BF doesn't want to talk to me..

[IronLady]

hi sisses! i'm so sad right now.. bf doesn't want to talk to me.. its been like 4 days? well we argued about something petty (i was the one angry here) and ended up not making up until he just didn't want to talk to me.. like no contact at all.. he said he needs space cause nasasakal sya.. i just don't know what to do.. never happened before. he said he just don't wanna talk to me.. i did try to call him but he wouldn't listen or talk to me ng maayos.. sended few messages but he just wouldn't reply.. i feel like giving up already.. i think i already did my part.. its just that somehow i feel broken, angry, confused.. i dont even know if i have the right to be angry.. coz im supposed to make suyo coz one of us is obviously super angry and one is supposed to do the chase to make it work right?.. but like i said i did try, but he just wouldn't.. i feel like sending him a "lets break up" message so that he would reply.. lol. but i just dont think i can do that yet.. i dont think kaya ko panindigan yun while ako dito yung lungkot-lungkutan.. he doesn't seem to be affected at all.. 

[freelancer_babe]

he said he needs space cause nasasakal sya..

i feel like sending him a "lets break up" message so that he would reply.. lol. but i just dont think i can do that yet.. i dont think kaya ko panindigan yun while ako dito yung lungkot-lungkutan.. he doesn't seem to be affected at all.. 

Ganda ng username mo sis. IronLady. Didn't think you'd get vulnerable at times.

I think your BF had beaten you up to it. He needs space - could mean he had already broken up with you.

Guys who had broken up in the past with me had told me that: that they needed space. Yun ang words nila. Coming from not just one guy in the past.

Since the quarrel is petty, mukhang naipon ang galit nya. Then he left you without further explanation and you're left figuring out what went wrong. Kasi di niya sinabi kung ano talaga ang problema.

In a way sis, the separation could be a good thing, kasi kung kayo pa then you'll always have to deal with guessing what's on his mind. In other words what he lacks is proper communication on his part - the cause of all conflicts in a relationship. Mahirap kasama ang guy na ganyan.

[IronLady]

^thanks sis. he wasn't like that before. we used to really communicate esp. when dealing with our arguments. i dont know what happened. it started when he got busy with work ang business, parang nalessen yung communication. whenever we argued at ako yung galit, hindi ko na sure kung nakikinig pa sya coz paulit-ulit naman. at sya pa ang sumuko ngayon.. hay. i hate this feeling sis, yung nagaantay ng di mo lam kung babalik pa.. i dont even have an effect on him now. at the same time, im also angry.. coz he did this to me. it wouldve been easy if we talked and ended it after a discussion pero hindi e. he put me in this situation na im hopeless..

maybe youre right sis, naipon nga siguro din yun.. hay i dont know what to do..

[freelancer_babe]

^ best to assume that it's indeed a breakup. unfortunately 99.9% it is.

unfortunately if a guy doesn't want to talk - cuts off communications - then he probably won't. wag ka nang maghabol at this time.

cry, then move on. focus on things you had wished you want to do as an individual.

as they say, if he comes back... then he's yours to keep.

[IronLady]

sis what if he talks to me na? i dont want to keep my hopes up and its better to move on. but what if he does? i dont know what would i feel if that happened. coz right now im sad, hurt and mad at him for putting me in this situation..

[stylishmomy]

^if he talks to you? then you gotta "talk" sis whether okay na kayo or talk about ending the relationship.

[airish_2]

ikaw na may sabi petty fights madalas ba? magagalit ka tapos di mo sya kakausapin kaya napuno na sya, kulang lang sya sa lambing. pero kung ayaw nya sagutin mag tawag mo wag mo ng pilitin.

[IronLady]

^^im afraid sis coz now im the one hurting. if he talks to me baka ako na yung galit kaya im scared. baka maulit lang kasi mga nangyayari.

^yeah sis. i think napuno. but i always talk to him every time i feel theres something wrong, or if he did what i think is wrong.. its just that i dont think naiintindihan nya yung kinagalit ko e. anyway i didnt know what happened, why suddenly he just shut his door for me..

[stylishmomy]

^galit kapa rin sis? or are you willing to talk it out with him if he calls you. You chose sis, you want it to work or hindi na. Like you said its a "petty fight" is he the one who always says sorry? baka napuno cya sis.
I used to get mad at silly things which results to "petty fights" its really not worth it sis... if you really value the relationship, pick your fights sis

Communication lang yan sis, di naman pwede maghulaan kayo the whole time on what's wrong, you will never know what to solve if di mo alam ang problema.

[IronLady]

^sis hindi na ko galit dun sa nangyari. yung petty fight. he was the one mad nga e. dahil di nya ko naiintindihan kung bakit ako nagagalit ng dahil sa bagay na yun. kung baga di big deal yun, o wala lang talaga syang pakialam, hanggang sa uminit ulo nya, hanggang sa di na nya ko kinakausap. i texted him first, said sorry also but to no avail deadma.. ang kinakagalit ko na sis yung ginagawa nya sakin ngayon. i think unfair e.. we should've talked.. kaya nga di ko na rin alam, confused na ko sis..

[stylishmomy]

^Im sure you know where he works sis, why wont you go there and try to talk to him, if di talaga sumasagot sa texts mo. When was the last time ngkita at ngkausap kayo in person sis?

[Naughty^GuRu]

hi IronLady: baka nagpapalipas pa ng galit si BF kaya ayaw ka pa niya kausapin, rather than makipag argue siya sayo, baka he chose na manahimik nalang and mag isip. Pag sinabi naming mga guys na 'we need space', we mean it (most of the time). give it a little more time pa, huwag mo munang kulitin si BF, don't text and call muna. sabi mo nga you've done your part already. also, take the chance para mag isip ka rin. right now, your BF is trying to live alone, tinitignan niya how his life will be na wala ka. maybe you should do the same. mahirap lang ngayon if your BF realize na mas ok yung life niya without you. again, give him the chance na mag isip, give him pa kahit another 3 days. kapag hindi pa rin siya nagparamdam, thats the time to call or text him and ask mo kung kayo pa. tell him you just need yung confirmation para hindi ka na umaasa at naghihintay. i think kung ngayon mo siya kukulitin at tatanungin, now that he is having his 'space', mas mataas yung chance na sabihin niyang break na kayo

[stylishmomy]

There ya go! input from a "guy" Thanks Naughty^GuRu for the clarification, iba kasi ang "we need space/time" ng mga babae sa lalaki.

[IronLady]

^i dont think kaya ko pumunta where he works. lol. sobra na nga yung pagkulit ko e dedma pa din.. hayy..

^^thanks bro! tagal ko hindi nag-gt, kundi lang may boy problem. wahaha! musta? hay.. i think i should give him that. clearly he wants that. at some point lang ako pa ang takot sa mga nararamdaman ko, as he grows distant, im getting bitter, ako yung nasasaktan.. baka ako na din ang umayaw.. masyado kong advance no? lol. weird kasi.

[babychellee]

gee sis..the last time i heard that "I need space" thingie.. it led to a break up  it happened with my ex and he just became cold to me all of a sudden. so i guess they really mean it when they say that. and it usually leads to a not so good ending.

but i guess it really all depends on how strong your relationship is. as mentioned by our bros and sisses here, give him time to think. don't make kulit. kasi hindi ka pa nya talaga "feel" kausap ngayon. he will eventually talk to you once he realizes that he misses you na and it's about time to reconcile. kasi sis, i guess he really meant it when he said nasasakal siya. i know a friend na 2 years na sila ng BF nya when all of a sudden, nakipag break sa kanya agad agad si BF when they had a big fight and yun din ang reason ni guy..sakal na sakal na siya.

[IronLady]

^you're right sis.. hayy.. sige i will give him time.. plenty of time! ayoko na nga sya isipin eh.. minsan ok na ko.. tanggap ko na.. inaantay ko na lang magtext para i-finalize nya.. pero syempre pag gising ko kinabukasan sad na naman ako.. hay ewan..

sis when he became cold, break na agad? wala ng reconciliation? hindi na tnry ayusin?

[babychellee]

sis, di naman. it really depends on how strong your relationship is. BUT... most of the time, when a guy becomes cold and asks for space..that's the end of everything.

you might want to read "MEN ARE FROM MARS, WOMEN ARE FROM VENUS" by John Gray, sis. it's such a good book and I learned how we're supposed to deal with guys even with situations like this. 

[misskim]

Buti na lang may thread na ganito. Ganito din ang status ko right know. I know this post is old na but any update sis? Like, kinausap ka ba siya after some time? Nagbreak ba kayo?