ganito ba talaga ang mga lalake?

[simplecathy143]

haay, bf and I were almost 2 yrs na.. Open siya sakin sa mga past niya, mga kalokohan, at kapag may mga lakad siya na hindi niya agad nasasabi.. but there's one thing na pinakakinaiinisan ko, hindi nia cnsbe yung problem nia.. lagi na lang niya sinasarili.. nasasabi niya lang yata yung sama ng loob niya kapag lasing siya.. Ramdam ko yung bigat ng nararamdaman niya.. haay minsan tuloy I feel helpless kasi lagi niyang sinasabi di niya kailangan ng tulong ng iba..

ganito ba talaga ang mga lalake..

[sacred cow]

not all guys, yung iba parang babae kung magkwento ng problems. siguro hindi lang siya sanay na nagsshare sa babae ng problems

[Girltalker2]

^ I think most of them are like that. Lalo na ang mga Pinoy, medyo ma pride.

Pero there are some of them that can share and are more expressive.  I personally like someone who wants to share their inner thoughts kasi importante yun sa pagsasama. Kaya mahirap maghanap ng Mr Right if this is one of your criteria.  Pero sure worth it.

[noturguynxtdoor]

communication is the key ... since bf/gf palang kayo its possible na ayaw ng bf mo na malaman mo yung problems nya lalo na kung bilang lang yung time na magkasama kayo kasi he would rather spend it with you than talk about his problems. guys need assurance that we'd rather keep it to ourselves than share it with you if we think it might have a negative impact to your relationship.

try to talk to him about it tell him that you will be there no matter what and be ready

[simplecathy143]

I tried to ask his ate kung hindi ba talaga siya nagsasabi ng prob nia, ayun hindi talaga siya nagsasabi.. hanggang kayak daw ni bf hindi siya hihingi ng tulong sa iba.. And i realize na mukhang it takes a long process pa, kailangan ko lang muna magtitiis.. Ang kailangan ko lang gawin ngaun ayaw ipaparamdam sakanya na nandito lang ako for him at always willing to listen..

salamat sa advices

[hilbillywillie]

This is the thought process of some guys...........

Real men do not have problems.  Having problems is a sign of weakness.  They may have "issues" but not problems.  We should be man enough to face these issues head on.  Take it like a man.  Crying is for sissies.

There are two kinds of problems, those with solutions and those without solutions.  If there is a solution, then it is no longer a problem.  If it has no solution, then it should not be a problem because there is nothing you can do about it. 

Women have problems.  And if a girl starts narrating her problems (even if all that she needs is a shoulder to cry on or a listening ear, or a sounding board to vent her gripes), then we immediately provide the solution.  Voila! Problem solved.  Next issue please.......

No wonder that there are more men than women inside mental institutions.  Men are also more likely to commit suicide than women. 

[John Snow]

For me pag may problema ako hindi ko na sini-share. katulad ng problema sa pera (kadalasan eto naman palagi ang problema) hindi ko na pinapaalam sa iba kasi alam ko masosolve ko naman yun kasi may trabaho naman ako. basta kaya ko pa sya sulusyonan di ko na kaylangan i-share.

Pero if the problem has no possible solution siguro na sshare ko din. just like mainit ulo ni Boss, napagalitan sa opisina, or kaya meron ako dinadalang sakit na kaylangan ng mahabang gamutan. siguro yun mga pwede ko pa i-share.

[bear_touch]

Most of the guys talaga don't want to share their problem with their gf. You should show to your bf na nandyan ka for him. Huwag ka muna magalit sa kanya then sabihin mo na lagi kang nasa side nya to support him.

[jaymejorrol]

most of the boys, oo.. but not all.. ako kasi hindi naglilihim ng problem.. baliktad kami ng gf ko.. i got a same problem pero sa gf ko naman.. ganun din.. pag my prob ayaw sabihin.. kesyo ayaw nya daw pati ako madamay, mag-alala.. di nya naman daw need ng help kasi kaya nya naman.. (hihingi ata ng tulong pag malala na!) wew! fine.. sige hindi ako tutulong kung yun ang gusto nya pero ang mahalaga lang naman dun is malaman ko kung bakit minsan tahimik sya.. malungkot.. para naman alam ko rin ang mga possible reasons kung bakit minsan galit sya or wala sa mood.. hindi yung kung kelan malala dun na sya sasabog.. tapos sasabihan ka pa ng 'hindi mo kasi alam pinagdaraaanan ko eh!' The F! nakakainis lang, nung una kinakausap kung ano problem tapos ayaw i-share.. tapos pag malala na sya pa magagalit..

[j.adore]

Ang mga lalaki kasi, pag may problema, gusto nila hanapan ng solution. Mga babae naman, gusto pagusapan, have someone to listen and a shoulder to cry on.

Baka kaya niya di share sayo kasi hindi solution yun at baka mag-worry ka pa para sa kanya? Instead of addressing the problem, he may add to it by stressing you out as well?
Pwede din na he gets comfort from your relationship despite his problems like some source of relief.

Kausapin mo na lang siya at sabihin mo ang reasons kung bakit importanteng ibahagi niya sayo buhay niya, pati problema niya.

[jaymejorrol]

Ang mga lalaki kasi, pag may problema, gusto nila hanapan ng solution. Mga babae naman, gusto pagusapan, have someone to listen and a shoulder to cry on.

true.. pero ako.. talagang sinasabi ko pa rin prob ko.. tama na mapaguusapan naman talaga.. tulad ko.. sasabihin ko prob ko.. and kausapin ko sya na wag na mag-worry and everything's fine..ang mahalaga at least alam nya..

[brendzy]

maybe depende sa problema, kung bf pa lang, normally may inhibitions pa yan ng pagsasabi ng problema, they may confide sa bestfriend, sibling/father/mother. pero pag married na kayo, you will be sharing each other's problem na.

[jaymejorrol]

oo.. depende din.. pero ang mahalaga lang naman sa pagsasabi natin ng prob, kung di man tayo makatulong, at least alam ntin yung pinagdaraanan ng partner natin.. maiintindihan natin mga actions nya..