inggit, inggitera, insecure, insecurities

[oshiawase]

Ako, I have a friend who is mayaman. Her family owns a business. Small lang naman pero enough na sa kanila. They own expedition cars, and other cars. They travel a lot. They've been to Europe, Singapore, HK, etc. She buys expensive bags.

Minsan naasar ako kasi siya, hindi niya kailangan pagpaguran yung mga iyon. Ako, kailangan mataas grades ko bago ko makuha gusto ko. At ang nakukuha ko, wala sa kalingkingan ng nakukuha niya. I can't go to Europe for one. I'm dying to go there. I can't for financial reasons. Hindi kami mahirap pero we're not just as rich as them

Yun lang. Minsan bordering on envy na towards her yung feeling ko. Pero we're really close close friends.

Naguiguilty lang ako minsan na naiinggit ako.

Ano kaya gagawin ko?

[angelzero]

^sis, sa lahat yata ng mga close kong barkada mapa-HS or college barkada, ako palagi yung financially poorest hehe. i, too, have a rich bestfriend. parang ginagawang trip to the mall lang ang singapore and hk. 

i dunno, siguro dahil din sa upbringing namin bakit kami hindi masyadong naiinggit sa mayayaman. yes, slight envy lang siguro but it doesn't overtake me. i feel kinda proud pa nga everytime na nagkukwentuhan kami na how i pay for my own stuff, na i don't have to ask for my parents' help. what i'm saying is, hindi mo mababago yung reality, just shift to a different, more positive mindset na being modest has its own perks. at least you appreciate the value of money, and you take pride on your independence. i have nothing against rich kids, it's just that mas nakaka-relate lang ako sa mga tulad mo sis. how everything we need and want we must work hard for.

[Scubadoobidoo]

If naiingit ka it only means your not comfortable with who you are. Yung mga naiingit usually daming insecurities. Envy no matter how you look at it is never healthy. Sabihin natin you use it in a positive way...that still sucks. Working your ass off just to be able to afford stuff your friends have?? Hate to say it but thats kinda stupid. Its like joining the rat race na. Kung ganun lang di might as well find a sugar daddy nalang. The worth of a person is never measured by how much money or gadgets they have. Those people na kelangan ng gadgets and material stuff are actually shallow. 

[cheezecake]

ako I grew up  that most of my friends are richer than me. Dati nung bata ako naiinggit ako to the point na nagnanakaw ako sa lola kasi naman ang dami nilang pera tapos ako 2pesos lang ang allowance ko 4pcs na candy lang ubos na. That was the time na uso ang Hello Kitty , Twins Star original ha not fake.  Kaya ayun mega bili ako kasi gusto ko talaga..kaya yun everyday mega kupit ako ng 50pesos sa lola ko alam ko pero pinapabayaan lang nila ako. But when I grew up, I've learned to be contented with what I have and I've learned na pagipunan ang mga gusto ko.  When I was in college, I can buy Levi's pants sa allowance lang na tig 100 per day.  I think Levi's that time was 1500php at regular price.  Now,  hindi pa rin ako mayaman pero kaya kong pag ipunan ang mga gusto ko, but I just don't really understand ang daming naiinggit sa akin. Parang people around me can't afford to see that I have this and that kahit na mas maayos naman ang buhay nila sa akin. Yung mga friends ko na mayayaman mas mayayaman pa rin sila until now sa akin pero hindi naman ako naiinggit sa kanila.  Ganun lang talaga, life is unfair.  But I wonder bakit may mga taong hindi kayang tanggapin na ganun.  Ang ginagawa ko na lang sa mga ganyan I end the friendship dahil it's not worth it na makipagkaibigan sa kanila.

[Scubadoobidoo]

If you surrender to envy walang katapusan yan kasi there are so many people way better off than you and there will always be new gadgets...so it becomes a never ending cycle of "trying to keep up with the joneses" Do you want to live your life like that? Palagi nag hahabol para maki "in"? If you say yes then your screwed up as a person. For me to live life that way is a total waste of time

[qt_ben17]

 My Hispanic co-workers always tell me that there's too much jealousy among the filipino workmates. keeps pulling each other down, makes
bad gossip and so on.

masyadong makulay ang buhay Pilipino. more fun! lol

[j.adore]

Sharing a conversation with my dad na bagay dito sa topic:

God is fair. He may give you the riches of the world but you will still lack some "things" in life. You may be having difficulties financially but he will bless you with something else.
There will always be someone better than you and someone will always be better than them. The key is for you to focus on your life, to be happy and thankful for the blessings you've received since the day you were born.

[lisse]

My Hispanic co-workers always tell me that there's too much jealousy among the filipino workmates. keeps pulling each other down, makes
bad gossip and so on.

masyadong makulay ang buhay Pilipino. more fun! lol

how true, lol! ako naman sa work namin maski hindi Hispanics, mismong Americans dito they cannot understand the need why dapat meron kang ganito once nasa US ka na, or dapat ganyan na common trait daw among us. I have some Filipino "friends" here pero not as close as my other Cambodian and Filipino girlfriends. I join their parties as pakikisama ba, pero from the very beginning I told them na me and hubby are not rich, sort of to announce na hindi ako kasali sa competition. We work hard for what we have. I made the mistake of divulging na I've been here for 4 months only tapos I can drive na in my own car and I already have a job inline with my degree kahit sa Phils. ako graduate. So nakaramdam ako ng konting hostility sa iba don. Anyway, ako naiinggit sa mga can-afford ng designer luxury purses, like LV and chanel haha. Hanggang Marc Jacobs, Coach at Michael Kors lang kasi ako. Pero nung binigay sakin ni hubby credit card niya para daw matigil na ko kakanguy-ngoy, hindi ko naman magawa. Katumbas na halos ng 1 month salary ko eh haha! HIndi pla kaya ng budhi ko lol! I just opened a savings account, I called the purse funds baka sakali mapag-ipunan ko yang mga LV na yan haha!

[cheezecake]

dati may officemate ako na inokray ako dahil daw ang tipid tipid ko ang sabi ko sa kanya naiinggit nga ako sayo e kasi you can afford na ubusin ang lahat ng pera mo and not to care about your future kasi hindi ko kayang gawin ko.  Hindi ko talaga alam kung paano magreact sa mga taong nilulustay ang pera nila tapos e naiinis kapag nakikita nila na ang ibang tao may pera pa siya wala na

[jamberryknots]

^sis cheezecake meron din akong ganyang housemate at roomate
sinasabihan ako na matipid daw ako pero actually the correct term should be hindi ako maluho like i splurge on food haha obvious sa katawan ko pero not sa gadgets or other luxury items eh sila ganon tapos wala pang katapusan ayan na mangungutang na sila


ako naiinggit ako doon sa mga payat na kahit anong kainin nila hindi sila nag-gain ng weight
at tsaka doon sa slim ang feet..andaming shoe styles ang gusto ko pero hindi ko masuot kasi hindi naman bagay sa paa ko na laging manas haha

but if sa material things not really, kasi i know i can buy them naman if i really wanted to, however hindi kasi yun ang priority ko

[xtine]

This one is a nice read for those who can relate to this thread:

http://worldobserveronline.com/2012/04/25/15-things-you-should-give-up-to-be-happy/

[little_princess]

Lisse

I agree with you! i have an american friend na ex-wife niya is a Filipina who grew up in the States. They're not richie rich naman pero everyone in the family drove a BMW, Mercedes Benz or mga expensive cars. He told me they're very flashy too and he can't get it why they are like that. Parang when you move abroad, dapat you show the world what you can afford to show everybody na "naka angat" ka na.

[oshiawase]

Hi guys, help naman.

I just realized na naiinggit ako sa isang person. Hindi kami close. Hindi ko siya gaano gusto actually. Pero inggit ako sa kanya kasi super achiever siya. She's won several awards (local and international) na in what she does while I remain kinda low profile. I feel like napag-iiwanan ako. She is "nice" din naman, and marunong manamit, hindi din pangit.

Ako, well, ako.

Ayoko ng ganitong feeling. Gusto ko maappreciate ko yung successes niya. Pero ayoko maiwan.

What do I do???

[huggykaye]

pag nakakaramdam ako ng inggit lagi ko sinasabi sa sarili ko na, "i chose this life, i chose to live this life right now."
pansin ko din na yung panahon na madalas ako makaramdam ng inggit kapag hindi ako masaya sa nangyayari sa buhay ko. what do i do? i focus on things that make me feel genuinely happy.
madalas kasi mahirap kalabanin ang sarili mong utak/pagiisip. wala din naman akong malulutas o makukuha kung iinggitin ko lang lalo sarili ko at ikukumpara sa ibang tao.

[minatay91]

why was I born without chinita eyes? oh well ... sige nalang. isip ko nalang, andaming
mga chinita nagpasurgery to make their eyes look bigger with an eyelid *repeats to self*

[gorgeous_me]

minsan,nakaka-feelako ng insecurities...lalo na kpag tinotopak, nyahaha..sabi nga nila, wag na lang daw icompare ang sarili sa iba

[JINJIN:*]

never ako nainggit sa mga well off kong friends nung bata ako till college. Mahirap talaga kami and nag aral ako sa school ng mga mayayaman, so parang bata palang ako sanay na ko na nasa backseat lagi or backstage while others are infront kase they have better things. malaking bagay din na mayaman sila kaya ang gaganda ng project nila compared saken. Anyway, this experience is my driving force to achieve what I have now.  Hindi siguro inggit ang tawag, its more of inspiration for me to strive harder.

[gelay18]

bihira din ako mainggit, ang ginagawa ko focus lang ako sa mga goals ko.. and count the blessing kaya kahit hirap sa buhay very happy padin ako and proud sa mga little achievements ko.

[JINJIN:*]

also pala, malaking bagay saken na pinagsabihan ako ng nanay ko nuong nasa kinder palang ako na "masama ang inggitera" kaya from then on, never akong tumingin sa mga bagay na wala ako.

[j.adore]

Tama yan sis JINJIN:*! May kilala din ako na pareho sayo. Hindi siya yung naiinggit sa iba pero talagang nagpupursige para makuha yung mga gusto niya para sa sarili niya.

Iba kasi yung puro inggit lang kesa may ginagawa o solusyon