Got questions regarding men? Post it here!

[jtansanco]

Since this portion of the forum is for men, I made this thread for the ladies who have random questions which doesn't need a thread.

If it's "one-question, one-answer type" or any random curiosity regarding men, you can post it here and the guys (hopefully) will be answering your questions!

[yajale_22]

if bf is not texting the gf, what could be the possible reasons? I'm getting tired of his excuses and I just wanna find out if these "excuses" are somewhat common in men..

[jtansanco]

^ Wait, bf is not texting but he has "excuses"? Like what? Does he have to text you all the time or do you see each other often? Baka wala lang kasi mapag-usapan sa text since madalas naman kayo nagkikita..

[yajale_22]

LDR kame for almost 2 years, when he was still abroad, iniintindi ko na lang kase sabe nya bawi naman sya pag uwi nya dito...di rin kame madalas magkasama..he is in bicol now...I dont ask him to text me every now and then, pero minsan bigla na lang hindi magtitext for more than 24 hrs, syempre nagwoworry ako then yung mga excuses nya, kasama barkda, nag inom sila, lasing na di makapagtext and other excuses na for me, mababaw...Feeling ko kase sinasadya nya na lang na di talaga magtext. Sabe nya kase ganun daw talaga mga lalaki kaya I wanna know if its true.

[jtansanco]

^ Sa akin kasi I'm not into LDR since di maiiwasan na guy/girl will crave for physical attention. In my opinion on what you wrote, ang babaw nga niyan. Di naman pwede na lahat yun ginagawa niya for 24 hours. If nasa LDR ako, mas gusto ko nga makipagkeep in touch sa gf ko e. If i'm busy, then pwede siguro but the thing is, isang text lang yan. Simple effort pero di niya magawa? Can't he allocate at least 1 minute of his time just to text you? If matagal na yan nangyayari, medyo bad sign na yan... Like the usual phrase, if gusto, gagawa ng paraan. If ayaw, gagawa ng dahilan.

[yajale_22]

I really appreciate your answer about this..at least in a guy's point of view, may pagkakamali nga sya...yun din yung naisip ko, dapat nga mas magkeep in touch sya pero hindi ganun. I guess its time for me to make the decision I should have done long time ago. I already talked to him about this pero wala talaga. Thanks bro

[piatos]

Nakikipagcommunicate ulit si ex..Nangangamusta naman sabi niya nalulungkot daw siya tapos tinanong ko ano ba pumipigil sayo na balikan ako?  Sabi niya hindi din niya daw alam.  Sabi ko nasaktan ko ba ego mo nung nakipagbreak siya sakin siya nakikipagbalikan din naman ayaw ko naman? Sabi niya baka daw.  Anong tingin niyo? thanks!

[jtansanco]

Siya nakipagbreak diba? Nagkaroon ba siya ng gf after you? How long naging kayo and how long yung span na nagbreak kayo until sa nagpaparamdam ulit? And if nagka-gf siya, how long naging sila? Need the timeline here. 

[piatos]

Uu siya nakipagbreak nun August, 4 years and 6 months kami nun tapos nakipagbalikan din kaso nahurt din ako nun sobra nun kaya hindi ako nakipagbalikan.  Hindi naman siya nagka-gf pero nun nakabalik siya na dito sa pinas nun december kinontak niya ulit ako.  Ang mali ko lang hindi ko inaalam agad status namin.  Kasi lagi siya nagtetext sakin nag-iilove you din.  Iniisip ko din nun time na yun meron pa siyang feelings sakin.  1st bf ko siya at ako naman 1st serious relationship niya.  Nalaman ko lang din nakikipagdate na siya pero sabi niya friendly date huwag ko daw isipin.  Kinamusta niya ako kinamusta ko rin siya ang sabi niya sakin nalulungkot pa rin daw siya pag naalala yung memories namin.  Pag wala daw siya ginagawa nababaliw daw siya kakaisip.  Hindi daw niya alam kung ano pumipigil sa kanya.  Gusto niya rin maging friends kami.  Hindi ko tuloy alam gagawin ko naguguluhan na ako 

[jtansanco]

^ So this was just last year diba? Assuming wala siya naging gf or kahit meron man, I guess okay lang to keep in touch with him. Na-feel niya siguro importance mo sa life niya kaya may regrets when he broke up with you so now, he's trying to court you again. If you still like him, try to meet up and go on some dates again. Ball is in your hands whether or not ibabalik mo siya sa life mo o hindi. Maybe reason niya kung bakit hindi pa siya ready to have you as your bf again is nahihiya siya or gusto niya makita if ikaw nga talaga is the "one". Anyway, if you're still open to him, give him another chance if wala naman third party involved. Go back to the courtship stage and see how it will develop again. 4.5 years na pala naging kayo e so as long as wala siyang malaking kasalanan sa breakup niyo, then I think you can give it another try. 

[piatos]

^Bro, may isa pa siyang sinabi niya sakin wala daw sa isip niya na maging kami last week yun tapos kahapon lang nalulungkot daw siya at naiisip daw yung memories namin.  Kaya naguguluhan din ako. 

[jtansanco]

Walang balak na maging kayo.. So, ano yan? He wants to put you in the friendzone after breaking up? If friends lang habol niya and nothing more, then think of this scenario... You two are good friends again and, assuming you still have feelings for him, what would you feel if he gets a new gf? If you think you'll feel some sort of pain or jealousy, then tell him you're not interested to be friends. But if wala ka na feelings for him but still want his company, then siguro pwede kayo maging friends. But having been with him for 4.5 years, I don't think madali para sayo yung pagiging friends lang.

[piatos]

Yan din iniisip ko bro masasaktan ako pag nagkaroon siya ng new gf.  Mahirap maging friend siya kasi may feelings pa ako sa kanya.  Magulo talaga e hehe

[jtansanco]

Kung friends lang talaga habol niya, in my opinion, wag nalang. Not worth it. Knowing that you have feelings for him, madali ka niya paglalaruan if ever since siya rin kasi nakipagbreak sayo. So parang he has the upper hand on you.

[piatos]

Ok lang ba kung tatanungin ko siya ulit?  Gusto ko na rin kung ano ba talaga ang gusto niya kasi nagpapansin siya sa akin.  Natutuwa na din ako bihira lang yun nakikipagfriends may care pa rin sa isat-isa

[jtansanco]

Yeah, mag-usap dapat kayo. Yun nga e. If friends lang, bakit ganon siya magcare di ba? Para di ka narin mahirapan, it's either maging kayo or goodbye na. Kasi if maging friends pa kayo, feel ko ikaw yung mahihirapan in the end.

[kaiz]

Bakit yung politicians (married guys syempre) kailangan may babae na minimaintain?

[jtansanco]

Parang ganito? http://ph.omg.yahoo.com/news/heart-evangelista-has-no-expectations-for-2013-114438429.html

Syempre, adds image and it helps endorse the politician. Kahit bad issue, okay lang yan. As they say, any kind of publicity, even if it's bad publicity, is still publicity.

Pero on the side, it shows that money is one of the biggest factors in choosing a guy. Can't deny it. At the end of the day, love can't pay the bills.

[aquacharly]

Well, there you go  -- same old story, same ending.
A relationship based on sex never lasts. Really.
But a relationship based on money, sure can last -- even up to the grave.

Between the TS and this pokz --  IMO, she is the one grounded and the one with integrity. 
She focused on her goal (more easy money) & lived her truth (pokpokation is the way to get more money)
She did her math & figured all TS could afford probably approximated only her fee per-fuckk.  She gave him his money's worth, period. 

Real/sincere/authentic Charity has no strings attached. It is given freely with  no expectations of reciprocation nor end-success.    Just give, and forget it.

[piatos]

Bro jtansanco, okay na nagkausap na kami friends na lang daw.  Onti-onti ko na natatanggap parang wala na akong galit sa kanya at konting-konti na lang yun love dahil na rin sa mga sinabi niya.  Mas mahihirapan ako kung hindi ko siya i-let go.  Thanks bro! God bless!