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[Noylabmay]

mga sis ano gagawin nyo pag me nakita kayong gustong mag flirt sa asawa nyo?
mabait asawa ko I know he's trying his best para umiwas sa tukso
nung lumipat sha ng country I asked him kung ok lang ba na maiwan ako here (abroad din)
kase maganda takbo ng career ko and sabi nya problema raw....

so nainisip ko bakit? kaya mong mambabae? ang sabi nya marami raw pwedeng mangyari
kaya after several months nag resigned na rin ako

One time I checked his FB account and I saw a message of a girl saying "kuya I like you kase your so honest and my husband ans. "di nako pwede me asawa nako"
tinanung ko husband ko sabi nya  wala raw yon sobrang busy daw sha sa work para pag kaabalahan pa

Sabi ng friend ko pag ganyan daw babae na lumalapit minsan natutukso din
Kinakabahan tuloi ako  diko maaway kase maka minsan e matukso

[aquacharly]

You are together now? Good. A fantastic career will never give you the happiness you get from a happy family life.

Just be mindful of those malandi.  Do not nag! Do not predict rain in your life. Hwag maghanap ng mamaw.
BUT keep your husband busy relaxing WITH YOU, exploring your new home, making new friends, sports TOGETHER...   now and then, VOICE OUT your APPRECIATION about his efforts to move your family towards your goals.   

[daveigh]

^^ agree, bakuran mo asawa mo without nagging/being insecured/being praning. Make yourself more visible with his friends.

[Noylabmay]

@ aquacharly, sis palipat palang ako this month, lagi kaseng nag tatalo isip ko sa mga nababasa ko dito
nababanggit mo rin na dapat laging ma empower tayong mga wifey, kaya takot akong mawalan ng work
doble kayod ako ngaion sa pag hahanap ng new work sa lilipatan namin...

First reaction ko nung mabasa ko yung message naging halimaw agad ako at nagtanong ng marahas
sa kanya...tapos sa kalituhan ko di ko maconcentrate sa work kaya ayun nag punta agad ako sa church
God is really working kaya after nung Mass nahimasmasan ako at tinawagan ko ng maayos

ang hirap maging babae laging mag tatalo Isip mo pag need mamili between career and family

Isip ko lagi baka sobrang dedicated ka sa asawa tapos sa bandang huli pala e ilaglag ka

wala ka ng career wala ka pang lovelife, ang iniisip ko na lang in the end I have a wonderful kid
na will love me unconditionally

[leighleigh]

Question is 'How much do you trust your husband?' Kasi if trust is something very important for both of you then all doubts stop and end right there. 

Si hubby lapitin ng mga girls, not because he has oozing sex appeal or what  , it's because he projects a 'non-threatening' disposition.  Walang malisya, just pure clean fun. 

[aquacharly]

You may be unemployed for a short while, but for sure  --  makahanap ka  din agad. 
Perk up your résumé.
Oo, never ever pabayaan mo ang SELF EMPOWERMENT mo.
Be confident, think positive you will get a good job soon. 

This s just a temporary set back.
You can restart your career.  Marriage is not a disability na prevent you from advancing.  Just manage your time & energies well. 

[Girltalker2]

^^ sis, totoo mahirap maging babae.

mabuti naman na nagpalipat ka na.  I heard quite a number of times, hindi daw nabubuhay ang lalaki kasi ng walang sex.  they feel inadequate. so it is important na may ka partner sila sa buhay.

as for your career... ako ay isa sa mga hindi pinalad sa ganyang larangan.  I gave up my career, packed up to follow my hubby. only to find out na may affair sya. then I had to pick up the pieces all over again and start on my own. kaya since you are to follow him, it is a good move, but you should not stop there. make sure you also try to build a career where you will be, with him.  puedeng hindi sya kasing ok ng career mo now, pero at least you can start with something.

there is nothing wrong din in being dedicated to your hubby/family. but you still have to make sure you find time for yourself and be able to maintain and take care of your own well-being.

[Noylabmay]

Mga sis thank you ha.. I really love this forum nakaka good vibes talaga

[brendzy]

it's good thing nga na magpalipat ka sis...better na magkasama kayo, and i believe na makakaya mo din na makahanap especially me job experience ka naman. mahirap talaga magkalayo, we really never know di ba, we trust our husbands but not the temptation along the way.
In my case, i gave up my career sa pinas to be with my hubby, it was hard for the first few months kase I need to heal my ego pa, syempre, I am used to be independent - financially - then all of a sudden, I need to fully depend to my hubby. but then I tried to focus on the positive side na my husband really loves me at gusto nya na magkasama kami lagi. so there, ngayon may work na din ako after 5 months of being full time wifey .
I know you can do it too sis

[imagodei082990]

para skin hindi dapat pinapaalam sa hubby na buo ang tiwala natin sakanila. kase lalo sila gudagawa ng kalokohan kase alam nila na may tiwala tayo. si hubby ko alam nya na hindi buo ang tiwala ko sakanya kaya sobrang aware sya sa mga pinag gagagawa nya dahil alam nya na sa konting pagkakamali nya masisira pamilya nya