saturday night ni hubby, ok lang ba?

[yummy05]

mga sis, i need your thoughts and words from this,, si hubby once a week umiinom, every saturday, honestly naiinis ako.. instead na umuwi ng maaga from work, gusto nya may saturday night sya. pumapasok din sya ng sunday, what shall I do? TIA

[mswindyrose]

once a month siguro pwede yun pero every saturday, that's a no-no. hindi na siya binata no! buti na lang si hubby ko laging gustong kasama ako sa lahat ng lakad niya 

[wowry]

Kung ako yan mag-sched din ako ng lakad ko with friends 

[brendzy]

not every Saturday night siguro sis, maybe once or twice pwede. and so long you know his circle of friends. 

[bluegintonic]

Everybody needs time for themselves and maybe sa ganyan lang nalinya hilig ni hubby mo. Even you need time for yourself alone. Does he drink alone ba? or with friends? Kung within limits naman ang pag-inom niya (meaning hindi gumagapang pauwi at hindi nananakit o nang-aaway paguwi sa inyo,or doon nauubos pera niya) let him be. Kung hindi naman nagpapabaya with his responsibilities and it's just   for unwinding, why not. Better not,if you yourself drink,why not sabayan mo? Have a good bottle of wine between the two of you. Kahit once a month lang,kahit sa bahay.If you don't drink naman,try to get him engaged in something "healthier"-something active na mae-enjoy niya? That's what I did eh.I gifted my husband a folding bike to encourage him to go out and get active.I don't drink kasi.HTH.

[quinone]

ilang araw ba offday ni hubby sa work? one lang? sa akin kasi 2-3 times a week na umaalis si hubby, i don't mind naman pero work from home kami huh so may ibang time to spend for the two of us. wala rin siyang curfew. chaka depende kung natural na lakawechero o gimikero ang hubby, ang asawa ko ganyan e. kapag hindi siya nakakalabas hindi mapakali, akala mo ibong kinulong.

tingin ko ang once a week is ok as long as nakakalabas pa kayo for a date. is he spending quality time with you?

[aquacharly]

Depends what he does.
Ok, guys need boys nights-out. Sure.
But if they effing do monkey business then, realistically -- mahirap ako ma papayag dyan sa ganyan.
Ano, regular sched na to effing go off do monkey business? Heck, no.
Poker nights, mga ganyan -- sure.

[kristelvillar]

not as regular as once a week, or talagang saturday night pa ha. but maybe siguro once or twice a month or if there are occasions. hindi ko naman pinagbabawalan si hubby; in fact, i'm the one pushing him to go out once in a while with his friends kasi he's very workaholic. everyday naman kami magkasama sa bahay eh, and usually after work may simple namang kaming ginagawang mini-dates, expensive or cheap or no-money involved at all. i think this set up varies on what kind of husbands we have.

[quinone]

in my opinion naman, the wife and the husband needs a dayoff too kung ang wife ay stay-at-home and doing all the chores and taking care of the kids, dapat may one day in a week na lakwacha day alone or with friends, magpa-beauty ganyan, magpa-spa, etc.

(may mga panahon na wala kaming househelp at talaga naman i will go mad kapag hindi ako nakapag unwind at puro na lang obligations/responsibilities!)

si husband naman kung 5 days nagwo-work per week, ano ba naman yung one day a week for him to go out, like saturday, spend time with his friends. 4 days lang yun out of 28 days. yung sunday spend naman with wife/kids.

kung pag-uwi ni hubby from work, quality time ang naspe-spend ninyo together, baka hindi na itanung pa kung okay lumabas kapag saturday. feeling ko lang naman, imo, quality time lang hanap ni yummy05. also, schedule out-of-town/country travels together for more time spent with each other, para hindi makalimutan ni hubby na it is fun to spend time with wife.

[polar_bear]

hay naku sis yummy.. buti ka nga once a week lang.. yung hubby ko.. minsan.. thursday night pa lang.. magpaaalam na yan.. tapos may friday night din yan.. at syempre.. hinde pumapalya ang saturday night drinking session with his friends..     minsan pa [textspeak!] sunday night nya nauuwi pa sa basketball with friends.. 

Dati, nagwowork yung asawa ko ng nightshift..  ang off nya lang is sat-sun.  tapos yung sat-sun night na yun, nauuwi pa sa drinking sessions.    We would always fight about this and I would cry because of it..

Now, he is working dayshift- ganun pa rin..  pero nagsawa na ko. Napagod na kong awayin sya.  Kapag hinde ko naman pinayagan, nagaaway lang kame.  Ngayon nasanay na ko.. Binibiro ko nalang sya at sinasabihan ng  "MAY ASAWA PA BA AKO? "  Well, napansin ko, mas nakokonsensya sya pag dinadaan ko sa biro [textspeak!] inis ko. 

The good thing naman is hindi naman nya pinapabayaan yung mga responsibilidad nya with us at sinisigurado nyang may quality time pa rin kami and with the kids.  Yun lang daw talaga ang way nya to unwind. 

Sabi ko nalang sa sarili ko, nobody is perfect..  Eh ganun napangasawa ko eh.. ganun ang bisyo nya..  Kahit paano, tinanggap ko na rin.  At least yun lang.      Nangako naman sya na titigil na sya sa paginom nya when he reach 30, that's 2 years from now.. Hopefully, he will keep his promise.. 

[mommynin8]

Not every saturday night, but yes ok ako.   Sya lang yung nagbabago ng isip, na hindi na lang.

[bagaholic_chewy]

My husband has weekly basketball night with friends pag Saturdays, and i don't mind. Sometimes, diretso poker na din or diretso nood ng NBA sa TV. Di mahilig uminom ang barkada nya, pero adik sa basketball, hehe..

Una, kilala ko sino mga kasama nya - nakakasama din kasi namin minsan sa mga lakad or travel. So me idea naman ako anong klaseng mga tao ang kasama nya. Alam ko din kung saan sila naglalaro - actually pwede ako sumama para manood pero i opt not to.

Pangalawa, we both believe na we need personal time din paminsan-minsan. I go out for dinners/lunches or whatever with my friends. Hindi nga lang weekly sa akin, depende lang pag nagkaayaan. I even travel on my own (once, abroad with my friends), max 5 days lang naman at a time. IMO, it is also healthy to spend time alone or with your own set of friends (na of course, kilala din naman ng isat-isa).

And pangatlo, as long as his priorities are in order at di napapabayaan ang responsibilities at ang relationship, then walang problema. For example: magko-conflict ang basketball night nya sa isang lakad with my family or with in-laws, me occasion/event with other friends, or me special occasion kami isi-celebrate, or kahit magsabi lang ako na wag na lang syang umalis for whatever reason, or minsan sya mismo gusto nyang mag-DVD/series marathon na lang sa bahay  - then di na sya pumupunta sa basketball nya. We also have movie/date nights on other days.

[rannastillero]

Naku ganyang ganyan din ako.
si Hubby minsan nga araw araw pa.