Couples in LDR

[eklea]

@akireyhoj -- sis parang kelan lang post ka dito paalis palang bf mo..  makakaya mo din yan,wag mo pigilan kung nalulungkot ka or naiiyak kahit san ka man pakielam paba nila eh sa nahuhurt ka. i've been there and still going through with it. pinipilit ko nalang libangin sarili ko, naging bff ko na nga dog namin hug ko siya lagi pag alone ako sa bahay, sa office naman i got my friends pero kasi hindi ako showy s feelings ko lalo na hindi ko super trusted. pray ka lang na magiging ok din lahat na ok ang bf mo mahirap sa middle east super sabi ng sis ko.... magiging ok din lahat...

onting panahon nalang...im praying na paggising ko bukas anjan na visa ko.... ayoko hintayin pero can't help

[princeza08]

nun bf-gf pa lang kami ng hubby ko it took a year & a half din na LDR kami. pero pagbalik nya niyaya na nya agad ako pakasal. yun pumayag naman agad ang lola mo, love na love ko talaga sya eh. more than 1 year din sya nag stay sa pinas, ngayon balik LDR kami ulit, 1 month na kami LDR, 5 more months to go, magkakasama na kami ulit ng hubby ko &  sana biyayaan na kami ng bhebe namin pagbalik nya...

[akireyhoj]

^^hi sis thank you! Oo nga bilis ng panahon mag 1 month na sya sa 9 at nakaplan na leave nya approved na kasi sa dec. uwi nya excited na nga kami pareho babakasyon kami sa SG pag uwi nya.

Nung friday, nagbreak down sya, sobrang lungkot daw nya hiningay nya ko magising around 3am then bago ako mag goodbye naiyak sya, now ko lang nakita umiyak yun kaya naiyak din ako. Kakalungkot sometimes kaya lagi ko sya nilalambing. Sya din malambing sakin.

Pray lang at constant communication lang.

[lablanca]

joining: since 2006 kame LDR ng hubby ko we were still bf/gf pa lang that time. we are married for 3 yrs now. we've been together since 1st yr college on our 12th yr this 2013.

[eklea]

^^ just be strong and keep the the communication alive, yan usually nagiging cause ng pagtamlay ng relationship. i get emo on your reply na naiyak siya, naalala ko lang sis ko..siya din kasi super stressed and iyak lagi pag skype kami.. you'll feel talaga sa kanya how hard ang magwork abroad lalo sa middle east.. kung my choice lang talaga mga tao they won't give in sa offer sa ME lalo na most of them are not good employers

i'm quite excited and sad onting days/weeks nalang magkakasama na kami forever... miss him so much..hirap makuntento sa videochat/call lang but we have to, right? we have no choice for now eto nalang muna kelangan tanggapin...God blessed those people na matyagain at matiisin... don't lose hope

[lady_avoidant]

sobrang hirap ngang magtrabaho sa middle east. Dama ko yung paghihirap ng bf ko dun. Nagrereklamo siya sa sobrang init at sandstorm dun. Naaawa ako pero wala akong magawa. Hayst sobrang tagal pa ng 2yrs. Naka 4 months palang siya ngayon.

[heaven_charm]

i feel so low. ngayon ko naeexperience yun sobra hirap wala si bf. im celebrating my bday this coming saturday ALONE kasi nataon na need ko lumipat ng bahay due to an emergency renovation sa current apartment ko. wala din maghelp sakin move. lilipas nalang bday ko na walang celebration at naghahakot ng mga gamit.

naiiyak nalang ako kasi sobra malas. biglaan yun lipat ko so yun pambili ko pa ng birthday gift ko sana sa sarili ko mapupunta nalang sa down at deposit ng new apartment ko. malayo din ako sa family ko.

ano ginawa niyo nun times na super down kayo and lonely? nun nandito si bf last year he was there when i had to look for a place to move saka kasama ko siya nun bday ko. now i feel so alone 

[eklea]

^^ sis always be there nalang..stay online lagi nalang at maging absorber nila sa lahat ng pangit na nararamdaman nila. COntinues support lang kahit alam naman natin na wala rin naman tayo magagawa dahil sa malayo tayo kahit magtumbling pa tayo gang dun nalang talaga. and of course, do not make something na maari sila magalala like what we do not want na mangyari satin..ang magalala kasi LDR is different.

^friends are a big help when we are sad and lonely. nung andito pa asawa ko umikot lang mundo ko sa kanya when bf gf pa kami, i seldom go out with friends kasi mas gusto ko siya nalang kasama, but now i appreciated good friends around. nakakasama ako sa mga girls movie out, dining in somewhere to taste good food, kelangan maglibang eh we need it. minsan nakakapagod din maluluha nalang ako bigla kasi i'm missing him, pag ganon i always pray nalang na "Lord sana makayanan ko ang lungkot, sana makayanan namin dalawa. wag mo siya pabayaan." di ko rin masyado sinsabi sa kanya na nahihirapan ako..though there are times na diko mapigilan sabihin nalulungkot ako pero pag pareho na kami emo i crack the moment biglang bawi nalang na im looking forward na magkikita kami asap..paggising ko anjan na ganon...

[Green_Ice]

Hi, Guytalker here.

Its so nice and elating to see all your posts mga sissies how you dearly missed your bf/hubby. Ganyan nyo pala ka miss mga bf/hubby nyo din when they are at work. I am also an OFW and my fam stays in Pinas.

Its a good thing now that we have good innovation in technology, unlike before that LDR rely on snail mail, voice tape, if emergency thru telegraphic messages only, hehe. Eh ngayon konting kembot mo lang kausap mo na ang mahal mo, anjan ang landline phone, cellphone, desktop, laptop, or tablet that you can talk/chat on ym, skype, viber, kakao, wechat, line, tango, chacha (ayyy, iba na pala yun). And they are all for free, and you can even have an intimate moments with your partner with this gadgets, if you know what i mean... 

In my case parang mas busy pa family ko ata sa Pinas kesa sa kin dito (ha-ha). Kasi ako ang nagrereklamo na ang hirap nilang mahagilap at kausapin (toinkz!).

Well anyways mga sissies...one factor to overcome your sadness with your partner is to set your GOAL in life. Having a goal and the focus in life will lead you to your dream destiny as partners or family. Without a goal is like driving without knowing where you are going to. And knowing your dreams/goal you will give you hope that someday you will live happily ever after. Working abroad is only temporary and just a stepping stone to find the real meaning of life which is our relationships. 

[eklea]

^ another bro sa thread.... 

well, i never dreamed of being like this in a long time kaya paalis palang siya planado na namin ano gagawin after..i know sobrang hirap maging magisa lalo wala pa naman kami anak, our plans became effective naman na di muna maganak kasi mahirap wala ang asawa sa isang nagbubuntis kaya baka magloka lokahan ako sabi ko. mg 4 months palang hubby ko pero ng nagkaroon ng pagkakataon agad agad namin pinaayos visa ko...and now in God's time sana dumating na para magkasama na kami ulit. we never wanted to be alone na magkalayo, kung di lang s new tech ngayon hindi ako papayag na malayo siya kasi mababaliw ako kakaalala kung maayos ba siya, kung super hirap ba ng gingawa niya, kung kumakain ba siya.. etc..

we need to be strong, kelangan eh..as we know someday tama s bro green_ice na this should not be permanent, hindi kelangan ganito nalang tayo...aim for the better in our relationship, aim for the future ahead of us...para sa atin lahat ito..

[Halee]

I’ve been in the same situation for almost 4 years now. Double LDR nga yata yong samin kase ofw na rin ako since 2010. Nagkita kami last year (after almost 2 years) at napreggy ako. And after 2 months of giving birth balik work na ulit. Next year pa kami magkikita after almost 2 years na naman. Baka makabuo ulit. lol. I’m resigning from work this year. Mahirap LDR sa hubby lalo na sa baby.

Kung PAREHO nyong gustong magwork out relationship nyo malapit o malayo man kayo sa isa’t isa, makakaya nyo basta pareho kayong decided. It takes two to tango. Saka iwasan ang fights over petty things lalo na kung ikaw yong nasa malayo, mas mahirap kase sayo yon. Constant communication, prayer and trust are also vital.

[rtmanaloto]

LDR for 2 yrs already... He came home last year para lang mabuntis ako  (at nabuntis nga ako agad)
Then he came back 2 months after, 7 days lang siya... Then bumalik siya nung mismomg due date na ng baby namin... Balik abroad ulet then he came back for our baby's baptismal
2 months from now, he'll be home... For good na... Kase he wanted to see our child growing...
To keep out communication open, naka SUN international sim ako... Then we chat via whatsapp and viber... And video calling using tango or facetime...

Trust and respect kailangang laging present para magwork out ang LDR.

[eklea]

^ hmm dear mods sorry po kung ma OT ako for now lang please,

@sisbrtmanaloto, sun international sim? do you mind if i ask san location hubby mo? well i'm confused kung papacut ko na ang sun line ng hubby ko na naiwan sakin and switch to smart instead since yun din naman ang gamit niya for roaming and no other network meron so no choice. at first akala ko lang sa TEXT ON OTHER NETWORK nababawas ang text ko for smart roaming...pero s free text pala so i'm thinking of switching to smart and get unlimited,just wondering kung pwede kaya sa unli smart for roaming text? sorry guys, still hard on getting the right network...limited lang ang network don tapos dipa abot ng ng internet wired yung place niya kaya we stick to skype using broadband nalang siya on weekdays tapos weekends lang kami nakakapagwechat. darn....

[rtmanaloto]

hi sis he is in singapore... magkaiba po ang sun international at yung regular sun... sa sun international sim, 2.pesos per min ang tawag then piso din ang text... pero may separate loads kc yun... magloload ka ng regular pang call n text dito sa pinas... at magloload din ng special load na ggmitin pang abroad... sa call n text, magkakaiba ang charging depende sa international codes na gagamitin... if like sa SG, +95 (ata) , kapag yun ang ginamit, mababaws yun sa reg load at internatinal rates ang magaapply... pero kapag +00 yung ginamit mababawas yun dun sa special load which  is a lot cheaper. anyway, lately bihira.nako magload kase may sun pocket wifi ako.kaya nakakatipid nko ng husto

as i remember sis.ang unli ng smart doesnt apply sa.roaming... ang pagkakatanda ko is local lang... im not so sure about iy kase baka nagbago na... but you may call an agent to be sure... IMHO, kung saan ka makakamura.at kung anong network mas macocontact mo cia, dun na.lang

[k_heart]

In fairness, ang bilis din ng panahon. Parang kelan lang ako nagposts dito kasi kaka-alis
lang ng hubby ko for military schooling sa US. And now, booked and paid na our tickets ng mga
kids namin and will be joing my hubby for his graduation in 2 months time, diretso ng vacation.
Thank you Lord! It's not an easy time. Habang wala si hubby,magkasunod na nahospital
mga kids namin at ako lang ang bantay. Yehey,lapit na.

[Halee]

good for you k_heart

i just got back to work from my 12-day vacation. maiksing bakasyoon pero super kaduper sulit. nabawasan ang homesickness ko sa mag-ama ko. next year ulit!

[k_heart]

^Thanks sis Halee! : )
It's such a relief na countdown na sa pagpunta namin dun. nahirapan ako sa adjustment sa first 2 months.

Ikaw sis ang nasa abroad?

[little_princess]

on and off LDR kami ni hubby ever since we got together then eventually got married. he works offshore kasi and he has to work for 5 weeks straight then 5 weeks vacation. so bale, i don't see him for 4-7 weeks at a time every other month. mahirap but we're persevering!

[Halee]

^Thanks sis Halee! : )
It's such a relief na countdown na sa pagpunta namin dun. nahirapan ako sa adjustment sa first 2 months.

Ikaw sis ang nasa abroad?

We are both OFW actually. Mas flexible lang sked ko kesa sa kanya kaya ak nag-aadjust.
Anyway, enjoy your vacation. 

[k_heart]

^hay naku, ang hirap naman sis. I admire you kasi i now know how hard pag LDR ang couple.
Dati kasi, mga 2 months apart lang kami lagi ng husband ko at regional lang ang assignments.
ngayong schooling lang yung almost a year syang wala at out of the country, ang hirap pala
talaga,lalo na siguro pag years,kalurks sis! although naka-adjust na ako at it has naman it's positive
points also.
After 2 years na ulit ang sunod nyang foreign schooling, kaya pwede muna ulit huminga.he!he!
Goodluck sis Halee and will pray for all sisses in similar condition.