First time kong nasaktan ng sobra with my bf (now ex bf) for 5 years. I guess he chose to be with his ex gf despite of waiting for him for over a year. Masakit and hindi ko alam na there's such thing as emotional death. Ilang beses akong umiyak and I admit, mahal ko pa rin naman yung tao. Madami din naman akong mistakes nung kami pa pero I really did my best to be deserving of him and his love. Nagbago ko dahil sa kanya and I was just asking for one last chance, na kaya ko na syang mahalin ng buo, mas maayos at kaya ko na sya ipaglaban pero ganun talaga, we cannot force someone to choose us or be with us. Hindi pa naman ako totally okay but I'm somehow ok, and hindi na rin kami nag uusap. So sa mga sisses out there, if you're going through a tough time, palaging may silver lining. I want to share with you some of the tips na meron ako to help you:
1. Exercise - don't do this para sa ex nyo, to make them jealous and make them running back to you; exercise helps improve your mood and it increases your endorphins (happy hormones). Kung wala kayo sa mood, just get out of the house, walk/run for 5 minutes and slowly iincrease nyo yung duration (and please leave your phones sa house). Trust me, it's really helpful. Magiging healthy ka na, and it will help you attract better men. PS I will suggest na magtake kayo ng yoga classes, dance classes, boxing, etc mas interactive, mas maganda
2. No to stalking or waiting for their texts/calls - humanap kayo ng hobby and stick to them, hindi umiikot ang buhay nyo based sa buhay ng isang lalake. You have your family, friends na nagmamahal sa inyo and don't waste your time sa mga taong hindi makita yung worth nyo, it's their loss
3. Write down your emotions - this is really helpful. Write letters to your exes but don't send them. I even cry while writing him letters pero sobrang gagaan yung pakiramdan nyo believe me. After some time, you will stop writing him letters and you will start writing to God dahil alam mo na kung ano yung lessons na gusto Nyang matututunan mo
4. Breakup Jar - my friend and I made this pact na everytime nagstalk kami, mag usap about sa exes namin, magbabayad kami and we will donate the money to our favorite charity
5. Don't listen to sad songs - maganda yung upbeat and rock songs; let Beyonce empower you
6. Read books and listen to Matthew Hussey's videos - everytime na nakikinig ako kay Matthew Hussey, nauuplift ako and naeentertain ako at the same time; he's so good and nawawala yung isip ko sa ex bf ko pag nakikinig ako sa kanya
Lastly and the most important tip, PRAY. Si God lang ang forever, and Sya lang ang kayang magheal sayo. Take all your time to work on yourself para the next time na magmahal kayo, mas kaya nyo na and mas buo na kayo. Love yourself aka know your worth, don't settle to be someone's backup plan and build your life around God. Lez do this!
