yin-Yang kami eh. Pag swerte ako, malas sya. Pag malas ako, swerte sya. Pero magaan pa din ang buhay kasi magkasama pa din kami sa hirap at ginhawa.

Marunong din kami mag adjust sa gusto ng bawat isa. For example, nagcrave ako today sa pizza, kakain kami. Sa mga susunod naman, kung ano gusto niya, un naman ang gagawin o kakainin namin.

Sex? Hihi. We never fail to satisfy each other naman. May mga sex fantasy din kami, lagi din namin niddiscuss. As in open na kami about everything. Before kasi pahapyaw ko lang nababanggit yung fantasies ko pero now, may time pa na sya na itong nag bbrought up. And yes, na-try pa nga namin twice. Unfortunately, hindi namin naenjoy kasi kulang sa stamina yung guy. Haha. I'm talking about threesome (since pareho kaming may experience sa guy, bifemme po kasi kami pareho, walang butch)

Minsan nga lang sobra sya sa pagiging family oriented nia. Hindi ko naman sya pinagbabawalan, madalas pa nga ako nagoorganize ng outing with her family. Minsan din ako pag nagpapaalala na magpadala ng pera sa parents niya. Kaso last time napaiyak ako, kasi parang nagsabi ako na gusto ko mamasyal ng kaming dalawa lang. Kaso bigla sya nag assume na ayaw ko daw isama yung family nia. Kaya ang sakit lang, kasi ako pa nga itong nag eentertain most of the time sa family nia pag bumibisita samin. Kaya naiinis ako kung bakit pumasok yun sa isip nia. Ang gusto ko lang naman makapamasyal kami uli, kasi last time na lumayo kami, 2014 pa ng january.

Pero nung nakita nia ko umiyak, panay na din apologize nia. Tapos bumabawi na sya sakin. Later nga papasyal after ng work ko at after ng school niya, manonood kami ng ff7.

Dati, mabilis ako sumuko. Pero once talaga na nameet mo na yung someone worthy to keep holding on, lalaban at lalaban ka pa din. Im not saying na perfect ang relationship namin. But I'm so glad na nainlove ako sa kapwa ko babae.

[spinnn]

Hmmm.. just a curious question. How do you guys deal with "uncertainties". I mean, yung partners niyo ba is fully committed sa ganyan relationship? Hindi ba niya naiisip na magkaroon ng own family and kids din. I don't know if I'm making sense and hindi ko din gusto makaharm. Curious lang. Sana may makasagot kahit malabo ang question ko. Hrhe

[p|nksKye]

i'm curious, too. well, i had a gf back in college and we were on-off for quite some time. it was very serious. i'm married now. but i still think about what my life would have been like if i lived with a girl. not necessarily my college gf. now, i'm talking with my hs girl-crush on a semi-regular basis. purely platonic though. is that still curiosity?

[yourCONSCIENCE]

@p|nksKye - I am not an expert, but I have been curious about both sexes for almost 2 decades now. If it's platonic (not sexual). It definitely is not curiosity. Maybe you just miss the feeling or just have the "what ifs" . Curiosity is if you have the urge to have sex with a girl. Pasensiya na sobrang prangka. Sana hindi ako ma ban

[BicuriousGS]

Hi mga sis! Been wondering where are you sisterakas! Sis px17, sis Blog, sis clumsish, sis immarockstar.

[p3ntium4]

Tahimik na dito..
Wala na ba active?

Girls how do u handle sa mga may partner na may anak?

[BicuriousGS]

Sa mga partners na may anak, dapat pag pinasok nya at alam nya may anak partner nya, prepared sya na priority pa din yun anak syempre at dapat tangap nya yun at di yun pag start ng away nila para pag selosan. Pero yung may anak syempre di nya dapat ipaparamdam sa partner nya na dapat pag selosan yun mag allot din sya ng time para sa partner nya. Iba yung time for both of them at iba yung time na kasama nila yung anak para may bonding. In my opinion lang yan. Baka may mag pm na naman sa akin tanungin ako about it. 😏 Cool lang tayo dito ha, wala dapat tukso.

[Rainbowbrite888]

Who is active here and still single?

[ms.bumbay]

Im into g2g relastionship and mag 8 months na kami. Mas kampante ako pag girl ang partner ko.

[sensi]

im straight but very curious. i know mas nakakaintindi mga ladies than guys when it comes to relationships coz syempre
girl din sila. but sometimes i like to have that someone who understands my everything and who is patient enough:(

[BicuriousGS]

I found this teleserye, A rich man's daughter. Eto nakatuwaan ko, puyat na ako kapanuod. In fairness ok story, nabuhay na naman natutulog na berde kung dugo. Dami nag flash back tuloy na memories. Jekyll and Hyde personality na naman ako.