No sex before marriage--- uso pa ba?

[akthung]

hirap kasi madaming low level na tao

na pag nalaman na ganun ang set up niyo

or virgin ka pa, eh gagawin kang subject ng biro

may friend akong babae noon, lagi siya nabibiro sa opisina

kaya madalas mag emote kasi indirectly na prepressure...

on the other hand...

minsan, hindi mo talaga mapipigilan ang forces ni mother nature.

in some rare instances, monk and nun nga na itinapon sa malayo (religions mission), nagkaka "sala",

yun pang hindi monk and nun.

[ragnar_danneskjold]

baka masyadong minamadali ng guy yung girl kaya ayaw. there are no frigid women, only clumsy men.

Hey, thanks for bringing that up! Ganu katagal dapat kayo para masabing "hindi minamadali" si girl? Sapat na ba ang 5 years?

[merrie]

newbie...wala sa minamadali yan sa ginusto ni gurl yan 

[ragnar_danneskjold]

^explain please...

[merrie]

whether matagal or bago palang, its girl decision kung pede na, if she feel hindi pa pwede hindi pa pwede, you can feel it naman based in her reaction pag nagparamdam ka ng konti  

[junepets]

fair enough, i'd just assume she was you. LOL!

lol.. not me.. definitely noh.. wahahaha..

owel... hanga lang din kasi kami sa bf nya,... nakakapaghintay.
true enough... andyan lang SILA...

[jaemi33]

Joining the convo! haha

I think girls have the last say to this naman right? pag ayaw mo at hindi ka pa ready, guys can't force you to do it or else it's going to be a crime lol I think sex is also an important part of a relationship but it's definitely not everything. Sex would only be great kung pareho kayo committed and ready for it, hindi yung isa lang yung may gusto.

Let's say I'm like you who is just taking care of myself. I don't get pressured by people around me to do it. Hindi naman sa nag hihintay ako before marriage but I guess I just have't met the right person. Sabi ng mga female friends ko torture daw ako sa mga kalalakihan LOL I know when the guy I'm dating is habol lang ang katawan ko and that just definitely proves that he is not worthy at all :p

Take care of yourself and I'm sure the right guy, who will take care and respect you, will come

[Red Rack 21]

bro  ragnar_danneskjold, i agree that there is no specific timeframe.actually in my pov,  the quality of your  relationship will be the one to tell when a couple could do it na or hindi pa . if you're into a mediocre relationship matagal but if the two of you are so in love and intense hehe baka kami pa mainip at magyaya sa guy.

[ragnar_danneskjold]

@RedRack21: that makes sense. it's like heat pala talaga. the hotter, the faster it takes to boil water. or in this case, the faster it is for your girl to undress. lol. thanks!

[|:AyemZia:|]

just wanted to share my POV...

for me, si girl pa rin ang may last say kung dapat na bang may mangyare o wala. i have a friend na umabot sa age na 27 na virgin kase talagang super maingat siya at matindi ang panata nya na hindi nya isusuko ang bataan kahit naka-ilang bf na siya. pero dumating yung time na sobrang na-inlove siya sa isang guy na naging bf nya naman at ayun, sa kabulagan sa pagmamahal, naibigay nya tuloy. shempre after nun saka siya nagkaron ng doubts kung seseryosohin siya nung bf nya. unfortunately, naghiwalay din sila.

pero honestly, hindi ako naniniwala na wala ng guy na magtityagang mag-antay na maging ready yung babae pagdating sa s*x. agree ako dun na kung mahal ni guy, walang imposible at hindi siya maiinip maghintay.

[anon]

Curious lang ako...

sa panahon ngayon... pag meron ba karelasyon... dapat meron rin mangyari? o uso pa ba ang no s*x until maging mag-asawa kayo?

so totoo lang... NBSB ako... isa sa mga takot ko yun... na kapag nakipagrelasyon ka... parang dapat meron rin ganoon "ganap" (hahaha, ano raw?) paano if ayaw mo... so hiwalayan na? kase mga lalake ngayon parang ang aactive... kelangan ba maghanap rin ako na virgin na lalake para di ko maging problema? eh ang tanong meron pa kaya yun sa age range ko??? hehe

salamat sa mag-rereply.

wala naman sa uso yan eh. it will be between you and the guy. if sex lang habol nya, then he's not worth it.

[GreenArcher]

it really depends on the couple whether they are both ready for it or not. You cannot force it dapat talaga maramdaman niyo na time na and ready na kayo. Others do it because of lust like ONS and ganun mali kasi its not love. Dapat you both love and its true mararamdaman yun kahit hindi pa kasal sometimes the love you feel with your partner during the act is what keeps you strong kahit may manggulo or problema it will keep you together kasi both of you felt that you were a whole being then you both build on that to have a stronger relationship

[argento]

If ayaw pa ni girl May PSP naman 

[Girltalker2]

so totoo lang... NBSB ako... isa sa mga takot ko yun... na kapag nakipagrelasyon ka... parang dapat meron rin ganoon "ganap" (hahaha, ano raw?) paano if ayaw mo... so hiwalayan na? kase mga lalake ngayon parang ang aactive... kelangan ba maghanap rin ako na virgin na lalake para di ko maging problema? eh ang tanong meron pa kaya yun sa age range ko??? hehe

Para sakin, intimacy can just follow after getting to know each other, being familiar and comfortable with each other. If you are not comfortable, you should never agree to intimacy. Ganun lang naman yun. So nasa maturity mo yun kung ready ka na (go back to my earlier post nalang para di ko na ulitin here  )

Ito lang gusto ko rin idagdag -

It seems for now, while being an NBSB, just enjoy your singlehood. Mingle and learn. But you don't need to find a BF or experiment on sex just for the sake of it. You can learn through talking to your girl friends, sis or possible mom (awkward! hehe) etc

Ang mas katakutan mo kapag nagka BF ka na is kung magiging faithful sya sayo. Hindi ibig sabihin magBF kayo, you have to have sex with him. Follow my suggestions (4 points sa first post ko sa thread na ito at may idadagdag pakong isa), I am sure you won't regret it.  Hindi dapat katakutan if you will have sex with him, katakutan mo kung masama ugali, nambababae, will he be good enough to be your husband, kung ma-sustain mo ang relationship ninyo as a happy one hanggang sa pagtanda ninyo.

Iquote ko lang yung natutunan ko lately (was it from sis glamorosa) - In maintaining a relationship, you need emotional, physical and mental connection between the 2 of you, so yung physical aspect (sex) is just one of the ingredients, and hindi dapat sya lang. Otherwise it is meaningless.

If ayaw pa ni girl May PSP naman 

TS, this should give you a warning.  Ito dapat ang iwasan mong lalaki who believes in multiple partners.  They are more prone to STDs at kung ano ano pang sakit. Of course, assuming you also believe in the concept of just having 1 partner.

Ito pala sana ang idadagdag ko sa decision criteria nabanggit ko earlier....

5. Make sure you are the only one (you have to be dead sure on this before sleeping with him)   Any slightest doubt with the 5 points I have shared (quoting below the 4 points), do not engage yourself in intimacy with him, kahit BF mo pa sya.

1) Are you ready emotionally and psychologically?
2) Is he worthy? Is he serious?  Is he for the long term (marriage material)?  Pasok ba sya sa criteria mo? Or may doubts ka?
3) Will you be able to live with the rest of your life if you assume that you will eventually separate with him?
4) Also, you should also think of other issues on sex like contraception and STD etc

When in doubt, I dont think you should consider sleeping with him.

Again, when in doubt, even the slightest doubt, do not sleep with him.

[cecilydee]

Assuming that you know how to filter bad to good guys, my advice is still - keep your virginity until marriage. Kasi sex has emotional part of it. Ok lang ang physical. In one act, masasatisfy ninyo na ang urge and magheheal naman agad ang sugat (if may sugat lol) pero ang emotional aspect noon, it takes time. Naging intimate na kayo so expect that you will be much clingy to him from now on. And you might be surprised if he takes it casually lang compared to you. Mas malakas ang impact ng sex sa females pagdating sa emotions. To keep your virginity, iwasan ang situations na tempting at makukulong kayong dalawa at makakagawa pa ng milagro lol kung ipapasok mo sarili mo doon, deep inside gusto mo rin so be prepared of the emotional aspect of it. Kung hindi ka prepared, at least tell yourself na buo ka parin kahit na magbreak man kayo.

[sacred cow]

If ayaw pa ni girl May PSP naman 

that is low...

magooutsource ka na lang PSP pa, hanap ka na lang ibang babae who would sleep with you for free...nyahaha

[argento]

^ it was a joke pero nangyayari talaga kahit nga married na eh.

[sacred cow]

^ it was a joke pero nangyayari talaga kahit nga married na eh.

I know, I was being sarcastic too dami ko rin kilala na married na pero ngaavail pa rin..haha

[Girltalker2]

^ actually it was good that is was raised here. Kasi totoo naman nangyayari that men, married or not, with partner or wala, gumagawa nyan.

So girls should really be wiser na hindi papayag na may ibang kasiping ang partner nila.  Kahit pa sila na ang inuuwian. It is not acceptable in any married or committed relationship.

[magno4]

  sa akin gang palagay, oo sa panahon ngayon. savi nga ng matandang impo samen ang savi niya sa panahon nyo ngayon dapat hanggang bata pa mag pakasawa ka mga makamundong bagay dahil kapag dumating sa sa edad mo na tumanda ka e saka ka gagawa ng mga makamundong bagay e hindi na ere nababagay para sayo, at diyan mag umpisa ang mga maling gawain. di ko maware ang ibig niyang sabihin nuon pero sa ganang akin e sa panahon nga ngayon ay kelangan talagang maging open minded kana din. kaya sang ayon ako na pwede naman ikaw makipag talik sa iyong kasintahan kahet dipa kayo kasal kase ganiyan na ang panahon ngayon..