It is not wrong to pray. Kaso I think the dilemma of cheated wives is aasa pa ba sila or do they have to move on? The reason why we have saints and martyrs is because they have this outstanding ability to endure pain and suffering for so long as they can. Kaso hindi lahat capable nito - may iba nag-aadjust by committing suicide or nasisiraan ng bait or nagkakaron ng sayad by believing that God can give miracles while they succumb themselves to unending suffering. We also do not want this. We need to spare each and every person of pain.
^ms. Girltalker who is your God really? My God is a God of hope. My God is in control of everything. My God is not dead. He is alive and He knows what is happening in my life. My God is the one who gave me peace and joy in the midst of suffering, pain and trials.
Philippians 4:6-7
Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.
Those that cannot endure the trials that life gave them are those people who do not have Jesus in their life.
So parang ang hirap ng magpray pero magmove on? Kasi praying na sana a miracle happens na umayos ang loko lokong hubby ni xhien, somehow umaasa ka pa. So kung umasa ka, here goes the cycle of disappointments, being delusional and all. So for a cheated wife to keep herself sane, she has to move out from the situation. She cannot just commit the "sin of omission" by consenting to the wrongdoings of her husband. She also has live a normal life, earn a decent living, provide a safe living environment for the sake of her son.
you are not umaasa sa asawa mo, pero sa Diyos ka umaasa, na siya ang may kakayahan na magbago ng asawa mo. Kung sa asawa mo ka lang aasa na magbabago yan, mabibigo ka, kasi hindi siya Diyos, tao siya, kagaya natin, hind perpekto, nagkakamali. Sa Diyos ka lang dapat umasa.
Cheated wife? Sino ba ang cheated wife? Si sis xhien ba? Wala pa naman siyang pruweba na nag-cheat ang asawa niya. Assumption lang niya.
What is sin of omission by the way? I'm not a Catholic.
I don't know who Lori is pero I really don't understand why women is always to blame in relationships. Kahit gano ka na katino at gaano katarant*do ang lalaki, babae parin ang may mali?
She is not blaming all women. She is just saying few realize that they are the one keeping their marriage from all these wonderful things. A woman is also responsible for her part in the marriage. If you would just read the marriage thread eh ang babae dito puro reklamo sa mga asawa nila. They are blaming the men for their marriage. Hindi nila nakikita na sila din may contribution kung bakit ganon ang marriage nila. Oo ang lalaki may mali din, pero ang babae may mali din. At wag dapat nagtuturuan kung sino ang tama o mali. Dapat i-admit ng bawat isa ang kamalian nila at magbago. Hindi yun reklamo ng reklamo.
Yes, no nagging. Pero a marriage involves 2 people. You cannot just have one person in control ALL the time. Siguro puede kung responsible yung tao. Pero kung sira nga ang *lo, basagulero at lasenggo, sya parin ba ang gagawin mong in control ng asawa nya at mga anak? Baka wala silang makain nyan.
Our God is a God of order. He created marriage. So he mandated order in marriage. He gave the head to the husband. That doesn't mean that woman is inferior. The woman has another role. She is to submit to him and respect him. She is to be the nurturer of the family. She has a very important role also. One man blogger said that for a man to be a man you need to give him authority and responsibility. You should not cut him in the knees and give him only responsibility he will become a slave or authority only he will become a tyrant. Give him both authority and responsibility and he will become a man. Nowadays women are doing it all, being very efficient that they are emasculating and infantilizing the men in their lives. If your husband is "lasenggo" then ask yourself what are your contribution to his behavior? A man will not become "lasenggo" in an instant. Sometimes it became a habit of him to suppress his pain or because he is feeling worthless because his wife is doing it all and treating him like dirt.
I don't think husbands should be controlled. Kaya nga may tinatawag na free will. Kaso this free will is practiced by both husband and wife. Pareho silang tao, hindi naman katulong lang si wife. They are 2 individuals na bumubuhay ng pamilya so both should be equally respected.
Actually in marriage the wife more often than not wants to control her husband. This is my greatest battle actually. Control. God would always convict me of my controlling attitude towards my husband. I grew up in a very feministic environment where women reigns and controls so this is always where I'm learning most. To be submissive and respectful. I agree that both should respect each other but actually the exhortation to respect is given to the wife. I think husband know how to respect because that is the language of men. And again they may be 2 individuals na bumubuhay ng pamilya pero sa marriage may order. Ang lalaking asawa ang head. That is the God given role for husbands.
This is BS. Sino mang asawa na naloko na ng hubby nila sabihin mong magsmile sa asawa nila. Kung kaya pa nga nila di umiyak eh.
That is for women in general, not just for women who were cheated on by wives. Pansin ko lang Ms. Girltalker pag about sa panloloko medyo sensitive ka? Sana wag mo masamain pero napatawad mo na ba ang ex husband mo? Pansin ko lang sa mga post mo parang may bitterness ka pa din. I hope you don't mind me saying this.
Sorry sis Langley, I cannot help but react, kasi sobrang opposite ito in what I believe. Don't get me wrong. It is always best to honor your husband, that is, if he respects you. Pero kung binatok-batukan ka na, alangan naman i-honor mo pa sya?
It's okay Ms. Girltalker I know that most will not agree with my point of view. But I will always believe in marriage. I will always believe in God that He can restore people and marriages.
Anyway if you just honor your husband because he respects you then your love is conditional. Haven't we said for better or for worse? Till death do us part? Saka kung mabuting asawa ka babatok batukan ka ba ng asawa mo?
