you are now the second wife of your man

[yiephine14]

mga sis,
matagal ng wala c hubby at yung dati niyang wife bago naging kami..hindi pa cla annul..almost 9yrs na kami now,and matagal na din me pamilya na yung dting wife..nauna pa sa amin...ready na po ba akong humiling ki hubby n mag pa annul na siya?huhuhuh. 

[chefron]

You should have requested before you decided to co live with him!

[airish_2]

a possibilities na umayaw sya, i have uncle and he has this live in partner for 31 years pero nung namatay sya kay legal wife lahat napunta pati burol nya, hindi kasi annul dun sa 1st wife.

[aquacharly]

IF I were in your shoes -- eto say ko to MYSELF:

Darling Me, hindi ako  "2nd wife" kasi buhay pa si legal wife at hindi Muslim si partner.   Kabit ako, or common-law wife;  hindi ko sya husband; live-in partner, sure, coz we are not married, but living-in.
Our kids  are illegitimate. 
What he works for,  when  he drops  dead 1 day (later than sooner, Knock on wood) -- that I helped:   work for, make grow, & preserved --  may all or partly go to his legal family.   
No judgment in the above,  just the legal truth. 

9 years.  More than enough time to know if he and I are in for the long-run.
9 years.  More than enough time for him to want to and do whatever is required to protect my & our
              kids' interest.
9 years.  More than enough time for him to want to give me what Gretchen  Barretto (daw) and I both
              wish, want, yearn & pray for:  the "Mrs" label on official documents. 
So,
9 years.  I will ask for the annulment.   Heck, I will demand it.   
              Ano mawawala sa akin if he says "NO"?   wala, ganon pa din ako -- live-in partner/
              Common-law wife/kabit.  At least, I tried di ba?  Baka kasi maging:  Merry Christmas! Hehe

[imbisibol_]

ready na po ba akong humiling ki hubby n mag pa annul na siya?huhuhuh. 

i think you've been ready a long time.  but you're scared to ask him because he might say no.  at least for you, right now, the chance is still alive.  but once he says no, your hopes are dashed.

[sugar n spice]

Unang tanong: Bakit kelangan mo mag-worry na humiling ng annulment?
Pangalawa: Ayaw ba nya?
Pangatlo: Kung ayaw nya? Baket?

Eto, iikot tayo sa salitang "IMPORTANTE"
Kung importante sayo yon. Sabihin mo sa kanya. Lam mo dito ko lang rin natutunan sa GT na kung importante sayo, sabihin mo. Hindi man positive agad ang response nya sayo but he will give it a thought. Kasi alam na nya at ginawa mong maliwanag pa sa sikat ng araw na IMPORTANTE sayo yon. Naku pag tinanong nya pa kung bakit, katukin mo yung bungo, baka sabaw lang ang laman
Kung hindi nya bibigayan ng importansya yung impotante sayo, tanong mo kung ano at nasan ka ba sa kanya?
Karapatan mong malaman yan. Sa totoo lang, ikaw ang unang dapat magbigay ng impotansya sa sarili mo. Pag pinaramdam mo sa kanya ng okay-okay lang, ndi yan gagawa ng aksyon ni isipin man lang.

Just talking from experience.

[aquacharly]

IMO, legally speaking -- yes.
Socially -- hindi ko say  yan to someone's face -- lol, our friendship ends.

Look at the case facts --  kahit na the wife is living with someone else --  your kids are still illegitimate.  You will not inherit his estate as the "legal  surviving spouse", etc etc

Kabit/mistress/common-law wife/live-in partner -- same same.
Siguro the choice differs depending on the level of friendship, lol.   But then, what do I know after all?

Kaya nga we should have divorce na here, overdue na.

[trendy]

if he really loves you, dapat sa kanya mismo manggaling yung initiative na magfile ng annulment.

dapat magdemand ka na asap kasi super tagal na ng hinintay mo. kung gagawa sya ng mga delaying tactics kesyo magastos, matagal, matrabaho etc, well magisip-isip ka na.

[k_heart]

ang worry ko lang dyan sis, baka nalipasan ka na ng time kasi ang tagal ng lumipas na umokey ka sa
ganyang situation. dapat from the start or sa early part pa lang ng relationship nyo ay
nag-demand ka na. timing is the key.
pero as they say, habang may buhay ay may pag-asa.

[jmeangeL]

even if it's only a piece of paper, that piece of paper would secure your rights and peace of mind.  kasama na rin ang rights ng anak mo.

birth certificate, diploma etc are just piece of papers but socially? they define who you are

[Princess_Chill]

naku sis medyo matagal na nga iyan...you need to protect yourself and most of all your kids.
napag uusapan ba ninyo iyong matter na iyan? ask ko lang sis what is ayaw niya pa annul ano gagawin mo?

tama ibang mga sisses natin here one day bigla may nangyari sa kanya paano na kayo? isip ka sis mabuti..

kung walang patutunguhan relationship ninyo wag ka na uli mag sayang ng another 9 years of your life diba?

[det060403]

Verfying  question lang. So the other girl is still labeled kabit or mistress even if the guy is matagal ng hiwalay? Not unless they get an annulment. Right?

For me... Oo. since they are still legally married, that is still having an affair. Lalo naman siguro sa religious point of view, “What God has joined together, the man should not separate.” So technically, that person is still a mistress or kabit.

@yiephine14 For legal purposes, I think its about time to ask him that. 9 years--that is long enough. However mabigat ang grounds for annulment regardless of how many years that the married couple has been separated... Legal separation maybe? hmm.. Anyway, I know nothing! hehe
You should really talk to him about it, kasi this is about your rights at kung saan ka mas panatag.

[graZiousa]

dont hesitate to open the topic to your hubby. baka akala nya sa tagal nyong nagsasama e nasanay kana sa ganun.. na ok lang sayo diba. may lalaki rin talaga kasing manhid (pasintabi lang po sa mga mabubuti at ulirang lalaki out there)

mabuti ng mapag usapan nyo at malaman nya what u want..

[Myealexis21]

Actually for me lang ha... in the first place dapat hindi mo yan kelangan hilingin from him... dapat naisip na nya yan at sya na mismo ang gagawa ng move or find a way to annul his marriage.

Pero since hindi ata sya magkukusa... Aba Aba... hindi na kelangan itanong pa yan, go ahead and ask him na ayusin ang annulment, as in now na please.  Matagal tagal ding proseso yan. 

Sabi nga ng iba nating Sis... protect yourself.  Lalo na if may kids na kayo.

[yiephine14]

hello mga sis,ngayon lang ako nkapag bukas uli ng fn, nabasa ko lahat ng comments nio.this last july yan ang pinagmulan ng away namin at lam nio ba nauwi sa hiwalayan,pinalayas ko siya dito sa bahay.almost 3months na akong still recovery.sana makayanan ko..salamat sa lahat ng mga payo ninyo..

[det060403]

Keep praying yiephine14. Ill pray for you too...

[aquacharly]

even if it's only a piece of paper, that piece of paper would secure your rights and peace of mind.  kasama na rin ang rights ng anak mo.

birth certificate, diploma etc are just piece of papers but socially? they define who you are

Best answer!   The unvarnished truth, given our culture.

[jeanette01]

Suwerte naman Ng live in partner mo. I don't even know why you didn't go for it from the very start.