Sinasabihan nya akong "Mataba, nag away tuloy kami

[Coffee_lover]

Nakakainis na. This week parang everyday kami nag aaway kasi lagi nya ko sinasabihan ng mataba. Shempre galing holiday nag gain talaga ko ng 4lbs. Sabi nya bakit daw before wedding kaya ko magpapayat ngayon daw hindi ako magpapayat. There was a time halos one meal a day na lang kami kakain dahil gusto nya ko pumayat. By the way, I'm 5'1 and 60kls. Nag away na kami last month dahil sa kasasabi nya sakin na ang laki laki ko na daw, napipikon na ako kasi araw araw ko naririnig and this week halos di kami nag uusap, kasi lagi na ko napipikon sa kare-remind nya na mataba na ako. I cant do exercise kasi i had an apedectomy 8 mos ago, kaso nahirapan ako tanggalin ang taba ko coming from holiday. Ngayon parang takot pa tuloy ako mabuntis, kasi kung eto nga lang taba na to araw araw na ko nasasabihan pano pa kaya pag buntis na ko, baka lalo ako tumaba.

[eilegna]

Naku sis.. mas gusto ko pa nga yung ganyan..
sinasabihan ng mataba, at least nmomotivate ako magreduce ng weight.. hehe
don't take it seriously, baka yun yung way nya para iremind sayo na
maging figure conscious ka..  wala pa kayong baby, mahirap magbuntis  and
mabuntis pag overweight..

relax lang, diet tayo.. I also started my diet this year, I'm 5'4", 60kgs.
target ko is 55kgs para body beautiful na hehe


sabi nga sa kabilang thread: re: secrets of a fascinating wife

SECRET NUMBER SEVEN
Make the most of your hair,
your figure and your health.

Your appearance is important to a man.
Most men find longer, femininely styled
hair highly appealing.
Maintain your ideal weight by regular
exercise and sound nutrition.
A lovely smile is a priceless asset to a woman.
Have your teeth looking their nicest.


Smile! tayong mga asawa, need talaga magmaganda para si asawa hindi maghanap ng iba hehe
pero it's not always with the looks lang 

[Priceless]

Hi Sis,

I can understand your predicament. Although mali siguro ang approach ni hubby sayo, may point siguro sya because being overweight is not good for you - and baka mas mahirapan ka pa to conceive; and the longer you are overweight, the harder it is to get rid of the weight and the "excess baggage". You can't use your appendectomy as an excuse for not exercising dahil (1) matagal na yung 8 months to heal and (2) may mga exercises naman na hindi ganun ka strenuous para mag-cause ng complications sa appendectomy mo.

What's your BMI ba? Perhaps instead of starvation diet (which do not work, btw) you should start planning and eating healthy meals and committing to doing exercises, kahit yung aerobics sa TV man lang para makita ni hubby that you are making an effort to lose weight. Hindi kasi enough talaga yung hindi ka kakain...

[princessrio]

heheh.. i'm 5 flat and weighs 70 kls. so mas mataba ako sa yo. but the thing is, magkaiba tayo ng husband (to think na fitness instructor pa ang husband ko). kahit pa tanggap nya na ako na mataba, that does not give me the license na lalo pa magpataba.

have you told your husband na napipika ka na? saka bakit ganon? ginagawang once a day yung meal nyo. is he the one cooking? starvation is not effective. magkakasakit ka lang nyan.

losing weight comes from within. kasi kung wala ka talagang urge and determination, hindi ka talaga maglolose ng weight. ikaw ba, gusto mo talaga magpapayat? take it a challenge. tapos pag sumexy ka ng bongga, sya naman sabihan mo na magpapogi.. tee hee!...

[sistah!]

tell your husband sis! maybe he's coming from a good place and he just wants to make you fitter. but tell him it's not helping calling you fat. do you want to lose weight? what is the ideal weight/size for you ba? the one that is healthy for your size and the one that you are comfortable with? kasi with me -- we're the same size halos, i think -- im comfortable naman with my size so i dont have any issues kahit i get teased that im a bit overweight. hindi naman sobrang taba ng size mo so im assuming hindi ka rin completely unhealthy.

were you super skinny when you first started dating your husband? baka kasi that's the ideal that he is looking for, so you need to tell him if hindi ka happy mag-diet ng sobra. one meal a day is too little, i think, for food intake. baka lalo ka magkasakit nyan.

[babychellee]

im quite chubby too and my fiance reminds me about "dieting" since malapit na wedding namin. pero he has a different approach and he says it "nicely" by telling me its benefits din na para magka anak kami agad and for me to be free from diseases. he also tells me na siya rin daw mag eexercise na.

maybe you just have to tell him how you feel every time he teases you about it. siguro kahit ako maiinis din kung araw araw or palagi ako sinasabihan. shempre diba he should accept me sa kahit anong state ko. so tell him in a nice way na talgang magdadiet ka naman pero he shouldn't force you to do it, and he should be more encouraging. 

[showermist]

You're on the chunky side.  Sorry for the word. I am not going to sugarcoat what I am going to say. I am on the petite side too and I weigh 105 lbs. Few montsh ago I weigh around 60k too--I wasn't comfortable because I can feel the bilbil on my waist when I do sidebends. I had the muffin top!

Even my husband noticed it too. Aba, nagalit din ako sa asawa ko ha. He's retort, "Gusto mo akong magsinungaling sa iyo?"

I am back to 105. Losing the last ten pounds is the hardest. Siguro ganun ka rin ngayon.

Don't skip a meal. Pero minimize your rice/bread, eat more  fruits (yung fresh hindi canned) and vegetables (avoid mo muna ginisa). Do not drink sodas. Water lang. Do some brisk walking or tumakbo ka.

If you will have the discipline in a month or two, you'll lose the extra baggage. At hindi ka na ring tatawaging mataba ng mister mo. Tapos pag sya ang tumaba o sya ang pumayat (sobrang payat)--punahin mo din! LOLS (joke)

[guilleanne]

pang asar naman si hubs mo sis. wag mo na pansinin sis.

ikaw sa sarili if you feel ok ka lang. mas maganda talaga kung physically fit ka.

pero 1 time pag inasar ka ulit ask him, so hindi mo na ko love kung mataba ako. hehe. balik mo na sa nanay nya pag sinabing oo.

[aquacharly]

Well, well, well -- that sets the tone of your self-presentation in your relationship.
You gotta stay thin, always.
Good he is not shy about telling you he wants a forever-thin wife always.
What's wrong with telling you?
What's wrong with staying thin? 
Oo, tactless or ka pikon...  So now you know where he stands on at least 1 issue, and now you know he yaks yaks nags.

Good luck with your weight loss program.  Don't win the battle to lose the war, keep in mind.
Make him work as your exercise-diet buddy. Turn a grrrr situation into a bonding thing.

[mrsonthego]

siguro kapag ganyan dadaanin ko na lang sa biro, eh sa masarap kumain eh, at saka kung ganyan na talaga ang body structure mo mahirap magpapayat kung gusto niya na mala model sa kapayatan, saka tanungin mo siya na hindi ka na ba niya mahal dahil sa mataba ka na? hindi naman porke hindi ka seksi hindi ka na magiging mabuting asawa sa kanya diba? just my pov

[hisana]

I usually don't take offense whenever people would sometimes mention I've gained a few, pero kung araw-araw ako sasabihan ng same person, I'd be annoyed. I just tell them that I'm already doing something about it and significant weight loss will not happen overnight, so konting hintay lang, LOL.

[imbisibol_]

...kasi lagi nya ko sinasabihan ng mataba.

start with decaf and splenda 

[break_free]

Magpapayat ka sis, stay pretty lagi kasi ibig sabihin non ay you value yourself, at mahal mo din sarili mo. Swerte din naman yung iba na oks lang kahit maging dabyana pa yung mga asawa nila. Ako, aminin ko ayaw ko din ng bf or husband na maging hideous, syempre nakaka turn off haha mas maganda yung marunong mag alaga ng katawan.

[Pretty_ava]

mag dyeta ka sis, I used to weigh 124lbs and I'm only 4"11, by the way, i used to be so skinny pero nawala lahat nung nagakaron ako ng baby.

pero now, Im back on track, 100 lbs na lang ako....I think underweight na ako sa height ko.  ginawa ko, nag dyeta ako, as ion disiplana lang talaga for almost 4 buwan ayun skinny na ulet ang PEG ko now...,I'm loving it so far....

[itcha123]

sis coffee lover, start to lose those extra pounds that you gained, kasi kapag tinamad ka mag exercise from your weight ngayon, baka two to three months lang madagdagan na naman yan.  Baka magkaroon ka pa ng mga insecurities, lalu na kapag nakita mo na mga sexy girls ang officemate ni hubby.  Kasi tayong mga girls aminin man natin o hindi marami tayong insecurities sa katawan.  So stay fit & healthy kahit na malamig ang panahon.  Goodluck sis, strong determination & will power mo lang ang kailangan mo.

[nageinna]

ako naman si hubby ang nasa chubby side between samin dalawa. i think good intentions naman yung kay hubby mo sis coffee_lover, ganon lang talaga approach niya. ako i would always remind my hubby to exercise. if nakikita ko napapasobra na kain niya ng junk, i would remind him. pero minsan hindi ko rin mapag sabihan kaya mag ddrama nalang ako "alagaan mo naman sarili mo, hindi healthy pag ganyan ka ng ganyan. gusto mo ba bata palang tayo eh ang dami mo na sakit?" ayun medyo natatauhan naman siya. ako naman, mas naiirita ako kasi lagi ako sinasabihan na mapayat ng inlaws ko. eh hello, hindi porket hindi ko sila kasing dami kumain, payat na ko. eh since nag move ako sakanila nag increase ako ng 5lbs! and i noticed lumalaki na rin talaga ako. pero sila they keep on insisting na mapayat parin ako. hindi daw halata na i gained weight. so i understand where you're coming from, yung tipong paulit ulit sasabihin sayo na ganito ganyan. and worse kinocontrol pa, sasabihin eto dapat kainin mo, wag yan. etc. i just ignore them. i eat right and nag eexercise narin ako now para hindi masyado lumobo. mas focus ako now in motivating hubby to exercise daily. and i think concern talaga sayo yung hubby mo sis kaya siya panay ulit ng ulit. may mga effective ways din ata to lose weight kahit hindi mag exercise. i agree with splenda. try mo siya. or search ka over the net iba pang ways. konting tyaga lang and i think in two months pwede mo na mareach ideal weight mo.

[chicafabulosa]

Haha natawa naman ako.. Sorry sis ha, pero sa akin kasi lambing na ni hubby yung sinasabihan nya ako ng taba plus kurot sa arms ko... Di naman ako napipikon kasi confident naman ako sa katawan ko and im doing my best naman to lose weight. But of course wag mo masyado dibdibin... Sabihin mo lang napipikon ka na para he would know na nasasaktan ka na. Minsan kasi akala ng boys ayos lang sa atin yun eh napakasensitive issue pa naman sa ating mga girls ang weight aminin!

Pero if i were you, deadma ka lang kasi alam mo naman na youre doing youre best na magpapayat... So why not try mo rin sya asarin kung anong yung say sobrang payat mo na or dika na kasing buff ng dati.. Lam mo yung let him taste his own dose of medicine.. hehe...

But seriously, ignore mo na lang.. Just do your best. If napipikon ka na, tell him to stop and tell him na naiinis ka na.. Yun lang

[glamorosa_09]

There was a survey done across the US that helped uncovered the inner lives of men, and it was compiled in the book For Women Only.

There were 2 survey questions about a wife's appearance

“Imagine your wife/significant other is overweight, wears baggy sweats when you are home, and only does her hair and make up to go out. She hates being overweight, but nothing much changes and lately you’ve seen her eating more sweets. What goes through your mind? [Choose all correct answers]

This is the result
note to mod: That's a jpeg file, not an article. So I'm not advertising a post. oki?

“Is this statement true or false? “I want my wife/significant other to look good and feel energetic. It is not as important that she look just like she did the day we met. It is more important that she make the effort to take care of herself for me now.” [Choose one answer]

This is the result

The truth is, when you make an effort to take care of yourself (kahit para sa sarinling kaligayahan mo lang), he will feel loved.

[April30]

Same Lang Tayo sis, lagi din ako sinasabihan ni hubby na mataba na daw ako, 5 feet flat height ko and 65 lbs ang weight. Patawid na talaga sa heavy side. Feeling ko I find it hard to loose weight after giving birth with my third child. Dedma Lang ako sa hubby ko, confident naman ako with myself and confident ako na Hindi ako iiwan ni hubby. hehe. Wag mo na pansy in masaydo yung sinasabihan ni husband. Just be confident in what you are, and always be smart-looking... Wag mo ikahiya sa Ibang Tao ang sarili mo para Hindi ka ikahiya sa iba ng husband mo...

[super bratinella]

Sis, I think you take your hubby's advise and take it seriously. I am 7month pregnant right now and I am still very conscious with I am eating kasi last time na nabuntis ako napasarap ako ng kain, then nanganak ako weighing at around 150lbs at 5'1. Ang hirap magpapayat at the bad side is hindi man lang ako sinasabihan ng hubby ko na mataba na ako, narealize ko na lang sa pictures ko na parang lumba lumba ako. Kasi si hubby mahilig sa chubby kaya hindi niya ako minomotivate magpapayat.

I am now on my 4th year of not eating rice, drinking softdrinks and coffee. Effective sis kasi from 128lbs I end up at 108lbs kaso now I am pregnant continue pa rin ako sa diet ko, hanggang saan ko kaya. This is not for my hubby this is for mysel.