VOLUNTARY SINGLE PARENTHOOD

[bronze]

Hi girls. I have been thinking of having a child but I want to be a single parent. I don't know if it will ever work in the Filipino culture and setting. BTW, I am 25 years old. Your thoughts about the topic? TIA.

[heaven_charm]

pwede mag-ampon. go to any orphanage and ask for the requirements 

[bronze]

Hi sis, I am not pertaining to adoption, I'm pertaining po to raising a biological child on my own.

[bluestocking]

Think it through. You are still young.
Raising a kid is difficult enough with both parents alive.

Ask yourself what your goal is, and if it's fair for the child, the biological father and yourself.

[bronze]

nakalimutan kong may thread pala ako. hahaha. oh well masyado ata akong iba mag-isip kasi oo mahirap nga pero it's not new na gusto lang ng babe na magsolo... ewan ko iba ako mag-isip,,, i know pedeng hindi magwork sa culture ng pilipinas pero wala namang imposible.

[agape]

^naisip ko na yan dati. to have a child of my own, and my child will have no father, na-realize ko na, it's being selfish din, kasi ako gusto ko, pero gusto ba nung child ko that he/she has only one/solo parent? it's selfish kasi parang pinagkakait ko sa kanya to have both parents if pwede naman.

[pinesfly]

as long as you can raise it well 

[bronze]

I wanna have a supportive father for my kid, pero I'm ready to be a single parent if hindi naman magwowork ang relationship. It's not being selfish kung pareho kayong anjan para sa bata, it may really sound different pero that's how I view life talaga. I came from a broken family... I really do not believe in marriage. HAHA

[aquacharly]

It's been done here.  Hahaha, hindi reveal the father's name/identity.

If you are confident, at 25, that you can easily provide for the child financially and  emotionally, why not?
But you should also consider that it can affect YOUR prospects should you decide to marry later on. 

[Girltalker2]

Hi sis, I am not pertaining to adoption, I'm pertaining po to raising a biological child on my own.

Why?  So long as your partner is not married at alam mo pinapasok mo, you should be ok. Just don't be a mistress.

[erich84]

Hi girls. I have been thinking of having a child but I want to be a single parent. I don't know if it will ever work in the Filipino culture and setting. BTW, I am 25 years old. Your thoughts about the topic? TIA.

Hi sis. I hope you don't mind if i say this, have you been a broken hearted before?
Ganyan2 din yung vision ko before that i can live without a man in my life then my child ako. But it was change when I met my hubby and had a kid with him. Since, you came from broken family what if you focus on building your own family na iba sa kinalakihan mo? It's true na hindi naman assurance if kumpleto ang couple in raising their children eh they'll be having a perfect life. But iba pa rin sis if may katuwang ka.

[agape]

@bronze,

I also came from a broken family. And it really changes our views.
But marriage was designed by God, kaso Tao ang sumisira, our society, etc.
We live in a parent less society, with parents going abroad to earn money, and leaving kids behind without guidance, maraming factors nakakasira ng marriage/family.
They promote sex, freedom, etc, instead of upholding the sanctity of marriage, kaya ganun.
They now want to legalize gay marriages, they want to legalize divorce, etc.

[skyrimgal]

I think 25 is too young to consider becoming a single parent. Just wait it out, sis.. maybe you'll feel differently in a few months/years. Having a baby is a big commitment. If you're feeling lonely because you're single, have you considered just getting a cute pet? Why do you want a baby of your own this early ba? At 25, you should be enjoying life.. marami pang mangyayari sa life mo, sis.

[bronze]

Thank you sa mga feedback. TBH, I am not in a rush to do this. I am just contemplating with the fact na hindi ko talaga minimithing ikasal. As I've said I do not believe in marriage. It's my POV. If it changes in the near future, I will feel very blessed. I appreciate all the feedback sisses! Thank you.

[Girltalker2]

^ sis, if you don't believe in marriage, it does not mean you do not believe in cohabitation.  as I see some couples are together raising their kids kahit hindi sila married.

[bronze]

Hmmm. Yep sis, I do believe in cohabitation. But I really do not care for marriage.

[slickchick]

Hi girls. I have been thinking of having a child but I want to be a single parent. I don't know if it will ever work in the Filipino culture and setting. BTW, I am 25 years old. Your thoughts about the topic? TIA.

hi sis. single mom here (for 7 years), somehow, by choice na rin... think very well about this decision. raising a child on your own is not easy - financially and especially on the aspect of instilling discipline in the child. but raising a child with a partner whom you cannot get along with - especially in terms of values and beliefs is much more difficult. IMHO, i think single parenthood is not for everyone. since you'll be raising the child on your own, everything will be a double-effort thing (as you'll be both a mom and a dad). you need to be tough, strong-willed, but the at the same time, you should have a mother's compassion. personally sis, it's a very tough decision to take, but whenever you see your child, you can see that it's worth the effort and sacrifice. good luck sis!

[bronze]

hi sis slickchick, thank you! i super appreciate your thoughts since you are already in that position... i know it will be hard and i know the set up may not work in our culture but who knows nothing is impossible naman. goodluck din sa inyo sis ng iyong child. i know you try your best to be a good parent.
 

[slickchick]

^ no problem sis.    one more thing, should you decide to be a single mom, try not to think about the culture and what other people will say, especially if they cannot help you in any way in raising your child. digest the advice if it comes from your parents or close or long-time friends, but if it's from people who barely know you, then simply ignore it. not worth your time. it's part of being tough and strong-willed. just my two cents worth... 

[onilord]

Hi! Sana when the time comes that you have to make the decision, take into consideration din yung welfare ng magiging anak mo. Iba rin kasi siguro kung meron siyang kikilalanin na father na magsusupport sa kanya not only financially.