First Time Moms, What are your Fears?

[yang]

in what week ba dapat mag pa CAS?

[BDJ]

Eto weird na fear ko. Kakanood ko lang ng tiktik the aswang chronicles, natatakot ako na baka pag uwi ko sa pinas sundan ako ng tiktik hahaha! Kaya pagtawanan na nila/nyo ako, pero magsasabit ako ng bawang sa windows ng room ko (corner pa naman) tsaka hahawak ako ng bouquet ng bawang kapag matutulog. Hahaha! Laughtrip ba.

In my case I don't want to be affected about aswang thing because I am not believer of it. It irritates me a lot during my pregnancy period when my granny in law talks about aswang and warned me about it all the time informing me that aswang is just around. Kahit ayaw kong intindihin o pansinin o lalo na ang isipin pero worried ako sa words coming from my granny's mouth about aswang in which the baby can hear that term.

Fears ko is more on emotional situation. Kahit na ba buntis pa lang ako at kapag lumabas ito ay baby pa lang sobrang advance na worries ko. Like how do other people will treat my child, are they going to be bias again just like how they treated me? Are they fair enough in treating my child? Who will take advantage of my child's innocence?

There are people that I don't like then asking me some personal questions. In fact may isa nga tinarayan ko na when asking me about baby's gender. It irritates me much kapag may iba bino brought up yun. Ayoko lang madamay anak ko sa problema ng ibang tao.

[katyap]

I have 2:

1.) death - since early stages ng pregnancy ko, praning na ko with regards to the death of my baby, my husband and me. Ngayon, napapraning ako na baka ma-cord coil si baby and baka something might happen to me while delivering.

2.) being a bad parent - sana naman hindi, pero I can sense I'd be the bad cop between me and my husband.

[nicoletta]

1.  2 nights ago, since our area did not have electricity, I had to open the windows and got a little scared with the possibility of having aswang coming in nga.  Well, I know I should not be worried since an educated person should not na hindi yan to too. Kaya lang natakot parin ako.

2. I'm also worried about what my baby might look.  Alam niyo naman how overly critical some people can be.  My family has mixed looks kasi, I have a sibling who looks really good and meron normal lang.  I don't know...

3.  Of course I'm worried na breech parin baby ko, so I could be having CS din pala.  I'm just worried about the longer healing time, as I want to get back in shape as soon as possible sana.  Looking at my wedding photos makes me want to cry right now.  I used to be very thin!

[dropdeaad]

Ako kinakatakutan ko.

-na bigla akong hindi na suportahan ng BF ko sa amin ni baby or hindi na maging okay lahat especially hati kami sa gastusin pag nanganak ako. Kasi ang dami kong kakilala na naghihiwalay sila ng partner nila pagkapanganak and my other friend naman yung nakabuntis sa kanya mas inuuna pa yung toma kesa asikasuhin or magspend ng time sa baby niya. Praying na maging okay na lahat sa amin syempre ayoko din na mapabayaan si baby ng daddy nya eh.


- namaCS ako kasi parang hassle sa gastos at yung healing proccess niya matagal eh. Hopefully talaga maging normal ako.

-yung life ko after lumabas si baby kung magiging okay ba akong parent or yung takbo ng buhay ko iba na.



Dati nung bago ko palang nalamang buntis ako sobrang takot ako sa aswang na yan na tipong 5am na ako natutulog iniisip ko kasi baka pag natulog ako aswangin ako at talagang nagsasaboy pako at naglalagay sa mga jar ng asin at bawang pangontra. Kasi dati nung nakunan ako binangungot ako na inaswang ako non pero nagspotting nako nong time na yun.

[katrinac]

Ito yung sakin nung di pa ako nanganganak:

* Pre term labor - napa aga ang maternity leave just to make sure na di ak omag pre term labor. Commute kasi ako lagi going to work, and I'm scared na baka sa sobrang tagtag ko sa byahe e mapa aga ang panganganak ko
* Cord coil kay baby
* Labor pains
* di madetect ang heartbeat (on first ultrasound)
*still birth

Napa ka nega ko ata yung buntis pa ako, buti nalang umabot kami sa fullterm ni baby

[Beng01]

I will be a first time mom this October - my EDD 

Eto fears ko :

Baka ma CS ako, ayoko ng CS
Cord Coil
Baka hindi healthy baby, disabled, etc
Hindi ako marunong humawak at mag-alaga ng new born baby
Baka mabali ko ang leeg ng baby dahil mali karga/ hawak ko.
Baka hindi ako mag latch (gusto mag breast feed exclusively)

Btw, I am already 24 weeks based on my LMP

[outandaboutph]

Noong pregnant pa lang ako, takot ako makunan and magkaroon ng problem kay baby. After manganak, mas marami na akong fears. Mag isa lang ako nagbabantay kay baby kapag nasa work si hubby, and madalas sinasabihan niya ako na matulog ako kapag tulog si baby para hindi ako masyado puyat. Pero hindi ko talaga magawa. Nakabantay talaga ako and napansin ko lang, madalas check ko if okay ang paghinga niya or humihinga pa siya. Natatakot ako na baka malingat lang ako... feeling ko nga OA naman ako pero ganon talaga ginagawa ko.

[almonde]

lahat ata ng fears ko nasabi na dito sa thread, im prayig na sana normal si baby, no abnormalities.... i can't wait sa next ultrasound ko, don't know yet if viable prenancy or what, di pa nachecheck heartbeat..dami ko worries...

[ilovemybaby01]

^ me too sis . nabanggit na dito lahat ng worries ko ! 7months na ko now turning 8months this coming september 1 kinatatakutan ko now mag preterm labor.. stress kasi ako nitong mga nakaraang araw and lagi ako natatagtag kaka byahe and kaka lakad.. and feeling ko ang baba na niya lagi ko na lang siyang kinakausap na kapit na muna siya and wag na muna siyanh lalabas kasi di pa right time and nag sosorry ako kasi baka naaapektuhan din siya pag naiistress ako, naging maramdamin kasi ako lalo this month konting kibot lang sumasama na agad loob ko kaya iyak ako ng iyak lol haha

[preggygielian]

Waaah nasabi na ta lahat ng fears! Since I had a missed miscarriage last year (feeling ko sobrang betrayed kasi di man lang pinaalam ng katawan ko na something's wrong! ) ang isa sa fears ko talaga..missed miscarriage. everytime wal ana kao maramdaman na pregnancy symptoms..natatakot ako. I am now 14w3d tapos sa Friday may ultrasound ako..I keep praying and praying that the baby is OK and normal. Sobrang fear ko din ang still born ang baby..or ang di kami parehas safe sa delivery at maiwan sa mundo asawa ko mag-isa! haha..praning na praning na ako...

[nicoletta]

in what week ba dapat mag pa CAS?

My doctor was encouraging me to do this on my 38th week.  But when I came in for check up and she saw that I was already 1 cm dilated, she decided that we schedule at an earlier time.  Luckily, we didn't have any problems whatsoever. Baby was not incubated either.  He came out perfect.

[SuperMudra]

Hi, First time mom din me and currently at 16 weeks pregnant ... ask ko lang sa mga other mommies ... Nung 14 weeks kasi ako .. sa sobrang excited ko .. nilinis ko yung magiging cabinet ni baby ko and with the use na din ng water base mosquito spray .... baka lang may same case as mine and wanna ask if ok naman si baby paglabas ... worried lang me because of that...

[hakunamatata]

First time mom-to-be. EDD December 9-11. As per LMP Dec.9 as per US Dec. 11.

Ito ang mga worries and fears ko:

Pre-term labor, i am praying talaga na umabot kami ng full term.
Still birth
Complications pag labas ni baby such as yung sa meconium
Cord Coil
The labor itself, mukhang mababa ang pain tolerance ko.
Breastfeeding, baka walang lumabas na milk
Life after labor - How to be a good mom and provide all the needs ni baby
How to take care a new born

Ito lagi ang laman ng prayers ko every night malampasan lahat.

[firstimemom]

Now na di pa ko nanganganak, I fear labor and injections. After watching videos of childbirth through nsd and cs, mas lalo ako natakot sa process. Oh well wala namang ibang lalabasan ang baby kundi doon din.

I fear for my baby's future and well-being. We all want to be the perfect mother to our offspring but sometimes there's no manual for that other than experience.

Ang pinagdadasal ko talaga recently is baby's health, sana complete body parts, sana walang cognitive delay/defect, sana walang complications. Yun lang super saya ko na!

[i_v_y]

I has 2 mc before kaya hindi na ata maubos ubos fear ko.

1. Blighted Ovum or ectopic - wala kasing nakita on my first scan.  my 1st mc was bligted ovum.
2. No HB - i had a scan at 6 weeks at my HB na sia. 2nd mc ko kasi nawala hb ni baby after a week we head it's hb.
3. Miscarriage - nag spotting kasi ako ng consecutive days. Scanned showed at healthy hb at 7 wks.
4. APAS - since RPL ako, my ob wants to get me screened again kahit nag nega na ako about 5 years ago.
6. Lahat ng worries nio.

Long term worry ko is if I will be able to give my kid a better life than what I have.

Ganun talaga siguro kapag mommy ka na, walang katapusan ang pangamba.

[_AiaH_]

1. Miscarriage. until now on my 6th month i'm still scared of this. yung mga nababasa ko na cord coil si baby sa loob ng tummy and after few days na nalaman ng mom kasi di na gumagalaw si baby.
2. labor pain and the actual giving birth. hindi daw kasi allowed ang husband sa DR.
3. premature birth

basta anything that could go wrong sa baby natatakot ako. kaya sobra ingat din ngayon.

[mslcgrey]

As a first time moms, lahat na yata pwede natin katakutan. When we still haven't had our first check up, takot ako na baka ectopic pregnancy. After the first check up na wala pang heartbeat ( too early pa kasi), takot naman ako na baka hindi siya talaga magdevelop. There is also a phase na natakot ako sa mga aswang na yan.
But now as i enter my 3rd trimester, i'm more confident. Lagi ko na lang iniisip that God gave me this gift ( more than half a year din kaming ttc ni hubby) so im sure He will not let anything bad happen to me and baby. Of course, i still pray for His continued watching over us. Through prayers ko lang talaga na-overcome ang mga fears ko and of course kasama na rin yung pagiging informed sa mga possibilities.

[GeminiTiger]

Nung nasa tummy pa si baby , super paranoid since hindi natin sila nakikita , di natin alam kung anong nangyayari sa loob , kung ok lang ba si baby , sana wag macord coil . Sana wag maka-poop si baby sa loob .

Nung lumabas na si baby , di pa rin ako makatulog , natatakot ako sa SID , i monitor her breathing too. I always check if nilalamig ba siya or pinagpapawisan . Pagiiyak siya , di ko alam kung may masakit ba sa kanya or gutom lang si baby . 

[shyla_c]

Same here! Super paranoid and overwhelmed. Sana okay si baby palagi, sana pag labas nya okay sya at ako sana normal lahat, sana wala syang sakit. Sana wala akong post partum blues, sana kaya ko sya i-breastfeed sana kaya ko tiisin lahat ng pain. It's just too scary