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[entwife]

yun love mo para sa babae na dati mo minahal ay never mo na ulit naramdaman sa ibang babae...kahit sa current gf mo o even sa wife mo. possible ba un ganon?

One great love that got away. Your great love is sometimes not the one you end up with.

[Girltalker2]

For guys -

Ano naf-feel ninyo kung gusto malaman ng partner ninyo lagi kung saan kayo nagpunta at sino kasama ninyo? 

Do you think she has the right? 
Do you want to let her know?
Do you think it is not necessary as you are not cheating on her naman? And you both trust each other.
Would you think she does not trust you?
Would you think that she is just doing precautionary measures to protect you from straying?

[jaymejorrol]

^ sa isang relationship, mahalaga yung transparency.. yung wala kang tinatago.. alam nya lahat sayo.. lahat ng gustong malaman ng gf ko sinasabi ko.. dito kasi mas tataas tiwala ng kapartner mo sayo..

yes.. she has the right to know kung nasaan ako at sino kasama ko.. sometimes nga hindi na sya nagtatanong kung sno kasama ko.. andun na kasi yung trust eh.. alam nya hindi ako magloloko.. pero syempre hindi ko aabusuhin at sisirain yung trust nya.. regarding dun sa precautionary measures nya to protect me from straying, well that's fine with me.. wala naman ako dapat ika-bahala as long as i'm honest with her..

[jtansanco]

^^ Yeah, I'd be fine with it. She is the girlfriend after all. But if she does that to me, then I'll do the same to her. But I don't think it's going to be an issue because I'm going to make sure she can trust me and vice versa.

[Girltalker2]

^ no trust issues between the 2.  feeling lang ng babae she just wants to know in the same way she always shares where she goes and sino kasama nya sa bf nya. but bf feels that's too much kasi di naman importante daw.

[sacred cow]

For guys -

Ano naf-feel ninyo kung gusto malaman ng partner ninyo lagi kung saan kayo nagpunta at sino kasama ninyo? 

Do you think she has the right? 
Do you want to let her know?
Do you think it is not necessary as you are not cheating on her naman? And you both trust each other.
Would you think she does not trust you?
Would you think that she is just doing precautionary measures to protect you from straying?

I would feel na gusto niya maging nanay ko, this reeks of insecurity and definitely not attactive...siguro
kung sa simula cute...pero after a few months...meh

[Girltalker2]

^ I see. narinig ko na dati sa ex ko na - kung nanay ko nga hindi ako tinatanong ikaw pa.

Isip ko lang, kung may infidelity/trust issues na nga kayo, and if you do not have something to hide, why not say? 

Pero kung walang infidelity/trust issues, precautionary lang. Insecure parin ba ang girl? 

Kasi sa babae, automatic na nagsasabi kahit hindi sya tinatanong, si ganyan ang kasama ko... etc etc, hanggang sa nakwento na nya ang buhay ng kasama nya.  Pero sa lalaki, sadyang hindi lang sila talaga makwento if not worth talking about (sa pov lang nila)?

[sacred cow]

^ I see. narinig ko na dati sa ex ko na - kung nanay ko nga hindi ako tinatanong ikaw pa.

Isip ko lang, kung may infidelity/trust issues na nga kayo, and if you do not have something to hide, why not say? 

Pero kung walang infidelity/trust issues, precautionary lang. Insecure parin ba ang girl? 

Kasi sa babae, automatic na nagsasabi kahit hindi sya tinatanong, si ganyan ang kasama ko... etc etc, hanggang sa nakwento na nya ang buhay ng kasama nya.  Pero sa lalaki, sadyang hindi lang sila talaga makwento if not worth talking about (sa pov lang nila)?

kasi we expect the girl to give us the benefit of the doubt na hindi kami gagawa ng kalokohan. siyempre
minsan gusto mo rin magkaroon ng "Me-time" kunwari punta ka lang sa gym or bilyaran kasama tropa mo
ang pangit naman siguro kung kelangan mo pa ireport each and every action, nakakasakal naman yun...hindi pa nga
kayo mag-asawa, feeling nung guy caged na siya. yup, it's a feminine trait to be so makwento

[entwife]

I just read this but I also believe that we, women should not expect the same love or treatment with what we are willing to give.

For example, we send messages every morning or report everyday our whereabouts, do not expect our partners to be just the same. We have our own ways of showing how we care.

It's like saying I love you expecting an I love you too in return.

[jaymejorrol]

Isip ko lang, kung may infidelity/trust issues na nga kayo, and if you do not have something to hide, why not say? 

exactly! for me kasi.. bakit ko kelangan maglihim kung tinatanong ako ng gf ko? wala naman ako dapat ikatakot kasi wala naman akong tinatago.. malamang kasi pag umiiwas ka sagutin baka nga may tinatago ka.. magsimula pa ang pagdududa nya sayo..

I see. narinig ko na dati sa ex ko na - kung nanay ko nga hindi ako tinatanong ikaw pa.

parang ang sarcastic for me.. never ko ginanyan gf ko.. maya sumama pa loob ni gf kasi nagtatanong lang naman sya.. and she wants a direct answer lang naman..

kasi we expect the girl to give us the benefit of the doubt na hindi kami gagawa ng kalokohan. siyempre
minsan gusto mo rin magkaroon ng "Me-time" kunwari punta ka lang sa gym or bilyaran kasama tropa mo ang pangit naman siguro kung kelangan mo pa ireport each and every action, nakakasakal naman yun...hindi pa nga kayo mag-asawa, feeling nung guy caged na siya. yup, it's a feminine trait to be so makwento

kahit ako, lalo na pag magdodota kami ng tropa, hindi naman everytime nagpapaalam ako sa gf ko.. PAG nag tanong lang naman sya.. and wala naman siguro masama kung sabihin kung nasaan ako kasi wala naman akong ginagawang kalokohan.. i just answer her questions honestly.. para MAS magtiwala sya sakin.. kung wala naman talaga tayo tinatago why not just answer her questions di ba? yung lang naman kelangan nya.. answers.. and kung ayaw mo maistorbo habang ineenjoy mo ginagawa mo or kung nasaan ka man.. mas better na umpisa pa lang ikaw na magpaalam.. at least sa umpisa pa lang magkalinawan na kayo..

It's like saying I love you expecting an I love you too in return.

i agree.. like i said. when they asked you a question, just answer na lang directly.. when she asked you 'asan ka?' wag na sya sagutin yung nasasakal ka, or you're acting like my mom, i need privacy.. just answer her question lang, lalo na kung wala ka naman talaga ginagawang masama, transparency po ang pino-point ko which directly affects trust

[entwife]

I agree with sacred cow. Napansin ko rin yun na sa umpisa okay lang, then after a while they will go astray. Feeling nila nakakasakal kasi when, where, what, how, why na lang lagi. Needy na bigla yung girl. Tipong nagiging dependent na lang sa relationship.


So what I actually meant sa sinabi ko na it's like saying i love you expecting I love you in return,.. Women tend to expect na kung ano ginagawa nila for the guy, ganun din ang gagawin ng guy for them.
Since women report all the time, sinasabi kung asan sila or ano ginagawa nila, they would expect na boyfriends would do the same.

Which is hindi ata trait ng lalake yun.. Like women are from venus, men are from mars.

OT na ata ako.. This is a guys thread nga pala. haha

[jaymejorrol]

Since women report all the time, sinasabi kung asan sila or ano ginagawa nila, they would expect na boyfriends would do the same.

Which is hindi ata trait ng lalake yun.. Like women are from venus, men are from mars.

yap.. pero sana naman pag nagtanong si girl dapat sagutin ng boy.. sagutin yung tinatanong, hindi yung ang dami pang alam bago sagutin.. like nasasakal na sya, dapat bago sya pumasok sa isang relasyon inexpect nya na mga yan.. pagnagtanong si girl kung asan si boy nasasakal agad? hehe.. kung ayaw nya nasasakal sya sa maliit na bagay, maghanap sya ng girl na walang pake sa kanya..

[Girltalker2]

exactly! for me kasi.. bakit ko kelangan maglihim kung tinatanong ako ng gf ko? wala naman ako dapat ikatakot kasi wala naman akong tinatago.. malamang kasi pag umiiwas ka sagutin baka nga may tinatago ka.. magsimula pa ang pagdududa nya sayo..

pero kasi, why does the girl need to ask. sometimes kasi ayaw na ng babae na kelangan sya magtanong at lumalabas nga na parang imbistigador sya.  kaya mas ok sana ishare nalang ng lalaki yung gusto nya ishare, hopefully it will be sufficient for the girl to be happy.

[Girltalker2]

I agree with sacred cow. Napansin ko rin yun na sa umpisa okay lang, then after a while they will go astray. Feeling nila nakakasakal kasi when, where, what, how, why na lang lagi. Needy na bigla yung girl. Tipong nagiging dependent na lang sa relationship.

alam mo naalala ko before, ako yung walang pake bahala sya san nya gusto pumunta.  tapos nalaman ko nalang may babae na pala. so how do you avoid this, hindi ka nanga nakikialam at hindi ka na nagtatanong, tapos inabuso naman.

I believe somehow there should be some balance.

[Girltalker2]

So what I actually meant sa sinabi ko na it's like saying i love you expecting I love you in return,.. Women tend to expect na kung ano ginagawa nila for the guy, ganun din ang gagawin ng guy for them.
Since women report all the time, sinasabi kung asan sila or ano ginagawa nila, they would expect na boyfriends would do the same.

Which is hindi ata trait ng lalake yun.. Like women are from venus, men are from mars.

OT na ata ako.. This is a guys thread nga pala. haha

sis hindi ka OT. You are just right on the dot and raised a valid point.

Inisip ko nga minsan, o sige, hindi narin ako magsasabi to give him a dose of his own medicine. Tingnan natin kung maging comfortable sya. But at the end of the day, ako din hindi makatiis because it is simply not me. Ako din ang talo kasi gusto ko din malaman nya.

The exercise of not telling on the side of the girl eh para lang maransan ng guy ang feeling when you are left out in the dark na hindi mo alam ano ginagawa ng partner mo.
Moreso, the danger of not telling at walang pakialamanan, eh baka mauwi iyan sa 'separate lives', sige kanya kanya tayo at tuwing Sat and Sun nalang tayo magkita.  That's not the ideal relationship for me kasi.

[jaymejorrol]

alam mo naalala ko before, ako yung walang pake bahala sya san nya gusto pumunta.  tapos nalaman ko nalang may babae na pala. so how do you avoid this, hindi ka nanga nakikialam at hindi ka na nagtatanong, tapos inabuso naman.

I believe somehow there should be some balance.

nasagot ko na'to previously eh.. like i said:

kung ayaw nya nasasakal sya sa maliit na bagay, maghanap sya ng girl na walang pake sa kanya

.. and ayan nangyari na pala.. ok lang naman kasi na magtanong kayo.. kesa pinapabayaan mo lang, kaya minsan naabuso na.. ako.. minsan talaga hindi na ako tinatanong ni gf kung asan ako.. kasi may tiwala sya and hindi ko sisirain ang tiwalang yon.. pero once na nagtanong si gf, i just answer lang honestly.. and alam nyo naman siguro, depende sa sagot ni partner.. malalaman mo kung honest sya or not.. or kung may tinatago sya..

just ask.. wag kayo matakot.. it is your right to know.. hindi kayo dummy.. nagtatanong ka hindi lang dahil sa concern ka sa kanya but concern ka rin sa relationship nyo.. para kang nag-aaral nyan tapos wala ka maintindihan sa tinuturo ng ma'am mo, di ka man lang nagtanong, kaya pag dating ng exam.. bagsak!

pero kasi, why does the girl need to ask. sometimes kasi ayaw na ng babae na kelangan sya magtanong at lumalabas nga na parang imbistigador sya.  kaya mas ok sana ishare nalang ng lalaki yung gusto nya ishare, hopefully it will be sufficient for the girl to be happy.

karapatan nyo naman magtanong eh.. minsan lang nababanas or tinatamad ang boy sumagot dahil (for sure) naiistorbo sya sa lakad nya o sa ginagwa nya.. sabi ko nga kung ayaw nila maistorbo, maaga palang kusa na magpaalam sa girl para alam ng girl at hindi na mangungulit.. mahirap ba magkusa or tamad lang talaga? i don't know pero pride nanaman kasi ang nakikita ko dito.. kesyo pag boy ka dapat hindi na tinatanong? tapos magagalit si boy nakukulitan na sayo.. well, asan yung give and take? halimbawa ng ginagawa ko, bago ako magdota nagpapaalam ako.. para hindi na sya mangungulit in-game.. ganun lang kadali.. dati kasi hindi ako ngpapaalam.. kaya pag hindi ako ngtetext ngtatanong na sya kung ano ginagawa ko.. naiistorbo yung paglalaro ko..

[Lady Czarina]

grabe naman nagtanong lang nakakasakal na ba kagad yon? ako i told my bf na sabihin sakin where he's going and who's with him pag aalis sya, for me to know lang kung nasan sya and just in case something bad happened alam ko kung san ko sya pupuntahan or kung sino ang kokontakin ko and para alam ko din ang mga ginagawa nya..once sinabi naman nya pinapabayaan ko na sya, i'll ask him to text me na lang when he's done or pauwi na.. ang nakakasakal for me yung maya't maya na lang tumatawag or nagtetext na nasan na..saka yung mga questions na anong gagawin nyo dun? sinong pupuntahan nyo dun? bakit kayo pupunta dun??anong oras kayo uuwi?bat kailangan sumama ka pa??bat di mo ko sinama??....kung ako lalake tapos ganon gf ko untog ko sa pader yun..haha.. actually ex-bf ko ganon ang ugali..

[jaymejorrol]

^ yun lang.. consistent ang pagtatong.. haha.. parang tanong naman ng paranoid yun? pagkatapos ng isa, may mga sub questions pa! haha.. kami kasi in that case.. ganito:

gf: san ka pupunta?
me: sa friend ko sa taguig.. tutulong mag-ayos ng bahay.. behave po ako promise.
gf: uhm.. ok.. ingat po..

the word 'promise' is very important sa amin lalo na sa text.. as easy as that.. kampante na kami sa ganyan.. wala na masyadong tanong.. and alama naman namin sa self namin na hindi talaga kami magloloko.. ganyan kasi kami.. once na sinira mo yung promise mo, away samin yan.. 3 years na namin ginagawa yung ganyan.. before kasi sinasabi namin yung promise para matahimik lang kakatanong, but now hindi na.. kumbaga yun ang basehan namin lung honest ka talaga.. and we both agreed to that.. nasa inyo nalang kung paano nyo paguusapan yung mga ganyang cases..

[onlygirl]

haven't read the complete thread here.  I'll ask na rin you guys, may ibig sabihin ba sa guys if they kiss a girl with their eyes open?  kase sabi ng iba kung closed eyes while they kiss, sincere talaga yung guy.  does it mean na if open yung eyes nila while the girl is kissing with closed eyes, hindi sincere yung guy? 

[jtansanco]

^ It's just weird.. Common practice lang kasi yung pagclose ng eyes since ang weird naman if you're kissing each other and you look at them nang naka-close up. But I heard some people do it while their eyes are open. Siguro, di lang sanay yung guy na nakaclose yung eyes.

Don't let the opened/closed eyes of a guy determine if he's sincere or not.