First Time Moms, What are your Fears?

[clueless_bride]

OMG ang dami kong fears naiinis na sakin si hubby kasi kung ano ano daw iniisip ko na mga nega like birth defects/abnormalities, mamatay ako habang labor, ma-CS ako or mamatay si baby waaaah.

I have a friend kasi who just gave birth last year and her baby died after 1 day... sobrang naawa ako sa mag asawa kasi 1st baby nila yun. Imagine the pain pag nagka miscarriage ka ni hindi mo pa nga nakikita yung baby mo nun, what more yung dinala mo ng 9 mos tas inire mo at nahawakan mo at nahalikan mo tapos after 1 day babawiin sayo 

[chaylyn]

Madami din akong fears. Kaloka! Yung ma CS ako isa na yun kasi yung mama ko CS sya tapos sabi nya sobrang hirap daw talaga. Isa pa yung, fetal defects sa baby ko. Nainis kasi ako sa uang OB ko, first trimester ko isang vitamins lang binigay sakin tapos nung lumipat ako ng OB kulang daw yung vitamins na bigay nung first OB ko. eh db dun pa naman nabubuo yung organs ni baby.   Sana walang birth defects si baby ko and other abnormalities.

Natatakot din ako sa mga possibiliy na mawala nalang bigla heart beat ni baby sa loob ng tummy ko like sa nangyare kay Mariel.

Natakot ako kasi I'm still working hanggang ngayon kahit 24 weeks na ko (maaga pa naman patra sakin mag leave) pero ayaw na ko papasukin ng bf ko and papa ko. Namatayan kasi ako ng kapatid, 1 month old palang sya kinuha na samin kaya natrauma na ata sila.

And last, soft yung cervix ko kaya nag advised yung OB ko na magingat ako and wag maglakad baka bigla bumuka

Ang dami kong fears for my baby and for myself pero dapat mas madami pa din yung PRAYERS ko

[arragalang]

Me, labor pains and going to labor kahit na siguro ilang beses paulit ulit sabihin na normal manganak eh forever ko pa din syang kakatakutan. Im 24weeks and 16 weeks to go sabi nga ng pregnancy app. Countdown to hapiness and also countdown to face my fear.

Pero syempre hindi naman natatapos ang fears after manganak, darating jan yung mga questions like: am i going to be a great mom? Will i be able to provide everything my baby needs? Etc etc.

It's a journey that every mother has to face which is both accompanied by fears yet rewarding results. Kaya wag tayo masyado mag focus sa fears natin, instead, dun sa end results na gusto.

[chaylyn]

^LIKE Korek. Mas grabe pa yung pagdadaanan natin pag lumabas na si baby Pero as long as Nandiyan si God and yung family, friends and partner mo alam kong kaya natin

[fionnah325]

mga mommies first time mom din ako nanganak ako nong march 2014..huwag kayong magthink ng negative kasi hindi maganda yan eh..just think positive lang talaga basta pray lang always kasi yan ang pinakaimportante kausapin mo si baby na hindi ka papahirapan na lalabas siya agad para hindi ka mahirapan..kayong dalawa lang ni baby ang mgtutulungan niyan..good luck mommies rest be assured of my prayers

[Scubadoobidoo]

As a first time parent na praning din kami ni wifey. Before she gave birth last april 28 praning ako na sana walang abnormalities. (CS was not worried kasi i trust her OB). Now that ok naman baby i get paranoid about SIDS naman. Kaya very particular ako no pillows and toys sa cradle ni baby pati swaddler niya. Also fear ko is autism. Friend of my wife yung daughter nya was diagnosed with that condition kasi at 2 yr old. So 2 more years of worrying. 😰 consolation ko nalang si wifey hindi tinipid ng vitamins from the start. I had them bought from the US pa. Hirap talaga maging parents.

[fionnah325]

mahirap talaga pero pag andon kayo pareho to support your child mas maging magaan ang lahat eh

[Scubadoobidoo]

I dont share my worries kay wifey kasi mas praning sya. Support group ko sister in law ko and friends ko na may mga anak na. 😄

[shyla_c]

I just had my check up the other day... sabi ng OB medyo small daw yung tummy ni baby and then yung cord nya meron on his neck. Sabi nya just recently meron daw sya patient with the cord on the neck normal delivery pa rin naman. Going through CS is not my fear na now if that is what needed. I am just super scared, sana okay si baby and when she said na maliit yung stomach, that what's scares me. Naka note kasi sa ultrasound na "AC is slightly below the 10th percentile for AOG". Although sabi nya nasa normal range naman and weight and length ni baby for his age. Then nag research ako and yung mga nababasa ko scared me. I don't drink and smoke naman, I took what was recommended lang.
The other day, I was crying before I was able to sleep, sa mga fears ko, ang hirap and I just pray everything will go well. 

[Scubadoobidoo]

What did your OB say? Kami kasi may point maliit si baby. So pina double dose si wife ng moriamin para makuha nutrients tapos pina meat diet si wife kasi puro fish and veggies lang sya. Ayun for a month panay steak and burger kami. Yung cord alam ko kaya ayusin. Even my mom told me that when i told her my fear. If you are paranoid mag pa ultrasound ka every week. Ask your OB if may remedyo. I know i would be paranoid din if i were in your shoes. And pray.

Here is an article on that topic. http://www.bellybelly.com.au/birth/surprising-facts-about-the-cord-around-a-babys-neck/

[grace08]

ako this is my 6th pregancy pero i still have fears. my 1st born was my only boy.  naconfine siya ng more than 3 months and had to undergo 5 operations dahil sa dami ng  complications. talagang nadrain kami more than a million ang naspend namin and 21 years old pa lang ako nun. buti na lang nanjan ang parents namin na tumulong sa amin. 35weeks siya nung pinanganak ko. but we still lost him. then my 2nd pregnancy sa sobrang bed rest ko mula ng 5 months di na siya umikot breech kaya c section. then sa may now bunso dapat sched na ako for total thyroidectomy buti na lang nag out of the country surgeon kaya nadelay ang mga labs and xrays ko tapos bigla din ako napreg , kaya when i had been pregnant with her hyperthyroid ako buti naman ok siya. and every pregnancy ko natatakot ako na may abnormality  na makita . pero thanks God all my five daughters are fine. and now that im pregnant unplanned na talaga and dahil 37 na ako then i have  thyroid issue. mas sobrang daming fears. sa lhat ng pregnancies ko never ako na cas bukod sa sabi ng ob ko na there is nothing we could do takit din ako dahil sa nangyari sa 1 st  born namin. talagang prayers do help.  sorry ha sobrang haba

[shyla_c]

Sabi nya ok naman so far and the plan is to monitor lang. Important na hindi under stress si baby. I'll be back this Saturday sa OB. She didn't even ask me to up my diet or add vitamins or anything. Im in my 37th week na and I really hope and pray na maging ok sya.

Thanks for the link.

[grace08]

nung 1st c section ko pala ang fear ko is baka di na ko magising sa anesthesia dahil napagaralan nmain nung college and sobrang sakit talaga . pero with my 2nd to 4th na done 2004 2006 2007  comfortable na pala ako kaya dont fear c section kung best ito for the baby . sa una lang talaga nakakatakot and sobrang painful.

[grace08]

@sis shyla_c ako pala lahat ng pregancy ko maliit ang baby pinapag moriamin na lang ako and pinainom ako ng maraming sustagen premium para mahabol ang laki like my twins nalaman lang na twins almost 7 months na sila less than 400g lang pero nung ilabas sila @ 37 weeks 2.2 and 2.1 kg

[shyla_c]

Thank you! Thank you sa inyo nagreply. It's really helping me a lot. Sabi nga ng friend ko thinking about it also stresses the baby and I don't need that. Kaso may pagka paranoid pa naman ako so ang hirap. You guys are making me stronger. Parang this thread my support group now.

[Scubadoobidoo]

37 weeks ka na pala shyla lapit na. Wife gave birth 37 weeks and 4 days. Healthy naman baby. Whats important lang keep in communication with your OB. I hope yung OB mo replies sa [textspeak!]. Sa amin kahit 4am nag rereply. And most importantly trust your instinct. Sa case namin wifey got worried no movement for an hr and half si baby which is not normal kaya we texted our OB. Ayun pina punta kami agad sa SLMC, yun pala in distress na ang baby. Luckily everything worked out ok.

[izabelle]

ako kasi natural na paranoid so lalo na nung nabuntis ako.

Actually hanggang ngayon marami akong fears and i think kahit makailan anak ang isang mom marami pa din syang fears hehe.. Walang katapusan na pag woworry and takot.

[fionnah325]

ako kaya sis @ izabelle: baka ganyan din ang mangayari sa akin pag magka second baby ako may fears pa din ako

[mysecretself]

ako, right now, birth defects talaga. i took meds (bioflu) and i didn't know i was pregnant. i tested negative sa pt (blood and urine) kaya akala ko okay na. the week after pa ako nag-positive. inis na inis ako sarili ko kasi bihirang-bihira ako magkasakit. noon lang. hopefully, sobrang bata pa ng baby ko para maging affected. i pray everyday na sana okay and healthy pa rin sha. mag-CAS pa lang ako sa june so keeping my fingers crossed until then.

[shyla_c]

Pray lang tayo. That's all we can do. Tomorrow I will see my doc. i'm still scared pero kelangan maging strong.