first time mom, how to deal with baby

[sleepless]

^ thanks   sis m_lim.... hindi lang talaga ako mapakali e.. 

[cerelina]

^^according to pedia normal lang daw yun nag aadjust pa daw kasi yung digestive system ni baby kaya may sinok

[imagodei082990]

and hindi lahat ng sinasabi ng pedia ay sinusunod ko. Tulad sa gatas vitamins at meds .. Bakit ? Kase yung mga binibigay nila na yan eh yung mga brand nila. Kadalasan mahal at di naman ganon ka effective. Pag may ubo o sipon baby ko oregano lang tanggal sya pag sa pedia gamot agad tulad nung pedia ni eldest dati dalaga pa kase kaya di ako bilib sa mga sinasabi ang mhal pa mg bigay ng gamot kaya ky bunso ngpalit kami ng pedia galing nya na pedia 3 na anak nya pero akala mo dalaga naiintindihan nya ang pagiging mom kaya yung mga binibigay at advice nya talang helpfull. Anjan din si mareng google laging takbuhan ko

[sleepless]

Hello Mga sis! May tanong Lang ako, Mga ilang days bago natanggap young pusod ni baby?

[ifcastro]

Hi mga sissies,

Just wondering, kung exclusive Direct Breastfeeding ka, panp ang schedule niyo with the helper/yaya?

TIA,

[cerelina]

^^about a week sis naalis yung stump

[daveigh]

super relate ako sa thread na ito. im still on ml, baby is a month 18 days old. kahit pala anong headstart ang meron ka sa bata, iba pa rin kapag anak mo na. umabot ako sa point na halos hanggang umaga eh fussy si baby talagang inihiga ko sya at nasuntok ko ang pader at nasipa ko pa ang pinto namin sa kwarto sa sobrang frustration. wala kasi akong yaya that time (umalis at di na bumalik) tapos yung mister ko eh parang timang at dumadagdag na alagain (different story). pero after ng 'episode' na yun eh medyo nahimasmasan din ako. iniisip ko na lang na lilipas din ang lahat ng ito. well so far everything is ok, may yaya na ako at deadma na lang ako sa asawa ko na incompetent sa babies. lolz!

[eilegna]

Hello Mga sis! May tanong Lang ako, Mga ilang days bago natanggap young pusod ni baby?

a week or two..
2x a day mo lagyan ng alcohol para madaling magdry and matanggal..

[imagodei082990]

yung baby ko now 4months na at happy ako kase hindi na rin sya masyadong mahirap alagaan. Hindi ko kase sya sinanay sa karga kaya nakahiga lang sya paikot ikaot lang sya sa puzzle mat nya tapos pag antok na sya makakatulog nalang sya mag isa o kaya tatapikin ko lang yung duyan nya di na nya ginagamit at pati crib. Yung hirap sa una lang talaga .

[m_lim]

^pano siya sis hindi nasanay sa karga? pano nung maliit pa siya tapos iyak ng iyak? baby ko kasi 23 days old, parang nasasanay sa karga! iyak ng iyak at titigil lang pag kinarga. gusto pa nakatayo ka pag hinele. pag nakaupo tapos dinuyan duyan, iiyak parin.

[k_heart]

I have 3 kids, mga grade schoolers na ngayon, hindi ako naniniwala dyan sa mga sinasanay sa karga. Nung babies pa sila, if my karga will make them feel better,kinakarga ko talaga. kasi pag laki nila, hindi na sila magpapakarga.
Ang mga babies kasi,iba iba din,  may kailangan ng karga, may hind naman kargahin. yung bunso ko, ang dali patulugin kahit hindi  kargahin.  pero yung middle child ko, susme, kahit tumbling na,ang ligalig nung baby. ha!ha!

[daveigh]

^ agree.

[khriseeee]

That's what everyone told me, not to carry her often, but since she was my first baby I always wanted to carry her! Especially when she was a newborn. It's only natural that they want to be held since they are used to being in a tight/enclosed space. Some people say let the baby cry which is fine too, but I couldn't stand to hear my newborn cry like that.

^^^sis m_lim my baby was like that too! She knew when I was standing and when I was sitting down, even if I was just standing still standing up. I don't know what comforts her more while I'm standing  Well now she's 10 months old, she doesn't need to be swayed to sleep anymore. I feel kinda sad na hahaha

[nikki]

Based on my experience, I don't believe na rin sa Sanay Sanay yan. But I admit, nag-worry ako dito sabayan pa ng comment ng neighbor namin na kaya raw Hindi Ko mabitawan baby Ko kahit Tulog eh sinanay ng Lola. Kaka-asar Lang since my mom helped me get through 4 weeks of hardship at pati siya napagod at napuyat sa pag alaga sa baby Ko tapos masisisi pa.

I experienced yang parang hostage ka talaga in your own house, sa room namin since around 5-6 weeks I couldn't put my baby down, Gising man o Tulog. I also can't help let my baby cry that much so whatever comforts him and make him stop crying, I do. But now I believe, it's just a phase. At 8 weeks for a few days now, my baby now sleeps on the bed at Hindi na sa chest Ko. Ang Sarap Lang ng feeling kasi I can do stuff na while he sleeps. I don't strain myself anymore and I can also sleep straight 2-3 hrs even more while he's feeding. Sometimes, I let him sleep on my chest pag mga afternoon nap kasi nami-miss Ko rin to haha

[appledapple]

hindi din ako naniniwala sa sinanay sa karga. nagpapakarga ang babies kasi kasama yun sa needs nila. feeling ko pag di ko kinarga baby ko pag gusto nya baka ma-feel nya na neglected sya. kung di ko sya kakargahin ngayon, kelan pa? pag ayaw na nya?

9 weeks na baby ko & nung first 4 weeks nya dede, palit ng diaper & karga lang talaga kami. pero nung 5 weeks na sya kahit karga umiiyak sya kaya binaba ko sya. ayun tumigil. gusto nya palang maglaro na hindi sya karga. ngayong 9 weeks na sya mas madami ng time na gusto nya maglalaro kami (kakausapin ko sya, kakantahan, babasahan ng books).

di ko din naranasang mapuyat sa baby ko. natutulog sya sa gabi & hindi sya nag-iiyak. nakuha ko din kasi agad kung paano nya gustong matulog. gusto nya na nakadikit talaga sya sa kin, yung arms ko ang unan nya tapos yakap ko sya. ngayon binababa ko sya na half-asleep tapos onting tapik tutulog na sya.

kaya pag nag-demand sya ng karga binibigay ko sa kanya.

[cerelina]

I agree yan din sinasabi ng tita ko sinanay daw si baby sa karga but babies need to be held pag ayaw naman nila ng karga they will cry. Like with my baby she want to be held always but there is this one time na karga ko sya but she kept on crying ipinasa ko sa iba kasi akala ko shes just uncomfortable with me pero hindi tumugil binalik sakin ng dad nya umiiyak pa rin binaba ko sa bed tumahimik apparently she just wants to play pala. clueless lang ako sa gusto ni baby

[marose17]

Adolf Hitler, according to books, was not carried when he was a baby.  Go figure.

Babies need to be held.  Period.

I never believed in withholding warmth and affection to a baby because of some old wives' tale na "baka masanay sa karga."  Go hold your babies.  They will be babies only once.

[sistah!]

first thing that you should know: this too shall pass

you are luckier than i was because you are able to post here. i did not get to open my laptop until a month after we went home because my baby is such a voracious feeder. minsan every hour ang demand. since i breastfeed, wala talagang iba na pwede mag-take ng place ko. i had to be awake and available for her. my only breaks were bathroom breaks and meals. occassionally, the yaya, my husband or my mom would take turns in cradling her but the bulk of the job was mine. like you, i found myself crying several times from exhaustion, frustration, anger, depression and the sheer pain of breastfeeding.

but it passes.

the way i survived was like this, i told myself, just survive the next 4 hours. after 4 hours, the next 4 hours ulit. it was a challenge to myself to not lose my grip during that time. afterwards, it was 6 hours, then 12 then day to day. before i knew it, a month had passed and i became ready to face guests and visitors again. i was really sensitive the first month kasi and i refused to entertain anyone except family (na hindi mapigilan pumunta). i am so grateful that i did that and i survived and i did not leave my child in the care of a yaya or another family member kasi when i went back to work, i really missed her. still do when i'm at the office. these moments are blessings, just focus on that sis

[quinone]

i didn't read the whole tread, just wanted to give a tip na baka mag work para sa iba. nung elementary ako, i stayed with my lola at kami nag aalaga sa mga anak ng aunty & uncle ko kasi nasa office sila.

gumawa ng duyan yung lolo & lola ko sa kwarto, sa ibabaw ng big bed nila. i don't know kung yaan ang dahilan, pero i don't remember na iyakin ang 3 cousins ko. (lalu na sa mga babies na mahilig magpakarga, baka nami.miss lang nila ang womb ng mommy) nakakapagod rin minsan magkarga.

[imagodei082990]

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