On Long Term Relationships

[Awesomecakes]

How long have you been in a relationship?
Any thoughts? Lessons you've learned or experiences you can share with us?

I've been in a relationship for almost six years now Happy kasi we've gone this far, sobrang dami na challeneges na dumating sa relationship namin. Thankful lang ako kasi I met someone na never ako iniwan and love ako talaga. Looking forward on marrying him in two or three years time.

How about you mga sis?

[rhamneroj16]

Girl ako almost mag 5years na kami ng boyfriend ko. College palang kami na then dami trials ang dumating sa amin till mag migrate sya sa US one week palang kami nun. ang mahirap pa dun LDR pa kami so yearly umuuwi sya. So very faithful kami sa isat isa. We re getting married na on october para maprocess na yung  visa ko para magkasama kami. have you tried to asked him if gusto ka na nya pakasalan?

[17arci]

4 years this May. Hopefully wedding na next year or 2 years from now.

[snix]

going on 2. years.. he is my first and sana last na rin..we met way back in college pero ngayon lang namin naacknowledge feelings.. hope we can also make it ladt till marriage and after that.. challenges? We are starting to go through them and i hope we can make it through even in those very difficult ones

[ayami]

Going 8 years na kami ng husband ko as boyfriend-girlfriend, first and last namin ang isa't-isa. High school sweethearts kami, never kami nagbreak throughout the course of our relationship. Nagpakasal kami on our 5th year gawa ng unplanned baby.

Kinakatakot ko lang magkasawaan kami in the near future. May ilang bumps lang na naencounter namin lalo na nung first year ng marriage namin. Now with 2 kids, kailangan talaga makeep ko ang interest niya kaya todo effort rin ako sa looks at figure ko haha.

Another thing I've learned sa tagal namin ay yung communication talaga. Tsaka madalas pa rin dapat na may date night, minsan ako na nagiinitiate. Patience din sa isa't-isa and acceptance sa pag-uugali. Forgiveness din siguro sa past mistakes. Medyo natagalan ako magprocess ng ill feelings ko sa kanya noong araw at yung adjustment nung nagsama kami sa isang bubong, ngayon I try to bury everything para fresh na at mas positive yung relationship namin.

[Awesomecakes]

Girl ako almost mag 5years na kami ng boyfriend ko. College palang kami na then dami trials ang dumating sa amin till mag migrate sya sa US one week palang kami nun. ang mahirap pa dun LDR pa kami so yearly umuuwi sya. So very faithful kami sa isat isa. We re getting married na on october para maprocess na yung  visa ko para magkasama kami. have you tried to asked him if gusto ka na nya pakasalan?

Wow, congratulations in advance sis We're college sweethearts, too! To answer your question, yes we do talk about getting married. I remember asking him how did he know na ako na talaga for him. He answered "when we reached our first year together". I know he's supposed to answer "the day I asked you to be my girlfriend" but I understand kasi we're too young when we became a couple. I was 19 y/o back then. Honestly, I do or we both feel na kami na talaga for each other kasi sobrang nagkasundo naman kami sa maraming bagay. Somehow we still have differences and sometimes may misunderstandings pero we both work hard to make our relationship work.

As much as I wang to get married this SOON, we still have our own priorities (career, family, etc). Gusto ko rin naman na kapag kinasal na kami financially ready na kami. Though kahit paano may fear ako na what if something happened, kasi I know a lot of couple (who are close to me) break up after years of being together. Well for me, FAITH lang yan. As long as we both believe in each other, I know we'll be as ONE in God's perfect time.

4 years this May. Hopefully wedding na next year or 2 years from now.

Best wishes in advance sis

going on 2. years.. he is my first and sana last na rin..we met way back in college pero ngayon lang namin naacknowledge feelings.. hope we can also make it ladt till marriage and after that.. challenges? We are starting to go through them and i hope we can make it through even in those very difficult ones

We met in college, too! And same as you, he's my first and will be my last boyfriend. Kasama naman talaga sa challenges sa isang relationship, you'll never learn kung hindi kayo dadaan sa mga pagsubok. You just have to keep the faith and love for each other.

Going 8 years na kami ng husband ko as boyfriend-girlfriend, first and last namin ang isa't-isa. High school sweethearts kami, never kami nagbreak throughout the course of our relationship. Nagpakasal kami on our 5th year gawa ng unplanned baby.

Kinakatakot ko lang magkasawaan kami in the near future. May ilang bumps lang na naencounter namin lalo na nung first year ng marriage namin. Now with 2 kids, kailangan talaga makeep ko ang interest niya kaya todo effort rin ako sa looks at figure ko haha.

Another thing I've learned sa tagal namin ay yung communication talaga. Tsaka madalas pa rin dapat na may date night, minsan ako na nagiinitiate. Patience din sa isa't-isa and acceptance sa pag-uugali. Forgiveness din siguro sa past mistakes. Medyo natagalan ako magprocess ng ill feelings ko sa kanya noong araw at yung adjustment nung nagsama kami sa isang bubong, ngayon I try to bury everything para fresh na at mas positive yung relationship namin.

I really admire couples who remain strong despite years of being together. Me, myself knows how hard it is to be in a long term relationship. I agree with you sis, communication lang talaga so you'd know how to compromise and malaman mo yun feelings ng partner mo. Relationship requires hard work & a LOT of understanding.

We usually go on a date as well, at least once a week para hindi naman magkasawaan or magkalimutan.

[babychellee]

hi mga sis. ako po 4 yrs na kami ng bf ko who's now my fiance. we are getting married this year masasabi ko lang e kung paano ang pakikitungo nya sa akin mula nung bago palang kami, it never ever changed kahit 4 yrs na kami ngayon. i must say iba talaga kapag yung THE ONE na yung kasama mo, kasi kahit matagal na kayo, parang everyday feeling mo bago parin kayo. the honeymoon stage never ends  my bf is not really the sweet type and he's also not the type who loves surprises. even yung marriage proposal ko nga, hindi rin pinaghandaan lol kasi torpe yun at hindi talaga marunong mag plano ng mga ganun. i only receive flowers during valentines day. he is kuripot too and doesn't really buy expensive stuff kasi he's really practical. but he shows his love in sooooo many other ways kaya tanggap kong ganun siya. i never felt cheated..the trust is really there, the communication never stops..we never had a really big fight and most of all..we both feel loved  siguro ang maganda sa amin, dahil malaki yung trust namin sa isa't isa, very healthy ang relationship namin. he is supportive kapag lumalabas ako with the girls and same din sakin, pag boys night out i let him enjoy. give and take din kami.  yung simple things na nagpapakilig parin sakin until now is yung hilig nya na halikan yung kamay ko na para bang prinsesa ako. and yung hilig nya na yakapin ako from behind and halikan yung ulo ko. wala lang..it makes me kilig parin talaga e. hehe.

btw, he's my 3rd bf. yung 1st bf ko 6 years naman kami. dati, nacocompare ko siya dun sa 1st ex ko kasi yun nga yung unang long term relationship ko. i couldn't help but compare kasi super iba yung naging experience ko sa 1st bf. 6 years kami nun pero walang trust..possessive kasi yung bf kong yun so lagi siyang praning lalo na pag lumalabas ako ng hindi siya kasama. that's really one of the bad signs and reasons why i left him. he's also suicidal and always threatens to take his life pag nag aattempt ako noon makipag hiwalay. kaya i must say, super nahirapan ako sa relationship namin. break-bati kasi kami and super napagod ako kasi umabot kami sa point na literally halos lahat ng bagay pinag aawayan na namin. kakapagod grabe. pero take note..ang difference nila ng current bf/fiance ko, uberrrr sweet naman tong ex ko nato. he's the type naman who loves to surprise me with gifts and also the sweetest pag may occasion. yung tipong mamamatay na siya sa gutom mabigyan lang ako ng mamahaling gifts and loves to surprise me with flowers kahit wala okasyon. but still..hindi yun yung nagpasaya sakin sa relationship namin. ang kinakainisan ko rin nun, ang hilig mang pulis. sa sobrang kapraningan nya, gustong gusto lagi chini-check yung cellphone ko at lahat ng lalaki na katabi ko sa mga pictures kinukwestyon nya susme! even yung mga normal officemates ko na guys..binibigyan nya ng malisya kahit wala naman talaga. umabot nga sa point na sa sobrang inis ko, ginawa kong babae nalang yung name ng ibang guy friends ko sa phone para wala ng duda. 

sorry kung napahaba ang kwento ko, pero based on my own personal experience, napaka importante ng TRUST sa isa't isa. and yung constant and open COMMUNICATION to each other. share stories to each other..appreciate each other..even the simplest things that your partner does to you, say THANK YOU always. ipakita nyo lagi sa isa't isa how much you love each other. maging PROUD kayo sa isa't isa. RESPECT each other..and when i say respect, irespeto mo kung ano siya at ano ang buhay niya..hobbies nya, lifestyle nya...lahat. kasi eventually tatanggapin mo lahat yan. kasi ganun siya even nung wala ka pa sa buhay niya. 

[airish_2]

Kami we will celebrate 10th year anniv. this month walang break o cool off pag away di talaga kami  naguusap. so far unawaan lang talaga sa isat isa.

[anetdin]

More than 3 years...getting married na next year....

[theshopaholicprincess]

Yung first two ex bf's ko puro long term yun. Yung first one 2years kami then yung 2nd one around 6 years. I left the first kasi too babaero. Feeling God's gift to women sa province nila. Yung 2nd one naman walang kaplano-plano sa future. Super secured sya sakin na forever ko sya pagbibigyan sa mga pagkukulang nya and to top it all, twice din ako niloko and kaya nagbreak kami ay dahil naglalandian sila ng ex dyowa nya nung college.

Good for sisses here who were able to sustain long term relationships. It really takes  hardwork. Pero not everyone will be able to end up on their long term partners. For me natutuwa ako sa mga matatagal na yung relationship especially if the guy is really willing to work things out. For me kasi iba naging fate ko. Yung last guy na naging bf ko (now my husband) wala pa kami one year nung nagpakasal. Isa sa mga deciding factor why accept his offer of marriage eh dahil yung mga things na hindi nagawa ng mga ex ko, sya nakagawa and nakita ko naman yung love at sincerity nya.

[kenjielicious]

seven years na kame ni bf

[angelzero]

almost 4 years na kami. i'm very happy with him although at this stage i'm kinda getting impatient since everyone in my circle is getting married left and right. don't get me wrong i love my bf so much but this waiting is killing me. my patience is being tested because he's going through a lot of problems in his life right now. all i can do right now is be a good gf and support him. we're talking about the future a lot but nothing seems to be definite.

[lovely_kim16]

kami ni hubby 5 years kami naging mag bf/gf last april 2012 we decided to get married actually next month is our 1st wedding anniversary  tapos LDR pa kami

[young_maiden]

Nakakainggit naman kayo. hehe. I want a long-term relationship too. Ewan ko ba bakit di binibigay
sa akin. Mag four years na akong single tapos pinakamatagal kong relationship 5 months lang. Hindi
rin naman kasi ako ligawin eh. Siguro sa isang taon baka isa o dalawa lang ang liligaw sa akin tapos
ayaw ko pa sa guy na yun.

Kahit kailan di ako nangarap mag collect ng bf. Ayaw ko ng papalit-palit ng lalaki. Gusto ko lang yun
tumatagal. Pero 22 years old na ako ngayon kaso wala pa rin talaga. Hay.

[anniegurl]

Turning 3 years. We always tell how much we love each other and how grateful we are. Ako parati ko sinasabi sa kanya how lucky I am to have him and how thankful I wam for everything. It matters din na we are both mature na and we dont get bothered about small things. We try to be super patient and understanding.

[sixteen16]

9 years na kami sa May.. Masaya pa rin.. Di namin namamalayan na 9 yrs na pala yon.. Sobrang dami na namin pinagdaanan pero ito pa rin kami masaya at matatag. No plans of getting married yet pero nakatira na kami sa isang bubong. It's my decision na wag muna pakasal  and magkababy dahil may gusto pa ko maachieve.. Naniniwala kami sa true love.. Gusto namin maging example na nangyayari pala sa totong bahay ang mga fairytale.. Na hindi imposible ang isang bagay kung nagtutulungan kayo. 24/7 pa rin ang communication namin kahit matagal na kami. Kahit sobrang busy at isa sa amin nasa ibang bansa sinisigurado namin na may communication kami. Di nawawala yun. Every night bago kami matulog nagkkwentuhan kami.. Sobrang thankful talaga ako dahil sya ang binigay sa akin. Once a month lang sya kung mag "iloveyou" pero kahit di nya sabihin ramdam ko yung love. Kung pano nya ko protektahan, alagaan, at pagsilbihan.


 

[jaymejorrol]

Nakakainggit naman kayo. hehe. I want a long-term relationship too. Ewan ko ba bakit di binibigay
sa akin. Mag four years na akong single tapos pinakamatagal kong relationship 5 months lang. Hindi
rin naman kasi ako ligawin eh. Siguro sa isang taon baka isa o dalawa lang ang liligaw sa akin tapos
ayaw ko pa sa guy na yun.

Kahit kailan di ako nangarap mag collect ng bf. Ayaw ko ng papalit-palit ng lalaki. Gusto ko lang yun
tumatagal. Pero 22 years old na ako ngayon kaso wala pa rin talaga. Hay.

be patient.. wait.. isipin mo meron ding guys na nasa situation mo.. naghihintay.. ako nga 22 yo. na nagka gf.. and it was my 1st gf! hehe.. and hindi po ako kagwapuhan, attitude lang po ang ipakita.. kaya wag ka mawalan ng pag-asa.. eto.. mahigit 4 years na kami.. both working.. nagiipon na for future..

[hanson15]

turning 6 years this may. Been in long distance for almost 1 year na rin. By next year when he comes back it will be our 7 years and by november that year we will be getting married.

[young_maiden]

be patient.. wait.. isipin mo meron ding guys na nasa situation mo.. naghihintay.. ako nga 22 yo. na nagka gf.. and it was my 1st gf! hehe.. and hindi po ako kagwapuhan, attitude lang po ang ipakita.. kaya wag ka mawalan ng pag-asa.. eto.. mahigit 4 years na kami.. both working.. nagiipon na for future..

salamat bro. hehe. sana nga dumating na siya sa buhay ko. sana tumagal pa kayo lalo ng gf mo.

[jaymejorrol]

And personality is a big + factor than appearance. Nalalanta ang appearance, ang ugali hindi.

true! same pala tayo halos ng situation before.. hehe.. ang nasabihan ng 'ampanget' hahaha!! wala naman tayo magagawa dun eh.. kaya sa attitude nalang bumawi

salamat bro. hehe. sana nga dumating na siya sa buhay ko. sana tumagal pa kayo lalo ng gf mo.

thanks sis.. and don't lose hope lang.. kami nga ni Yes Man kita mo 22yo nagka-gf.. wait ka lang.. di pwedeng walang magkakagusto sayo.. go out, hang out with friends or guys..