to break up or not? please help!

[aquacharly]

There are times the best decision is to do nothing.  Let it all cool down.  Then re-think.

[snowberry]

Gosh!!! Hindi na nga kayang buhaying ng maayos ang mga anak nya from different women, gusto pang mag ampon. Sa hinaba haba ng kwento mo sis, ddon ako naawa sa mga anak nya. Obviously, hindi sila properly guided by parents kaya medyo pasaway at burara. Meron pa at 18 y/o nakabuntis na.

Ang masasabi ko lang, life is already complicated sa mag asawa, but your "hubby's" life is too complicated . Kung naguguluhan ka sis , go out .  Paano na lang pag may sarili kayong  anak ? Another victim of sobrang complicated na life?

Sorry , but ito eh opinion ko lang. Pray for guidance.

[rowenadegayo]

Hiwalay!! Masakit at brutal Pero kailangan.
Extended family nya will be there forever,sa una,kaya mo pa,Pero later on magcocomplain ka na, next, yan na dahilan ng away nyo.Wala kang peace of mind,masakit sa ulo.Emotionally affected ka at selos to the bone ang mangyayari.Hinde ka makatulog.
Everyday in your life ,every time gigising ka blanko isip mo.
Think of the worst things na Mangyayari sa buhay nyo based with what you are experiencing right now.

Kung matapang ka at iniisip mo na may mas magandang buhay pa bukod as buhay mo ngayon,HIWALAY.

Pero kung hinde mo kaya at pa bahala na sytem ka na lang, hinde ka magkakaroon ng Peace of Mind.
Unless , mangibang bayan or bansa kayo para at least, at least ha, matawag naman buhay ninyong dalawa normal.

Very painful ang maghiwalay.Get your strengh from GOD,pray.HE won't give you a burden that you cannot bear.

I wish you good luck and more strength whatever decisions you make.

[nessy]

ilang years na ninyo pinag-aawayan yung anak niya? is it ever going to go away or get resolved? ano ang napag-compromise-san ninyo ng partner mo about sa pagkakalat sa bahay ng kids niya? ano nagpag agree-han ninyong rules na i-implement sa bahay? or baka naman kase habang nagagalit ka e ikaw rin umaako ng trabaho?

ok na ba issue ninyo sa money?

settled na ang money issue. mas okay na ang pasok ng pera now, since may business na siya now. Sa kids nya, sinasabihan niya naman kahit sa harap ko, kaso talagang matigas nag ulo ng bata. Minsan, gusto ko ng saktan sa gigil ko sa bata, buti napigilan ko pa ang sarili ko. Iniyakan na rin niya ang anak niya dahil lang sa ugali pero wala talaga. Hinahayaan ko lang sila maglinis ng kalat nila. I don't clean para maisip nila na galit ako. Ang masama pa nito, parang ako pa minamasama ng anak niya. Kaya sabi ko isoli na lang niya sa nanay kasi sa totoo lang ugali lang ng anak niya ang pinagaawayan namin wala ng iba.

[nessy]

ilang years na ninyo pinag-aawayan yung anak niya? is it ever going to go away or get resolved?

Recently lang namin pinag-awayan ang mga anak niya. Nag-start ito noong inaway ako ng BioMom for the reason I do not know. Mula noon, kumukulo na talaga dugo ko sa mga anak niya. I know, hindi dapat sila idamay but what can I do? Iyon ang nararamdaman ko.

[onlygirl]

Hope you were able to think things over.  Do not make a miserable life an option for you.  If you think the problem is between you and your partner, it's only the two of you who can resolve it.  Do not solve it by yourself. Have an open. peaceful communication with your partner.  But if the problem is the people around you, that's a different story.  Do not let other people ruin your relationship or love for each other. Also, sometimes it is our expectations that cause our disappointments.   Keep praying and only God can guide you to the right things to do. 

[nessy]

Thanks to everyone who took their time to comment in this thread.  My partner and I are very much okay now. Sure, there are still those petty things that we do not agree at but it is okay. At least we now always make sure that we will work things out. Again, thank you so much sisses.

[brendzy]

Thanks to everyone who took their time to comment in this thread.  My partner and I are very much okay now. Sure, there are still those petty things that we do not agree at but it is okay. At least we now always make sure that we will work things out. Again, thank you so much sisses.

andaming bagyo ng relationship nyo sis, and I am happy to hear that you have endured those. Those are lessons learned na. I believe constant, cool communication is also a great way. Don't leave things unsettled. pag cool down na ang situation, talk to him in a nice, calm manner. make him understand it's not sumbat but more of letting him know and discuss action plans na lang. Pray and be blessed. 

[Crazylabel]

Nahilo ako sa kwento mo sis. Di ko gets ano talaga main prob mo, pera or kids, siguro pareho? Ang labo din when your partner suggested na mag ampon kayo. But good thing is ok kayo now. Set your goals and compromise, di din makakatulong ang pride dahil lagi lang kayong magaaway. Good luck!